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Husband of three months is pressuring me to live somewhere I don't care to be
Q. i have been with my husband for 10 months and married for 3. just recently we have both lost our jobs and we are in a right mess. before i met him i was very independent, had a good job, good car and savings. now i have nothing and he has dragged me ...
A. 18 April 2012: Tell him to go!... he won't , he is testing you and trying to bully you. Don't stand for it. You will see he will move back with you
Good luck... (read in full...)
Am I being too controlling here?
Q. My boyfriend likes to get attention for other women. I do also believe he fantasizes. However, It was a situation where I invited him to my friends’ party on a bar during St. Patrick’s Day. We lined up for an hour and we interchange some words with ...
A. 18 April 2012: Honestly? yeah you are. So you took him to a friends party where no one spoke to him and he was having an awful time. So rather than stand by your side all night and pout he made the best out of a bad situation. The girl he was dancing with came ... (read in full...)
Is this just a rough patch? Will things get better?
Q. Im a 20 year old mom of a 4 year old daughter. And in the past 4 years I have learned that I dont enjoy being a mom. I know that sound brutally honest but I cant help the way i feel. I love my daughter with all my heart dont get me wrong but Im not ...
A. 18 April 2012: Hello again
I am glad we were able to help, however just a little food for thought, although some people may not agree. I am just looking at things from another angle... Your mother may have thought she was doing the best thing for you. She coul... (read in full...)
I'm tired of feeling guilty for wanting sex all the time!
Q. Wife and I are in a nearly sexless relationship. We have two sets of twins that drive her near insanity, both work full time, and, obviously I want sex way more than she does. I masturbate a lot, but it's not the same as the real thing. She has ...
A. 17 April 2012: Get her help with the kids, then she may not be so tired and may be more inclined to have romantic nights?... (read in full...)
Completely infatuated with a girl at work but I'm her superior at work, I'm married and she has a boyfriend!
Q. Need help interpreting things. Completely infatuated with a girl at work. I think mainly because I feel that I would occasionally get some vibes... Don't want to misinterpret anything. She's really cute, slightly shy. Plays with her...
A. 17 April 2012: possibly... all she has done is play with her hair and maintain eye contact. As you are her boss she may feel nervous talking to you. Eye contact is something everyone has? Besides you are Married. Walk away, No good can come of this.... (read in full...)
I tried to help my friend out but it has totally backfired on me! What should I do?
Q. A past friend of mine recently got in contact with me. She moved to a U.S territory down south (Puerto Rico) and her family is not very well off now (single mom). Her mom needed a cell phone ASAP but the company doesnt deliver to her country, so she ...
A. 17 April 2012: These are not friends, Give them the update and move on. This is not your problem you tried to do the right thing and they are being awful... time to move on and forget them... (read in full...)
Is this just a rough patch? Will things get better?
Q. Im a 20 year old mom of a 4 year old daughter. And in the past 4 years I have learned that I dont enjoy being a mom. I know that sound brutally honest but I cant help the way i feel. I love my daughter with all my heart dont get me wrong but Im not ...
A. 17 April 2012: Thank you for your honesty. It cant be easy admitting this. However you are not alone in your struggle. many many teenage girls have babies deciding that it is a wonderful idea, flash forward past the cute baby stage and now you have a kid to look ... (read in full...)
Is this just a rough patch? Will things get better?
Q. Im a 20 year old mom of a 4 year old daughter. And in the past 4 years I have learned that I dont enjoy being a mom. I know that sound brutally honest but I cant help the way i feel. I love my daughter with all my heart dont get me wrong but Im not ...
A. 17 April 2012: Thank you for your honesty. It cant be easy admitting this. However you are not alone in your struggle. many many teenage girls have babies deciding that it is a wonderful idea, flash forward past the cute baby stage and now you have a kid to look ... (read in full...)
Tattoos and Relationships
Q. Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
A. 17 April 2012: I have tattoos. I have them in places that only I can see. I did not just get drunk and have something done. I have 3 and each one was done in a different country and after I had done something (ie climb Mt Fuji). Tats are not deal breakers for me. ... (read in full...)
Really unhappy in this relationship, is it just me? Or is he actually treating me badly?
Q. So ive been with my current bf a year and this is my first serious relationship and we live together. He however is a divorcee who has been in several committed realtionships. (He is a decade older than me.) Ive been seriously debating whether...
A. 17 April 2012: Time to bail on this one sweetpea. He sounds terrible. Go and be with people who are supportive and caring. Once you are back on your feet you will feel much better and stronger able to make better choices. This idiot sounds like he is going to suck ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think I'm not attractive and no guy could like me
Q. Hey everyone, I'm a 17 year old girl and I have a little something on my mind, and just wanted to know if you had some advice. So I was at a party last night, and hooked up with a guy that goes to my school, and it didn't mean anything to me. We ...
