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Why can't we let go of each other, is it because we had en emotional affair before we had a sexual one?

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Question - (16 August 2007) 1 Answers - (Newest, 17 August 2007)
A female South Africa age 41-50, anonymous writes:

This started about a year ago, me and my girlfriend met with another lesbian couple. We were friends right away. As time went by I realised I started to have feelings for my friend which I tried to hide. Then I found out my girlfriend was cheating on me. We split up and me and my friend started to talking about our feelings for each other. Although she was still involved in a relationship we decided to be more than just friends.

It's now 8 months later. They had to move away. We're in constant contact. I help her, she helps me. I miss her. I love her. She says she can't leave her girlfriend because the feels sorry for her and guilty. She says she loves her. I don't understand. Why can't we let go of each other, is it because we had en emotional affair before we had a sexual one? What should I do?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007):

If she really wanted to be with you, she would have left her girlfriend before now. This woman, however much you are in love with her, sounds cowardly. I really feel for her poor girlfriend, who she feels 'sorry for'. The truth is she doesn't want the hassle and upheaval in her life and you may just have to face the fact that you will never be together.

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