My boyfriend isn't very considerate toward me
Q. *I want to apologise for the length of this post, but details are needed to explain the situation as best as possible* I have been dating my boyfriend for exactly two years and it has been a generally happy relationship. Despite the fact we got ...
A. 16 February 2022: You two have very different expectations of a relationship. He want someone who will look after you in certain situations, while your boyfriend is much more outgoing and expects his girlfriend to stand on her own two feet in social situations, ... (read in full...)
Cheating at work, narcissist, manipulator gas lighter.
Q. Met a guy at work, left my ex for him 5 years ago. guy at work had a reputation for being a womaniser. The whole time we were together never met his family, friends always hd separate christmases. End of 2018 he started another affair at work with ...
A. 15 February 2022: He's right; you ARE crazy. Despite everything that he has done to you, despite the way he has used and abused you, you still profess to love him and want someone - even a complete stranger on a public forum - to tell you there is some sort of hope ... (read in full...)
I gave my homeless boyfriend my car to sleep in but now hes got some girl staying in it too. Do I take my car back?
Q. Im having a hard time with my bf whom is homeless at the time.he was living w me at my mothers but he wasnt trying to better himself to better our relationship .which upset my mother i was not willing to put myself out in the streets nd i did wat i ...
A. 12 February 2022: Is the car worth much? Can you afford to just "let it go"? If so, I would be the bigger person here, cut all ties but let him keep the car. After all, it is the only place two homeless people have to sleep. I promise, in the long run, you will feel ... (read in full...)
I have a good guy but I think I want out of the relationship
Q. I don't know what's wrong with me, my partner is good in a lot of ways. However I'm starting to feel like I want out of the relationship. I was a single mother before I met him and had reached a good level of independence. I feel in the relation...
A. 12 February 2022: Sweetheart, he may be a "good man" but you two are not compatible because he cannot accept that you need your own space occasionally. He is suffocating and controlling. He may "do things" for you but that does not give him the right to control your ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex saying we did not have sex when I know we did
Q. I split up with my partner last year for a few months and despite messaging him he never responded. Fast forward I had a few drinks and actually don't remember leaving the pub I was in but I walked to his pub and all I can remember was standing in ...
A. 12 February 2022: I am totally puzzled. Why are you ASKING him IF you had sex if you say you know you did?
As to why he is denying it, my guess would be, because he regrets losing control and wishes he hadn't - for whatever reason. You obviously split up for a re... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend have a crush on my friend?
Q. Me n my gf was at family party at the weekend we was having fun drinking and dancing etc when i went to the bathroom and came back my gf and my friend had their arms around each other side cuddling in an intimate way his arm was over her shoulder ...
A. 6 February 2022: Well, you know what you saw, regardless of what BS they are both trying to feed you. They are both lying to your face.
I have one question for you: can you trust either of them again? In your shoes I would cut ties with both of them. Don't ma... (read in full...)
How do I work through my dating anxiety?
Q. I have been on several dates with a great guy. He is such a gentleman, thoughtful, kind, and I really feel like I can be myself around him and he truly likes me for me. I thought this is what I always wanted! The problem? I have a dating history o...
A. 6 February 2022: If this man is totally different (in a good way) to previous dates, it will be unfamiliar territory for you, hence your nervousness. Someone being nice to you, liking you, being kind to you is not what you are used to - but it IS what you DESERVE. ... (read in full...)
Which contraception is best and will least affect my body
Q. Hi just wondering which contraception is best and will least affect my body? I’m turning 16 next month and going to start having sex with my boyfriend when I am legal. He said he will use condoms every time but I just want to be extra safe and go on ...
A. 6 February 2022: As we don't know your medical history, nor are any of us qualified to give medical advice, this is not something with which we can help.
Speak to your doctor who will have your medical notes on file. Discuss what would be best for you.
Alth... (read in full...)
How do I make moves on this older woman?
Q. My long time friend is getting married and asked me to be the best man in his wedding. He will be marrying in a few months after he graduates from university. He and I have been friends for a long time and have been attending the same university and ...
A. 4 February 2022: So all you are after from her is a bit of sex? I'm sure she would be really flattered to know that.
Do her a favour and leave her be. She deserves someone who is looking to have a committed relationship with her, for whom sex will just be a par... (read in full...)
What would be a sexy way of expressing my desire for her?
Q. Not too long ago after graduating from college I went to spend a vacation at a resort. It was planned to be a trip that a few of us were going to do together. In the end none of the others made it. I went alone to the resort. I thought it still...
A. 2 February 2022: Given that you have already "been there", I think it will be a given that you will be having sex if you go to see her again.
If you want to prepare the way, why not talk dirty to her when you speak? Tell her you've been thinking about her, are... (read in full...)
Should I find out who made these accusations?