A. 17 April 2012: I think it is time for a boost of self esteem. Although we have all been drunk at parties, you were about to hook up with someone you didn't even like? I would start to ask yourself why you were doing that?
17 is a hard age, it is difficult to fit ... (read in full...)
Why is he starting to act like this when we have been broken up for 4 weeks?
Q. my boyfriend and i of 17 months broke up march 15th we have a 8 month old daughter.... he has been saying he is dating someone we stopped talking and stopped seeing each other i had begged him over and over and over for 3 days i texted him none stop ...
A. 13 April 2012: Its called having your cake and eating it too. He is getting sex from two women and not having to take any responsibility.
This man is supposed to be a father and you a mother. Its time for you to step away from him unitl he grows up. You have... (read in full...)
Does his smile mean anything?
Q. There is an older man who I have a huge crush on, we talk and flirt alot and he always gives me this strange kind of cheeky smile. While hes talking to me he will smile, not a huge smile more like a smirk and its always while we are making eye ...
A. 13 April 2012: I agree with the below comment. Because you have a crush you maybe reading too much into this.
Many people smile or smirk when they are talking.
If you want to know maybe just ask him directly?
Good luck... (read in full...)
How should I dress for this new job?
Q. So I start my new job in a few days and you think i would be nervous about the job or that and i'm meeting a new group of people who i'll be working with for the next month. But instead i'm more worried about my outfit! I want to make a great ...
A. 13 April 2012: No one is going to care what you dress in. As long as you are professional and tidy.
As a business woman who wears heels all day every day don't do it unless you know how to walk in them and are used to them, Nothing worse than seeing a woman wh... (read in full...)
Why does he get all weird when we talk in person?
Q. Hey y'all umm well I am 16 and I'm having problems with this boy right now. Typical blah blah. But I really like this kid and well he texts me and I asked him what his friends would think if he was talking to me. ' cause I know what my friends would ...
A. 11 April 2012: If he really liked you he would talk to oyu. Sounds like there is something else going on here. Tell him to start talking to you in person or to forget txting you.
Boys at 16 are so very confusing..... ha ha ha... (read in full...)
Will he ever change or should I just give up?
Q. my partner of 2.5 years and I booked a holiday recently, I previously took him away and paid for everything, he is non working and his mum always gives him money as he lies constantly to her to get her to feel sorry and give him funds. he is 40 and ...
A. 11 April 2012: this guy sounds like bad news.......... cut and run honey.... (read in full...)
My friend's husband flirts with me and a mutual female friend is causing problems, should I just end the friendship alltogether?
Q. I am a mixed race girl and I do not have many real friends and treasure the few that I do. A couple of days ago my married friend celebrated her 40th birthday with a party at home. She is white and married to a black guy with two children. I ha...
A. 11 April 2012: Is it possible you are over reacting? Is it possible that your friends husband was just trying to make you feel pretty/ good / nice becuase he knows you hare having problmes in your relationship? He stopped once you told him you were uncomfortable. ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with triplets and found out through text messages that my fiance is planning on leaving me to be with my cousin. Do I confront him?
Q. well where do I start... Hmmm I know well let's start off by saying Im 20 years old and 5 months pregnant with triplets. Thats right 3 kids all at once. Don't get me wrong I am excited for my little ones to get here but.... I'm going through ...
A. 11 April 2012: Oh Dear god.... some humans should be shot!
This is terrible, you poor darling. Please make sure you have friends and family around you to support you and help you and make sure you take care of yourself and your babies.
You are better off w... (read in full...)
Should I wait around and help my G/f with her life or do what is best for me?
Q. Hello, I am a sophomore in college and things were going great the first year but I've slipped into a huge rut this second year. Anyways, I have been in a great relationship for just over 3 years now. She is my high school sweet heart. Whe...
A. 11 April 2012: Sounds lieks she needs some professional help in getting her life back on track. Not somehting you can give her... suggest counselling?
Whatever your choice is you must remember that you have to come first. You are young and you only get one shot... (read in full...)
Who is right, me or my wife? And what advice do we give our friends?
Q. I searched the internet for advice sites, and I ended up here. We (my wife and I) have a question. We have some friends who are a little younger than us (mid 20's). They are engaged to be married. The Guy has an apartment, and the Girl moved back ...
A. 11 April 2012: I hope they have lots of money to replace everything. I would remind them that they are getting MARRIED. Petty things like this are not important, rings, sheets or beds. Time to look at the big picture.
Soon they will be man and wife, and no doubt... (read in full...)
Over-analyser and compulsive worrier! Help!
