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About Pornography: are my thoughts about women who like pornography accurate? Or simplistic generalizations? Or incorrect assumption?

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Question - (24 March 2015) 30 Answers - (Newest, 28 March 2015)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

This is just a general question about something I've wondered about.

Its safe to say that men who like porn come from all walks of life.

But what kind of woman likes it or at least accepts it within a relationship?

Often I'll read comments online from women who don't care if their partner looks at stuff and I wonder what they must be like. I imagine them as extremely liberal, non-religious, possibly with tattoos, colored hair and piercings.

They probably hold other fringe beliefs such as being very open and accepting of things like legalized prostitution, swingers clubs, open marriages and promiscuous alternative lifestyles. Or they may work in the porn industry themselves and have a history of abuse or come from a broken home. Certainly they arent traditional, conservative and religious.

Are these wrong assumptions? If you're female and you watch porn or have no problem with your mate doing so, can you say a little about your background and other beliefs? (Fine to answer anonymously.) The few girls I knew who were openly into porn fit the above descriptions.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2015):

Wow, you were like unbelievably thorough! just imagined a mom standing there pointing at charts and graphs. lol.

But focusing on the hard facts is I think more productive and less shaming. Better than what many kids get which is nothing until they get in trouble after the fact.

Think most women would rather hand this task off to dad, so it's good you stepped in when he wasn't up to it. Hopefully the advice makes a difference, though realistically teenage guys will indulge at some point, as curiosity and urges are too strong. but knowing these facts, hopefully use good judgment and not go overboard.

I infer from this that if your son were still living at home in his 20s, he'd have the option to keep and look at porn in his room (which by then he most likely would be doing anyway).

just checked out yourbrainonporn site. Very interesting but seems to have a strong connection to the "NoFap" movement which many have called unsubstantiated pseudoscience.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (27 March 2015):

YouWish agony auntInteresting website, and I can understand the point of view.

My son is nearly 15. We've already spoken about porn and sex at length and had a couple of really good and open discussions about it. I didn't wait until he "discovered" it because I don't believe in reactionary teaching. We've spoken about drugs, smoking, and alcohol as well at length, though those conversations happened earlier than the sex/porn ones did.

I explained that porn is for adults, not minors, similar to any drug or alcohol, so he's not allowed to view it. Our computers are in common areas and he knows that if there is just cause, his phone can be searched. He told me he's seen it (what teenage boy hasn't?!), but doesn't care for it and considers it both gross and "interesting".

I showed him the site yourbrainonporn and explained that as a minor, his brain isn't fully matured and is more susceptible to addictive substances and behaviors, which is why there's a "no porn" rule for him the same as "no alcohol" or "no nicotine". The conversation ran similar to our discussions of alcohol/drugs/cigs - I explained the dangers of them both within (addiction, body damage, physical changes, brain pattern changes) and from without (car accidents, secondhand smoke, legality) and also that addictions require more and more.

Porn is just as addictive as any other substance, and while many people can use responsibly, a teenager is more susceptible to addiction. I explained what porn can do physiologically, in brain/arousal patterns, and its impact on relationships and sexual response and function. I also explained that like an addiction, a porn addict needs more and more and more shocking imagery that can head into the illegal or disturbing, which can change how he views women in general, as receptacles to feed an addiction.

No really, this is how our conversation went.

We aren't churchgoers now. My husband wasn't in the conversation - talking about sex with him makes him all redfaced. He hid in our bedroom when my son was 9 and I told him the facts of life. heh.

My son has asked his dad about porn in a separate conversation and they talked man to man. I don't know the entirety of that conversation, except that my husband told him to "talk to your mother" in the end.

I told him when he grows up to not use it if he can't handle it or if it gets out of control, but that when he's on his own, he decides whether to drink, smoke, or use porn.

Hope that helps.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2015):

No, YOuwish, what I meant by "disadvantage" was... umm, disadvantaged in the task of abstaining from porn, in the sense that if you're told something is evil/forbidden, you may develop more of a fixation with it. We may be like children that way. If a kid has a roomful of toys and you take one away, they will fixate on the one they can't have. While growing up, things like alcohol, R-rated movies or mature videogames can take on a certain mystique just by virtue of being forbidden. So the theory is if you're religious, it actually becomes HARDER to avoid porn.

