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*onfused911
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and we have began fighting quiet regularly over almost anything.This has made the relationship difficult, and we both have been debating going our separate ways.In the past four months a guy from work has been very flirty and making me a lot happier than my current relationship. We get coffee about once a week, and as of recently he has expressed his lust for me. I am really into him, and would like to give it a shot but don't want to hurt my boyfriend. It's all very confusing considering the hardship on our relationship, and now there is something new that seems "problem free". The last time I saw the guy from work for drinks he kissed me. Should I ditch my current relationship and try being single again?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 April 2015):
 Yes, END your current relationship.
You two are doing nothing but fighting and you ALREADY have a foot out the door "enjoying" flattery from another guy. Doesn't sound like a good relationship with a future, it sounds like it's already dead and the two of you (you and your BF) are just making "appearances" out of misplaced obligations.
The work guy? Yes he is NOT a "problem free" guy. UNLESS you would be totally OK with a guy who just wants to have sex with you here and there. And even then... no a "problem free guy". He obviously doesn't have MUCH respect for you or women in general - I say that because I PRESUME he knows you have a BF and he is still talking about SEX with you.
You say you don't want to hurt your BF, but kissing or letting a guy kiss you.... THAT is OK in your book?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 April 2015):
 yes I would end the current relationship and be single.
this means you don't rush directly to the "new guy"
the fact that you are crushing on the new guy and let him kiss you says that your current relationship is over and done. You have progressed to cheating on your bf...
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 April 2015):
 The guy at work is only interested in sex. It is not an appropriate topic for coffee. A cafe is a place for light conversations. A guy who has the potential to take care of you emotionally would not go straight into the topic of sex. You should end your current relationship because you already crossed the line with the new guy and didn't really fight off the temptation. Also you are not concerned about saving the relationship. Arguing about nothing is a sign of dissatisfaction in the relationship but nothing is resolved nor do you care to. The new guy won't be arguing with you over nothing, but he is taking advantage of your loneliness and a need for attention, which may be lacking in your stale relationship. Maybe he doesn't know of your current situation in your relationship but even if he does, he wouldn't care. He's an opportunist. He will take your mind off of your relationship and the break up but I would not say he's the most decent human being.
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