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Wife's friend is dating her ex, and I overheard them talking about his penis. I'm not happy!
Q. Should I be pissed off or not. My wife's friend is really hitting on a guy who used to date my wife. I overheard them talking, and my wife said that this guy was a really nice guy. Will take her out to nice places, and buy her stuff. Then she said ...
A. 28 March 2012: Total over reaction. No disrespect was done to you or your marriage. It was an off handed comment that was said between her and her friend. You should be ashamed eaves dropping. Your insecurities will drive your wife away if you are not careful.
Y... (read in full...)
He is twice my age and last night he told me he loves me. Help
Q. So it's been about a month since I've been on here. My previous dilemma was whether I should start seeing/dating a man who is twice my age, going through a divorce, and who is a regular customer at a restaurant I worked at.. I did accept his ...
A. 28 March 2012: YOu need to get out of this situation ASAP. Clearly you are not at the same place in the relationship as he is. As an older man it is very likely he is frightened about the uncertain future without his wife and could possibly be misunderstanding ... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 27 March 2012: You are putting too much thought into this. I think you are silly to loose it to a prostitue but your expectations of loosing it to a virgin maybe a little high too.
What about just giving it to the girl you love? One day you will fall in love and... (read in full...)
Could my new male friend help me on my road to recovery from my past with my ex?
Q. Well I just got out of a relationship.. and for months he would send me mixed messages, I love you, or you're too attached and need to let go. It was getting crazy. I was his sexual partner for awhile but unlike him my emotions ran deep and it was ...
A. 27 March 2012: Woooooaaahhh Slow down there missy! For the first part of your post your rattled on about your Ex and then the nice guy at work only gets a short mention... I think you already know the answer here..... Simple fact is no. YOu are not ready to date ... (read in full...)
Is it weird for a 16 year old to go out with a 20 year old?
Q. Hey im just wondering peoples opinions on this. Is it weird for a 20 year old to go out with a 16 year old?...
A. 27 March 2012: What a 20 year old woman and a 16 year old boy....Thats not going to have a happy ending OP.... (read in full...)
I just used her for sex so how do I end it and still look good?
Q. I started screwing, nothing serious, around with this chick from my job when I'm home from college. She was a rebound girl from my last relationship and i wasn't being to pick when i choose her. I'm not saying I'm a great catch but I'm way out of ...
A. 27 March 2012: wow... your a dick. She will be fine once she realises that she escaped the dick you are. Maybe by ending it she will forgive you and thank you... after all you are saving her from being with a dick.... (read in full...)
What constitutes a one night stand?
Q. If a guy goes back to a girls house but they don't sleep together. But do some sort of foreplay, say like he fingers/feels her up and then he leaves in the morning both knowing they won't be seeing each other again, to be a one night stand? Beca...
A. 27 March 2012: You need to have sex otherwise its a sleepover.... (read in full...)
I'm his FWB is there a chance he'll leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. okay, i don't need to be judged, but 3 months ago i sent a fb request to this guy i had seen round, (drummer in a band.) well he accepted (despite the fact he only had 100 friends on his fb account, so he obviously doesn't just add randoms. anyway i ...
A. 27 March 2012: Not going to happen... He is staying with the GF and just playing with you on the side. Delete him form your FB account and I doubt he will even think too much of it. You deserve someone far better
Good luck... (read in full...)
I'm his FWB is there a chance he'll leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. okay, i don't need to be judged, but 3 months ago i sent a fb request to this guy i had seen round, (drummer in a band.) well he accepted (despite the fact he only had 100 friends on his fb account, so he obviously doesn't just add randoms. anyway i ...
A. 27 March 2012: Not going to happen... He is staying with the GF and just playing with you on the side. Delete him form your FB account and I doubt he will even think too much of it. You deserve someone far better
Good luck... (read in full...)
I don't think I'll ever see my co-worker again. Should I leave him a note or forget about it?
Q. I want some quick advice please as this is make or break should I do this or not. I started a fun kissing thing with a guy I stated a new job with. It didn't come to much as he has a girlfriend. But i have really fallen for him. I was off sick for 2 ...
A. 27 March 2012: Its your call, but ask yourself the following 2 questions
1) If he was cheating on his GF with you... what is to stop him cheating on you with someone else who takes his fancy?
2) If it was your BF and some girl was kissing him and writing lett... (read in full...)
My LDR is filling me with jealousy
Q. hi im a gay female new to the site and question is about long distance relationships; we been seeing eachother once a month for 6 months, been on holiday together and both say 'i love you' however i feel too lonely and pushed aside as her life...