Q. after working for a number of years at a car business. I decided to resign and move onto other things. people were sad to see me go, where others were pleased I was going. someone from work has said, who I don’t know that I’m slagging off their ...
A. 1 February 2022: How is this affecting you? Is it actually affecting you in any way, except that, now you know about it, you feel a compulsion to clear your name? If you hadn't been made aware of it by someone, would it have made any difference to your job or your ... (read in full...)
Should I let my teenaged daughter date?
Q. I understand that girls will always be more mature than boys. Naturally, girls physically mature faster as they go through puberty earlier than their male counterparts. This brings me to my daughter who is a sophomore in high school. She is smart...
A. 31 January 2022: I'm not sure dating can help a girl in high school in any way, but there again neither can sneaking around behind her mother's back because she has been forbidden to date.
If your daughter feels she is mature enough to date, then she should b... (read in full...)
I like. Him but don't want to date him
Q. I have liked a guy for 7 years but i still don't want to date him. When we don't talk i miss him and i feel happy and good when we do. I don't want him to get too close to me but sometimes i want his attention and time too.What is wrong?...
A. 30 January 2022: Why do you assume anything is wrong? You are only young; perhaps you are not yet mentally ready to date. Everyone matures at a different rate. You may have friends who feel ready to date but that does not mean you have to go there until you are ... (read in full...)
My husband says I am at fault for not trusting him but is he the one who is really at fault?
Q. Sort of beside myself. My husband of 9 years says I have anxiety and it is my fault that I do not trust him, because I have anxiety. But I think the fault is his. I recently found a number on his phone under Fed Ex and it was a young woman...NO...
A. 29 January 2022: I'll make this short because there is no need for a lengthy response.
Trust your gut instinct; you have one for good reason.
I'm sorry. Nothing else to say which would be useful. ... (read in full...)
What do these girls want?
Q. Do girls actually want you to touch or flirt with them in the stores? Are there any signs girls give to show they have interest? I seem to run into girls who seem to get very close to me, even bend down in front of me or bump into me at stores but...
A. 29 January 2022: You can react and still leave the ball in their court so you don't lose face if you have misread the signals.
Make eye contact, smile, say "hi". If they bump into you, say something like "Woops, sorry, busy in here today, isn't it?"
Under n... (read in full...)
What can I do with my hands when kissing?
Q. The girl I'm dating is great. She has nice hair, smile, and hips. What are some things I can do with my hands that will make her feel when kissing? There may be better things than leaving them at my sides. ...
A. 29 January 2022: No, definitely don't leave them at your side. That would just be weird.
Wrap them around your girlfriend's waist. Hold her face. Stroke her hair. Hug her. Put them on her shoulders. As the relationship grows and you become more comforta... (read in full...)
What do they feel?
Q. what do cheating wives think when they are about to feel strangers cock fo the first time...
A. 29 January 2022: It's obvious this is an issue you have with your wife, so why not just ask her? What your wife feels is not necessarily what anyone else feels. How will knowing the answer to this question help you?
Discuss the issue with your wife and decide w... (read in full...)
Do I tell my mom that I am dating her friend?
Q. I’m a 31-year-old guy, single, normal dating history. A few months ago, a friend of my mom’s called me and asked if I’d like to get together for coffee. I had met her at my mom’s house a couple of weeks prior and we had a nice talk. I thought ...
A. 29 January 2022: While I do completely understand your comment that is none of your mum's business, neither does it need to be a secret. You're 31. Grow a pair and just tell your mother you are dating her friend. You are both consenting single adults. You are not ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel embarrassed that I enjoyed anal sex?
Q. I tried anal sex with my husband for the first time the other morning and actually quite enjoyed it. But every time I think of it I cringe inside and I don’t know why. I just feel really embarrassed. My husband has only mentioned it once and that ...
A. 28 January 2022: Nobody can know why you feel embarrassed about anal sex. Perhaps because you were meant to not like it? Guessing because obviously I don't know. We're all different and what turns on one person may leave another completely cold. Each to their own. ... (read in full...)
Why is she lying to me?
Q. Hey, so I'd like to ask what to do as I was told awhile ago my partner was taking people home after work, not work colleagues shes taking men back to there home after her shift and she works in a pub. The pubs closing time is 12am midnight but shes ...
A. 27 January 2022: The question you should be asking yourself is why you are putting up with this when you believe you have proof of her infidelity. Is it a "familiar" scenario, given that your mother used to do the same to your father? Sometimes people repeat their ... (read in full...)
Is there anything my husband and I can do to help our sons?
Q. I have two sons. John who is 39 years old and Rob who is 37 years old. I always thought that my sons were close. Rob is gay and has been officially together for 12 years (dating for five years, married for 7 years). But they have been friend...
