How do I resolve joint finance problem
Q. I've been dating my guy for about 3 months. He works a decent job maybe makes 60K a year but has been paying off a few things as of late. Loans etc. Still I have too and he makes way more then me. He had a lame living situation when we met and ...
A. 3 July 2017: You're not responsible for what he pays in transportation! By his 30's, if he doesn't know how to make budgetary decisions, then you've got a host of problems when it comes to him.
I'm glad you confirmed the dependency issues as well. Those do... (read in full...)
He groped me without permission during our first kiss!
Q. I'm 15 and I went hiking yesterday with my friend (he lives in another state, but he used to live in the state that I live in so we haven't seen each other in a while so we've been flirting over FaceTime and such) and I was tired so I needed to sit ...
A. 2 July 2017: Forgot to say...one more thing:
Just because he traveled to see you doesn't entitle him to get sex from you or anything! Do NOT let him pressure you for sex! Do not think that you HAVE to let him stick his tongue down your throat, or have his... (read in full...)
He groped me without permission during our first kiss!
Q. I'm 15 and I went hiking yesterday with my friend (he lives in another state, but he used to live in the state that I live in so we haven't seen each other in a while so we've been flirting over FaceTime and such) and I was tired so I needed to sit ...
A. 2 July 2017: You should not let him kiss or touch you unless he respects your wishes. You haven't met him until now, and he's already groping and fondling breasts?? Not cool!
How did you meet him?? How old IS he?? Is he over 18?? He lives in another ... (read in full...)
Does looking at those websites means cheating
Q. Hello everyone, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and we have been living together for a year. We are both 26 yesterday, I borrowed his phone ( with permission) and saw he was on Craigslist looking at w4m in our city. After that I loo...
A. 2 July 2017: I'm going to be straight up with you here:
He **IS** cheating on you! Sending penis pictures to other girls on Facebook is creepy as hell and disgusting even if he were single. WHY didn't you drop his ass to the curb IMMEDIATELY after finding ... (read in full...)
How do I resolve joint finance problem
Q. I've been dating my guy for about 3 months. He works a decent job maybe makes 60K a year but has been paying off a few things as of late. Loans etc. Still I have too and he makes way more then me. He had a lame living situation when we met and ...
A. 2 July 2017: I agree with Youcannotbeserious on this one. He's a user, AND he does things with strings attached, which is a bad way to start a relationship.
You'd been together for only a month and a half and he's already semi-living with you, consumin... (read in full...)
Is sex so important to my husband?
Q. Hi aunts. I have been married to my husband for 3 years. Our sex life is not good at all. I was suffering from severe dyspareunia for which I didn't seek treatment for a long time as the thought of a doctor doing a over examination used to scare ...
A. 1 July 2017: If you're going weeks and weeks without having sex, and you were avoiding having it, and your hymen was still in tact, that means that in the 3 years you've been married, you two have barely been having sex. That *is* a human need...sexual ... (read in full...)
Would you feel left out if your comments on social media were not commented on?
Q. Would you feel left out if work colleagues commented on on everyones social media posts but yours? Why/why not? I know it's stupid butsocial media is part of life now. Feel unwanted....
A. 1 July 2017: Are you commenting on other people's social media? When you see things on your timeline, are you an active conversation participant? When you ARE participating, are you "liking" posts, or making good observations, and all that??
You also mig... (read in full...)
What is the point in just sending a message saying "good morning"?
Q. I have a male friend who I've been having frequent contact with lately, almost daily at all hours. Sometimes mundane conversation, other times he's talking to me about past relationships, perils of dating online etc). I'm a bit confused though ...
A. 1 July 2017: It's to establish contact with you! Like Denizen said, he's thinking about you. He may not have the time beyond a simple digital "wave hello", but here's an idea.
Next time he simply says "Good Morning" to you, you can be playful and ask "Wha... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend so stubborn about her size and weight?
Q. Why is my girlfriend so stubborn about her size and weight? When we met she was in great shape, she used to wear nice dresses and clothes. However last few years because of her rubbish diet and lack of excersise its showing. I ignored it for 2 ...
A. 30 June 2017: I'll start with the last sentence in your post:
"At the same time she doesn't let me work out too much lol."
How does she not let you work out?? Does she chain you to the bed? Does she sit on you?? You can WORK OUT anywhere, anytime! All yo... (read in full...)
