My wife abandoned me and our kids for her online lover!
Q. I am 49, and my wife is 31. A year ago she started an online relationship with a man in Hungary, which she physicaly carried out by taking a vacation with my 4yr old daughter for two months, leaving me with my 12yr old son. While there she ...
A. 19 August 2008: Thanks for your note. I'm glad is all going well. You may realise that her seeing them might not do them the world of good but if you say that, then they'll keep that against you. Keep it to yourself and it may seem two faced but make it look like ... (read in full...)
My wife abandoned me and our kids for her online lover!
Q. I am 49, and my wife is 31. A year ago she started an online relationship with a man in Hungary, which she physicaly carried out by taking a vacation with my 4yr old daughter for two months, leaving me with my 12yr old son. While there she ...
A. 18 August 2008: Like I said before. You need to get to the police with your lawyer and tell them EVERYTHING. If there are mutual friends that can tell the police that you never hurt her and wouldn't think about it and that she left you and never had contact then ... (read in full...)
I need a way to look older. It's ridiculous everyone who sees me thinks I'm between 12 and 14
Q. So in the past year or so i have been constintaly mistaken as a being between the ages of 12 and 14. I am now 18 and about to start college. I find this so frustrating because i am convinced that this is keeping guys from talking to me. I sometimes ...
A. 1 August 2008: Cut your hair in a more mature style. My hair was long and I looked my age, I had it cut into a bob and I'm now mistaken for between 16-18. Wear your make up in a fashion known to people of the older generation such as people in their later twenties ... (read in full...)
I constantly feel ugly and fat. I need to feel positive abouy myself, but I don't know how.
Q. I don't know who to talk to about this, because it just sounds so silly...but I constantly feel ugly and fat. It's gotten to the point where I will stare at myself in the mirror and cry, and then compare myself to everyone who is skinny. I've been...
A. 1 August 2008: Sadly, I think this may be the starting point of anorexia. Do you skip meals or eat and then force yourself to vomit it all up? If you do, you need to go and see a doctor immediately. Most internet providers offer parental controls which parents can ... (read in full...)
Ex's in love with each other?
Q. This boy I dated was really sweet and romantic.He sings to me and we often have romantic moments and sometimes we would make unexpected visits to each other's house to surprise each other.We are both single and it has been that way ever since we ...
A. 15 July 2008: I think that if you ignore the feelings, hoping they'll go away, then you'll kick yourself in 10 or 20 years time knowing that the husband that walks through the door to you could've been him.
If the feelings are that strong, don't try and put ... (read in full...)
He tells me he loves me, is he leading me on?
Q. Hey :) What are the signs that a boy likes you ? because i dont really know if im recieving mixed messages :S i mean the boy i like has an on off girlfriend , and then flirts with me most of the time and tells me he loves me, is he leading me on ? ...
A. 27 June 2008: He's leading you on. He's young, and entitled to play the field. Unless you know that he's for sure over with her, don't go for it, you could end up making a serious enemy if she thinks you're with her boyfriend when she's got plans of getting back ... (read in full...)
I am just terrified that I'm going to end up an unhappy mother of two, maybe three daughters who longs for a son!
Q. My problem is that I desperately want to have a son, and the thought of being pregnant but never having a son terrifies me and its been going on as long as I can remember. People think i'm being silly, or say "we all have preferences", but i've been ...
A. 13 June 2008: Personally, I think you're being quite selfish. You should think yourself lucky that you can conceive. Many people can't have children naturally and it almost ruins their lives, you're lucky that you have two children and you'll have three if you ... (read in full...)
My mother forced me into an abortion and banned em from seeing my boyfriend, how do I tell her I want a baby and I'm back with my boyfriend?
Q. hi, I am 17 and my boyfriend has just turned 19. We have been together for 2 years nearly. I got pregnant december 2007 and found out on January 4th 2008. My boyfriend and i had been discussing how we wanted a family one day and marraige. We were ...
A. 12 June 2008: First of all, even though it's your mum, she bullied you into having that abortion. Surely people would respect you more for keeping the baby and accepting your responsibilities than having an abortion as an escape route (for your mum). Tell your... (read in full...)
Could you help me get over the fear my ferry will sink?
Q. I know this is a little off-topic, but please could someone help me? I'm going on holiday with my family and my boyfriend in a couple of weeks, which involves getting the ferry from Dover to Calais. I have a huuge fear of going over the sea, as ...
A. 9 June 2008: They are very safe. My school has been taking the Dover to Calais ferry every year for about 15 years (I started 2 years ago) and it hasn't sunk in all that time. So don't worry, there's lots of things you can do on the ferry to pass the time so ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about the abuse or not??? Please help!
