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Heya

My name is tasha

im 14 years old

i have 2 horses named Ginny & Romany

2 cats, piggles and narla.

I live with my sister, my mum & my dad...

Im from cornwall...

Im in year 10 (fourth year or 10th grade) Of high school or secondary school, what ever you call it!

r.i.p Bazil, ill miss you forever. 24/8/08

Thats is

~tasha xxx

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1 October 2008: Why do so many people think that if you’re a virgin you don’t need to use a condom? Yes I’m 13 but I know what can happen if you don’t use one… yes I am still a virgin before you jump to conclusions! But the points in condoms are 1) To stop you f...

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I have no real friends. Is there something wrong with me?

Q.   i have just realized i have no friends. There are people i hang out with at school and stuff but they are not REAL friends. and i feel extremely lonely. Since last moth i have become detached from people...i've stopped going out at the weekend ...

A.   17 May 2008: Join an after school club? then you can meet some new kids who defo have the same interests as you =D I hope this helps tasha x... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my teacher. Should I follow my heart?

Q.   Hey!!Ok i've got abit of a problem i'm in love with my teacher but there's a 15 year age gap i'm 12 he's 27!!And has a girlfriend some people say follow your heart but other people say don't be so stupid!!I've a feeling that if i follow i could get ...

A.   17 May 2008: um, somehow i doubt you are in love with him, at our age, our hormones are like Rawwwr let me out! kinnda thing (sorry about the way i put that, bit hyper =] ) Um so, just ignore it, it will go away! Hope this helps tasha x... (read in full...)

She says I'm all that she is looking for in a guy but that she still doesn't like me "in that way", why?

Q.   ok, this is actualy a really odd situation im an incredibley feminine teenager infact im bisewxual (i know that doesnt necessarily make you feminine, i just happen to be) i only actualy have 2 friends in the whole world, and i have had incredibl...

A.   6 May 2008: I think it is because you have been friends for a long time she is scared to ruin the realationship you already have. Explain to her, you like her, but are happy just to stay friends if you are, if not, try not to think about it, it may just fade. I... (read in full...)

Is he sending off signals or is he just friendly?

Q.   Ok so there’s this boy (lets call him A) who’s 1 year older than me who I have a crush on. Well basically I’m confused about his feelings towards me. Yesterday me my best friend (G), her boyfriend (R) and A went out together. Because G and R are ...

A.   4 May 2008: Well i would ask him out and see what happens =D Love tasha x... (read in full...)

How can I stop "Mr Perfect" from trying to force me to have sex?

Q.   Everyone thinks my bf is perfect! He portrays this Mr Nice Guy act but Im not too sure how REAL that image is. His family think hes a perfect catholic boy who treats women with respect. My family think the same. And my friends, they think hes the ...

A.   4 May 2008: Oh yeah, and remember, tell him that when he is forcing you, its attempted rape, as you dont want to have sex with him.... (read in full...)

My mom says my girlfriend is taking advantage of me. Is she right?

Q.   ok so here is the deal.. my mom tells me my gf of 7 months now is taking advantage of me. in this short time she has given up her apartment in an attempt to move in with her dad but she is never at his house she is at my house 5 days out of the ...

A.   4 May 2008: I think she is taking advantage of you, explain to her you want more help with paying bills etc. and would appreciate her asking to use your car in the future, if she does not accept these terms then finish it with her! I hope this helps Love ... (read in full...)

He says he loves me but not in love with me?

Q.   Hi...well i will try to keep it brief i have been married for 10yrs together for 17yrs we have been separated for 10 weeks now was kind of a mutual spilt but i think he went on to see someone else...contact has been very limited...but over the last ...

A.   4 May 2008: i think what he means by 'He loves you but he isnt in love with you' is that he cares for you deeply and loves you but not romantically... i think he may just be confused over how he feels about you, and is trying to convince you he isnt comming ... (read in full...)

How can I stop "Mr Perfect" from trying to force me to have sex?

Q.   Everyone thinks my bf is perfect! He portrays this Mr Nice Guy act but Im not too sure how REAL that image is. His family think hes a perfect catholic boy who treats women with respect. My family think the same. And my friends, they think hes the ...