He always manages to bring up sex in a conversation. Is he just horny? Or does he want something from me?
Q. There is this guy I know. We are friends, but fairly new friends for the past 3 or so months. He is a really nice guy, very easy to talk to. Whenever we talk, he always tells me personal things about himself. I'm talking really personal things that ...
A. 30 June 2017: I agree with the other aunts. He's both horny AND he's wanting sex with you. If he is *always* bringing up sex into every conversation you have with him (i.e. You: "I heard on the news about the minimum wage being raised next week" Him: "Yep, it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always admires other women, its been going on for years. Am I over the top?
Q. Sorry this is kind of long. When I go out with my bf, he seems to scan the restaurant, grocery store, gym, wherever, for attractive women. He has a couple of signature looks he gives when he sees an attractive woman. Sometimes it's the excited...
A. 30 June 2017: I always compare the difference between noticing beautiful women (and men, just to keep it honest!) to the difference between a discreet burp or looking to find an opportune moment to pass gas, like in a bathroom) and a 4-alarm wide-open mouthed ... (read in full...)
How do I react to my boyfriends passive aggressive comments about fitness?
Q. I weigh 42kg. I used to be a previous model however always been naturally petite. My boyfriend has naturally a slow metabolism and he can gain weight quickly. While he does talk quite a bit about him getting fit as he's definitely on the ...
A. 29 June 2017: He's doing it out of insecurity. Unfortunately, it's a two-edged sword for him. He knows full well how good and fit you look, and it magnifies how UNFIT he is compared to any other guy he *knows* you can get. You being a model in the past means ... (read in full...)
I have a gf but still think about my ex
Q. I feel so bad for thinking about my ex and I know people are going to bag me out for it. If it was someone coming to me, in which I am often the person, it is what I would be telling them. I tried to give myself time to heal after we broke up, 2 y...
A. 29 June 2017: It's because she was your first love. You could live a lifetime and never forget her. I'm married now, and I love my husband, but he was not my first love. If I ever sat and had coffee with my first love, I know for a fact that the memory of ... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend is lying about masturbation or what are your thoughts?
Q. I'm a model signed to an agency in NY. My boyfriend and I have been together for quite a while now. Unfortunately when we first met, I had some insecurities which I regret mainly from the industry that is so heavily focused on appearance. When my ...
A. 29 June 2017: While I *usually* say that you shouldn't believe him, the fact that you're NOW having amazing sex and he's rock hard DOES in fact show that he's curbed his addiction. That doesn't mean there haven't been slip-ups, or that he won't relapse, but ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to dress up like celebrities or people he knows?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been working to spice things up in the bedroom. He seems to really like the idea of role play. I tried it once with him, dressing up like a school girl. We talked about it more since then but now he's hinted around a couple ...
A. 29 June 2017: Celebrities? Sure! Role play is fine, nothing wrong with that, but I'm with you in the fact that dressing up as people you know in your actual social circle (like your sister, or your mom, or your boss) is cringe-worthy.
Like all other proposed... (read in full...)
He wants to record us having oral sex and then send it to a friend?
Q. Been seeing a guy right, everything was great.. Until he asked me a few days ago to let him record himself giving me "oral" in the not so usual place..to send to his guy friend! Is this relationship between them normal? Do guys do this with their ...
A. 29 June 2017: OMG that *IS* sell-to-a-porn-site creepy here. How long have you been with him??? He's in his 40's, so he's no stupid kid taking a stupid bet at a frat party. This is a creepy daddy-daughter shit here, and pardon my language, but this is BULLSHIT ... (read in full...)
He wants to record us having oral sex and then send it to a friend?
Q. Been seeing a guy right, everything was great.. Until he asked me a few days ago to let him record himself giving me "oral" in the not so usual place..to send to his guy friend! Is this relationship between them normal? Do guys do this with their ...
A. 28 June 2017: SERIOUSLY!?! I would be 1,000 levels of pissed off if that request ever hit my ears. Sounds more like he wants to make money uploading you to a porn site. DO NOT DO IT. In fact, don't let him touch you again. How do you know that he's not ... (read in full...)
Graduation dilemma - what should I do ?
Q. Hi there ! I have a " graduation " Dilemma . I had a messy divorce and lost my home and most of my possessions to my ex husband . My daughter has a University graduation in two weeks and gave her two allocated tickers for her graduation to her ...