A. 27 January 2022: I can understand how painful it must be for you and your husband that your two sons do not speak. However, they are both adults and Rob has more than one good reason not to want to speak to his brother. Not only did John steal from him but he also ... (read in full...)
How to cope with losing a man I never had
Q. Hi there, Looking for some advice / help and opinions on how to cope with a man who has deeply hurt me. I can’t seem to get him out of my mind but crazy as it sounds we were not together. I am afraid this is a long story as I wanted to explai...
A. 27 January 2022: It's quite simple really: you fell for a smooth-talking scoundrel, a cad. Such a pity you are too obsessed with him to see that and that you put him on a pedestal he most definitely does not deserve.
You know - and he knows - that friendsh... (read in full...)
The more I know about his life, the more I want to walk away
Q. I’m in a relationship with a man with kids. I don’t have any and not thinking of wanting anytime soon. I haven’t met his kids and I don’t want to push him on meeting them. The more I get to know the situation with his life, the more I feel like ...
A. 27 January 2022: You don't say how old the youngest daughter is but I am assuming she is still fairly young. Like with the two other kids, as she grows up he is likely to be increasingly less involved in her life as she will prefer spending time with friends rather ... (read in full...)
Is my partner a sex addict
Q. I think my partner is a sex addict. I cant be sure but having read online articles I am finding alot of matching information that match his habits. I'll give you a run down. My partner likes to masturbate at least ten times a week. His sex dr...
A. 26 January 2022: You ask, is he a sex addict? I would ask, why do you stay with a man who disrespects you and abuses you in this way? Sticking a label on his behaviour is not going to change anything.
Sweetheart, we learn as babies/toddlers that you can't fo... (read in full...)
Have I been too forgiving?
Q. I’ve given my sister the benefit of the doubt after she tried to kiss my boyfriend on New Year’s Eve because she was drunk but have I been too soft on her? All of my friends seem to think so. Me and my boyfriend had a party at ours with a load...
A. 25 January 2022: This is between you, your sister and your boyfriend. Nothing to do with your friends. While they are free to give you their opinions, the ultimate decision is yours, not theirs. She is YOUR sister, he is YOUR boyfriend, so YOU choose how to handle ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date a woman of another race?
Q. I've been interested in and dating this fantastic black (I am white) woman . we have been dating over the last couple of months, and to the point of considering sex. Is it ok to consider sex with a black woman? Might there be a stigma attached?...
A. 24 January 2022: Her skin may be a different colour to yours but, underneath that outer layer, she is no different to you (or any white woman). Why should dating a woman of another race be so worrying? We live in the 21st century, not in times when mixed race ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my wife to cheat?
Q. Is it completely absurd to fantasize about your wife doing something with another man (ex hand job, BJ, just kissing, intercourse)? My wife is extremely attractive, younger than me, and I have no desire to be with anyone else. However, I do ...
A. 24 January 2022: The big difference between fantasy and reality is that you have complete control over your fantasies but no control whatsoever if you turn them into reality. You could get jealous of how much your wife enjoys the attention of another (presumably ... (read in full...)
Who is to blame for initiating the wife swap?
Q. when a husband asks his wife if she would agree to a wife swap she then says no,then he asks again and she says she will think about it, and then decides she would do so knowing her yes would mean an almost certain swap would then happen. where ...
A. 22 January 2022: Strange how defensive some posters can be when they don't get the answer they were hoping for. The truth hurts sometimes. Oh dear. How sad. Never mind.
I would have thought that you would have known better at your age. Just goes to show, we can a... (read in full...)
We're in our 80s and my wife is becoming aggressive
Q. i am in my 80's and have been married for over 60 my wife is getting very aggresive and whilst I try io get out of her way { probably for 4 hours} this doesnt do anything for the situation. These arguements with my wife shouting and banging around ...
A. 22 January 2022: I'm sorry but, if this behaviour is out of character for her, this could be the start of dementia. You need to take your wife to the doctor for a check up and tell the doctor everything that has been happening.
Please try not to retaliat... (read in full...)
All his conversations revolve around money
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about 6 months. He's obsessed with money. He believes he will be very rich and says it's in his DNA lol. However it disturbs me because that's all he thinks about. Most conversations revolve around money. ...
A. 21 January 2022: If you already have such reservations after only 6 months, how will you feel another 6 months, or even 6 years, down the line?
Why does your boyfriend only work part time when he has such an obsession about money? Is he all talk? Does he expect m... (read in full...)
Friend screwed me over now I don't want to see him
Q. I was just screwed over by my former coworker/friend He is a former coworker from my 2nd job that I helped get into my 1st job. When he got hired, he got a sign on bonus. And I get a referral bonus. He asked me to split my referral bonus with ...
A. 21 January 2022: Hold your head high, smile and keep it professional. Treat him like someone you don't know. Take the moral high ground and remember never to help him out again.
The universe sends us people to teach us lessons. Learn your lesson and move on. He i... (read in full...)