Q. me and my bf have been going out for 9 months were both 17 and boths virgins! but when i was like 7 or 8 i was sexually abused like i was never made have sex just made do other things with this guy who was 20ish i never ever told anybody and im over ...
A. 9 June 2008: Some people have said about not telling him because he's young and it'll be difficult to process. If you do end up married then you tell him, he's gunna be upset that you've not told him before. Tell him, relationships need and should have trus... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and attracted to my dad's best friend who is 37!!!
Q. i am 16, and ever since i was 14 i have been attracted to my dads best friend. He is 37 years old right now, and i have never persued him, he doesnt know i have feelings for him. sometimes i wish he did so i can be with him. we talk and have ...
A. 9 June 2008: Well when you're 18 he's gunna be nearly 40. To me that age gap is too big. Try and get out there and find a guy that's like him but more your age.
You should think about the future, is this the kinda guy you'd want to marry and have children... (read in full...)
I discovered that being a jerk does not make girls like you.
Q. I screwed up big time. A few months ago I read on some website that girls only like guys who are complete jerks. So I decided to be a jerk to a girl that I liked in hopes that she would start to like me. That was really stupid because now she sees ...
A. 8 June 2008: Tell her what you read and laugh about it with her. I'm not sure what they meant in 'jerk' but most women are suckers for the 'bad boy' types, and some, like myself, find arrogance highly attractive, obviously she doesn't.
Tell her what you read... (read in full...)
The only person who actually listens to me is a Dutch girl on the Internet. Will it ever work out with her?
Q. i've got talking to some dutch girl on the internet. we do the webcam and microphone thing all the time and i think she is the best person in the world because she is the only person who actually listens to me. the problem is i dont think she likes ...
A. 8 June 2008: It's quite normal to feel like this with her, but you may be right, she may not feel the same.
Not every girl in England, or the UK are complete cows, there's some really nice girls who will listen to you, it's just a game of finding that gir... (read in full...)
He's letting his appearance go to pieces! I don't want to sound like his mother, but....
Q. When my husband and I met 7 years ago. He was muscular and fit, not a fashionable dresser but clean cut. Now post 6 years of marriage he hates hair cuts and his hair gets fuzzy, hanging in/over his ears and unruly. He prefers to wear jeans and ...
A. 8 June 2008: Tell him that you don't want to sound shallow but you married a guy that was happy and took care of himself. If you wanted to be married to a slob, you'd have married one, tell him that you're not happy with his physique and it's becoming such a ... (read in full...)
A teacher's helper is scaring me. What should I do?
Q. for the last few months i have been in a new set for science the teacher is ordinary but theres a helper hes about 61 in that age range hes nice to people but sometimes he acts wierd around me hell sit there staring at me and ill look away scared ...
A. 7 June 2008: Firstly this isn't right. Tell your teacher and tell them everything. Tell them about the staring, the tapping of the shoulder and him saying that he's your favourite teacher.
Do not let him get away with this, I know for a fact that it's absolute... (read in full...)
I had sex with my best friend's boyfriend and now I'm pregnant.
Q. i need help and quick. im 13 and about three months ago i had sex with my best friend's boyfriend. i regret it, because im pregnant. i dont know how to tell people. let alone my best friend. please help....
A. 7 June 2008: First of all if you really HAD to have sex at your age, why didn't you have the sense to use a condom, and why with your best friend's boyfriend? Well, she's not going to be your best friend for long. You need to tell her and you need to apologiz... (read in full...)
My bofriend goes into moods. I need some good advice.
Q. hiya i have been with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years now we got a house together a year ago and have been ok on and off the thing is my boyfriend goes into moods were he wont speak to me for days maybe even weeks and they could be because of no ...
A. 7 June 2008: Sit down with your boyfriend while he's on a good day, tell him that when he goes into his moods you feel bad and you don't know what it's about and therefore don't know what to do as you don't know whether it's you that is causing him problems. ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before I start dating again?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend, we both left on good terms and agreed to each find someone who better suits us, my question now is how long should I wait until I start dating or looking for someone?...
A. 7 June 2008: Well because it wasn't a bitter split, and you both decided to end it, you don't really have to wait, if you're hurting though, wait for a little while until you're over her, but if you're not upset about the split, go for it and put yourself back ... (read in full...)
There are some things not letting me and my boyfriend get close, please help!
Q. Hi, I love my bf very much and he loves me too its just a couple of things keep us from getting really close to each other. Number one) my parents are extreamly over protective of me. they hardly let me go out to the shops by myself never min...
A. 6 June 2008: Well first of all if you're thinking about having sex with him, don't, I'm not sure what you mean by 'getting really close' but I see you're from the UK, and the legal age for sex is 16, so you'd both be very illegal.