A. 27 June 2017: OUCH! So your daughter is graduating from college and was given two tickets to have who she chose to be there, and she bypassed you and your ex-husband and instead gave them to her grandparents??
That's gotta hurt! Why did she do that?? Was you... (read in full...)
Boyfriend did nothing for me on my 21st birthday and says I'm stupid if I expect things to be romantic
Q. so i dont want to sound like a nag or like im being selfish but here it is. 25th june was my 21st birthday i had a meal and a night out planned. on the 24th my boyfriend didnt want to spend it with me but i told him if he doesnt try its over bec...
A. 27 June 2017: So, if he believes that his asking you to be his girlfriend is enough, and that you're stupid if you want things to be romantic, then would he then also agree that you being his boyfriend is enough, and if he expects anything sexual from you, then ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend had me arrested for harassment charges! Has anyone else experienced this?
Q. I need some advice please. I was with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and the relationship was great, we had so much in common and were lovers but also best friends. I have abandonment issues and eventually started to self destruct until, after weeks of...
A. 27 June 2017: So, you feel betrayed by him, you describe your own process as "Self-destructing", and you've had two separate harassment charges filed against you, not to mention you admitted (and I'm not twisting your words) that you assaulted him for "weeks" ... (read in full...)
Crushing hard on a new boyfriend, but I found out he is into live webcam sex
Q. Hello, so I've went on a few dates with this guy, and we have really been hitting it off. Like, I can see marriage and kids so far, and we are so so similar in person. I have a huuuuge crush on him and he seems to feel the same about me. However, I ...
A. 26 June 2017: This one's going to be a bit more involved of an answer for you than even I thought when I first read it, but you need to know the full measure of who this guy is, and make a decision NOT based on hormones and crushing and wishful thinking, but the ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend had me arrested for harassment charges! Has anyone else experienced this?
Q. I need some advice please. I was with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and the relationship was great, we had so much in common and were lovers but also best friends. I have abandonment issues and eventually started to self destruct until, after weeks of...
A. 26 June 2017: Unfortunately, all I had to do was read your post, and I can completely understand why they'd do that to you. I'm not trying to be mean, but I can only tell you the truth of what I saw in your post. I have several thoughts based on your quotes, ... (read in full...)
My partner will not admit that she uses a vibrator and its making me feel inadquate
Q. I've recently discovered that my partner if 6 years is secretly using a vibrator when she thinks I'm asleep. This has been ongoing now for 5 months and every time I ask her she becomes very angry and denial sets in. We have a very open relationship ...
A. 26 June 2017: Are you telling me that the only orgasms you've had for 6 years have been with her?? You haven't rubbed one off on your own?? Ever?
Just because she does this doesn't mean your sex life isn't good or that you're inadequate, no more than whe... (read in full...)
He cheated, we broke up. He's never apologized and its weird being in the same group of friends
Q. The guy I was seeing exclusively for the past few months recently cheated on me when he was drunk and I found out about it from my friend. At the time I was obviously very angry and upset when I spoke to him and so even though he apologised it ...
A. 26 June 2017: This isn't about him. It's about you and your hurt feelings. What he did wasn't between him, you, and your circle of friends. It's between him and you only. "For the sake of the group" has no bearing on your past relationship.
He apologiz... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to wait but I'm frustrated
Q. My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex until she is married. She is a virgin. I am frustrated telling her how important sex is in relationship and how deeply emotionally we can be connected. She even used to give her ex bf liberty to have sex with...
A. 24 June 2017: I married someone who waited to be married. That's your "resolution". If someone has made the choice to wait until they married, then that is something you must respect. If that sexual value is incompatible with your values, then she's not for ... (read in full...)
The man I'm dating lied he said he was 30, he's almost 44
Q. Aunts and uncles! Please help.. So I've been seeing a guy for 5 months, I'm 25 and he's 30.. Things are a bit rocky here and there, but today iced the cake. I seen a comment on Facebook and decided to Snoop... I see him address his 38 year old brot...
A. 22 June 2017: That is a MASSIVE deal! This guy lied his way into your life and into your bed. What else is he lying about? Is he married? Is he a sex offender? How can you know, now that it's proven that he's willing to carry on such a profound lie for a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still hasn't told everyone that he is gay or about me. How should I proceed?
