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Hello! I have not been on this site for a very long time due to committments with college and just life in general, but I am proud to announce that due to changes in events I will be attempting yet again to make this a permanent hobbie. :)
I have always enjoyed giving advice and as I have gotten older I am proud to say that I am able to realize that I do give good advice. I have many friends who do come to me seeking advice, and I always try to see both ends of the spectrum and feel that judging people is not a good way to help them.
I also apologize to all those who sent inbox's to me since I went away and I am now going to try my best to answer all of the messages I get within the same week. Now on with the questions!
What qualifies you to help people?
I have nothing offical that says I am able to help people, but I have a unique prespective on things which enables me to understand how someone must feel. I at a very young age had to be exposed to things that were out of mine and my families control and as my teenage years approached, I saw many more problems arising. My main reason as too whyI enjoy helping people is because I myself have been in positions where I needed an outsiders point of view. I think websites like this allow people to get honest advice on situations that some people might not be able to talk about to those around them.
However I do believe that some aunts and uncles on this site can be too forceful, as after all this site is about advice and no one is inclined to be forced to take it. I believe that harsh advice just makes people feel worse about a situation which why I try to give constructive criticism in a nice way, as only the OP truly understand the problems they have.
Where do you live?
I live in the UK, England, in a small coastal town which is the most easternly point in England and even though this town may seem like a nice little haven for tourists every summer, it has been incredibly hard to grow up surrounded by people who you have known since nursery. Also as I live in a small town, everyone knows everyone's business which is more a hindrance than anything. Hard times as of late, have fallen upon my town due to the recession and because of the lack of opportunities, however hopefully I will be able to think about where else I would like to live in the foreseeable future.
What makes you tick?
All sorts of things. I can't stand selfish people or ungrateful people... I think everyone should value what they have as in this day and age there is more important issues at hand than who has the newest Iphone. I think my generation is far too materialistic and I hate it when people are brought up getting everything handed to them on a plate, as from a young age I had to fight for everything I have. I also don't like judgemental people or liar's, who has time for those sort of people anyway? ;)
What's your relationship status?
I am currently in a relationship :) And so far it is going well. I am not very experienced when it comes too relationships as I have only ever had two, and both of them I had at a a very young age. I do believe that relationships are definitely better to have when you are an adult, as I found the stress and strain of both of my relationships took a lot of fun out of what should been the best years of my life. I am hoping that this relationship turns out well as I had been single before now for a good year or so. So all I can do is hope for the best :)
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I told her how I felt and she backed off....is she scared because she thinks I'll change my mind about my sexuality? Or does she simply not want a relationship with me?
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However it sounds from what you have... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is contacting her ex. What should I do?
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A. 14 November 2011: Unless she accidently left her phone on or off the hook then 38 minutes is a very long time to simply tell someone to get lost.
Have you confronted her about why the first call is so long?
I personally think ringing ... (read in full...)
My right breast has been itchy, is this normal?
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I suggest if you do plan to see a doctor ask for a female one, not tryi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend saw that I wrote "I love S" on my hand. He isn't "S"... what do I do?
Q. okay so i'm in love with two people. my boyfriend and this guy called S. i've loved S for nearly 2 years now and he loves me too, but we've never been together offically. so yeah i wrote i love you "S" on my hand and my boyfriend saw it. what should ...
A. 12 November 2011: Like the others said, from what you have said it sounds like you love S alot more than your boyfriend.
If that is the case then its ovbious what you should do.... (read in full...)
Did I freak her out with my last text?
Q. Hi, I met a girl last week at my friends party. She danced with me for over an hour we kissed quite a bit and she really showed interest staring into my eyes holding me all that stuff. She asked if I wanted to exchange numbers with her and we did. I ...
A. 12 November 2011: Your last text was abit random i must admit. But for me it wouldn't freak me out at all.
She's ovbiously a busy person if it takes her hours at a time to reply to a text, so i really wouldn't over think this matter to much... (read in full...)
I love my girl friend to bits. So why does she treat me with disrespect and refuse to believe I love her?
