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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year now and we just seem to be drifting apart. We found out in April that we were going to be parents and that she was nearly two months gone. We were so happy that we were going to be parents and we couldn't wait to meet him or her and watch our child grow up together. Then when she was 13-14 weeks gone she miscarried and it devastated us completely. She blames herself for losing our child and thinks that I blame her too, even though I told her that I never have and never will blame her for what happened and promised her that I will never stop loving her or being there for her. She has changed beyond recognition, she will ignore me for days at a time and treat me like crap and I have not done anything wrong. It is really hurting me to watch her suffer like she is and no matter what I try to do to cheer her up nothing works. I have written her poems and bought her gifts and offered to take her out to take her mind off things but it just seems as though our relationship is over and I am just delaying the inevitable. I can't stand the idea of losing the love of my life. Any advice is truly appreaciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (15 July 2010):
I think you have said all you possibly can. i think now that there is no baby to tie you two together anymore that she just wants out period. and is just using the other as an excuse! don't get me wrong iam truly sorry for your loss! but maybe that woke her up and scared her too! that she doesn't want to go through it again and knowing you wer'e happy, that maybe you might want to try again? and that scares her. give her room and let her heal and breath either way if you smother her your going to lose her and if she doesn't want to be w/ you? you cannot force her.
Best Wishes!
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