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*mgimapirate
writes:I'm a 26 year old male... and I'm a virgin. Not only have I not had sex, I've only kissed a girl once. I've never had a girlfriend. I'm the guy that always got caught up with liking girls that just want to be "friends." But, I was a moron and just stayed friends with them, hoping they would change their minds.Well, now I'm 26, very shy, very embarrassed and very depressed. How am I supposed to find a girl, when every girl just wants to be "friends?" And I'm too scared that if a girl ever does say yes to me, I'm not going to know what to do and I'm going to feel like a moron. So, I'm afraid to talk to girls for fear of them making fun of me because I'm a virgin. And I don't go out with my friends any more, because everybody just talks about sex and I just sit there and feel stupid. So, I just sit at home, nite after nite, feeling bad for myself and just hoping somebody will kill me.I'd rather kill myself than spend another year alone, a virgin loser. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): yo man, I'm a 24 year old male virgin and I know what you're going through, esp. the part about the girls wanting to be just friends... It sucks, but don't let it bring you down, there are plenty of us out there, don't give up hope. Go out with friends and have a good time, and you never know what can happen... that's the way I feel, don't be ashamed either!
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reader, anoms  +, writes (4 March 2009):
 cheer up my friend, i just turned 24 yesterday and i was feeling very depressed for the same reason, although i get plenty of attention but i hav'nt found anything more than casual sex offerings, but before we can take it to the next level and finally loose it, i think its important we find somone who understands our issues, its quite unlikely we will find partners at our age who have little or know prior sexual experiance, but stay confident because it does'nt make you any less of a man, choose wisely an we'l get ther, gudluk.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (4 March 2009):
 No, you're fine. In fact, I'm kinda like you. I am a 25-year old virgin, have only had one boyfriend (7th grade!) and that was also the last time I kissed a guy.
While I am a bit ashamed at my lack of boyfriends or kissing I am by no stretch of the imagination ashamed that I'm a virgin. I hope to have sex one day but that will only be when I'm married.
Don't lose heart. Just get out there and meet some women. Go join something that you like to do, if you like to work out, join a gym, if you like to read, join a book club, etc. Just get out there and be yourself and gain some confidence.
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (4 March 2009):
 you shouldn't feel tha tway man, therre's nothing wrong with beying a virgin
some girls find it kinda hott
you should go out with your friends more often, how are you going to me that special some one if you just stay inside your room...and if they talk about sex then get in on the conversation, and dont hide the fact that you're a virgin to them, you should be open to your friends and shouldn't be ashamed of having your v-card
gudd luck
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (4 March 2009):
you shouldn't feel tha tway man, therre's nothing wrong with beying a virgin
some girls find it kinda hott
you should go out with your friends more often, how are you going to me that special some one if you just stay inside your room...and if they talk about sex then get in on the conversation, and dont hide the fact that you're a virgin to them, you should be open to your friends and shouldn't be ashamed of having your v-card
gudd luck
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reader, PrincessSmithee  +, writes (4 March 2009):
 oh my gosh, i just want to hug you :( no seriously youve put tears in my eyes.
This was me a few years ago, im younger than you but i was in depression and i had no confidence and just sat in crying everynight, harming myself :(
I got out of my depression by going out with my friends, i know how you feel all they spoke about was sex and kissing. i think you should go see the doctor, see a consueller, also try to get invovled in spme acivites.
I think you need to make the first steps to get oiut of this depression. Try and confinde in some family members or a close friend you can trust.
what about online dating chat rooms?
I think you need to make some friends, then through the riends you can get confidence and maube find soone you like.
Deffo go to the doctor
confide in a family member
and maybe you can get a new look and give yourself some confidence.
I wish i could help more but all i cna say is, youve got to make the first move and get people to help you.
keep strong with God, and ask him so strength through this hard time.
xx
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