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writes:A lot of virginity questions here are answered with "great he/she decided to wait for the right moment" and similar things like that. But do people really think that way? The reason I'm asking is because I'm a 23 y/o girl and a virgin. Some bad stuff in my past has made me pretty wary of people and especially intimacy. Even when a guy is good looking, I just cringe and want to run away and go hide in my safe little shell. I have kissed a couple of guys but even then I'm really picky and will only kiss someone who puts me completely at ease. 'Right now I'm at my third year of Uni and sex is a common subject. I don't lie about my virginity, I try to see it as something positive, but it's frowned upon by my classmates and students in general. I don't show that it bothers me because for me that's a sign of weakness and I don't like to be weak. Everyone has so much experience with sex and relationships and I feel completely, well...like trying to get a grasp of a to me foreign language that everyone else speaks fluently. Also, my age is starting to bother me. At 18, I didn't care. At 20, I was still okay with it. But now I'm getting close to 25 I'm starting to feel a bit awkward.So guys, what do you think about virgin girls? Would you date one? Or do you prefer someone with experience? Honest opinions are appreciated. And by that I mean, don't tell me what you think I want to hear. Tell me what you think, good or bad. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): Being a known virgin in college is like being a known nondrinker at a keg party. It's not that everyone disagrees with you so much, it's just that in that time and place nobody wants to be reminded of the subject for a few hours. They don't want to think about the downsides to what they are doing in any way, shape, or form.
But just because some people don't want to opening talk about sobriety at a keg party, that doesn't mean there is nobody on campus who thinks keg parties are excessive. There are quite a few nondrinkers or lighter drinkers on campus who don't advertise it much. Some of them are even sitting in the corners at the keg parties.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): Honest opinion: I think sex should be reserved for marrige! but I know it is hard to wait. I also know it's so worth waiting! I don't think any mature guy will have a problem with you being a virgin... if he does, then he wants only great sex, not a human being. in fact, many guys would feel good knowing you haven't had sex with some loser you met at a bar
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