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writes: I'm really conused about my situation. My boyfriend and I have agreed earlier today that he should call me and then I will call him back right after he rings since I am away from him for two weeks due to taking some courses. Of course, he did not call. So, I called him and asked him why and he said he forgot. Though, I want to believe him but something tells me that there is more. He sounded frustrated and slurred over the phone as if he was drunk, and at times, he did not know what he was talking to me about and then became angry at me threatening to hang up on me. I am unable to understand it why he said he forgot and then he was the one who got angry at me. I dont know what to believe. He broke the trust between us in the past and we have worked on. But tonight, he sounded the same all over again. Im confused. Some guidance would be appreciated.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (10 May 2007):
 Why did he get angry? Perhaps because you gave him a hard time over the phone for not calling him? That would annoy plenty of people. Perhaps he doesn't see this as such a big deal as you do?
You don't mention how he broke your trust in the past. How he should be behaving now does depend a bit on whether he has a lot to make up for. But in general, it sounds like you don't trust him and are showing that by insisting he acts in a certain way. No one likes to not feel trusted or to be told how to act. You need to be careful or you will drive him away.
Meanwhile he needs to earn your trust naturally in his own way. You putting conditions on him isn't going to do it, it has to come from him or it won't work. The more you push the worse it will get. I suggest backing off from this and seeing how he acts when he's given his 'freedom' back.
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reader, loretta  +, writes (10 May 2007):
 wow, chill girl! the poor guy probebly just got pissed wiv his mates like lads do, giv the man a brake it will only drive u apart x
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