A. 27 March 2012: Her BF knows about you and is happy with it? hmmmmm sweetpea I am going to say something that may upset you a little..... sounds like she has her cake and is eating it too!. You have every right to be jealous, if she is going home every nigh to her ... (read in full...)
My teenage sister has a crush on my male friend, how can I stop her getting hurt?
Q. i think my little sister has a crush on my best freind hes 20 as im i and shes 16 well 17 in 3 weeks. she has always been mega shy and never had a bf and hasnt even done anythink at all with a boy. ressenlty she has been cuddling up to him when w...
A. 27 March 2012: ooooh you are such a good big brother!!.... Now for the sad part. Nothing. Not a thing. All girls get their hearts broken at one stage or another. If you try and talk to her about it you risk embarrassing her... Maybe you could mention that your ... (read in full...)
I am in a LDR- how do I stop feeling jealous?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and we have been in a long distance relationship for exactly a month now. The first two weeks going really good, he would even stay friday nights in his home to Skype with me! I thought ''wow, this ...
A. 27 March 2012: This maybe difficult to understand, When I was your a long time ago I was forced to move away from my then boyfriend. At such a young age nothing we say will make it feel any better. Its painful and it hurts. Now with regard to your boyfriend, if ... (read in full...)
I am in a LDR- how do I stop feeling jealous?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and we have been in a long distance relationship for exactly a month now. The first two weeks going really good, he would even stay friday nights in his home to Skype with me! I thought ''wow, this ...
A. 27 March 2012: This maybe difficult to understand, When I was your a long time ago I was forced to move away from my then boyfriend. At such a young age nothing we say will make it feel any better. Its painful and it hurts. Now with regard to your boyfriend, if ... (read in full...)
Why on earth would a woman say something like that to her husband? Should I start playing the same game, to make her realize that I can stray if I am not getting what I want at home?
Q. My wife and I are in our mid 40's and have been married a long time. Lately she has been changing quite a bit: working out a lot, getting botox, wearing revealing clothes out with ner girlfriends, communicating with guys she used to know from high ...
A. 27 March 2012: Could be that she is starting to worry about her level of attractivness? Some womene struggle with getting older. This would explain the botox etc.. Maybe she no longer feels desirable? I would suggest you sit down and talk with ehr about it.... (read in full...)
My husband cant have sex with me so I found a lover, but now I have lost him too! What do I do now?
Q. FOur years down the married lane, I am still remain untouched by my husband. He has a medical condition of low testosterone, low libido, that is under treatment...and might take longer for him to actually sexually function. He has been loving, ...
A. 16 March 2012: Too late, you have hurt people. Its going to get worse. Unless you are willing to leave your husaband to "taste worldy pleaures" you need to leave your lover alone. He should be able to find a woman for himself and not have to share her. Your ... (read in full...)
Would it be needy if I said this to him?
Q. please answer this, I need opinions before tomorrow as I plan to do it then :/ Okay, so this fella and me drift apart and then get close again, and we haven't Been properly close for a while. But he has said he misses me and I really miss him in m...
A. 16 March 2012: Do it! its sweet and you will never know if you don't try... (read in full...)
How do I make him own up to his cheating without coming clean that I read his messages?
Q. As wrong as this sounds, I read my boyfriends messages.. and I found out he is cheating on me. Planning on paying a prostitute $30 an hour for sex, and planning on hooking up with her, I would of never guessed! He seems soo sweet, and wanting too do ...
A. 16 March 2012: This is confusing.... He cheated on you with a hooker and you are thinking about marrying him???? Ummm no I am with the other poster here, You should just walk away from this one.
Good luck... (read in full...)
How do I approach my girlfriend's weight issue?
Q. In the 3 years we have been together my GF has been slowly letting herself go physically to the point where I no longer find her attractive. When we met in college, she was more physically active on a daily basis but now she has an office job wh...
A. 16 March 2012: Honesty darling, Just honesty. Tell her gently exactly what you have told us. She may not realise how she is acting. If you are talking about potential children then this is something that you should be able to speak to her about. Its never easy but ... (read in full...)
My fiance broke my cell phone and wont pay for it, because of this he ruined our daughters birthday. Should I end the relationship?
Q. I was with my fiance for 3 years on and off..well in that time we have had numerous problems..for a while now I thought he really just has been using me for sex because all though he works and goes to school full time he makes little time for me if ...
A. 16 March 2012: Time to move om. Any showing of violance either at a wall or a phone is too much. We are humans not animals, we can control our tempers he sounds like and idiot. better off without him I say.
Good luck... (read in full...)
We broke up but still havr sex!
