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Sore breasts, is it because they are growing or a side effect to the birth control pills?

Q.   Okay, i'm 15 and i'm on Birth Control. My breast have been kinda painful to where i can't sleep on my stomach anymore and i wanna know is it because they're growing or becauuse im on the pill? Thanx for reading,any advice would help....

A.   28 June 2008: It could be both - the hormones in contraceptive pills often make your breasts grow, which can make them feel tender. If you're in a lot of pain though, you should see your doctor. It's also important to make sure your bras fit properly, especially ... (read in full...)

I finally got free.

Q.   I finally broke up with my emotionally abusive ex. But why didn't I break up with him at the times where it was really ugly between us-like when he was being unreasonable and getting mad at me because I wouldn't smoke or get drunk (which I don't do ...

A.   13 February 2008: When you are a victim of any kind of abuse, it can make you feel very vulnerable, isolated and helpless (as I'm sure you know.) You probably didn't feel strong enough to fight back. Sometimes when you are being totally dominated by another person, ... (read in full...)

She did things with her ex, that I haven't experienced before. How can I handle this situation?

Q.   hi, i need help. about one or two months into my relationship with my girlfriend, she hinted at an event in her past that sounded like she was sexually assaulted. seeing as i care a lot about her, i have always been very cautious when it came to ...

A.   13 February 2008: You say that you are angry at her for letting you believe that she had been assaulted, when she hadn't? The thing about anal sex, is that you can be "talked into it," even several times, but really regret it afterwards. The inate "dirtiness" of the ... (read in full...)

Caught my son masturbating, should I buy him some condoms, sextoys and an informative book?

Q.   just rececetly i caught my 13 year old son masturbating naked on top of his bed i saw his penis and pubes, this hasnt effected our relationship but i was wondering if i should buy him some condoms and other stuff like a masturbation and sex book or ...

A.   11 February 2008: Buy him sex toys and lube?!? Are you serious?!? No way, he'd just be really embarrassed! What he is doing is perfectly normal, and it doesn't mean he's going to start having sex with girls, so you don't have to worry about that either.... (read in full...)

How much weight do you generally have to lose to lose one bra cup size?

Q.   How much weight do you generally have to lose to lose one bra cup size? And when you go down a pants size, like from size 10 to size 8 (U.S.), is that losing one pants size or two? Because there is no nine....

A.   11 February 2008: It depends on a lot of factors. People lose and put on weight on different parts of their bodies, so some people will drop a cup size whenever they lose a few pounds, wheras others will slim down over their entire body but still have the same boobs. ... (read in full...)

Is there something wrong with me? I cant stop cheating

Q.   Hi I am in a long term relationship (been with the same guy since I was 16 with no break ups or anything). My problem is that in that time period I have cheated on him more than 10 times. He has no idea about it. There were a bunch of one night st...

A.   23 January 2008: It could be that you have a sex addiction, or maybe you feel trapped in your relationship, and you're trying to escape from it.... (read in full...)

What tolerance or threshold limit one should have on his/her past?

Q.   I've recently got together with a girl who had quite a past. She has been very truthful and open about them. She's had 5 ex-boyfriends before we got together. I have no problem with that for sure as I have numerous past relationships myself. However ...

A.   15 January 2008: Everyone has a different view of what is acceptable. Personally, I would be a LOT more worried if my new partner had cheated in the past, than had had an abortion. Have you asked her how she feels about these issues? Like others have said, thes... (read in full...)

Could I still be pregant even though the tests come back negative??

Q.   I think that i'm pregnant. I have all the symptoms my period is almost 3 and half months late a had a few drops of blood one day but not enough to be a period. In the morning i am so nauseous i cant even look at food i used to love because it makes...

A.   13 January 2008: It is unlikely that you are pregnant, but if you have not been having your periods, you should see your doctor about the problem anyway. It could be that you are suffering from a phantom pregnany, where you believe yourself to be pregnant to the ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to restart things with my ex??

Q.   Ok so i was dating my boyfriend for a short while, yet i was very attached to him. Then i found him with another girl in his bed. 3 months has past and i still have tons of feelings for him. He says he does to and he regrets it so much and hes feel...

A.   25 December 2007: There is nothing wrong with getting back together with an ex who has cheated on you, but how well do you know this guy? You say you were together for a short while, it could be that you get on really well and you feel very close to him, but there ... (read in full...)

Can a penis be too big to fit in?

Q.   is there a possibility that the penis doesnt fit in a girl's vagina because its too big??...

A.   11 December 2007: Yes, it is possible for the size of a man's penis to make penitration difficult, but usually all it needs is some care. If a woman is tense or not ready for sex, then her vagina will not relax, so it can be difficult and painful. Foreplay is ... (read in full...)

Will wearing a bra 24/7 stunt my growth?

Q.   i ALWAYS wear a bra. Even in bed. Underwired and padded. Will this stop my growth? Thanks...

A.   11 December 2007: Why do you wear a bra to bed? No, it will not stunt your growth, but the underwires might cause bruising. You only need to wear a bra to bed if your breasts are very swollen and tender, and they need the support. In that case, you should only wear a ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid he might be abusive, but I'm not really sure it is not only in my mind, what shall I do?

Q.   hi my name is lucie and i have a boy friend we havn't been goin out less then a month and he is controling adleast that wat i think. Am not really sure if am in abusive relationship. Will sometime i would think it is abuse and at other time i ...

A.   11 December 2007: Abuse is not necessarily physical. Partners can be controlling or manipulative in other ways. Whether or not he is abusive, it is clear that you are not happy with the situation, and you need to sit down and talk to him about how he makes you feel. ... (read in full...)

My wife says I'm oversexed and I say she is undersexed, what would you say?

Q.   Hi I need sex at least once a day. My wife of 12 years is quite happy if we have sex once a month. When we do its great. She suffers from a low sex drive. It seems like its heriditry. Could her being on the pill cause this ? She says all h...

A.   11 December 2007: Yes, it can be due to the pill, I had the same problem myself. I'm not sure what advice to give, but whatever you do, please try not to take your frustration out on her. Remember it's not her fault that she doesn't feel like having sex, and it ... (read in full...)

What is 'Lube'?

Q.   this may sound really stupid but what is this lube or lubricant that everyone is talking about using? is there any other methods of using a substitute or anything? i'm completely new to this whole thing. thanks, plz help!...

A.   11 December 2007: I presume you are using condoms, (if not, then you should) so make sure that whatever you buy is water based. It will usually say on the packaging that it is suitable for use with condoms. Oily lubricants like baby oil, butter, vaseline etc will ... (read in full...)

Should I have let my older boyfriend fondle me? It made me unconfortable, but was I just being childish?

Q.   I'm a female. I have a boyfriend called Ricky (not real name)he is 24 and i am 16 (i know big age gap but he and i get along really good). We ain't made out yet but he wants to. I went to rick's house when his parents were out somewhere and we did...

A.   11 December 2007: You were totally right to listen to your gut instincts - don't let him have his way unless you're sure it's what you want as well, and certainly don't feel you owe him anything, just because he is frustrated. There is nothing naive or childish about ... (read in full...)

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