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writes:I wanted to go out with this guy for a long time and I thought he was so perfect for me. He finally asked me out and I was so excited, but a couple days after I agreed to say "yes", he told all of his friends he didn't have a girlfriend. How can I confront him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Well just because you had a date it doesn't mean you are his girlfriend. It is usual to date regularly for a while before saying that, so don't be offended.
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reader, Arriella  +, writes (5 September 2007):
 Perhaps suggest to him that it made you feel rejected as you wont get far either of you without a little honesty. He may not see you as a girlfriend yet and perhaps this is why,as its early days, but also it really isnt anyone elses business.
You know this guy better than we do to know if he is the kinda guy that would mislead you or not. Just ask him in a nice way so he does not feel threatened. I think you will only get the answers you want from him. xx
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (5 September 2007):
Just because he asked you out doesn't make you his girlfriend. It means you'll be going on a date. Unless you two made it clear that you're seeing each other exclusively, you're not his girlfriend and he's not your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Sweetie: The fact that this guy went out with you or is going out with you doesn't mean that you are his girlfriend. You have to be going out with someone for a while to call him your boyfriend. And I believe you also need to talk first in order to make clear that you want to go steady. Unless you understand that you two already have passed these phases already you must not confront him because you will freak him out. Forget what he said to his friends and continue the friendship as if nothing happened. Maybe in a little while he will be introducing you to his pals as his girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Being that he asked you out doesn´t you are his girlfriend already.
Don´t rush things. In another hand, at this age things happen and change so fast. Don´t get yourself hooked on people.
And also, yes if you have somthing in your mind you have to be open and share it with him. This is somthing you should learn and do.
i hope that helps you.
Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Its simple. Boys in their early teens - which presumably he is - are still experimenting with going out with girls and don't necessarily want to admit to their friends that they have a particular girlfriend.
Upsetting? Yes. Did you go out with him yet?
If you did, you need to keep in mind that one date does not make you bf & gf. Also upsetting is the fact that maybe after you did go out together, he decided he didn't want to continue. That could explain why he told people he doesn't have a girlfriend.
For now, just see if he invites you out again. If he does, you could let him know that what he said bothered you. If he does not ask you for another date, it would probably be better to just let it go. Chalk it up to experience.
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