Who is to blame for initiating the wife swap?
Q. when a husband asks his wife if she would agree to a wife swap she then says no,then he asks again and she says she will think about it, and then decides she would do so knowing her yes would mean an almost certain swap would then happen. where ...
A. 18 January 2022: Wow, what a twisted "logic"! You are an idiot for suggesting it in the first place, then for asking again when your wife refused the first time. Poor woman was in a "no win" situation. she couldn't do right for doing wrong. She agreed, so you are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took me for granted we broke up. Now hes hurt and family wants me to help
Q. My ex boyfriend stole from me some money and did not pay back ..He only apologized ...so since I had had enough of him taking me for granted ; I ended the relationship and told him that I will not continue with this relationship if he doesn’t pay ...
A. 18 January 2022: You broke up for good reason. VERY good reason. Don't let his family guilt-trip you into looking after someone who used you in the past.
Time to turn the page and move on with your life. Your ex is in your past. Leave him there. Don't look bac... (read in full...)
13 year relationship, feel like a punk that her past started to bother me - age 30
Q. First off I feel weird/bad for even making this post. Our relationship is actually really good, but we had a rough year due to stuff that was out of our hands, but is finally ending february 1st. We are both 30, have been together since w...
A. 16 January 2022: It's not her fault that you didn't bother "sowing your wild oats", so to speak. She was young and curious and, by the sound of it, a little "wild". If you two got together when you were both 17, she was VERY young when she was having one night ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for calling baby daddy when his son cries for him?
Q. Hi all. I have a child for a married man. His wife, then fiance broke up with him a couple months before they got married. During that break up period we had sex Before they started dating, we used to have casual sex. And he treated me like I was ...
A. 16 January 2022: Oh come on, you can't seriously expect anyone with half an ounce of common sense to believe you are phoning this guy for the sake of your son. A two year old can be placated and comforted by whoever is there with him that cares for him, in this case ... (read in full...)
What do do about my cheating wife?
Q. 30 years married my wife went with her girl friends.TO dinner and while she was gone. I got a call from her saying she was lost so. I went to were she told me she was and she was not there . about an hour later. I got a phone call from her girl ...
A. 16 January 2022: The question is, what do you WANT to do? You now have absolute proof she cheated on you. Previously you chose to brush your doubts under the carpet and carry on. Now you can no longer kid yourself that there were misunderstandings or her drink was ... (read in full...)
I am confused about how my friend is acting towards his estranged wife
Q. A male friend of mine is going through a divorce. His wife refuses to leave the home so they are living in separate rooms in the same home. What blows my mind is he said sometimes she makes him dinner or breakfast and even though he talks terrible ...
A. 16 January 2022: Why is this bothering you? Are you looking for a relationship with him? If so, you need to tread very carefully and take things very slowly. I strongly suspect this IS the reason you ask the question, otherwise you wouldn't have mentioned that he ... (read in full...)
My SO upset that I look at my ex on social mediaa
Q. Would you consider it a big issue if you’re significant other looked at their ex’s social media profile? My significant other is upset with me as he went through my phone and saw I searched an ex’s name on social media. I’m not in contact with them. ...
A. 16 January 2022: Sweetheart, take a bit of advice: run and don't look back. Your partner's controlling behaviour is only going to get worse and he will always have a "reason" to justify it.
Sorry, nothing else to say. ... (read in full...)
Are we stupid for giving it another try?
Q. I dated my ex for 18 months, I described him as the perfect guy. He was sweet , fun, caring and funny. See could sit and talk for hours and we had insane chemistry. I did break up with him 10 months ago because we were just in different places in ...
A. 16 January 2022: Worst case scenario: you're only wasting each other's time if it doesn't last.
My question to you would be: has anything changed since last time? You broke up for a reason - he wanted to settle down, you felt too young - has that changed ... (read in full...)
The woman I had an affair with is having a hard time with our official relationship. How do I ease her fears?
Q. Hi. I am not used to seeking advice, especially on a public site but I am at a complete loss and I will try anything to get a handle on this. Please feel free to weigh in here. First a brief background. My girlfriend and I met by having an affair...
A. 15 January 2022: Do you hear that sound, my friend? That's the sound of your chickens coming home to roost. Regardless of how many reasons/excuses you give for the affair, the bottom line is still the same: you cheated on your wife so you are capable of cheating on ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to be friends with her ex
Q. So I have been dating this girl for a little over two months. A few months prior to us starting to date she ended a 5 year relationship with another guy. She said it ended amicably and that they had taken breaks before but this was different. She ...
A. 15 January 2022: If they had both moved on and both had no feelings for each other, then I would say you have nothing to worry about and you should try to learn to live with it. However, NEITHER of them has really moved on and that is worrying. He quite obviously ... (read in full...)
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