Q. I feel like I am completely unlovable as I am nothing but a big joke to everyone. They all constantly make fun of me, even more own girlfriend never takes me serious and has no respect for me nor my family, just because my dad was illegal. But he...
A. 12 November 2011: I know (as even you said yourself) its easier said than done. But get rid of your girlfriend. From what you have said here she sounds vile, and even though you may love her greatly, your ovbiously going through a rough patch and she is set on makin... (read in full...)
10 years younger boss: Is he trying to fight the fact that he may be attracted to me?
Q. I am 56 years old and I look good for my age. I work with a lot of guys, and I am friendly with all of them. But, my BOSS makes me feel uncomfortable. He avoids looking at my eyes... when I try to talk friendly with him, he repeatedly tells me t...
A. 12 November 2011: The only thing i can think of is maybe he is full of himself? And he likes the idea that an older women has a crush on him. I personally do not think he has a crush on you as he made that kind of clear when you were speaking to him. Is he arro... (read in full...)
I don't like any of my friends anymore. How do I dump them?
Q. So...thank you for your time for reading this. I just have so much anger I need to vent somewhere -.-. I have just realized...I hate all my friends. We used to be all goody goody. After my birthday though, I started to discover things I hate ab...
A. 12 November 2011: Well, like you i had one of these moments where i did realize all my friends were just plain nasty. At first they didn't used to be too mean to me, but it was what they would do to other people which would bother me, how they would laugh at oth... (read in full...)
Never giving up on my crush?
Q. Dear Cupid, ive liked this guy for a while now, bout 3 years, everytime i see him he glows i feel like im in love for some reason, he glows when i see him i always get lost in his eyes, i feel happy when hes around, ive literaly never felt this way...
A. 12 November 2011: It does sound like you have very strong feelings for him. But have you two ever acutally spoken to each other or are you friends? If you don't know each other than it is ovbious he isn't going to like you because he doesn't know you. If you are not ... (read in full...)
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Does a Player Make Girls their Girlfriends?
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A. 10 November 2011: To be honest it doesn't sound from what you have said like he is a player.
Players normanally go out with girls because they want something, most oftenly sex. But as you have not slept together and he has not asked you too it does... (read in full...)
Does a Player Make Girls their Girlfriends?
Q. Why did he go cold? I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for 18 months. Right towards the end i met this guy who seemed great and he msg'd me and talked to me all day everyday he was so keen. When my relationship finally fell thru with the ...
A. 10 November 2011: To be honest it doesn't sound from what you have said like he is a player.
Players normanally go out with girls because they want something, most oftenly sex. But as you have not slept together and he has not asked you too it does... (read in full...)
Does her actions mean she doesn't think I'm a jerk?
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How is he still confused about how he feels after being with me for a year?
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A. 1 November 2011: I agree with So_Very_Confused. He is probably taking his time. If you also say he had abit of a rough upbringing and has ovbiously had some real tough times back in his past it will be harder for him to give you 100% of his trust and love if other ... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to get a boyfriend? Any beauty tips?
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I can ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's sister dislikes me and its getting very uncomfortable for me!
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I know this might sound strange but some people just come across/look really bitchy, but infact they can acutally be nice peop... (read in full...)
How is he still confused about how he feels after being with me for a year?
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How can I stop his friend from getting back into my boyfriend's life? He is doing so much better without them
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You can try as hard as you can to stop this guy comi... (read in full...)
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A. 1 November 2011: Well there is a first time for everything. And i would say it is worth the effort.
You see when you get older you will probably feel the erdge to masturbate as it is really just human nature.
Like CindyCar... (read in full...)
I really regret having webcam sex, will there be any repercussions?
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A. 1 November 2011: Well i am glad you have learnt from your mistakes and you are cleaning up your act as many people go throughout there lifes not realizeing any of there mistakes and not bothering to change.
So its a start.
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Do I like her or is she just a friend?
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A. 1 November 2011: Trust me when you really really fancy someone you will defointly know it. You just get this feeling in your stomch like butterflys are flying around when you see them, you want to spend every second of the day with them and when ever anyone mentions ... (read in full...)
Solutions please to reduce panic attacks? old school? New school? Or other options?
