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writes:So, here's the deal. I have a good friend, let's call him A. Anyway, ever since I was little, I've always preferred hanging out with boys. But now that I'm older, I can't have a sleepover or anything. I wouldn't want to do anything sexual, and definitely not sleep in the same bed. I just want him to come over and do regular things like watch a movie, things you usually do at a sleepover, nothing else. How can I convince my mum to let A spend the night? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (27 February 2016):
 I agree.
I have 3 daughters. 2 of them have male-besties and no, there are NO sleep overs. When they have "squad" sleepovers the male friend comes over for the dinner, and the hangout and my husband drives them home (usually around 11-11.30pm) when all the girls go to bed.
The guy's parents prefer it that way and so do we. While I'm SURE the girls and guy can keep it platonic, I'm just not OK with sleeping over. If they when they are over 18 and out on their own want to sleep over with a male friend, more power to them. I did the same.
Growing up I had only male friends till my teen years, and my bestie who lived right next door slept over many times from age 6-10. After that there was no sleep over and that was fine.
If your parents aren't keen on it, then you are going to have to follow the rules of the house.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 February 2016):
 If your mum has said no then you need to respect that, as she has your best interests at heart. When you are older you will see why she won't allow it.
It doesn't mean it needs to effect any plans. Watch a movie during the day, or ask your mother if he can come over for the evening and she can drop him off at night.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (26 February 2016):
 In stead of a sleep over, why not just a movie night and his parents come pick him up? It's cool to be comfortable enough to have friendships with the opposite sex but I would have to draw the line at sleeping over. Not just yet. The way I see it, it is better to compromise and you might get mum on side. If not then I guess no means no.
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reader, Ivyblue +, writes (26 February 2016):
In stead of a sleep over, why not just a movie night and his parents come pick him up? It's cool to be comfortable enough to have friendships with the opposite sex but I would have to draw the line at sleeping over. Not just yet. The way I see it, it is better to compromise and you might get mum on side. If not then I guess no means no.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (26 February 2016):
 The short answer- you can't.
It's a bad idea, no sensible mother would agree to it and it's not as safe and easy as it looks to you. Why would you want him to stay over at night to watch a movie? Watch a movie in the daytime! Whatever else you want to do, go it in broad daylight with your parents around you.
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