A.   4 May 2008: Im getting the vibe this guy is a two faced jerk! Explain to him your veiws and say, i want to wait untill i know im in love/married or whatever your veiw on having sex is... If he doesnt understand that, then dump him! He isnt worth you feel... (read in full...)

Help I've made a bit of a mess of things with bf and his cousin!

Q.   well eight months ago i met this boy. i'm 14 and he'd just turned 17 and we really got to like eachother. one day he kissed me and everything was great. i also talk to his cousin on msn, and his cousin told me that the boy i liked had a girlfriend. ...

A.   4 May 2008: As i said before on your previous post, tell you boyfriend that what you said to his cousin was cruel, and you were just upset... I hope this helps good luck love and hugs Tasha x... (read in full...)

I was told by a girl I hardly know that my bf has been cheating on me with my best friend. My bf says it's not true but I don't believe him, and I'm pregnant too, what shall I do??

Q.   hi everyone ok so heres the story, me and my boyfriend love each other very much but we drive each other mad. we were at the mall with his bestfriend and his gf. well me and her were hanging out while the guys did there own thing and we started ...

A.   3 May 2008: That girl is probably jelous of you and your boyfriend and wants you boyfriend, but i would talk to him about it. Explain to him the you are pregnant etc. if he loves you as anonymous female said, he should stay with you =D I hope this helps g... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend and don't want to leave him but how do I deal with his flirting with others and watching porn?

Q.   hey me n my frends called up my bf n my friends flirted with him pretendin 2 b sum1 else. he flirted bak wid dem which really hurt me, dis isnt the 1st tym he has done this, also he watches a lot porn which really hurts me. i really love him. we...

A.   3 May 2008: Explain to him, that his habits i.e. flirting and watching porn are really upsetting you and you want him to stop. If he loves you then he will probably stop. I hope this helps Good luck Tasha x... (read in full...)

I thought he did not want me anymore so I told his cousin I liked him. I was wrong, how can I make it right again?

Q.   well like a few months ago me and this boy were getting really close, on the phone every night for like 2 hours and everything, and then it went down to like one night a week and i felt like he didn't really want me anymore and so i did the stupid ...

A.   3 May 2008: Just say you were really upset about what happend between you both and just tell him it was stupid and unfair, and you want to be friends again? I hope this helps message me anytime tasha x... (read in full...)

I am shy and stutter when this boy is near, what should I say to him?

Q.   how I feel. Kay. So here goes everything. I really like this guy, right? But he doesn't notice me. And thinks i'm wierd. Plus, his girlfriend just broke up with him. I think he's probably the coolest person i know. And he's uber hot. Idk. I...

A.   3 May 2008: Why dont you send him a note about how you feel and the reasons why you ran off? He will probably understand =] Feel free to message me any time okii hun because ive been through that aswell! Hope this helps Good luck Love & Hugs tasha x... (read in full...)

Are my feelings for my beautiful teacher only a crush that will wear off?

Q.   i no this is wierd but i really really fancy my teacher. i cant stop staring at her. She has blond shoulder lenghed hair, blue eyes, fantastic skin. I just really want to touch her hips and kiss her. I have had dreams about her many times. Shal...

A.   3 May 2008: Well, actually its not that weird for teenagers to have crushes on our teachers, as our hormones are raging etc. it is just a crush, it will wear off =D Hope this helps tasha x... (read in full...)

I don't think my friend is in love with me but he wants sex. What should I do?

Q.   im 14 and i hav a freind with benifits whos also 14 (hes my Xboyfreind). we have been seeing eachother for about 5 months and i hav already givin him oral sex. My freinds and family all say that he doesnt deserve me and that i can do better and at ...

A.   3 May 2008: I dont think you should because, if you dont think he actually likes you whats the point? He will probably tell someone if you do have sex with him and everyone will think he is a stud and you are a slut... thats the way it works, guys get praise ... (read in full...)

Does he like me more than "Just Friends"?

Q.   does he like me more than freinds? Question Details: me and him knew each other for a long time like 5 years ago than we broke out. he met agian recently he lives in california me in ny he is going to be in california just for one year than go...

A.   3 May 2008: Have you met him? if you have, has he tried to kiss you or anything? Because if he did, i think he likes you *Thats obvious tasha... sorry* But if he hasnt tried to kiss you or said anything that could be classed as flirtatious then i think his ... (read in full...)

