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My friend told me that she had sex with my boyfriend while I was at work!

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Question - (13 August 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 13 August 2007)
A age 30-35, * writes:

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year. The other day I broke up with him becuase I was kind of starting to think that he was cheating on me and i got my little sisters phone and started texting him on it like I was just some random girl...I pretended like his number just magically appeared in that phone and askin who he was, what he looked like, and if he was cute. He said that he was cute told the "random girl" what he looked like how old he was and where he lived and that he would send her a picture of him. Then I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he told the "random girl" no he didnt have one. I was on the phone with him at the time and I ended it right there and then. The next day me and him hung out so that we could talk about some things becuase me and him didnt just want the relationship to end like that after all that time. Well when we were talkin one of my friend started texting him practically begging him to talk to her and I started texting her back pretending to be him asking why she wanted to talk to him and I wasnt being very nice about it. Then she got mad because "the way he was talking to her" and was like if you want to be this way to me then thats fine, I will tell Laura what happened, this is when i started gettin very mad and suspicious. Then I got on my phone and started calling her and texting her about what she was talking about and Michael was going crazy trying to call her also askin what she was talking about. She wouldnt answer mine or his phone calls or texts. When i would finally get ahold of her she wouldnt tell me her excuse was "if he wont tell you then I wont" or "I would rather lose you as a friend without you knowing then you knowing" and I finally got her to tell me and she said that her and my boyfriend had had sex one day while i was at work. I asked her what day and on his phone she said about 3 sundays ago and on my phone she said about 2 sundays ago. Michael was denying it the whole time and Tamara was sayin the whole time I dont want to tell you because I KNOW that you wont get back with him and stuff like that. Neither of them has proof that it did happen or didnt and I dont know who to believe. I dont really know about Tamara becuase everytime us 3 would hang out he would never want to hang out with her becuase he didnt like the way she acted, neither did my friends or even me I just tried not to let it bother me. She would always try to hang all over him and flirt with him and she would just text him at random times. Do you think she just said that because she wants him? She even told me that she thought that he was gorgeous, or do you think she is telling the truth. Who do i believe?

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A female reader, LauraE United Kingdom +, writes (13 August 2007):

Hi,

It sounds like she genuinely thought it was your boyfriend texting her, when it was you. From how she behaved, and what she said, I would say that something definitely did happen between them. Why would she threaten to tell you “what happened”, if nothing did happen? What would be the point if she was only speaking to him as she thought? You know he lied about having a girlfriend when he thought you were someone else. These 2 slip-ups prove that he is a cheater. How much else happened which you didn’t find out about? I would dump him, and your so-called friend as well. If you keep her as a friend, how will you know that she isn’t trying to steal your next boyfriend as well?

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (13 August 2007):

hlskitten agony auntHi

Hard to say. But i would end this relationship, the guy isnt ready for anything heavy. If hes telling strangers on the phone hes single, where does that leave you?

And as for the mate, thats no mate. I would get rid of her too.

Shes dangerous, it could of happened, it might not of happened. You cant possibly know for sure unless there is evidence, but dont care anyway. Why should you, its a waste of time and energy.

Lose the pair of them, they both sound immature liabilities.

Good luck

C xxxxx

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