Explain to your parents ... (read in full...)
What should I do since my mom won't listen too me?
Q. Recently my mom has had the city inspecter tell us our grass what too high-wich caused stress on my mom then our car has gotten all messed up and shes stressed out about that.And she has been snarling at me so much and using it as a exuse too be ...
A. 5 June 2008: Maybe there's something that your mum is stressed out about, ask her if she's ok, if there's anything you can get her or if there's anything you can do to help.
She'll appreciate it loads, and maybe ease off a bit.
If she doesn't ask her ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her to stay with me?
Q. Where I live circumcision is uncommon and most girls think it's disgusting. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months now and we had talked about having sex soon. I know that she will find my circumcision disgusting, and I'm worried ...
A. 5 June 2008: Just because most girls find it disgusting, it doesn't mean your girlfriend is that shallow. Explain to her and ask her how she feels about it. I'm sure she's a lovely girl, that's why you went for her, just stay calm and talk with her quietly. ... (read in full...)
Friend fancies boy, but wont admit it and declares hatred for him!
Q. Me and my friends meet up on a friday night and ice skate, there's this guy that sometimes comes. My best friend, who went to the same primary as him, but he's in the year above, says she hates him, when she's never spoken to him before. When ...
A. 5 June 2008: Thanks, but really, our group of friends is quite childish, bar me and if anyone says who they fancy they're wound up about it, so generally, unless it's celebs, no one says anything.
If I'm straight with her, she turns all strange and then lat... (read in full...)
Dont want to want him!
Q. Ok. So I'm 14 years old and I met this guy whom is my cousin's friend. He is 16 and we both have sidekick LX's so we frequently IM each other, and everytime we talk I start to have more feelings for him. He isn't mean to me, but he isn't sweet ei...
A. 4 June 2008: Try and figure out how he acts around your cousin and if it's similar then maybe he's just arrogant, which, admittedly, some people find quite an attractive trait.
If he's completely out of his shell with your cousin, maybe he's attracte... (read in full...)
I feel really shy to ask him or even give hints that I'm in love with him!
Q. i have been in love with my step cousin for ages now but i dont know how he feels about me. i feel really shy to ask him or even give hints. everytime i see, which isnt really often i love him even more. what can i do so i dont make myself look ...
A. 1 June 2008: I don't really think you should try and persue this relationship. It's your step cousin, it sounds cute, but you're like sort of family and later on in your lives, if you're together you could cause arguments between your families and if you had ... (read in full...)
Should I try and steal this girl from her long distance boyfriend?
Q. I am studying abroad right now and realized I like a girl here. The thing is this girl has a boyfriend. She has been dating him for about 7 months or so, but he moved to another part of the country about 4 months ago. She talks to him a lot, and I ...
A. 1 June 2008: Don't try and break her apart from him, it'll drive her away from you, long distance relationships don't usually work, good news for you, but not such for her, cracks will begin to appear and maybe they'll split up without your help, but then she ... (read in full...)
Worried about my late-ish period
Q. Hi, I'm worried about my period. I started my period age 12 years 11 months, and I'm 15 years 6 months old now. 2 weeks ago I had very brief sex (about 5 minutes, it was our first time) with my boyfriend of 6 months, we used a condom and neither ...
A. 1 June 2008: If the condom didn't break then you're definately not pregnant. If it did break, you may be as some sperm is released without cumming, but I don't really think there's much to worry about, you're just late! ... (read in full...)
My wife abandoned me and our kids for her online lover!
Q. I am 49, and my wife is 31. A year ago she started an online relationship with a man in Hungary, which she physicaly carried out by taking a vacation with my 4yr old daughter for two months, leaving me with my 12yr old son. While there she ...
A. 1 June 2008: Seek legal advice and tell them everything. I'm sure the court will swing in your favour when you tell them that your wife just upped and left and hasn't even contacted. In England if the parents are split then the other parent, who has custody, ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep going for the wrong kind of guys?
Q. Why do i keep going for the wrong kind of guys? I know I am young, but this trend is starting to worry me. The first serious relationship, he turned out to be violent and broke my nose and slashed my arm with a knife. The second serious relations...
A. 28 May 2008: You'll find someone. Unfortunatly there are people out there who take great people, who want loving relationships for granted. I don't really think there's any way of telling what the person is like when you first start dating, you just end up ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling bad about the huge fight with my best friend. What should I say?
Q. Okay, so me and my best friend got into a huge fight last friday. She was making me look like an idiot in school to make herself look better around this guy that were both talk to. I got mad and told her sister who had picked up the phone that I d...