Q. Okay, so I have a problem with over analysing the situations where I find out a guy likes me. Basically, a friend of mine has recently made it known to my best friend that he likes me, and I don't know what to do! I get upset when I feel like...
A. 11 April 2012: hee hee hee, perfeclty normal. Welcome to being a woman!!
Take the plunge and see what happens.... We all have to. It gets easier with time sweetpea
Good luck... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is obsessed with my ex and is now asking me to compare her to my ex in every way, physically, mentally, sexually. Is this weird?
Q. girlfriend obsessed with exes, attacks me verbally. ive been with this girl for almost 11 monthes. some days she begins to think about my ex, she goes on her twitter page, facebook etc. . .then she brings her up at least 4 times a week telling m...
A. 11 April 2012: Yep, very weird.
Try and talk to her and find out why she feels this way. You may end up in a fight but better to have a little fight now than her feel this way long term and you having to put up with the behaviour.
There maybe an underly... (read in full...)
He's talking to an ex on Facebook, but is upset that I'm talking to another of his exes too!
Q. so i have a problem. my boyfriend has been talking to his ex on facebook all the time. I told him when he first added her i didn't like it but yet he still talks to her. well now another one of his ex's added me on facebook. me and my boyfriend are ...
A. 11 April 2012: Rather than talking to his ex girlfriend about your issues maybe you should be talking to him? Let me ask you something,If he added your ex boyfriend on FB and started talking about your relationship how would you feel? The relationship you have ... (read in full...)
This girl I work with is cheating on her fiance! Should I tell him or stay out of it?
Q. Should I say something? Or say out of it? There is a girl Ive worked with at work that I got to know very well. Ive even met her fiance about four or five times when he stops over at are work to pick her up which they will be getting married ...
A. 11 April 2012: Totally stay out of this one... Unless you want to invite more drama into your life? It will come out evenutally. You can then just be there for him as a friend.
These are always ugly situations
However I would mention to her that you have se... (read in full...)
I am healthy, but have erectile dysfunction, without a reason, what should I do?
Q. I'm a healthy guy in my late 40"s. But I have some pretty disturbing problem, and I don't know what to do.So I have erectile dysfunction, and I have no idea why. I had a very high sex drive, but now, I have no wish to have sex at all, and when I ...
A. 5 April 2012: Time for a second opinion from youur doctors. It can be many things, stress, diet, age, pressure or maybe an underlying issue....
Get a second opinion is my suggestion
Good luck
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I told him I love him, he told his friends, they are laughing at me, how do I stop them?
Q. Dear cupid, I fall in love so easily and I think I know why. I believe im searching for the male figure in my life because my dad left when i was little. But recently... i really fell in love with a guy and i told him now all his friends are laug...
A. 5 April 2012: awwww sweetheart, You cant. These are juswt silly little boys. Dont worry eventually they will find something else to laugh about. :) ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any wise words of advice for online dating?
Q. I have finally made a break from a relationship that has not been going anywhere for years and I did not want to waste anymore time. I did fall for someone I used to work with and the feeling of attraction was mutual but neither of us moved it f...
A. 5 April 2012: Ok, whilst internet dating can be fun, You must also be very careful. Dont put too much personal info in your accounts (ie no email addresses or phone numbers). Make sure that whatever photo's you put online are ones you would be happy for anyone to ... (read in full...)
Could my baby look like my lover?
Q. If a woman is pregnant and sleeps with another man can the baby have features of the man who is not the father?...
A. 3 April 2012: Tubes... Tie them after this baby is born.... (read in full...)
How do I uninvite a former friend to my wedding?
Q. Hello everyone. I feel really down from time to time because of this. Right now I'm in a loving relationship, and I could not ask for anything more. He's the one for me, and I'm the one for him. There's no question about it. However, before h...
A. 3 April 2012: I would just call her or write to her, Tell her that you know everything and you think it would be best if you no longer have contact with her nor come to your wedding. Take the high road, wish her all the best for her future and then don't respond ... (read in full...)
He's 21 years older than me, I'm 7 years older than his son. Can it work?
Q. Im straight out of college and 22. I have started working a law firm as a secretary, there are two partners. I am a secretary for only one. A few months ago a partner asked me to dinner I turned him down and he asked a few more times but I kept ...
A. 3 April 2012: he is everything I ever wanted smart, handsome, wonderful career.
I love him so much but I don't want to be the weird couple or the couple who every talks about.
Honey, You are very young you will find someone your own agae tht you can grow onl... (read in full...)
How likely is it to get pregnant if you use condoms correctly?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we've both been wanting to have sex for awhile now but I am deathly afraid of getting preagnant and yes, we have condoms but I'm scared they'll fail and I can't get birth control because we have ...