Q. i was with a woman for a about 2months. she ended it and said were not right for each other but she would like to be good friends. she hasnt had a relationship in years and her ex died years ago. that maybe why she ended it as she maybe scared but ...
A. 16 March 2012: Difficult question, She is making all the signs that you are together but seems frightened to fully commit.
I would suggest you treat it as a FWB situation until you get some clarity. You don't want to fall for this lady only to have her see some... (read in full...)
I don't want to because his ex did!
Q. i know that this may seem strange but im a jealous person and anyway my hubby ask me to give him blowjobs when im on my period and ive done it once but i just cant seem to do it anymore because his ex wife used to do that for him and blowjobs in the ...
A. 16 March 2012: Firstly figure out why you are so upset about the ex wife... he is not saying you are the ex wife it is jsut something that he likes. If you want to give him more oral sex than do so, if not then don't. Sex is about making your partner feel special ... (read in full...)
A friend old enough to be my grandfather told me I drank too much and then offered to have a FWB relationship with me
Q. Hi everyone! Hope you can help me with this. I am a student in a country different than my own. I made a lot of friends at university and in my new life. One of them is a lot older than me and an artist (he just turned sixty and I am in my mid ...
A. 16 March 2012: Dirty old man! You have done nothing wrong, I doubt he thought you would get that upset. He may have been just looking for a way to talk with you and come accross as someone who cares.... He is not someone who cares he is a disgusting old man.
N... (read in full...)
He is not listening to me. What I want now is his affection!
Q. My husband and I have participated in swinging, mostly me having encounters with other me and occasionally girls. My husband would get turned on by putting craigslist ads and inviting young men over and single women or couples to come over. It would ...
A. 16 March 2012: Wow, Time for your husband to have a reality check, You have every right to stop wanting to live that lifestyle. It seems between the moving and the broken shoulder things have gotten a little out of hand for you. Having men treat you like a "whore" ... (read in full...)
Gay man in a woman's body
Q. This is really confusing so please, take the time to read and try to understand. I'm a female but I have an extreme need to be a man, but gay. I don't know if this makes me straight or gay. I've been with both men and women but being with both doe...
A. 6 March 2012: Time to seek help... counselling or therapy.... (read in full...)
Gay man in a woman's body
Q. This is really confusing so please, take the time to read and try to understand. I'm a female but I have an extreme need to be a man, but gay. I don't know if this makes me straight or gay. I've been with both men and women but being with both doe...
A. 6 March 2012: Time to seek help... counselling or therapy.... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 3 June 2008: LOL, no no my dear, Averal has been smacked too. I told her in a PM that she was being very naughty and I asked her to think before replying ... I just think she is as passionate as you are my dear, Makes for facinating reading.
Not being ca... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 3 June 2008: Well this post has cused some mixed strong emotions.
Lady, I suggest you think really really long and hard about what you are doing, the concequences could be catastrophic.
DiovanLestat + Aevel.
Ouch much?
1) Aevel, let it go sweetheart. It... (read in full...)
Under what circumstances is a slap justifiable during an argument between spouses?
Q. Is it alright that a husband slaps his wife in the face during an argument? If so, under what circumstances is it justfiable?...
A. 24 April 2008: Yes I think I am with Aeval and all the others on this one... hitting / slapping a spouse is not acceptable even if it is a massive arguement. Female or male. Breaking limites ect.... just really not on!... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with him but now he's married! The pain is unbearable...
Q. I have been in love with my ex boyfriend for 7 years, we broke up 7 years ago. I cant explain how he made me feel, this is true love, I have thought about him almost every day since we broke up, I have been in another relationship that lasted 5 ...
A. 21 April 2008: Having once upon a time being in a similar situation, May I suggest professional help? Heartache can hurt like nothing else and its not a wound that will heal easily. I took time out for myself and all the other things your supposed to do and it ... (read in full...)
Did I scare him away by leaving a "freaky" message on his voicemail?
Q. Ok.. I am in some desperate need of advice. I just started dating one of my sisters friends. I met him a while ago but have only been talking to him for like 4 days. There is a strong sexual connection between us and really thats the only reason we ...
A. 18 April 2008: Did he know it was from you? Are you sure that he was as into you as you think? I would just call him and see what is going on.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and found out my boyfriend is still seeing his ex! I'm so sick and drained....
Q. Ok so im 5 and a half months pregnant and it was unplanned my bf is 5 years old than me. He was more pleased about the baby than i was and he wanted us to get married. But 2 weeks ago I found out he was still seeing his ex. He texts her everyday and ...
