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writes:I am bisexual but dont know how to tell my parents. I dont have a clue what their veiws on the LGBT community are and cant find out because i CANT talk to them about love or relationships or that AT ALL so i dunno what 2 do cuz... yeh. Should i tell them? If so, any ideas on HOW 2? Reply to this Question
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reader, AllTimeHoe +, writes (7 August 2014):
Honestly, the fact that you're between 13 and 15 should have no bearing on the situation. But, always, like any sexual orientation, make sure you feel it's the right choice to be that way for you, and make sure that you're at a place where you think other people need to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2014): Thanks for the help guys.
I cant talk 2 them because i dont know how, i never have before, & they dont brong this stuf up so im scared, anonymus.
Euphoric29 thanks for you advice. Realy helpful:-). At the moment i THINK i like girls more & want a girlfriend, which is why i asked because i have only had boyfriends before and my parents only know about one of my 3 exs, as i find it realy hard to talk about to them.
Thanks again:
Anon
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2014): Thanks for the help guys.
I cant talk 2 them because i dont know how, i never have before, & they dont brong this stuf up so im scared, anonymus.
Euphoric29 thanks for you advice. Realy helpful:-). At the moment i THINK i like girls more & want a girlfriend, which is why i asked because i have only had boyfriends before and my parents only know about one of my 3 exs, as i find it realy hard to talk about to them.
Thanks again:
Anon
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 August 2014):
 Tell them the day you want to bring a girlfriend/boyfriend home to meet them. Until then, why bother? It's your sexuality and your business, not theirs.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (6 August 2014):
 Euphoric29 is right. It's good to explore and learn to fully understand exactly what you want before coming out. Get support from others who understand what you're going through and all that it entails. For now focus on that. Once you're completely sure of who you are you can inform your parents of your bisexuality. Good Luck.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (6 August 2014):
Dear OP,
At your age, you are still exploring your sexuality. No one expects you to already come out and make a statement about your preferences, this is the age where you start to try out what you like.
I believe you when you say that you are bisexual, because I am as well and I started to realize this when I was around 14. But you know, your parents don't have to know everything about your sexuality right away, take your time.
My advice is to first explore who you are. Do you like men and women equally, or do you prefer one of them for relationships or sex? What does your bisexuality mean to you, is it something you want to live out, or just a possibility to explore something later in life? Would you like a boyfriend or girlfriend at the moment? Did you ever have sex before, or do you want to have sex, with a girl or a boy, soon? Or is it okay for now, to just start dating someone and eventually kissing them or holding hands?
When you are a little more sure about yourself, you can gradually try to find out your parents opinions about LGBT community. For instance, you can talk about a friend of yours, or an organisation, or a movie that is related to LGBT and then listen to their comments. You can ask them what they think of gay marriage, gay adoption etc.
When you finally know who you are, and what your parents think about love, relationships and homo/bisexuality, you can think about whether you want to come out or not.
In the meantime, I would also recommend to get access to a LGBT youth group. They might be more helpful to you at the moment than your parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2014): Start by writing properly ;)
Okay, so WHY do you feel unable to talk to them?
You're at a stage in your life where this kind of thing swings wildly for a lot of people, so you may not stay bisexual as you get older. They don't NEED to know yet, unless you start dating someone :)
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