A. 3 April 2012: Difficult to say, depends. Lots can happen. There should be a disclaimer inside the box of condoms with the statistics and data on it. YOu also need to think about what if the condom breaks?
If I may offer a small peice of advice? With Sex come... (read in full...)
I don't know how to respond to this girl anymore
Q. Hello. Im this kind of girl who s shy, dont like hurting people and i believe i got a great personality. I have a friend(nt close friend) who s moody. Me and her are used to say stupid things to one another then we laugh all together. Yesterday i ...
A. 3 April 2012: She sounds horrible. I say ignore her and find new friends.
Good luck sweetheart.... (read in full...)
How do I go about finding a girlfriend?
Q. How do you get a girlfriend? At 36 I feel I really missed out and I dont see anyone coming in the foreseeable future as I still live with my parents and rarely go out. I cannot afford my own place and everyone I know has a girlfriend before sharing ...
A. 3 April 2012: Honey, no one is going to want a 35 year old man who still lives with mum and dad. Time to figure out a way to get your own place. Get into things you like doing and then you will find someone that y ou have things in common with...
All tbe best... (read in full...)
Pregnant with my present boyfriend, problem is I still love my ex!
Q. I dont know how to say this. i have a problem now, i am now pregnant with my boyfriend for 8 months. and now, i dont love him anymore. i have an ex boyfriend which we lasted for 9 years, i dont know what to do because i still have the feelings for ...
A. 3 April 2012: I don't think this site can help you. Professional help is needed here. Speak to your doctor about this and get some assistance. Please.... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in a faux relationship! She broke up with me but still expects me to fund her!
Q. Hello people I wonder if you can help me I am in a big big dilemna in my life at the moment, 8 months ago while I was travelling around in north america, I hooked up with my 'girlfriend' who i stayed with for 3 1/2 months to cut a long story ...
A. 3 April 2012: Run away!!! find normal nice people to associate yourself with... I wouldnt even look back!
Run......... hills.......... Now .......Go.... (read in full...)
He hit me so I broke up with him, problem is I love him so much I cant move on! Help!
Q. Hello.. I been dating with my bf for 6 years. He is 8 years older than me.Make long story short I broke up with him 2 days ago. The reason is we had agurment and he end it up hit me. I was so scared when he hit me. I was angry. I decited to leave ...
A. 3 April 2012: Stop speaking to him now, tell your friends and family what has happend as they will support you and stop you going back to this idiot. He is NOT in love with you.
men who love women do not hit them.... That simple. Real men don't need to hit wome... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 3 April 2012: Depends... If you are serious about making your marriage work then no don't tell him, YOu wnat to confess to make you feel better not him. this will hurt him and there is a chance you will loose him.
Having said that, if you really can't not tell... (read in full...)
Boyfriend suddenly working late. Is he cheating?
Q. Hello, im slightly worried dont know if im paranoid but, but my gut feeling is telling me my boyfriend is cheating on me, and your gut instinct is always right, right? My boyfriend works at a m.o.t place not far from where i live. He normally...
A. 3 April 2012: I think there could be something else going on here. Not just work. If he has broken your trust before then you know in your own self what the answer is. trust your instincts normally they are correct.
Good luck... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my childish, immature husband?
Q. Hi I need some advise on how to cope and deal with my childish husband. Ill try keep it brief and give a few examples, Over the past few days we have had to make 2 journeys, 1 on Friday should of took 40 mins but ended up being an hour and half...
A. 3 April 2012: He makes threats and things? Has gotten his family involved out of a temper? Packs his bags and leaves??? Honey you are better off without this man in your life. Nothing really left to say. Its not like he is ever going to change.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Boyfriend "liked" the picture of a half nude girl on Facebook. Do I have the right to be upset? Or is this nothing and I'm making too big of a deal out of it?
Q. So before you read this you have to realize that I'm not one of those controlling girlfriends that get jealous over everything. 'Cause the thing is, I'm not like that at all! I could care less if my boyfriend hangs out with other girls because I ...
A. 2 April 2012: Relax, He is a young boy with hormones.... be more worried if he didn't like the pic!
Just take it in your stride, You will get a better result :)... (read in full...)
Wife's friend is dating her ex, and I overheard them talking about his penis. I'm not happy!
Q. Should I be pissed off or not. My wife's friend is really hitting on a guy who used to date my wife. I overheard them talking, and my wife said that this guy was a really nice guy. Will take her out to nice places, and buy her stuff. Then she said ...
A. 28 March 2012: Total over reaction. No disrespect was done to you or your marriage. It was an off handed comment that was said between her and her friend. You should be ashamed eaves dropping. Your insecurities will drive your wife away if you are not careful.
Y... (read in full...)
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