Q. Hi there, I'm an out gay man and have known my boyfriend for 8 months and been with him 6 - he was in the closet when we got together and is still partly so. He recently came out to his parents and has said during every conversation on the topic ...
A. 22 June 2017: Ahh, he's a business owner. I think that's the source of his hesitation and slow-movement. You didn't mention what his business was, and being that I don't live in the UK, I don't know what society's temperature on same-sex couples are. I do know ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still hasn't told everyone that he is gay or about me. How should I proceed?
Q. Hi there, I'm an out gay man and have known my boyfriend for 8 months and been with him 6 - he was in the closet when we got together and is still partly so. He recently came out to his parents and has said during every conversation on the topic ...
A. 22 June 2017: Ahh, he's a business owner. I think that's the source of his hesitation and slow-movement. You didn't mention what his business was, and being that I don't live in the UK, I don't know what society's temperature on same-sex couples are. I do know ... (read in full...)
We don't want kids or pregnancy but husband is against abortion. Help!
Q. My husband and I never wanted children. I dislike children and the thought of being pregnant. He is fine with them but prefers not to have any of his own. We have always used condoms. I have never used any other kind of birth control. I do no...
A. 22 June 2017: Why is it that you are the one to have the surgery?? A vasectomy for him is much cheaper and much more non-invasive than tubal ligation (your surgery).
Stand your ground with the pills. Those things mess with sex drive and have some side eff... (read in full...)
I'm dating a nice lady but all I can think about is my ex who ghosted me
Q. I am seeing someone new who treats me wonderful, the way I've always wanted to be treated, but all I think about is my ex, who I treated great, she ghost me, what I think about is why couldn't my ex treated me this way, it could of been so ...
A. 22 June 2017: I don't hear often about someone being ghosted by someone referred to as an "ex", which causes me to believe that there was a permanent relationship happening versus just a few dates or a single sexual encounter and then a disappearing act.
Can y... (read in full...)
I think my wife had experience before we married but I'm afraid to ask her
Q. I was a virgin until I got married. I did not know to use condoms. My wife taught me to use condoms correctly and after using dispose them also. Some where in my mind I am having a doubt whether she had experience before marrying me. I don't have ...
A. 21 June 2017: I learned from reading the instructions on the box!
They're pretty straightforward and simple.
I missed out on Condom 101 in school, as my parents believed that Sex Ed was orchestrated by Satan to corrupt the minds of a sex-crazed socie... (read in full...)
I think my wife had experience before we married but I'm afraid to ask her
Q. I was a virgin until I got married. I did not know to use condoms. My wife taught me to use condoms correctly and after using dispose them also. Some where in my mind I am having a doubt whether she had experience before marrying me. I don't have ...
A. 20 June 2017: That's basic sex education! They teach that in schools - how to use a condom effectively. They actually show videos demonstrating IN DETAIL the use of condoms, including how to properly dispose of them.
Think about it logically man! She's te... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wanted to use an old tube of lubricant during sex but I got upset because he's used it with previous partners. Am I being silly?
Q. Hi Everyone, So I have a bit of an awkward question, but genuinely don't know if I'm overreacting and too embarrassed too ask friends/family. So my boyfriend of 1 year has had a tube of lubricant in his drawer for a while, I noticed it a whil...
A. 17 June 2017: One thing I'd want to know is - is the bottle a silicone-based lube or is it a water-based lubricant?? That's actually important here, as a silicone-based is more often used for anal sex, while it's imperative to use a water-based lube for vaginal ... (read in full...)
I'm devastated because I tried my hardest but I couldn't make it to the Universities of my choice. How do I break the news to my parents?
Q. Hi everyone, I literally just got my results of my exams today and unfortunately i did not make the requirements of the universities i have chosen. I fell a little short of the requirements so its not too bad. The problem is, both unis actual...
A. 14 June 2017: First of all, you should hold your head up high! You put all of your effort into a goal, and I know it's devastating that you didn't reach it, but you can say that you "left it all on the playing field", that you gave your very best.
As a parent... (read in full...)
Do I stand my ground or make up with my mother?
Q. Hi folks. I'm in a bit of a predicament at the moment. I have my child's christening coming up this week and haven't invited my mother. Now I know that sounds awful but here's why (sorry for the essay) Basically all our lives my mum...
A. 14 June 2017: To put it bluntly - she is mentally ill, and she is a danger to herself and others, primarily the beautiful little child who is being christened.
