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Article - (12 November 2007) 2 Comments - (Newest, 14 November 2007)
A female Trinidad and Tobago age 18-21, anonymous writes:

I know this is a really silly story but its stupidly true.

AT age of 14 i lost my virginity, i met my bf when i was 14 he was 17 I didn't love him but for sex sake i did that was the only way i could have gotten to experience sex at least thats what i thought.

My friends were the ones talking about what they did and how they did it but i was always the one who had nothing to say so i made up stories just to feel equal. I know it has all to do with peer pressure i know that I should have maybe waited but i don`t really regret it that much cause i learned from it, most of my mistakes i `ve learned from. I promised myself that the first guy i was in a relationship with i`d have sex just to experience this thing everyone was amazed about.

We planned what we were going to do and stuff, so that day i broke school and we both went to his step father`s apartment, i was so scared but dumb.

Before when we were planning it he asked me if i was a virgin i said no i not', lol!! that was my biggest mistake and most absurd answer someone whose a virgin can give but in my time you could just tell an older guy you were a virgin and not feel bad, they`ll jest laugh like really laugh and you`ll feel really bad afterwards, so thats why i said i wasnt a virgin.

On arriving there we got to the room, note that:i never, ever had sex before in my life and didn't have a clue what to do OR WHAT WAS going to be done so i knew NOTHING!!!

As i laid down for it to happen my mind was blank, at lease thats what i could remember but i remembered looking down at his penis and thinking, "that can`t fit in there, where is he going with all that, can that fit in me?' so my mind was skipping. Now thinking i was not virgin push in like you would sex any girl who had have sex already, i could still feel the pain and the feeling like i was going to die, i actually thought i was going to die honestly and i could say that was the worst feeling anyone could ever, ever get.

He tried all how to see if it could go in but not all of it went, he did break and stuff but i ended up feeling stupidly sick.

Obviously he noticed i was a virgin but i never got a chance to tell him why i actually lied cause after some weeks he left for America without saying goodbye, he said he don`t want to make it worse than it already is. My mom found out that i had liked him and called his grand mum so his mom flew him to come stay with her in America, thats when i realized that i had done a terrible thing. The next day i didn't even feel to tell my friends cause it was sacred for me wondering how they could boost to everyone something so private in there life.

From that day i watched things more differently but regretted ever having sex like that, sex is supposeD to be a wonderful thing, special and with someone you love with all your heart. Some time after he called but i never got to speak to him i wasn`t home at that time but him leaving like that made me realize i would have done the same not to make things worsE than it already was.

I`m now 19years of age and don`t study him anymore, i`ve moved on a long time ago now, so thats my past. You won`t believe how i had to dig up my mind for that story but it was worth telling.

SOME OF US DO SILLY THING WHEN WE ARE YOUNG BUT ITS GOOD TO WAIT ITS WORTH IT, BELIEVE ME

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A male reader, hmm... Norway +, writes (14 November 2007):

This can have much bigger consequences then you can even imagine! I think both of you girls went great! You understood things quite fast.

We human beings learn from our experiences, and if our experiences tell us this is standard sex then we tend to believe everybody is like that. Consequence is then series of one night stands and inability to establish relationship.

Then when finally relationship is established, it takes much longer time to ketchup and learn bearing relationship then those girls who had more emotional intelligence to really fall in love first time. Not to mention that they are much more attractive mates for every quality guy who has self respect and loves and respects women.

This seems to be a standard story with both men and women like a disease of 21st century.

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A female reader, BlueEyedAngel United States + , writes (12 November 2007):

BlueEyedAngel agony auntThe same thing basicly happened to me. I was stupid and lost my virginity at the age of 15. For all you people out there who want to have sex before you get married or with someone that you dont love,DONT DO IT. When you have sex for the first time let it be with someone you love honestly. sex is a very special thing and is worth waiting for the right person to come along. The guy I lost my virginity to I thought I loved him but it was just a childish thing I was going through. I got married at the age of 18 and was married for 13 yrs and divorced him and now I am with the love of my life and sex is SO MUCH BETTER.. From personal experience Wait. I hope my story helps someone who is wanting to have sex for the heck of it. Good luck to all.

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