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After 15 years why now are they behaving like this?

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Question - (1 September 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 September 2016)
A female India age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello friends,

Need your suggestion. I have been working in a private company from past 15 years. I have done a lot for this company. 15 years back, I joined in IT department but due to company problems I worked for them alone for almost all responsibilities of an office in the time of their crisis. I worked for their personal work requirements also.

Now my favors are their expectations.

Most of the times I work for them from 11 am to 3 am without taking lunch in between, do everything they say but they have no regard for that.

They simply end up the day with blaming me for the things which are not done in a day even if hundred other tasks are completed by me alone.

I spoke to one of the director many times to solve this problem. but he started making excuses and replied that this is not the situation, they are happy with my work and all.... But same thing is happening again and again. He is very cordial with me when alone but in front of staff and other director(who is his brother and not so in my favour), he starts shouting and blaming me for delay in work. So now I decided to quit. I gave them one month's notice and submitted my resignation. But now instead of understanding my position, they have stopped talking to me and have started giving responsibilities to other staff even if they are not efficient. Just wanted to know was I wrong in taking this step. I am a female and not yet married even when I am over 35 years old. I was always so engaged in work that I hardly got time for myself. I have old aged parents at home and have no job in hand but could not stop myself to speak up against this job as I was thoroughly tired and disheartened.

Why are they behaving like this?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (1 September 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntSurely it is illegal to work that length off time without a break, 16 hour shifts without so much as a lunch break? Or do you mean you worked until 3pm? The thing is the people you worked for took you for granted, now that you handed in your notice, they have no use for you now. It is horrible to work in a place where you are not respected. You made the right choice. You need to live your life as well. Work to live not Live to work. Enjoy your freedom.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (1 September 2016):

Denizen agony auntIt's not good when people shout at you at work, particularly when you are trying your best. Do you have another job lined up? It's always a good idea. And it looks like you were only working a half day so was that for your convenience or theirs?

After 15 years with them your loyalty was probably taken for granted, and they expressed themselves in a way they might not with someone fresh. Nevertheless it upset you and they didn't adapt in order to keep you. So, you ar better off finding someone who appreciates you.

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A female reader, malvern United Kingdom +, writes (1 September 2016):

malvern agony auntIt looks to me as though they've taken you for granted and not appreciated the extra favours you did for them, eventually expecting you to do these things anyway. As they say in the UK - 'Give them an inch and they'll take a yard'. You will find in most companies that the moment you hand in your notice they will start to exclude you because you're going, you are of no further use to them. It's happened to me and to many people I've worked with over the years. Sadly its the way things are so don't get upset about it. I hope you find a new job and one where you are appreciated.

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