Are these signs he's blatantly flirting?

Q.   We met twice a year and a half ago, and since then we've keeping in touch by email. At first he was more like friendly (well we are friends, as nothing else has happened) but in his notes he's called me one of his favorite ladies down here (the guy ...

A.   3 May 2008: i think he either really likes you or just cares very deeply about you, it is very hard to answer a question like this as i know nothing about this person... but maybe you could visit him or something and see how things go from there. Hope this help... (read in full...)

Boyfriend wants space to see if he's happier or less happy without me? What does this mean?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. A week ago he said he needs some space to decide whether he's happier with or without me. I admit that I have been picking fights almost weekly and that probably pushed him away. He said this ...

A.   3 May 2008: I think he just wants to work out for himself how much you mean to him, as he wants space he probably just wants to see how much he wants to see you when he has set himself a goal not to, if you get what i mean? I hope this helps good luck Lo... (read in full...)

We are in love, but she is a Catholic and I am a Protestant. Should I convert?

Q.   Am in love with this lady who loves me back. Trouble is that I really dont know where our relationship is going because she has issues with me being a Protestant yet she is Catholic. Question one: Is it wise for me to convert for the sake of the ...

A.   3 May 2008: i feel that love should not be controlled by the walls of two seperate churches. If you love her, then marry her, but if it is such a big deal to her and her family then just follow your heats, you should come to the right choice, just do whatever ... (read in full...)

Surely I'm not the only one who's dug the biggest hole she could dig and now cant see a way out?

Q.   hi. i am in a realtionship and have been with him 12 yrs. and through this 12 yrs i have had cancer and nearly lost my 3 month old son. etc..he hs stood by me through thick and thin. we have not had an easy time. my partner loves me very much. but i ...

A.   3 May 2008: Well, the answer to the question 'Why are you writing this to us' is that you probably just want someone to vent to... I honestly dont know what the answer to your question is, as i havent been through that situation yet, as im only 12 years old,... (read in full...)

My teacher flirts with me and other girls when there is no adult in the room? What should I do?

Q.   Hi i'm 13 and i'm in year 9 and last year my maths teacher (who everone says is a perve including me) he acted so weird around me and it got on my nerves he flirts with a lot of girls when there is no teachers in the room but it's piss taking cause ...

A.   3 May 2008: My bad! Sorry didnt mean to add the answer twice lol =P... (read in full...)

Is a relationship between us worth my ex's familiy hating me, and my ex and the cousin fighting?

Q.   I wanted to know if it's ok to go out with my ex boyfriends cousin.... My ex is 15, im 16 and his cousin has just left school last year.... It was at my ex's place and his cousin and me where sleaping over.... through the night he tried it ...

A.   3 May 2008: Well, this is quite difficult to answer, are you sure you would want someone you loves family to hate you and the person you love? I would ask your ex if he would be ok with that, as you dont want to upset him too much... I hope this helps =D Love ... (read in full...)

My friends are so unpredictable towards me is this normal?

Q.   me and my three friends used to be best friend. now one is my mortal enemy and the other one is still my friend. kinda. one day she treats me like trash and the next day shes really nice to me. i dont know if shes my friend or not. but tr...

A.   3 May 2008: Explain to her, you feel she isnt being too kind to you and you would rather she acted one way towards you or the other, but say it to her gently... I hope this helps love & hugs Message me any time! tasha x... (read in full...)

He doesn't fancy me so why is doing all this flirty sex stuff?

Q.   there is this lad.; who is about 8 years older than me, we have been m8z for quite a few years. wen we first met i had a huge crush on him, which he found out about. but then got over it. recently, over the past year he has been relaly flirty over ...

A.   3 May 2008: I think he does like you, i would approch him about it. And maybe ask him out for a date or something? I hope this helps Love & Hugs Tasha x... (read in full...)

Should your bf keep pics of a hot girl from the past on his phone?

Q.   After a few years with a boyfriend---if a friend sends him a picture of some hot girl--like from the internet or something to his phone, isn't it rude and a little disrespectful of the boyfriend to KEEP that picture or video in his phone? Afte...