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A. 31 October 2011: Thankyou for your suggestions :) It has really helped, i do think the part time bit is a really good idea and i know that i will have to change my life style quite considerably from what i am doing now. As you s... (read in full...)
Solutions please to reduce panic attacks? old school? New school? Or other options?
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A. 31 October 2011: Thankyou for your suggestions :) It has really helped, i do think the part time bit is a really good idea and i know that i will have to change my life style quite considerably from what i am doing now. As you s... (read in full...)
Has anyone gained weight rapidly and was able to overcome it and if so, how? What challenges did you face and what did you have to watch out for?
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I need some help to cope with what's happening now
Q. PLEASE HELP! Okay, well I have been to the doctors about depression and they are just saying it's harmones but I am lower then average. I have used marijuana a few times to make me feel better and use it I don't have a lot. I don't smoke it ...
A. 29 October 2011: Go back to your doctors ask them to refer you to a mental health clinic for adolescents as you need help right now Don't leave too long you get somewhere, as doctors may be qaulified to do this and that, but only you know what it going on in your... (read in full...)
I need some help to cope with what's happening now
Q. PLEASE HELP! Okay, well I have been to the doctors about depression and they are just saying it's harmones but I am lower then average. I have used marijuana a few times to make me feel better and use it I don't have a lot. I don't smoke it ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hello, i am 14 and at the beginging of the year i was not well, suffering from depression and even though the doctors wouldn't diagnose me, i felt terrible and sad. I was under the nhs childrens mental health service, and they would not help me. ... (read in full...)
Given these details, do you think my friend really likes me romantically?
Q. Hey! Well, here's the deal! I really like one of my best friends...? He's really nice, lovely actually, and we have had some amazing times together... Sometimes i think he likes me too. There is a lot of flirting and messing around, annoying...
A. 29 October 2011: Its hard to tell if someone likes you, if he only acts like this around you and not other girls then yes there is a good sign he does. If he acts like it around all girls however then he could simply be just a flirt-ma... (read in full...)
Friend is making racist remarks and says I don't face reality! I am getting sick of him...am I right to feel this way?
Q. Hello everyone, I have a friend who is a little older than me, his dad works with my dad and we have become quite good friends. Recently we have been spending a lot of time together and one night when our parents went out for a meal to discuss ...
A. 29 October 2011: No it is stupid and in-humane to judge everyone on one act of a certain group, but i will be honest and in this society even though its wrong a lot of people do do it. It does not make any sense of course, for instance if a women in red scarf he... (read in full...)
In love with my brother's best friend
Q. I know I am fifteen and am awfully young to be saying the L-word but I am being completely honest when I tell you this. I AM IN LOVE! Most people would think well thats nice she has a crush but in my case i havent told many people of my crush ...
A. 29 October 2011: I do believe you are in love so lets get that out of the way with, i know it won't be as strong as adults but as i am young i hate it how so many people think because your a teenager your not capable to love someone. Anyway back to the buisness... (read in full...)
Should we connect? Dont want to break his marriage but I need someone to make me laugh
Q. Thanks. I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids. just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communic...
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Is he worth the wait to date? He's 17. Or should I just move on? He only wants to talk about sex
Q. Ok so there's this guy, I've liked him for about 4 months. His name is X and we met at a battle of the bands back in January. In June we started texting and getting to know each other. (: He turned out to be a really sweet guy, and always said cute...
A. 29 October 2011: It sounds to me like he isn't the nice guy you might think he is.
If he only talks to you about sex and them seems distant sometimes it could mean that he is doing something called "sexting".
Unfortunely as you are rather y... (read in full...)
Is it right for my husband to leave me despite having a high risk pregnancy to go on holiday?
Q. i have been married for a few months. i am 34 weeks pregnant, with a history of heart disease, and classified high risk pregancy. my husband lobied for a paid for 2 months vacation out of the country with his employers and really excited about it. i ...
A. 28 October 2011: wow he really sounds like he isn't willing to help or compromise.
A relationship is built around three main things in my books Trust, Commitment and Love. It sounds like lately he has been neglecting all of these.
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