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writes:My ex and I? were together for 6 years. We had a few ups and downs but we made I.T through. He didn’t like me having a girlfriend because he felt that he should have been the only friend that I? needed. One night my friend and I? attended a concert and that’s when things went downhill. He started treating me different. We went out for my birthday and we had a good time, but that following Friday he broke up with me over the phone. That really crushed me and I? didn’t understand why, I? even asked him for a second chance and he said we had to keep moving forward. We’ve been apart for a year and a half. About a month ago he went to my parents house and even began to ask my neighbor about me. He even kept my landscaping up around the house without me asking. Well I? sent him an audio text letting him know how I? was doing; he caked right after and we talked. He asked if we could be friends and of course the answer was yes. He asked why I? wasn’t dating anyone and I? told him because my heart wasn’t ready. I? then asked if he was dying and he got an attitude but responded that he was. He comes by for hugs and they feel so right, but later on after finding out he had a girlfriend I? found out they were engaged to be married. When asked he said they talked about I.T and the final decision would be his. He even said he still loved me. When asked if he was happy he got another attitude but never answered. Well wedding invitations went out and I? said if we were friends to be honest. He got an attitude again and said that was his plan and he didn’t want to talk about no wedding. Whenever I ask about her he gets an attitude. Should I? continue being his friend or let him get married and walk away.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 February 2018):
 Wish him well and CUT him loose and cut him off.
No more doing "landscaping" for you or anything else. Tell him to focus on his new lady love and then YOU work on moving on.
He sounds like a controlling creepy guy who needs to be out of your life ASAP.
The LONGER you hold on to him, and keep him around... the longer you PREVENT yourself from meeting an ACTUALLY decent guy who is GOOD to you and GOOD for you.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (3 February 2018):
Walk away, whether he gets married or not. This guy is just bad news and will have a negative effect on your life as long as he is in it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2018): He broke-up with you over the phone for having a friend. You oddly become friends after he dumped you. He doesn't tell you he's engaged; while coming over for hugs and to do your landscaping.
Your post doesn't really make any sense. He's very weird, and gets angry at you when you don't do what he wants you to do. Keeping his presence around you was to keep tabs on you; and keep you away from other men, until he found a replacement for you.
You never should have had anything to do with the guy once he dumped you. I assume you stayed friends for the sake of free-landscaping? You should have ended all contact once you discovered he had another woman in his life.
He's a clever stalker. He gets to stalk you with your permission.
This is all totally strange, to say the least.
You should block him from your phone, ask him to stay off your property, and get on with your life.
Unless it comes at the end of a question; there is really no other grammatical reason to place a question-mark after "I."
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reader, N91  +, writes (2 February 2018):
 Why would you?
What will you gain from this besides feeling crappy that he's marrying someone else? He was the one that said you both need to move forwards so why isn't he letting you? I don't think he has good intentions here, I think he doesn't want you to forget about him and as long as you let him linger around you won't do.
YOU are the one that is going to suffer out of this not him, he has a future wife, which I must add I feel extremely sorry for considering he's telling other women he loves them.
Leave this guy in the past. Move on with your life, why keep him around? He is messing with your head and stopping you from healing.
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