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blandy
writes:I'm currently a 21 year old junior in college. I have never had a real relationship with a girl. Its not that I don't hook up with girls, I just can seem to make relationships work. I always get bored or over it once I start to hang out with a girl for awhile. Am i just scared of a relationship? Why do I chicken out. I always focus on some little thin wrong with the girl. How do I over come this problem Reply to this Question |
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reader, q1605 +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Trust me on this one. You aren't part of the problem, you are part of the solution. At 21 you don't have a clue what you are about, and what you want or need, and neither does any girl your age. Hang with one girl if you must, but keep your wits about you. Who you are now, and who you will be years from now, are such radically different people. With a lot of luck a person that gets married at your age can grow with their spouse or significant other, but usually you end up so far apart that you find yourself living with a stranger. And yes it can happen to you, no matter how special you think your situation is, or how wonderful the girl you meet is.
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reader, gayuncleandy  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Maybe you find the relationships boring because you are being boring in the relationship. I am sure the girls who you find some little thing wrong with find as many things annoying about you. Why don't you just tell her if you are interested in a relationship that something about her annoys you and she can then tell you that thing that infuriates her about you. Inject a bit of honesty, it will make the relationship closer if she sticks around and if she doesn't then you won't have to endure something you don't like. Or maybe you just haven't met the right girl! Either way, relax and have fun.
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reader, sweetheart03 +, writes (14 May 2008):
Well your missing out I think you should be picky cause you wanna make sure you have a loyal girl you can trust that's the key to not being hurt!!! Date them for at least 6 months like a relationship that way you can figure them out. Getting in any relationship is a risk and can be hard and you take a risk in getting your heart broken....but don't let good women slip away. You gotta give someone a chance and there are very few good girls who are loyal and stick by there men! So don't miss out! Good luck! It will be ok
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