According to this, the religious do tend to define addiction differently:

http://www.livescience.com/43362-religious-perceived-porn-addiction.html

actually agree with everything you said, I'm Christian too and believe in all those values, though not as much into the dogma now. The sexual ethics seem to be the most contentious, but when you think about it, if everyone followed them there would be no more abortion, STDs, sex trafficking, etc. so not trying to be critical of religion at all.Sorry if that's how it came off. :(

I know this has gone on too long, but do you mind me asking one last thing. Having the values you do, what would you tell your son on this topic? Or if he came across porn saved on Dad's computer?? because wouldn't it be harder to caution a child about porn if you've actually decided to include it in your relationship.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (27 March 2015):

YouWish agony auntThat's not quite true, OP. I can't speak to other religions, but the one I grew up in didn't have a different definition of porn addict than anyone else. The difference is that when it came out that someone in the clergy was into porn, it made a bigger stir. There's a lot of unsaid things in a church environment, and usually the clergy would keep the congregation docile by invoking anti-gossip edicts while covering up and "counseling" couples that it was present in.

The website "covenant eyes" directly deals with accountability within the church and clergy.

You should know full well that the divorce and adultery statistics in a church setting are very similar to the rest of the non-religious population.

I don't know if I'd call the religious consideration of sexual activity a "disadvantage". One thing I still admire even being no longer entrenched in the religious world as my upbringing afforded me are true Christians' pursuit of goodness. Televangelists and religious political activists have tainted the face of Christianity, but if you are familiar with A. W. Tozer or Leonard Ravenhill, the honest practice of Christianity is in fact a noble one, a pursuit of mental and physical purity and love towards God and others. Can that pursuit happen outside of Christianity in other religions or even in the life of a non-religious person? Absolutely! You see it every day when someone gives a Thanksgiving meal to a homeless person or invites a young girl victimized by prostitution into their house or to a place to try to give them help.

But before I go "full-hijack" to this thread, I don't know what religious background you're talking about...and given your answers and limited idea of stereotypes, I'm now curious. But make no mistake - religion has plenty of both porn addicts and the tolerant. They simply are much quieter about it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2015):

OP here again. No need to apologize, YouWish, your answers were great and very thoughtful! I was referring to some others on here.

In defense of porn-addicted pastors (lol), I'm pretty sure a religious person's definition of porn "addiction" is different from the clinical one.

The religious would say if you can't help watching it once a year, you are "addicted". Just discovered a movement called Dirty Girls Ministries started by a female Christian former porn addict.

It's been going several years and featured in mainstream media, so there must be a demand out there from other such women. I think the religious are actually at a disadvantage in this area, being told that all sexuality and sexual thoughts are wrong outside of marital intercourse, because when something is so forbidden it becomes that much more tempting.

I remember Beautiful Agony, it's almost more like an erotic art project. yeah there are some artistic ones out there focusing on romanticism, beauty and sensuality.

But such sites get lumped into the same pile by the anti-porn lobby which portrays everything as disgusting filth.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2015):

I have to disagree with the last poster who feels any woman

Would enjoy it if they sat down and watched it

Personally even if the particular scene I watched was not abusive, I could never enjoy watching something produced by an

Industry that particuipates regularly in the degeadation and humiliation

Of women's dignity for men's sexual enjoyment

So sorry , but no, not all women enjoy or support that. Many women are deep thinkers with ethics who question and challenge such things

Some of us have tattoos , some don't, some are smokers some arnt some are conservative some are not at all

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2015):

I come from a very good family. My parents have been married for 40 years, everybody has a good job. I don't come from a broken or dysfunctional family.

I have tattoos but I know a lot of women who do. I like porn and sometimes I like watching it more than my boyfriend. I really cant explain why I like it, everybody has different tastes and I suppose I like looking at things like that.

I'm starting to feel a bit wrong for liking it though. I have moments like that when it just feels a bit wrong. If you are religious just think 'Why did God make sex enjoyable?'. Humans have a sex drive and we are all made that way by God if you believe in a God. I don't understand why people find it acceptable for a man to watch it and a woman not to, I'm sure if any woman sat down and watched it they would enjoy certain types of porn.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (25 March 2015):

YouWish agony auntNobody is mocking you, OP! Your post made me laugh not because I was mocking you, but because your stereotyping was way off and it was amusing. Lighten up! I actually liked your post - which is why I answered honestly and respectfully. I didn't mean to offend you, so I apologize.