A. 28 May 2008: Well it sounds like a tiny bit of jealousy. You both 'like' the guy right, seems like she wants him more.
I don't think she weighs up to much of a friend. She shouldn't have made you look like an idiot, and shouldn't have put you down with com... (read in full...)
Lost and Confused about love and marriage. Someone please HELP!
Q. I've been friends with this guy for about 5 years. He has been in love with me since the beginning. He lives in India, and I'm in America. I like him, but I'm not in love with him. He's lower than middle class, but planning on doing his MBA. He ...
A. 28 May 2008: It's not an arranged marriage, as that would've been arranged by your parents and you wouldn't have had a choice about it. If you don't love him, don't marry him, it's simple, be honest with him though. Being from such countries with such a large ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my (female) ex back out?
Q. Hi. I'm 15, and finally accepted I was gay about 18 months ago after a lot of soul-searching. Last July I fell for one of my mates, and managed to get up the confidence to ask her out. She saif she felt the same way, and we sort of persued a secret ...
A. 28 May 2008: If your feelings are still there then chances are her's are too. If she does break up with her boyfriend, then go for it, but if she doesn't steer clear until it's over. If you're afraid of people's reactions to your sexual orientation, then I don't ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant after a negative test or am I just imagining things?
Q. I recently had a pregnancy test after experiencing signs of pregnancy for instance, sore breats, feeling sick and not being able to smell food without feeling sik etc. It Showed up negative yet these signs have not gone. Could I Still be pregnant...
A. 27 May 2008: No you're right to have your doubts, take another test or two just to make absolutely sure. It sure does sound like a pregnancy for these things to be happening all at the same time, but it may just be sure coincidence. Hope I helped =D... (read in full...)
We were together for 6 years, and he dumped me with no explanation! What should I do?
Q. I was dumped a week ago by my fiance and now i don't know what to do. We had been together for over 6 years (since school) and before we got together we were friends. He has been my whole life and i loved him so much. We weren't having problems as ...
A. 27 May 2008: Don't keep your hopes up for him coming through the door with his tail between his legs. 6 years is a lot, sometimes I guess you just spend too much time with one person and the feelings change. Get into contact with him, you may be angry, I don't ... (read in full...)
My wife abandoned me and our kids for her online lover!
Q. I am 49, and my wife is 31. A year ago she started an online relationship with a man in Hungary, which she physicaly carried out by taking a vacation with my 4yr old daughter for two months, leaving me with my 12yr old son. While there she ...
A. 27 May 2008: I'm sorry to hear that, must be pretty tough to deal with.
Well first I think she was darn out of order taking your daughter with her the first time, I'm sorry, but what sort of mother would take off and introduce this guy to her daughter... (read in full...)
Should I not even speak to him, and feel sorry for her for being used?
Q. This guy has been demonstrating to be attracted to me for the past few months, yet I have reason to believe he just got a blow job from another female at work. What's this all about? Guess I'll drop out of the picture totally and not even speak to ...
A. 27 May 2008: Just because he's attracted to you it doesn't mean he's tripping over you. Maybe he did get the orals from another woman, he may not be using her, he might actually have sexual feelings for her, but just has attraction for you. Also he's not ... (read in full...)
Is this bachelor party a celebration of marriage or cheating?
Q. hi so i found out my bf went for a bachelore party. he told me they had normal strippers. unfortunately i found out, that those "strippers" were fingering each other and using other stuff to please themseves infront of the guys and also giving d...
A. 27 May 2008: Batchelor parties are seen as the last opportunity of living life as a single guy, the women's equivilent being the Hen Night, the strippers may have been a bit over board, but I think you should count yourself lucky that the rule was pay or no ... (read in full...)
What do you think is sly, liking his mate and not breaking up with him, or breaking up?
Q. Dear Cupid I used to like this lad but when i started to go out with him i stoped liking him and started liking his best mate. Everyone says its sly but i think its sly not bracking up with him. What do you think Lots of love Despreat x ...
A. 27 May 2008: I guess it's not sly, you can't really help your feelings. If you asked him though, he might see it that you're using him to get to know the friend better. Best not let it develop. Either come clean and tell him and explain FULLY, chances are he'll ... (read in full...)
How can I ask her out without making myself look too 'easy?'
Q. I got to know this girl who i started texting. Over time she said she really liked me n we saw each other about. So we finally went on a date to watch a movie. We kissed n all went well. But after few weeks we was showing signs of likin someone ...
A. 27 May 2008: Maybe leave it for a while, get back to how you were, talk to her and take her out. Once you're back to how you were and you're sure that the feelings are still there, ask her how she'd feel if you maybe asked her out and if her reply is positive, ... (read in full...)
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