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writes:My fiance and I have a lot of history and we were very much in love. I started drinking, she did too, and we started fighting, a lot. we had been living together for about 5 years, together all the time, exclusively. she loves me very much and i feel the same towards her. we've had a couple of fights that got pretty bad and she would leave for a few days, and i wouldn't hear much. Recently I told her to leave my condo because of all the fighting, which i later regreted. Mind you though, that when we're not fighting, its amazing. so we slowly start to talk through email, and she starts coming over for a couple of days here and there. She is 30, doesn't have a job, doesn't have a license, has dropped out of college 4 times in the past 5 years. I became upset when she told me that she was going to a party with a group of people who I consider to be complete losers. we started arguing, and i told her to get a job and a life. the next morning she sent me an email stating that she is officially considering us to "not be together". I have been emailing her and sending instant messeges when I see she is online, but she wont respond, its been 5 days. I also called her sister's house (where she's staying) and they haven't seen her in 5 days.why won't she respond? is it that she needs time to calm down, time to get over me, time to forget and find somebody else? Its driving me crazy, i really love her. thanks for reading, i know its a lot.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (6 March 2008):
 30 years old is kind of old to be partying and being irresponsible. No offense, but she doesn't sound like a real catch. If I were you, I'd just back off. If she doesn't want to see you, so be it. That may be a blessing in disguise.
You'll get over her and find someone more compatible . . . and leave the alcohol out of the equation. Life's too short to spend it in a stuper.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (6 March 2008):
 Do you really what to know what I think. I think that she may be hooking up with somebody she just met in those flash in the pan week or two long grudge fuck things people do when they are on a drinking jag. It's harsh and I don't enjoy tagging you like this but I wouldn't be surprised if you heard through the grapevine of her and another guy. If so it won't mean a thing and will burn itself out before it gets going but the way she mailed you and officially broke it off. People always want to nail down the technicalities so if and when you get back together you can't lord it over their head
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