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writes: Hello. I have been married for 11 months to my partner of 5 years. We got married without a wedding as I was pregnant so basically we didn't have enough time or money for the wedding. Now whenever I hear someone is getting married I get so jealous and upset as I didn't get what I always dreamt off. I don't know how to get over it. Ps: I'm Background won't allow me to haves wedding now as I have a baby already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your answers and yes I will consider celebrating our 5 years anniversary and also I have the best husband that anyone could ask for and a beautiful baby who is just as handsome as his daddy. I guess I will just think and do whatever you guys have suggested. And again thank you for your answers :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your answers and yes I will consider celebrating our 5 years anniversary and also I have the best husband that anyone could ask for and a beautiful baby who is just as handsome as his daddy. I guess I will just think and do whatever you guys have suggested. And again thank you for your answers :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 April 2014):
 For an anniversary why not have the whole shebang... renewal of vows, a cake a big party etc....
either at 5 years out or 10 years out would be nice... or both if you want.... no reason not to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2014): Just save up for a renewal ceremony. Or as my wife suggested save up, have this marriage annulled and get married again the way you dreamt of if it's that important.
Personally I don't see the big deal about the ceremony, it's just a glorified party. I think the money is better spent on raising the child and having financial security within the marriage. I had mine in an Italian castle/hotel, booked the whole thing for 3 days and spent those 3 days there drunk with family. Spit roast, jesters and entertainers, fireworks you name it, we had it. Everyone is jealous of the wedding we had and a lot of them had their dream weddings, ours topped the lot.
My point is, OP, jealousy isn't going to be solved by the wedding because there'll always be those who had more money to have a bigger and better one. It's who you marry and how the marriage is that matters, not the party you threw.
You can always save up and have a massive renewal ceremony in your 10 year anniversary, you can even include your kids in this one and make it a very special day. Your chance is not gone, OP, you just have to wait a bit longer but you can still have it.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (20 April 2014):
 What's more important to you OP, the wedding or the marriage?
You got married to the love of your life and you have a beautiful baby to love and cherish. You cant change the past and have the wedding that you had in mind, but if you still want the big fancy party then you can celebrate your anniversary in a way that you want. You can renew your vows with friends and family and have a cake and flowers and a pretty white dress.
Jealousy is a funny thing...I'm sure there are so many girls jealous of you right now, for having something they don't have. A beautiful baby!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2014): What about a party to celebrate your wedding? Renew your nuptials and ask friends and family to come? You don't have to actually remarry... But you can wear a white dress and celebrate being together!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2014): Sorry hun but this is something you're just going to chin up and pretend not to care. Yes it sucks that you didn't get your big day but look at the bigger picture.
You have met and married the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. You have a beautiful baby that's yours. That's the important thing. Everything else is just background noise.
Gracefully congratulate everyone or save up for a 'honey moon' for you and your husband which doesn't require any 'background' if you really want a celebration.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2014): What is your background that you can't have an additional wedding ceremony now that you have a child? I know plenty of people that have. Is it a faith issue?
You post from the UK where people frequently have wedding services when they are pregnant or have their children as bridesmaids (but I'm aware I'm talking about Christian or non-religious people and you may belong to a different faith)
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