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After a threesome, my gf is pregnant. What do we do now?

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Question - (31 August 2009) 9 Answers - (Newest, 10 September 2009)
A male Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My girlfriend and I are both 25. Normally she has a very regualar menstrual cycle, the pill make her sick so we avoid sex on the days she ovulates. Her last period was period was July 1, which means she should have ovualted from June 12-15, we had sex on the 10, then we had a 3 sum on the 17, 19 and 23. Since we knew she wouldnt be ovualting any of those days we didnt worry about condoms. She should have had a period on July 29 and Aug 26, when both of those dates came and went we got worried. She took a pregnancy test and it's postive. How do we figure out who the father is. And do we tell the other 3 guys that she is pregnant??? PLEASE HELP!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009):

well if there was 3 other guys its not a threesome is it? its an orgy... and there a tests you can do to get a dna sample of the baby but it can be very dangerous so id just wait until the baby comes out and to it then

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009):

I'm wondering if your story is legitimate.

If so, first, get an abortion right away; you'll do yourselves and the world a favor. Next, both of you get tested for every kind of std. Last, you two shift your focus on getting an advanced degree and making a positive contribution, particularly to the gene pool.

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A male reader, jackinthebox474 Canada +, writes (1 September 2009):

Wait 3 months before making any decisions. The first 3 months of a pregnancy are the most crucial. If she is still pregnant after 3 months, and you are going to keep the baby don't bother telling the other 3 guys, it's just going to cause more problems. I just hope they're all the same race as you, or you will have some explaining to do.

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A male reader, GrimmReality United States +, writes (1 September 2009):

GrimmReality agony auntThreesomes with 3 different guys? Well you will have to take a paternity test obviously.

Can I get the last 2 minutes of my life back? Jeeze how old are you again?

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A female reader, countrygal462 United States +, writes (1 September 2009):

countrygal462 agony auntfirst off, a girl can get pregnant at ANY TIME!!!!! even on her period!! u need to tell the other guys that theres trouble. and if the pill make her sick, try different pills or a different birth control like the shot or the ring. you should know, as well as your girlfriend, there is NEVER safer time to have unprotected sex!!! EVER!!! and why would you want a threesome??? that just doesnt make sense to me. but hey..who am i to judge. thats yalls thing and you go for it. but like i said, u gta tell the guys up front, or at least get the DNA and urs, and and have the baby tested to find the father. im not sure, but i think you have to wait till the baby is born. but, another solution is, and im not saying this is for everyone, abortion. it is your decision. please tell the other guys wat has happened, and if you ever have a threesome again, please use protection, especialy if the girl isnt on the pill. its better than nothing at all.

good luck. i hope all goes well. i would like to the outcome, im very curious to know and i want to make sure all is well with you and your girlfriend.

:) luck be with:)

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A female reader, busy04 United States +, writes (1 September 2009):

busy04 agony auntWow! Talk about careless...

If she is pregnant, you'll just have to get all guys involved a DNA test.

Hope you learn your lesson from this.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (1 September 2009):

Honeypie agony auntI'm sorry but you both are stupid and careless. You are BOTH old enough to have heard about condoms, birth control pill is not the only available contraception out there.

Who knows which of the guys is the father.

And actually sperm can live longer then 72 hours, if they enter the uterus they can live up to 6 days.

I guess you are both screwed, well she is.

Only way to be 100% who the Daddy is is to take a DNA test, it can be done by testing the mothers blood only.

http://www.dnaplus.com/fetal_cell_prenatal_paternity_test.htm?gclid=CPnAhOeQz5wCFSm8sgodMxcJMQ

Poor child.

Tell your GF to get tested for STD's as well.

*shakes head*

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009):

first off you need to express to the other partners that she is pregnant to get blood tests. do not feel scared. make her feel comfoted.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009):

First off you are playing "russian roulette" by timing unprotected sex around the dates you think she ovulates. You cannot predict with a whole lot of accuracy exactly which dates this will happen in a woman's cycle, she can ovulate at any time even right before her actual period.

Further, sperm lives up to 72 hours inside a woman just waiting for one of her eggs to show up.....so what you are doing is called the rhythm method, and do you know what they call couples who use the rhythm method of birth control? Mommy and Daddy.

The way you determine who the father is, wait until the baby arrives and do a DNA test on all possible candidates and on the baby.

I hope this is a wake up call to you that you are engaging in very risky sexual behavior. I want to say what the hell is wrong with you? But, then you would think I actually have morals and care about responsibility and old fashioned notions like that.

Good Luck.

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