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do straight men jerk off with other straight men?

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Question - (3 September 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 4 September 2012)
A male United States age 22-25, *oolesguy89 writes:

hi friends

Im not american but i live in america though so my english is not that great anyway hope you guys understand what im trying to say.

my question are do straight men jerk off with other straight men? is it gay to compare sizes with other male?

am I wrong for touching my friend penis while i was measuring it? is he gay for letting me touch his penis(he was not hard by the way)? do normal guys act like that? is it gay to watch porn with another dude? i dont know if my questions are stupid but i just need to clear some things up anyway thanks to whoever reading this( hope yall can come up with the right answer thanks again (no insult btw)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2012):

A circle jerk isn't normal when it comes to men. I don't know any guys who have ever paritcipated in one and I myself have never felt a desire to do so either.

I guess there are a lot of guys who do this sort of thing as competition but if you asked me, I'm not exactly sure why they would want to. One of my friends once asked me to have a threesome with him and a girl he knows. I turned it down not because I was afraid of being looked on as gay but because it just wasn't something I felt comfortable with. So like I mentioned, I'm not exactly sure why guys would participate in a circle jerk but I guess that's beyond me.

Touching is something that I would draw the line though. No staight man would sensibly touch another man's junk. Not to measure or anything else. I would like to ask why is it he couldn't measure it himself?

I have been interested in peeking over the stall at one of my friends though. I wanted to confirm if I was bigger or not. This is purely for competition intentions. The jerk circle though is something that I think most men would pass on.

Infact, I'll put it in a different light for you. Most porn sites would have a circle jerk listed in the 'gay' category. Mostly because there's no women involved. And usually because it leads up to the men doing things to eachother, like touching and beyond. I guess by many it is looked at as a homosexual act.

You aren't gay but I do think there are a large amount of people out there who wouldn't understand what you did and why you did it. And please for future situations. NEVER touch another man's junk.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2012):

In my boyfriend's all male uni flat (8 guys) they all got very close with the male bonding thing and would jerk off in front of each other as dares or as practical jokes on one another. They also used to watch porn together and then leave to their separate rooms to finish themselves off.

They also used to walk around naked and take photos with each other while naked. It seemed weird to me, but it was almost as if they had become toddlers again and playing with their dicks was a new found toy.

Basically, when you mix stupid boys and put them in a small space for a long amount of time they do become obsessed with their dicks and comparing them and showing them off!

Hope this little peak into a male flat made you feel better.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2012):

"my question are do straight men jerk off with other straight men?"

I'll just say a lot of straight men would like to jerk off with other straight men but are too chicken for fear of being stigmatized as "gay," and most who actually do jerk off together would never admit it for same reason.

"is it gay to compare sizes with other male?"

I'll just say a lot of straight men discreetly check out other straight men when able to do so (urinals, locker rooms but are too chicken to openly do so for fear of being stigmatized as "gay," and most who actually do

actively compare together would never admit it for same reason.

I'll limit my comments to look-but-don't-touch scenarios, but it's perfectly normal to be curious about what other guys carry and to check them out whenever opportunity presents itself. Penises are like snowflakes, every one is different and given curtain of anonymity I'll say as a guy every one is fascinating and unique so I always look.

Add in the factor that there are two types of guys (intact foreskin vs. circumcised) and that creates another point of comparison. I also always feel a little added kinship with a guy when I know first-hand that he has the "same kind" as me when I've seen whether he's cut or intact.

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A male reader, grymsoul United States +, writes (4 September 2012):

grymsoul agony auntAlso, young STRAIGHT men DO NOT pleasure eachother. I'm not sure where this is normal but in america this is considered homosexual behavior. A circle jerk, you can get away with with just a few raised eyebrows but a man pleasuring another man sexualy, you will be labeled gay, whether you are young or old.

Two straight girls can kiss and give eachother lapdances and still pass as being normal. Two men doing the same thing will land them the permanent title of 'gay'. I'm not being cruel in the least, I'm only preparing you to what the majority of America percieve as homosexual behavior. Even masturbating together will have a negative result on other men. I garuantee you that if you ask any random straight guy if he has ever masturbated with another man, he will deny it. Why do you think this is? Even if he has he won't admit to it. This is what the world percieves as borderline gay. Now ask the same guy if he has ever pleasured another man and you'll be lucky if you walk away without a black eye. This is not normal behavior for straight men and most will take it as an insult.

Again, I only seek to help you get familiarized with our POV on homosexuality.

Also I would like to say that I have nothing against homosexual. I only wanted to state the differences.

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A male reader, grymsoul United States +, writes (4 September 2012):

grymsoul agony auntI'll be honest with you because typically on the internet in a very controlled forum, you will get the absolute nicey nicey responce but just so you don't get any misconceptions, DO NOT just bring this up in a normal conversation. Unfortunately, there are MANY guys who would label you gay for touching another man's penis. You WILL be made fun of and you will have a label of being attracted to men.

I say this because I have dozens of male friends and they give me heat just for accidently watching shemale porn. Imagine if I ever came to them about me touching another man's penis to measure it. They will have a field day with that one. They will name stuff like how my face had to be close to it to see the measurements and why he couldn't measure it himself. No, I don't think you're gay, but I do think it's crossing boundaries when it comes to touching another man's penis. I know the other posters will like to soothe your mind but I'm preparing you for a REAL situation with other men. They WILL think you are odd and will give you an insulting nickname.

Most men do not expirement this way when they are young. Ask a random guy if he has. Chances are that he will say never. If he has but decides to lie about it then I'm afraid that also speaks for how strongly our society looks down on stuff like this. You can get away with a circle jerk but physical contact with another man's private parts, it will have a negative effect on people who doesn't understand.

Trust me on this one. This is something you wouldn't want to just bring up in a conversation. Like I said, the other poster mean well but I'm afraid that you will think it's normal and try to casually talk about it to the wrong crowd. They WILL make fun of you for it. I'm only here to help you so that you know who to trust with this info.

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A male reader, no nonsense Aidan United Kingdom +, writes (3 September 2012):

This does not make you gay. People who are gay might do these things, but so might people who aren’t. Two things to remember Firstly, a lot of young men experiment a bit with other male friends, for example masturbating together, or pleasuring each other. They do it, then go on with their lives and they’re as heterosexual as anyone else. What makes you gay is your sexual attraction: a gay man is some-one who is always, or almost always, sexually attracted to other men. A man who is attracted to women but did something once with a male friend isn’t gay. Secondly, a lot of the things you describe are not done because the men are attracted to each other, they’re done as a form of competition. If two men measure each other’s penis, it’s to compare size and see who’s is the biggest, they don’t do it because they’re really turned on by seeing another man’s penis. When men watch porn together, they’re both interested in the women they’re looking at, not each other.

So, in short, none of the things you mention mean that a man is gay. Men who do these kinds of things together can be straight and they’re either experimenting (usually when young), or they’re doing it as a competitive exercise when it comes to things like measuring each other’s penis.

I wish you all the very best.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2012):

its not gay its normal to excperement and its bette rto compare with a real himan that a porn star it natural

hope i helpped

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