This issue is so much more than an apology for this latest episode that she put you and the family i... (read in full...)
Why would a man decide, at the last moment, to not use a condom in this way?
Q. my partner and i was about to have sex and he went to get a condom. When he got it he was playing with the packaging for a few seconds and put the condom to the side. why? After having sex he started to play with that condom again before putti...
A. 13 June 2017: The guy clearly had zero interest in using the condom, but wanted it at the ready in case you insisted. It's one of those cases of "She didn't say no, so I didn't use it".
As for you occasionally having unprotected sex, if you're not on birth co... (read in full...)
What can I do? How should I handle this? Her sexual past and her ex who was her FWB are issues that are making me feel insecure.
Q. Ok so me and my gf have been going out for about 8 months. And I've been struggling with her sexual past a lot recently. She's slept with about 10 people before me, they were all ons apart from one friends with benefits she had just before we start...
A. 12 June 2017: Having 9-10 ONS's *is* different than sex in a committed relationship. However, once the OP made his decision to continue to date and subsequently sleep with his girlfriend after knowing this about her means that he's made his decision about ... (read in full...)
What can I do? How should I handle this? Her sexual past and her ex who was her FWB are issues that are making me feel insecure.
Q. Ok so me and my gf have been going out for about 8 months. And I've been struggling with her sexual past a lot recently. She's slept with about 10 people before me, they were all ons apart from one friends with benefits she had just before we start...
A. 12 June 2017: The anon "politically correct" post is still there!
It's the answer right below Honeypie's.
OP, stop referring to your girlfriend's sexual history and her sexuality as "dirty stuff". It's not dirty, and that's an antiquated way of looking a... (read in full...)
What can I do? How should I handle this? Her sexual past and her ex who was her FWB are issues that are making me feel insecure.
Q. Ok so me and my gf have been going out for about 8 months. And I've been struggling with her sexual past a lot recently. She's slept with about 10 people before me, they were all ons apart from one friends with benefits she had just before we start...
A. 10 June 2017: He's an idiot, and she's not with him - she's with you.
I'll tell you something else. Just because you were a virgin means nothing in terms of how good you are in the bedroom. I married a guy who was a virgin, and he's a fantastic lover.
... (read in full...)
Why can't my wife understand my need to cross-dress? Why is she so upset that I wore her clothes?
Q. My wife knows I am a crossdresser so why was she so angry at me when I came home the other night. I was completely dressed, with a full make over, my eyebrows plucked super thin with a high arch in them and my ears pierced. She said she knows t...
A. 10 June 2017: My esteemed fellow aunts have hit it right on the button here, but there's something else I need to point out to you, which is a far simpler reason why she's upset at you:
Making out with someone else while you're married is CHEATING.
What th... (read in full...)
I want to tell his wife that I was his mistress
Q. I am a 44 years old divorced woman. 15 years ago when I was 29, I dated this one guy who was an American soldier. I wasn’t very much attracted to him at first, so it took a lot of effort for him to get me into a relationship. We never said ‘I love ...
A. 30 May 2017: Here's the problem -- why would you call his wife?? You showed as much moral bankruptcy as your ex did the moment that you decided to knowingly carry on with the affair after learning that he was married. They weren't your marriage vows, but as a ... (read in full...)
Do I ask out the bus driver? I'm worried he thinks I'm a kid
Q. I like my city bus driver...and I want to ask him out, but I think he may think im a kid...im 30, but people tend to think im 16-17..i HATE it.i get hit on a lot but I am very skeptical of men...I watch the news and read the paper way too ...
A. 27 May 2017: If it were me, and I were single and had the rapport you described with this bus driver, I'd ask him straight up if he were single. If he said he was, I'd ask him out for coffee or to grab a drink, depending on his schedule.
The other question... (read in full...)
I know my friend's boyfriend is cheating on her but my boyfriend says I can't tell her
Q. Hi; I have a boyfriend who I love dearly and me and him are good friends with another couple who we go out with and see a lot. I am very good friends with the girl of the couple and he is very good friends with the boy of the couple although...
A. 25 May 2017: Wait a second - this guy threatened to break up with you if you protect YOUR friend from a cheater?? He has his priorities out of place, but I have considered a possible solution for you to let your friend know, yet not break your boyfriend's ... (read in full...)
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