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writes:I'm a submissive,married crossdresser, and although my wife knows of my dressing, she does not participate or encourage me in any manner.I wish she could be somewhat supportive, and I could also share my other fetishes and fantasies with her. In return; I'd give her the utmost freedom, including seeing other men if she so desired. I doubt she could be so adventurous in any manner. How can I get her to possibly have a bit of interest? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2015): You are asking far too much. Typically, heterosexual women do not marry men who like wearing women's clothing; and wish to indulge in their every fetish and freaky impulse. That is a very rare bird you're looking for! You may never find it! You married someone who barely tolerates what you do, and want to pile even more on top of that? I think you're trying to see what it takes to completely destroy her. You have to have a bit of empathy. What you're expecting isn't what most wives want from their husbands.
Man, why in the world did you get married? Knowing she'd never be up for any of that. It's horrible what you're putting her through. You're so selfish, you just can't see it can you? If she isn't participating in it, who are you sharing it with? Yet you have other fetishes and fantasies?
Why did you pick someone you knew wasn't into it? Why?
She doesn't have to be more supportive. You've already got her back to the wall. You've got more stuff to force her to deal with. Are you for real, sir? At best, she will divorce you. Are you willing to give it all up to be supportive of her, and to save your marriage? Most likely not.
Your lifestyle is far out of the ordinary, and you are so self-absorbed; you're putting your wife through hell, and yet you want to crush her with even more outrageous behavior. People can only take so much!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (8 August 2015):
 When did you tell her about being a cross dresser? Was is late in the marriage? before the marriage? recently?
Because I do think it matters.
An what are your ages? How long have you been married?
She isn't supportive because she doesn't understand why you feel the need to dress up as a woman.
The thing with sexual fantasies and fetishes.. unless you MARRY someone who shares the same taste, you can't really EXPECT her to want to do these things. Specially if you "hid" them till AFTER the wedding. NOT everyone would get turned on by a man in a dress. I know I wouldn't.
You can't GET her to do anything she doesn't WANT to.
You can TALK to her and ask hr if there are ANY of those things she would want to try with you. To share. If not, well.. there you have it.
It would be if I decided to become a vegan and wanted my entire family to eat ONLY what I eat. Not really fair is it?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 August 2015):
 Why would you want your wife to see other guys??
And, what does "supportive" mean? If it means you sleeping with others, she shouldn't have to be.
The fact that she knows it and accepts it is support enough. I don't understand how encouraging she should be. Married people have different tastes and fantasies.
As far as participating, I'd try anything, unless it involves other people. Have you asked her to role play with you?
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