I laughed because porn is truly a vice that crosses all class and backgrounds. I heard about 10 years ago that 63 percent of all PASTORS classify as struggling with porn or sex addiction.

Even 20 years ago, at a Promise Keepers convention (an ultra Christian men's meeting), 50% of men admitted to using porn within a week of the convention, and a story went that one guy at a hotel used by the attendees of Promise Keepers was chatting with the hotel clerk and was proselytizing a bit at how freeing PK was, and the hotel clerk responded that she had never seen such hypocrisy, as during the PK meeting, adult movie in-hotel purchases had shattered all of their rental records for porn use. Shocking for these guys were there to become godlier men and better husbands and fathers, yet had compartmentalized their lives to the point where they used porn at the same time they were supposedly seeking holiness in their lives.

In church statistics as well, 20% of WOMEN classify as struggling with porn/sex addiction. There truly is no stereotype for the porn user or the woman who is okay with their guy using it. It truly is the hidden secret of all, great and small, celebrity and common man, clergy and congregation, conservative and liberal.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (25 March 2015):

So_Very_Confused agony auntI stole it from somewhere EWO feel free to steal it from me. I think I saw it years ago on a tv show....

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (25 March 2015):

eyeswideopen agony aunt"YOU ASS-U-ME so you make an ASS out of YOU and ME…."

Excellent SVC! Can I use this?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2015):

Thanks to those who answered this without sarcasm, mocking and insults. I am just here to learn new things and expand/correct my views, ridiculing isn't necessary. or maybe this is what the culture is like on this site??

I only differentiated between men and women at first because we're already familiar with things like the TV evangelist getting caught with his pants down,the catholic bishop being arrested for child porn, the anti-gay Republican crusader having a secret gay affair, etc. It happens enough that to hear of a conservative male caught in some scandal isn't so shocking anymore, unfortunately. So of course we would infer that some, if not many, conservative men would also be porn watchers. Was curious to see if it was the same with conservative women. Because in my personal experience up to now, it wasn't. Wasnt trying to be sexist so everyone just calm down :P

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (25 March 2015):

So_Very_Confused agony auntOk here is my answer.

Men can come from all walks of life but women have to be tattooed sluts huh?

I am fine with both with my partner watching it or my watching it or us using it together.

I am not extremely liberal. I am a social liberal I believe in Gay marriage. I think that without marriage is fine between consenting adults.

I am 55. Old enough to be your mom. I am married to my fourth husband. I did have a previous husband who I was in an alternative lifestyle with but I no longer live that way.

I have 3 tattoos all covered by business clothing and I am planning a new tattoo.

I dye my hair. DARK brown to cover the gray. Oh and auburn highlights so it looks natural.

I have pierced ears. My first set of holes was at age 9 (a gift from my mom) second set was in high school. Those are the only piercings I wear. I do have other holes in my lobes I no longer wear and a cartilage piercing I no longer wear either.

I do not think prostitution should be legal but I do think Marijuana should be.

I work for the FEDERAL government of YOUR country and I PROTECT your benefits from hackers.

I am spiritual and believe in a higher power but do not wish to be told by any religion how to have a relationship with my higher power. I know many Orthodox Jews however who use porn.

Your assumptions are wrong. We know what they say when you make an ASSumption right?

YOU ASS-U-ME so you make an ASS out of YOU and ME….

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (25 March 2015):

YouWish agony auntBy the way - I heard a statistic that 1 in 6 users of porn are women! Surely there isn't a tattooed pierced army out there!

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (25 March 2015):

YouWish agony auntLOL!!!!! I haven't laughed this hard at a post in the 5 years I've been on this site!!! Your description of a woman okay with porn had me cracking up here!

I don't care if my husband watches porn or not provided that it doesn't affect his desire (porn addicts can run down their libido or get too used to rubbing one off), and I don't have to see it or the affects of his "partaking".

I don't care for porn either, but there is a site called "beautiful agony" that I find to be one of the hottest things I have ever seen on the internet. I don't partake, as it's a pay site, but it *is* a massive turn on to see. My husband knows I have seen it and doesn't care.

I don't have tattoos or colored hair. I grew up in a very religious background, but no longer "practice". I'm not a fan of an open marriage unless I became a quadriplegic or something like that. I don't do swinging, and I've never been promiscuous.