A.   3 May 2008: I personally dont think your being out of line, your just worried about the outcome of him looking at the images and videos and may not be happy enough with you... just talk to him about how you feel about this. Hope this helps Love & Hugs tash... (read in full...)

My teacher flirts with me and other girls when there is no adult in the room? What should I do?

Q.   Hi i'm 13 and i'm in year 9 and last year my maths teacher (who everone says is a perve including me) he acted so weird around me and it got on my nerves he flirts with a lot of girls when there is no teachers in the room but it's piss taking cause ...

A.   3 May 2008: OMG! You should tell you head teacher about what he is doing! Make sure you get evidence from girls who have seen him flirt with you or he has flirted with. That popular girl is probably jelous of you for some unknown reason... tell her 1) You dont... (read in full...)

I'm VERY SAD, I'm 13 and I need help with love!

Q.   hey, here is my deal i broke up with my gf because i liked her but i love one of my best friends. so i broke up with my gf for my best friend. i told my best friend i love her and she sed she used to love me but i was to busy chasing other girls. s...

A.   3 May 2008: Well, i dont literally mean kill you, she just wont be best pleased... =-S... (read in full...)

He flirts with me but he has a girlfriend

Q.   ok...so I like a guy that has a girlfriend, I have him in a class and he flirts with me sometimes , and I really like him.... I dont know what to do! should I just forget about him and move on? or should I start flirting with him back? help!...

A.   3 May 2008: Well, dont flirt with him back, it will just cause more problems! I think you should make sure he is defo flirting, by next time he is flirting ask him... and if he is explain that he must remember, he has a girlfriend.. I would just move on, as h... (read in full...)

How do I avoid being intimidated and crying because of the bullies' nasty comments?

Q.   Hi, i'm 13 and at school a lot of people say really mean things to me which i will never able to forget it has happened so many times that it feels like i'm being bullied by people my own age just cause their all popular and I am not, and most of t...

A.   3 May 2008: I was bulled, what you should so is ignore them, they will get bord of teasing you eventually. They are just being immature, thinking they are big and clever making someone feel small and usless... Tell a teacher what is going on, but ask them to ... (read in full...)

My teacher flirts with me and other girls when there is no adult in the room? What should I do?

Q.   Hi i'm 13 and i'm in year 9 and last year my maths teacher (who everone says is a perve including me) he acted so weird around me and it got on my nerves he flirts with a lot of girls when there is no teachers in the room but it's piss taking cause ...

A.   3 May 2008: OMG! He should not be doing that! Report him to your head teacher & also get evedence it happend from other girls who either saw him flirting etc. or girls who he has perved over too. Try to explain to that popular girl 1) You dont honestly... (read in full...)

I'm VERY SAD, I'm 13 and I need help with love!

Q.   hey, here is my deal i broke up with my gf because i liked her but i love one of my best friends. so i broke up with my gf for my best friend. i told my best friend i love her and she sed she used to love me but i was to busy chasing other girls. s...

A.   2 May 2008: Well, why exactly did you dump your girlfriend in the first place? If you loved her, you should have stayed with her, also if you like your best friend why didnt you date her in the first place? It would have been soo much simpler. Dont try and go ... (read in full...)

My mum treats her boyfriend badly but he never does anything around the house

Q.   Well the problem is not mine but it is a relationship problem. my mum has a new boyfriend and theyve been dating for almost a year but never seem to have a stable relationship, she is an alcoholic and treats him badly sometimes and causes him to walk...

A.   2 May 2008: Just keep out of there arguing, you cant do anyhting about it, to be honest! Its adult problems, trust me you will get in trouble if you try to help... adults are annoying aren't they?... (read in full...)

Is it okay to give your male teacher a hug and a kiss on the cheek as a way of saying thanks?

Q.   Hiya everybody so I was just wondering if it would be okay to give a male teacher a hug and a a kiss on the cheek. Our exam results would be coming out soon and if they are good me and my friends and classmates are going to thank all our teac...

A.   2 May 2008: I think it is, if you are friends with that teacher, but if not, i wouldnt.... (read in full...)

I have several marks from cats' claws, people believe I self-harm though! How can I stop them?

