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*upcakecuttie
writes:Me and my boyfriend have always been very close and share a deep bond. He is very loving and sweet. He has problems of his own though. He is struggling with a bad drug addiction and is staying with his dad who is very nasty to him. He is however not a bad person at all, and remains sweet to me. I seem to be all he has, he never hangs out with anyone. What im curious about is that he always acts like a little baby around me, litterly. He crys and wines he clings to me like a baby n always wants to cuddle or be close to me like he desperatly needs attention. This doesnt reallt bother me. Im just curious as to why he hay act like this with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Kama  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Be careful with the drug thing - it isn't entirely your job to take care of him, and he has his own responsibility to get off the stuff. Unlike the other aunts though, I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting Mommy. I would go so far as to say that all of us want that in some way. Your boyfriend sounds like he doesn't have a good relationship with his Dad -- he's reaching out to you in a raw way. Nothing wrong with that - but it gets weighty. I wish you luck.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Lucky for him, he has you, Poster! Good luck!
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reader, cupcakecuttie +, writes (21 June 2010):
cupcakecuttie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for the answers! I do see what you are saying. He is still a great bboyfriend dispite everything. We do seem to communicate well and have a good relationship and very good sex life still. He doesnt really overplay the mommy thing w me though, he just seems to want comfort not really wine at me for things. He does treat me well like a guy should and we share interests n play around and laugh alot together. I was thinkin he does this maybe cause im the onnly one whos nice and happy towrd him and we use to live together but now live apart n the times apart he never gets to relax n things r hell for him
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (21 June 2010):
I'm agreeing hands down with CG. This guy's looking for mommy. Perhaps you make him feel comforted and safe. I recommend due caution going forward. Ultimately, this relationship will most likely stall at some point and not go any further. I'd be mindful of that, were I you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 June 2010):
He's looking for a mother's love. I've got a feeling he sees you more as a parent than anything else. I'm not sure how healthy this relationship is overall, and I think you need to be very careful, given that he has a drug addiction as well. Remember that you're his girlfriend, not his mother.
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