My parents were married 44 years until my father died, were conservative, that's how I grew up (I am an independent now with libertarian leanings) My home was very traditional, but they took the "spare the rod" passage in the bible to an extreme.

I've been married 16 going on 17 years (together for 21 years) and have a son. I love to work out and walk. I'm a musician - my hobbies are music, tornado chasing, reading, and camping outdoors including river rafting. I do not do drugs, and I'm a light drinker (wine on dates or a martini once every few months or so). I have never smoked anything in my life with the exception of trying a cigarette when I was a teenager (awful stuff!).

Here's the thing - I don't care if my husband watches porn because I don't consider porn to be competition. In fact, a woman's body is really beautiful, and a woman's body that hasn't been surgically altered is amazing in all shapes and sizes. I do draw the line at strip clubs and live sex cams, as interacting with a real person is over the line in my opinion, so that includes internet sexting as well.

I'm not giving up my vibrator any time soon, and I view porn to be my husband's "vibrator". I especially don't mind if I'm out of town on business or a visit and he indulges. We're not together, and a sex abstinence is not fun! This is TMI, but if I'm on business, I'm just fine having a whirlpool suite in a hotel!

Now, child porn would be another story. I'd be running for the hills if my husband were looking at something illegal or depicting a crime, like bestiality or rape or snuff films or pedophilia or ACTUAL incest. Luckily, he's not into that stuff. I would be disturbed if he was into the illegal.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2015):

I'm a 30 year old female. I'm a bit traditional, somewhat liberal. You won't find tattoos or piercings on my body. I watch and enjoy porn, it helps me get off. I have no problem with my boyfriend watching porn because I do it myself. I hope he has no problem with it. I watch regular porn, nothing aggressive or weird. the more loving it is the better it is.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2015):

I'm the original asker. Thx for all the great answers, theyre really informative and I'm sure will change my views on this topic. I tended to dismiss women's opinions on porn if they seemed too supportive of it, thinking they must be coming way out of left field. Now I know that's not necessarily the case! Many of you (not all) seem like very sane, intelligent and respectable people. So this has really helped.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2015):

I am a 29 year old female, and have a very liberal attitude towards sex, porn, etc. I was not abused, but I do have tattoos.

I don't generally enjoy main stream porn. What has always "gotten me off" has been watching men and women both have genuine orgasms, intense passion, etc... Its semi hard to find, but if the mood strikes me ill look.

I also feel as though porn can become desensitizing if not watched sparingly. Porn can set semi unrealistic expectations for the REAL thing and I would hate to not be 100% "into it", you know??

I've also watched porn WITH boyfriend a hand full of times, to spice things up, but not often. I also believe that being 100% open about desires and sexual experiences with a partner is important, I want to share it all with them.

Hope this helps!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2015):

Oh and to your other assumptions I do not have piercings and I do not do drugs, I have dyed my hair before, but not crazy colours like pink or blue. Sounds more like a fantasy of yours to be honest, a bit deluded (and when we English say 'a bit' we mean 'a lot' ;))

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2015):

Abuse in my past yes , tattoos yes , radical views? Sometimes . Religious ? No!

Porn? I hate it!

I think it is one of the most debase, degrading things happening in our world and yet another way in Men keep women in their place .

Many women are very uneducated and accept it, never questioning why an industry that routinely calls women obscene names, has multiple men penetrating a woman who is clearly In pain and who performers are often dressed up to appear as teenagers all for men's pleasure is ok????

It's really sick when you start to analyse it and put it in words rather than just jerk off to it

Hmmmm women are as brainwashed as men these days but I trust society will one day wake up and become enlightened but not in our life times

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2015):

I've allowed my partner to watch porn, you are completely wrong in your assumption. I'm quite religious, though I do believe in legalizing prostitution for the safety of the girls involved, so many women refuse to come forward if they've been raped because they fear because of their profession they won't be believed and also many young girls are trafficked for prostitution and I think this would happen less if the whole business weren't so underground.

I have no tattoos, I would never dream of getting one to be honest either. I do not live an alternative life style, I do like going clubbing and dancing but that's not 'alternative' Also no! Why would watching porn and allowing your partner to watch porn escalate into wanting to be involved in swinging? Completely different my friend!