Q.   Heya! I have a problem, no i do not self harm dont worry! I have loads of cuts on my arms, from cats claws... and loads of people think i self-harm because of it, i try and explain to them, but they dont listen, what can i do to stop people cal...

A.   28 April 2008: Uncle_Phil, thats mean!!!!!!!!!! I love my cats... even if they dont love me ... =] Lol still quite funny, i would never do that, but it's quite funny =P Thanks dudes and dudettes!... (read in full...)

I like my GF's best friend. How will I get over her?

Q.   hey im 14 have a girlfriend that is great im doing well in school and just have a good life in general. One problem i like my gfs bestfriend. I know i would never stand a chance with her because im ugly. Basically im asking for any advice on how t...

A.   28 April 2008: just try not to think about it and eventually, it will go away. =]... (read in full...)

Does anyone know how to make my skinny legs bigger? I need to gain weight!

Q.   Hiya Everyone Just a quick question!! Does anyone no the best foods to eat to help me put on weight, i eat everything and anything all day long i have 3 meals a day and snack big time inbetween, but it doesnt go anywhere and i desperatly wan...

A.   23 April 2008: Do running and drink protein shake things (They may taste horrid but trust me they work!) running will make your legs muscley! YAAY MUSCLE! (Sorry im a tad hyper) Hope this helps tasha xxx... (read in full...)

Liked this girl for a few years, how do I tell her without getting freaked out??

Q.   Im 13, currently in school (obviously) and i really like a friend of mine (same age), although i dont know if she likes me as much as i like her. She smiles when she greets me, she helps me alot, but she also yells at me and gets angry at me for no ...

A.   23 April 2008: lol! Dont we know it Realationships are fusterating! just ask me or dreamingz we know all about how hard having crushes can be... Sorry if im a bit late. But maybe you could write something along the lines of Dear _____________ Hope y... (read in full...)

I have broken my boyfriends heart by kissing another girl, how can we get over this?

Q.   I am a Fetish model and i had a shoot with another girl.I had to kiss her during the shoot,my boyfriend was there and he was okay with that.For a long time he has wanted me to have a sexual encounter with a girl while he was there.I have considered ...

A.   23 April 2008: I’m sorry this first bit isn’t to-do with the question but, That anonymous male reader, you are incredibly sexist, come up to the times it is no more a woman’s place just to be in the kitchen! And also I don’t see why she would be supervis... (read in full...)

Liked this girl for a few years, how do I tell her without getting freaked out??

Q.   Im 13, currently in school (obviously) and i really like a friend of mine (same age), although i dont know if she likes me as much as i like her. She smiles when she greets me, she helps me alot, but she also yells at me and gets angry at me for no ...

A.   23 April 2008: Do you sit with her in any lessions? If you do, talk to her then. And if your too shy to ask her face to face, give her a note... =D And as dreamingz said, give her birthday cards, christmas cards etc.!... (read in full...)

I feel ugly: how can I make myself pretty and should I put my trust into this 'genuine' lad?

Q.   im told so often that im ugly that now i believe it when i look in the mirror i cant stand what i see. its my nose mainly - its horrible massive n deformed, it basicly ruins my whole face! also my lips look big n so do my eyebrows, my face is just ...

A.   20 April 2008: Beauty is only skin deep, just show your personality, be yourself and you'll be fine! Blessed be ~Tasha... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend but people say he's a hamster, so is he worth it?

Q.   heyahh i love my boy friend so much but i get picked on and bullyed so bad that i have started self harming is it worth going out with my boyfriend? we went to the library today and 4 girls frm skwl came in and started having a go sayin i...

A.   20 April 2008: Oh and also, they are probably just jelous of you, as you have a boyfriend! They probably are immature jerks who need to get over themselves!... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend but people say he's a hamster, so is he worth it?

Q.   heyahh i love my boy friend so much but i get picked on and bullyed so bad that i have started self harming is it worth going out with my boyfriend? we went to the library today and 4 girls frm skwl came in and started having a go sayin i...

A.   19 April 2008: OMG! Dont give in to what they are saying! If you like him, ignore them. And dont self harm, its just not the solution! I had a bf and everyone took the mick out of me. I didnt care, and neither should you! I hope this helps From tasha. P.s feel... (read in full...)

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