A. 18 April 2008: It sounds as if he is cheating. Although I can't be 100% sure. Confront him and ask him, maybe he is just scared. Even so he should be supporting you at this time. I know you love him but you must think about what is best for you and your baby. ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and found out my boyfriend is still seeing his ex! I'm so sick and drained....
Q. Ok so im 5 and a half months pregnant and it was unplanned my bf is 5 years old than me. He was more pleased about the baby than i was and he wanted us to get married. But 2 weeks ago I found out he was still seeing his ex. He texts her everyday and ...
A. 18 April 2008: It sounds as if he is cheating. Although I can't be 100% sure. Confront him and ask him, maybe he is just scared. Even so he should be supporting you at this time. I know you love him but you must think about what is best for you and your baby. ... (read in full...)
He changed his password after a suspicious voicemail. Should I break up?
Q. After I find out on my boyfriend's cell phone that another left a voicemail for him by calling him baby all that, so I ask him about it and he gets mad. Now he change his cell phone password. What is that telling you guys? To me I think he cheating ...
A. 18 April 2008: Sounds a bit odd to me... I would confront him, although many years ago the same thing happend to me and it turned out he was cheating....sigh, So I did what any woman would do....(we were living together) so before I left I hid his mobile phone in ... (read in full...)
I just had a baby but could I be pregnant AGAIN?!
Q. I just had a baby a month and a half ago and I had sex for the first time 6 days ago and continued all weekend but we used a condom. I know this is alot of detail but at one time we used the same condom for 2 to 4 hours and for the past 3 days I ...
A. 17 April 2008: Oh thank god, I was having nighmares last night!!
Still think it is a good idea to go and have some type of professional help.
At the very least learn how you become pregnant and then....Dont. Not until you get your life on track.
I think that i... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of my sister and compare myself to her. How can I stop feeling inferior?
Q. I'm jealous of my sister. Last year I started college. She's older. She had dropped out of Law School the year before. I'm studying English Education (I'm not from the USA nor UK). I was the best in my class last year. I felt really good be...
A. 17 April 2008: Take time to focus on yourself. It seems to me you are out of line comparing yourself to your sister. She is good at certain things and you are good at certain things..thats the way the world works.... at the end of the day she is your sister... try ... (read in full...)
I just had a baby but could I be pregnant AGAIN?!
Q. I just had a baby a month and a half ago and I had sex for the first time 6 days ago and continued all weekend but we used a condom. I know this is alot of detail but at one time we used the same condom for 2 to 4 hours and for the past 3 days I ...
A. 17 April 2008: I want to cry....... YOU ARE A BABY!!!! You just had one! is there no hope?? What is going on in America where this is acceptable?
The simple answer is yes. You are only supposed to use a condom ONCE!!!! Once you have used it chuck it away. If... (read in full...)
Is mood swings one of the side effects of weed and does it create addiction?
Q. Dose anybody know the side effects of smoking weed. I was dating this guy and he was so moody and I think it had something to do with him smoking weed all the time. He would even leave our dates to go smoke it and get up in the middle of the night ...
A. 17 April 2008: Wiki knows all!!... (read in full...)
Is mood swings one of the side effects of weed and does it create addiction?
Q. Dose anybody know the side effects of smoking weed. I was dating this guy and he was so moody and I think it had something to do with him smoking weed all the time. He would even leave our dates to go smoke it and get up in the middle of the night ...
A. 17 April 2008: Cannabis use has been linked to exacerbating the effects of psychosis, schizophrenia, bronchitis, and emphysema by several peer-reviewed studies for those who are vulnerable to such illnesses based on personal or family history. [52] More recently, ... (read in full...)
Is mood swings one of the side effects of weed and does it create addiction?
Q. Dose anybody know the side effects of smoking weed. I was dating this guy and he was so moody and I think it had something to do with him smoking weed all the time. He would even leave our dates to go smoke it and get up in the middle of the night ...
A. 17 April 2008: Cannabis use has been linked to exacerbating the effects of psychosis, schizophrenia, bronchitis, and emphysema by several peer-reviewed studies for those who are vulnerable to such illnesses based on personal or family history. [52] More recently, ... (read in full...)
We're trying to conceive, is there a chance I'm already pregnant or is my mind playing tricks on my body? What could you recommend? Any medications that may help?
Q. Hi i need real help, Im trying to have a baby with my husband but i cant seem to get pregnate and its really brothing me. ive been trying for about 2 months. he has a high sprem count everythings fine there. i went to the obgyn and she to...
A. 17 April 2008: Question, I have seen a few posts on this site and am wondering if it is an American Vs English and Australian or not... the word Pregnant. Is it Pregnant or pregnate? I believe it is Pregnant...
Ok your problem, If the doc has told you everythi... (read in full...)
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