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (24 March 2015):

Tisha-1 agony auntP.S. no tattoos. I worry about people who talk about 'legalized prostitution' as if that means that there aren't women who are trafficked or forced into prostitution...

I sometimes have highlights put into my hair. Does that mean I'm a liberalized fringe radical? O m g I had no idea that was so radical! I will from now on tamely accept that my blonde hair won't ever be as blonde.

If I need to accept my hair as it is, does that mean I can accept ALL my hair as it is and give up the pubic hair maintenance? Let nature be what nature will be? AWESOME! No more ingrown hairs or scars from waxing. Woot woot!

Swingers clubs I've only ever read about. Not my thing, not my husband's thing. Not something I'm going to try to legislate against. Do those men from all walks of life go in for that? Wow.

Open marriages. Well, um, no. Is that another thing those men from all walks of life get into? Fascinating!

Porn industry? Nope.

Abuse? Nope.

Broken home? Parents were almost at their 60 years anniversary before we lost one, so nope.

Oh and piercings? Other than the tame 'traditional' ear piercings, nope.

*KABOOM* There goes your mind as you learn there are people you can't even imagine existing live happy lives! *KABOOM* Just to rub it in a little. Sorry, can't resist.

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A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom +, writes (24 March 2015):

I am a woman and I watch porn occasionally and I don't really mind if a guy watches porn occasionally within a relationship. I have no problems if my partner decides to take an occasional look at porn.

I WOULD have a problem with porn use if my partner decided that he preferred porn to the real thing (i.e. made time to watch porn but not for me) but odd look when I'm not around doesn't hurt.

This is because I don't compare my self to the women that appear in porn movies. I don't see them as more attractive than me, or more adventurous...or better.. I see them as ordinary women who probably haven't been afforded the same educational opportunities that I have. (And I'm way hotter)

For the record

I am non-religious (in that I don't believe in organised relision and don't belong to a particlar church even though I have been baptised into one. But I believe in God)

I do not agree with open marriage or swinging.

I do not have a history of abuse.

I do not (and never would) work in the porn industry. (I have been given opportunities that mean I can use my brain rather than my body to support me.)

I don't colour my hair. (But I would if I wanted to)

I don't have piercings.

I DO have tattoos - where no-one gets to see them.

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A male reader, Xearo Trinidad and Tobago +, writes (24 March 2015):

You can not judge the world based on the people you surround yourself with.

All the best.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (24 March 2015):

Tisha-1 agony auntSo are you saying that men who are traditional, conservative and religious are porn afficionados? That these traditional, conservative and religious men who like porn are cool with legalized prostitution, swingers clubs, open marriages and promiscuous alternative [whatever that means] lifestyles? Whoa. You are rocking my world.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (24 March 2015):

janniepeg agony auntI used to watch porn when I was single. Now that I am married a second time I have no need for it. The kinds of porn I watched were mainstream excluding gangbang and anal. The description above does not fit me. I am actually a very boring person. Work, come home, household chores, sex, then sleep. My body can't break down alcohol and I have never tried drugs. I have only tried threesome once with my ex husband and felt it was not worth it to try it again. My mom was a virgin when she met my dad and she will remain with my dad forever. She has no problem with porn and is open about it. I think my open mindedness about sex and my healthy sex drive comes from her. My mom does mind if a man jerks of to different kinds of porn actresses and as a result can't be excited by his wife anymore. Other than that watching it together as a couple occasionally is fine.

I don't think men would like it either if their wives watches porn too much either. It's all about moderation.

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A female reader, jls022 United Kingdom +, writes (24 March 2015):

As someone who has watched porn and doesn't mind if partners do either, I have to say you have just described the polar opposite of me!

I have no tattoos and medium blonde hair, and the only wild-ish piercing I have is my belly button (I was 17 and wanted to be like Britney!)

Drugs are an absolute, 100% deal breaker for me. As is smoking cigarettes now that you mention it - yuck! I know lots of people think I'm uptight because I'm not from the 'legalise marijuana' school of thought and that's fine. And I'll happily admit I don't know all of the facts, but based on people I know, it seems to make them slow, unmotivated and less sharp than they used to be, and I value my intelligence and my mind more than to mess around with anything that could jeopardise that.

I'm very traditional when it comes to relationships, and would never dream of entering into an open relationship of any sort. I don't even date several people at once, even if I'm not exclusive with a person, as I like to focus on one person at a time to see where it goes. I'm not into casual sex or one night stands either, although I don't care if other people are. It just doesn't float my boat.

