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Has anyone ever lived with a schizophrenic?

Q.   My aunt suffers from schizophrenia, she is on medication and has been for over three decades. i recently spoke with her psychiatrist who is requesting that we seek alternative approaches to her illness. she refuses, and that's putting it mildly to ...

A.   10 July 2009: Is your aunt involved in any sort of community day programs or support activities? You said she's been seeing doctors for many years, but you didn't mention if she was involved with any sort of weekly activity or program. Sometimes that can be ... (read in full...)

Did I do right by dumping the fiance who was texting his cousin to arrange sex?

Q.   I found racey IM messages between my fiance and his female cousin. They were talking about having sex with each other and planning when etc. I was so upset, I asked him about and he said they were really close and just playing. I told him that ...

A.   7 June 2009: I share the opinion of the previous reply. I think you did the right thing. You made a point to draw a line, letting your fiancee know that you will not put up with that kind of sneaky cheating in your relationship. Even if the woman he had been... (read in full...)

How can I fatten myself up?

Q.   SOMEONE PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTION! im 14 about 5'6 98lbs. i want to gain FAT not MUSCLE and i want some fat in these areas: legs arms stomach and butt. I tried ensure but its too expensive. is there any supplement vitamin or powder i can drink? yes ...

A.   31 May 2009: Before you go straight to eating a ton of food or ensure, I would SPEAK TO YOU DOCTOR. If you are underweight for your age, your doctor should be able to help you come up with a plan to increase your weight in a healthy way. Diving into l... (read in full...)

I can't trust my husband

Q.   I've recently accessed my husbands Facebook account. I'm stunned, hurt, betrayed and angry! I found letters to and from his ex-girlfriend he found on facebook talking about how much he's thought of her over the years and how much he thinks of her ...

A.   30 May 2009: I was recently in a similar situation with my boyfriend, which was the reason I originally found this web site. I found out he had been exchanging very intimate and sexually explicit e-mails/chats/phone calls/letters with a female 'friend'.... (read in full...)

Supernatural experience

Q.   I wonder ,if anybody ever had any very strange supernatural experinces? I had one, and it is weird to have someting like that, and not be able to know if it happened to someone else too. I had a strange 'visit'' in my sleep , when I woke up with a...

A.   26 May 2009: I think before you investigate paranormal causes of your experiences, you should read up on a natural phenomenon that has been haunting and frightening people for as long as people have been around. Today it's called sleep paralysis but in the p... (read in full...)

Husband wants me to be submissive, but I'm not comfortable

Q.   My husband wants me to be completely submissive to him but i just can't seem to do it. I have tried in the past and he has asked me to do things that I felt were against my best interest and the best interest of our child. Can I ever get over this ...

A.   21 May 2009: It doesn't sound very fair that he wants you to be 'totally submissive' when that is not the person you are. If you two had a fairly equal relationship before you got married, why would be want you to be so submissive now? If he truly fell in ... (read in full...)

Crying during anal sex normal?

Q.   is crying doing anal sex normal it was so painful my boyfriend said if i don't get things straight he will brake up with me what should do...

A.   2 March 2009: Sex in any form should never be painful to the point of crying or be humilitating. Someone who doesn't care that you're crying and in pain during sex does not truly care for your well-being. I don't enjoy anal sex and therefore don't do it. How... (read in full...)

Being used just for sex?

Q.   My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him came to me a condom and ready to go amd i said no because i'm a virgin now he said next week he want's me to suck his penis.but he want's he's friend there to.is he using me just for sex?should i do it?...

A.   2 March 2009: No boy should ever force you into doing something you're not ready for. And if he thinks showing up with a condom ready to jump you or having his friends there while you give him oral is okay, then he's got his priorities with you very screwed ... (read in full...)

He wants it hard and fast and I am a virgin and he knows but doesn't care! Please help!

Q.   okay. this is really scary to me so someone please give me some advice. i have a boyfriend, he is 18. i'm a little younger than him, hehe. anyways we want to have sex. he knows i am a virgin.... he wants me to be on my hands and knees when we do it. ...

A.   1 March 2009: I guess I agree with the rest of those who answered you. Save yourself for someone who deserves you. I was older when I lost my virginity and it was NOT AT ALL a painful experience! It was one of the best moments in my life and I think th... (read in full...)

My long term b/f has caught me on several dating sites and left. Shall I forgive him?

Q.   My long term bf has caught me in chat rooms and several dating sites over the last 9 months. We argue,like a child he walks out and doesnt come back for a week or so. All i do is harmless flirting and the odd guy i text. We broke up and this time i ...

A.   1 March 2009: I'm glad your boyfriend caught you on those dating sites. I recently found out my b/f was receiving sexually explicit letters from a 'friend' and that it had been happening for the entire course of our relationship. About two years ago I found out ... (read in full...)

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