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12 years old - too young to have sex?

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Question - (10 April 2008) 19 Answers - (Newest, 4 July 2008)
A female United States age 18-21, anonymous writes:

i wanna have sex but i think 12 is tooo young!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008):

I'm aware that this is an old post, and I know that you've probably made up your mind by now. It would be helpfull if you would update your situation after everyone has be kind enough to give you some advice. Did you tell the guy to get lost, did you have sex, did you enjoy it. Please update and tell us what has happened to you. Everyone is worried honey, it would be nice to know your safe and have decided against this thing. Anyway, take care of you. A lot of people care about you and that's why everyone has been so harsh.... Hugs kiddo. Update soon.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008):

Don't let anybody convince you different; you have read all the answers from all the uncles and aunts; surely you know, they are not all wrong;

PLEASE

you are to young to have sex; your body is only starting to develop, will reach full maturity within the next few years; do not ruin your life; not just physically but also emotionally; you have many years ahead of you to enjoy sex; wait for the right time; oh and when is the right time, you might ask; when you are physically and emotionally ready; when you are ready to face the responsibilities that goes with sex;

For now; hug hold hands; PLEASE whom ever is puttig pressure on you; don't give in; BE STRONG

Enjoy your youth and have innocent fun;

God bless

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A male reader, jmd89 United States +, writes (4 July 2008):

You may want to read this link. Whil eit is normal to have thoughts and feelings such as feeling you are ready for or want to have sexualy intercourse, it is important to educate yourself before taking any action. the link below wil help educate yourself on what is normal, healty, and consequences. At 12 it is normal to have these feelings but once you educate yourself you will learn that is is normal to have feelings and want to have sex, but also you will discover and understand and choose it is best not to have sex and wait.

http://www.ces.purdue.edu/providerparent/PDF%20Links/Sexual_Dev.pdf

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A female reader, gloriawk55 United States +, writes (14 April 2008):

gloriawk55 agony auntSorry to say, but I'm 12 and ARE YOU INSANE?

maybe it's pressure, but you're WAY too young....did you see Jamie Lynn Spears? She's a mess...

So, NO

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008):

Oh my god yes!! you should even be thinking about sex - i presume you are either getting pressure from a guy which at this age he is only using you for sex and is so not worth it - or your friends are doing it and you feel left out?? (therefore your friends are also being used for sex) - gosh i sound harsh but its soooo true i am only being honest. When you are so young it is only about being used.. not love, god there is a big difference to having sex with someone you love and you know loves you than to have sex with someone just to please them. I wont even go into the whole pregnancy and STD thing just please out of respect for yourself - do not have sex!!!

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A male reader, dsjno1 United Kingdom +, writes (10 April 2008):

You need to be focusing on what's important like school and getting the best education you can for the future. Having sex so young will wreck your young life as it leads to emotional turmoil and in the end having lots of sexual partners will mess you up emotionally. Sex should be about a serious relationship with someone you love and itend on spending your life with. Having sex at your age is an abuse of your body. Show respect for yourself by doing the right thing. Wait until your ready for a steady relationship with someone. You education and career should come first so you are in the position to look after your family when you decide to have one. Don't let peer pressure cause you to have sex before your time.

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A male reader, Jamer70 United Kingdom +, writes (10 April 2008):

Jamer70 agony auntYes your bloody too young

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

Of course you're too flipping young.

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (10 April 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntRhythm and blues two has given the best advice so please take note dear. Dusky xxxxx.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

One more for the peanut gallery....DON'T' HAVE SEX YOU ARE A BABY!

Here is one of the best reasons not to have sex at the age of 12. Your body is not mature enough to carry a baby full term and deliver it without doing severe damage to your insides, possibly preventing you from having more children when you are a married WOMAN and actually want to have a family.

Other health reasons, having underage sex ironically makes you at a greater risk of getting cervical cancer, which can be fatal....Your sheer age and lack of physical maturity puts you at risk of contracting the HPV virus which can and does lead to cervical cancer. Using a condom does not protect you from this virus. And you may think that if you only have sex once or with one partner you would not be at risk, this is not true, you can get it with only one partner. I can't think of a better reason not to have sex too young, is the less than satisfactory experience that you will have at your first time having sex with a boy that doesn't know his way around worth potentially dieing for, or worth risking an unwanted pregnancy that could ruin your life and your future chance at happiness?

I should think Not.

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A female reader, Midge United Kingdom +, writes (10 April 2008):

Midge agony auntNot only is it too young, but totally illegal. Its illegal for a reason! You are too mentally immature to deal with the aftermath of such an ordeal at that age, and thats exactly what it is at that age, an ordeal. Hang on to your childhood as long as possible. You will regret throwing it away for something that you could wait for.

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A female reader, Yargh United States +, writes (10 April 2008):

Yargh agony auntI think it is way too young to become involved in that way with another person. Also, some of the consequences of sex are hard for adults to deal with, much less children. I am going to give you the following advice, knowing full well that many may disagree with me. I suggest that you get to know your own body well first, before sharing it with another.

I started masturbating around your age, and it helped in many ways. It relieved some of the crazy raging teenage hormones, so I was able to think with a clear head when it came to underage sex. This meant that I never hooked up in a way that I regret, and did not have sex until I found someone I really loved. Also, by the time I did have sex I was very familiar with what worked for me, and was able to make the situation better for myself. Anyway, its just my two cents, and I apologize if its too heavy for anybody.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

Absolutely too young!!!!! Why don't you embrace your childhood, and leave the complicated, adult stuff until you actually have to deal with it.

Believe me, it won't be long!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

To young, yes!

Ask yourself why? What is it that you expect out of it? Is it something you've heard about from friends, a boy?

I'll start with the above.

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A male reader, kb123 United Kingdom +, writes (10 April 2008):

you are rght take your advice you are a bit too you for sex the troble is you want what you cant have saying if you need any more advice or anyone to tlk 2 email me

let me know how it goes

kb x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

Are you saying you wanna have sex but at the back of your mind your hesitating coz you're only 12 years old? Then it simply means you are not ready for it.Yes you are too young for that. What you are feeling right now is merely curiosity considering the fact that you are indeed entering the adolescence stage.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

of course it's too young... you don't know anything. and you're deffinetly gonna regret it when you get older... don't make the mistake. grow up.

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A female reader, MissKin United Kingdom +, writes (10 April 2008):

MissKin agony auntYes. every single person on this site who is older than twelve will say yes. You are too young to have sex. 12 is too young. I personally thinkg 15 is too young. 16 is a maybe. You're too young. Wait till you're older.

You think twelve is too young and you're right, so why do you want to have sex if you obviously know you're not really old enough or mature enough? Every girl feels the want to have sex at some point but twelve really is too young. I'm not sure i can say it enough.

Especially if you're not ready and not educated enough on the subject of sex.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008):

Is this legit? It would be nice if it were removed. Sounds like pedophile baiting.

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