In terms of religion, I was raised in a non-strict Christian household. I don't go to church or fully believe exactly what the Bible says, but I do follow most of the principles of Christianity, in that I believe in being a good person and treating others fairly and with respect.

I'm not from a broken home - in fact there are no divorces on either side of my family at all. I am a rape survivor though, but being honest I think if anything that has made me view porn more negatively. Particularly the degrading and hardcore stuff - that's the only stuff I'd be a bit freaked out about my partner watching for obvious reasons.

To be honest OP, I'm not too sure where you are getting your ideas from. Why do you think that a well-rounded woman with an education and strong moral compass can't watch a video of other people having sex? Yet a man with a similar background and values can? Are you trying to work out what type of woman to go for to allow you to continue to watch porn freely? Because if so I honestly don't think it's that easy to tell.

Disclaimer - I'm happy for my partner to watch porn provided it has no negative impact on our relationship. If he starts to prefer it to having sex with me, or starts expecting me to act like the women on screen, then it's become a problem and I'll no longer be cool with it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2015):

I'm on my twenties, with a really good job, well educated and a polite pretty lady. I work 14 hour days everyday, I have a long term boyfriend, my own house and car and I don't drink or party. Most people call me quiet and reserved.

I love porn. It's my secret little escape.

I use toys and I masturbate. I am straight (I think!) but I love lesbian porn even more than straight , women are beautiful to look at.

My boyfriend watches with me occasionally and obviously do dirty things to each other over it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2015):

Both me and my wife have watched porn on our own and together and she doesn't care if I watch, and same for me. We don't watch often though. Both of us are completely opposite of your presumptions: we have no tattoos and hate them, we are totally monogamous, we are against gay marriage although we don't care about gay unions as long as they are not called marriage, we hate swinging and think swingers are sinners, we are religious, educated, never did any drug that's stronger then liquor, we eat healthy and work out a lot, we have no piercings except in her ears, we are neither conservative not liberal because they all lie, and we don't work in porn industry. We think porn girls are sinners as well but that is their life, their soul and if they want to waste it all I can do is send them a prayer without telling them (don't wanna offend them). If all porn gets suddenly erased, oh well, nobody will miss it.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (24 March 2015):

Honeypie agony auntYes.

I think women who likes/accept porn are from AS WIDE a selection as MEN who watches porn.

I DO NOT watch porn, but I have no problem with my husband watching it.

I'm not a liberal, I do have a couple of tattoos but I do not believe in swinger lifestyle or "alternative" life style. I don't think legalization of marijuana is a BAD thing, but like EVERYTHING ELSE (alcohol, prescription meds) there will always be people exploiting it. And I honestly don't think there is ENOUGH studies done about the mental aspect/side-effects of pot/marijuana in diagnosed/diagnosed people with mental issues. Thus I don't think we are ready for legalized marijuana.

I'm well educated. I'm NOT from a broken home, not abusive situation, nor have I ever been in the pron industry. I actually think there should be more laws surrounding porn than there is today.

I have faith, but not the "typical" denomination. I'm NOT a Christian, but I do believe in the general idea of common sense, morals, manners and values.

I have female friend who are VERY similar to me who does watch it. BUT they don't watch run of the mill porn made by men FOR men type porn, from what they have disclosed.

So yes, I think you are WAY off on your stereotyping.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2015):

Ha! Well, as a woman who doesn't care if my partner watches pornography, and who enjoys some myself, I fit into this only a little. I am non religious and slightly liberal, but that's the most I fit into that description. Most women I know watch porn and are okay with their partners doing so as well. Some if these women have tattoos and piercings, some are liberal, some conservative, some staunchly religious and others not so much.

The idea that women are not as sexual as men or that they don't enjoy watching sex as much as a general man is a social construct in many ways. Don't get me wrong- some women just don't like it. But I find for the most part it can stem from a general repression of sexuality in women, not necessarily their level of sexuality.

And some women just plain don't care for porn, as well as some men. "Different strokes for different folks" as they say.

Basically, making that kind of generalization is dangerous because it limits you from getting to know what a woman actually likes. You assume that because she is not like these women you describe that she must be a certain WA and vice versa. Porn watchers come from every creed, color, gender and background!

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