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Aaaah!!! He loves us both!!!!!

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Question - (23 October 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 24 October 2010)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend of a year and I, had been arguing about the fact that he still keeps pictures, on both shoebox and on his laptop of his ex girlfriend. One time, he told me that he love his ex girlfriend and that he will always love her, but that he loves me in a very different way. That she was part of his life and that, that is something just cannot erased. That with me, he is able to be who he truly is. Today, when having an argument about a Wikipedia biography entry he is planning to publish when his album comes out, he had about 2-3 sentences about his ex. The sentences where somewhat about her career as a classicist, etc... At the end of the entry, he stated that he lives with me, and just wrote my name. Just a few minutes ago, when I asked that I didn't understand his love for me, and that how can he proclaim to love me and her, he said that he loves us both. I became infuriated with him. I don't think that I am able to handle someone, who tell me or that feels that way. Should this acceptable or should I just walk away from this relationship?

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (24 October 2010):

tennisstar88 agony auntTo share your boyfriend's love with someone else, an ex, is not acceptable. It's evident, this man is not over his ex, the memos of her he keeps, and he even claimed he still loves her. What is this love he has for you then? A secondary love? I wouldn't settle for that. Because he has failed to get over her, he can't give you the monogamous love you want. Even if you gave him an ultimatum, he will still have her on his mind. Never settle for less, walk away.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010):

it is possiable to love two people at the same time. but his love for you should be stronger. If he can't get pass the fact he loves both of you, he should love you both in different ways. He should love her like he loves friends and he should love you like he loves air, because without air he could not live. otherwise you should let him go, and find someone that loves you like they love air.

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