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In love with my principal...

Q.   I am in high school and I'm in love with my principal. Over the past summer i started messaging him on fbook and after about 2 months of no replys i decided to tell him how i really felt. So the messages went from "hey hows it goin?" to "I Love ...

A.   6 March 2011: There are things you need; food, water, a home, a family who loves and cares for you. You need freinds and a social life. Amoung other things. If you are not attracted to anyone your age you do not need a boyfreind. You will have one before you ... (read in full...)

In love with my principal...

Q.   I am in high school and I'm in love with my principal. Over the past summer i started messaging him on fbook and after about 2 months of no replys i decided to tell him how i really felt. So the messages went from "hey hows it goin?" to "I Love ...

A.   1 February 2011: Find a boy your own age to pick on. Most young ladies go through being in love with some one who does not love you back. This is your turn. I'm sorry but he does not love you and there is nothing you can do to change that. It sounds harsh but ... (read in full...)

Why do the corners of my eye bleed?

Q.   So I have a weird question.... why do the corner of my eyes bleed? First my best friend told me her eyes were bleeding about 6 months ago and I thought she was crazy but she whiped the corner of her eye one day and showed me and it was like purple ...

A.   29 December 2010: No one one the internet can answer your question. You need to see a doctor.... (read in full...)

He wants to have sex but we're unsure if we can marry.

Q.   hiii i m 22 years old and i have a boyfriend. we both are virgin. we already have oral sex. he is now asking for anal sex.i want to but i have some problems. what are the changes that happen to body after having sex first time??? does it hurts lo...

A.   28 December 2010: I agree with the answer below, anal sex is going to be a difficult first time for you. Not least of all because if you boyfriend is a virgin he is not going to know the first time how to make it easy for you. It may or may not be good for him, but ... (read in full...)

How do I keep him happy?

Q.   me and my bf have been together for nearli 3 yrz now, and i think he is getting bored of me now. we have both made mistakes in the past such as cheating and making fake profiles and flirting with girls. however we have managed to get over this yet, ...

A.   27 December 2010: You know Honey most young ladies to through several break-ups, where they love a guy and lose him no matter what they do. You should brace yourself, because you may be facing one of those break-ups right now. First, calm your spirit. Second l... (read in full...)

Should I try to slow things down or just go fot it?

Q.   I'm a 45 year old divorced female. There's a 45 year old male that I'm interested in at work. Actually he lives on the opposite coast but travels to my town quite frequently. We work very closely together. I can tell there is definitely some ...

A.   26 December 2010: "Should I try to slow things down or just go for it?" Some things in life you can figure out before you try them. Others things can not be figured out, you just have to close your eyes and jump. Romance is one of the can't-figure-out... (read in full...)

The things she is saying are total wishful thinking!

Q.   hey im friends with this teacher and we have alot of fun joking with eachother, im his ex student. I'm pretty close to him and we consider eachother as friends however this girl he talks to also has strted making stuff up about him flirting and ...

A.   24 December 2010: "How can i get him to return to how he was before?" Maybe you can't. If you want to try you can tell him you have noticed him begin distant and ask him why. You can telling him you value his friendship and would like things to go back to how t... (read in full...)

Does this guy still like me?

Q.   Ok I used to date this boy and some people complicated our relationship and we broke up. About 3 weeks ago he told me he had a new gf. That's kool I liked other guys and dated someone after him but he cheated on me soo.. Anyway yesterday in gym we ...

A.   24 December 2010: "...I just wanna know if he still likes me!" This not knowing if a guy likes you? Get used to it, it is a big part of the romance businesses. The other thing you have going on is this guy is 13 to 15 years old. He is immature, much m... (read in full...)

All over me one minute, distant the next

Q.   About a month ago, I met a friend of my friend's while we were all on a night out (Let's call him Dave). According to my friend's boyfriend (Mark), when we (me, my friend and Mark) walked into the bar and joined their group, Dave pulled Mark aside ...

A.   24 December 2010: "Can SOMEONE please tell me what the hell this guy wants?" He wants sex. And that's it. No friendship, no relationship, no respect, just sex. He is willing to put in the minimum amount of chatting and treating you like a fellow human bei... (read in full...)

Guys, do you lie about enjoying sex?

Q.   Question for the guys: do you ever lie about whether you enjoyed having sex with your girl? And if you do, why? Just curious and would like some insight into a guy's mind, like what reason there may have for lying about it. Thanks! Background: my g...

A.   24 December 2010: Well your question has been here a day and no one answered it, so I will try. "Not saying my guy lied, but I'm just a girl who feels like he didn't enjoy it, like the previous encounters. (He didn't cum.)" I'm thinking most guys have a goal... (read in full...)

Should I get a new mentor?

Q.   I don't like an Pro NFL football player! I have always been a person who is somewhat of a joker. Have won a few stand-up comedy contests. I have met many people in my life, but have always really liked football (grew up with dad and brother...be...

A.   24 December 2010: "Should I get a new mentor?" Do you want or need a mentor? If so what do you expect from from a mentor? Is this current mentor giving you these things? Is this because you are not upholding your part of the deal? (Note not that is his... (read in full...)

Dates or just being friendly?

Q.   Case 1:I met a guy in my university (in a rehearsal in music society) one week ago. He was quite nice and friendly.I introduced myself and we talked a bit. After we have finished our first rehearsal, all of us (members) had a social in a bar. This ...

A.   23 December 2010: Dates. In both cases. Do either of these guys invite guy mates to do the things they are inviting you to do? If not what you are describing are dates. Now for a question you did not ask. Do you want to date either of these guys? If not ... (read in full...)

I want my wife to flirt online with others because it turns me on

Q.   My wife are a late 30s attractive christian couple with a pretty good sex life. One of my turn ons is when I see other men flirt with her. I ask her if she felt they were attractive, if she would "do them" in a pefect world, etc. When she admits ...

A.   23 December 2010: “Does it make us immoral…” I don’t think so. But other do. What matters is what you and you wife think. Many women on here complain that their men secretly look at porn or chat with other woman on-line. Many say this is cheating. I won... (read in full...)

Should I wait? Or have sex at 14?

Q.   ok i am 14 and my boyfriend is 17 and we have been talking about sex for the past 2 months, i have been with him for the 6 months...We are in love and we are Virgins i have very high expectations from my family and i dont want to tell them that i ...

A.   23 December 2010: No. A time will come when you won’t need to ask this question, on the internet or anywhere else. You will not have any worries of disappointing anyone or not meeting anyone’s expectations. That will be when you are ready. You can spend the ti... (read in full...)

I have feelings for my dead best friends husband

Q.   I think i may be in love/lust with my dead best friends husband. This is not the first time something like this has happened to me. When i was 18 i was engaged to "Matt" he was killed in a car wreck 3 months before we where to get married. ...

A.   22 December 2010: Apparently this is fairly common. Most of the men in the widower’s support group I was in experienced advances from their wife’s friends. The facilitator called them “sympathy [fornicates]” The Walter Matthau movie “House Calls” has this as a ... (read in full...)

Why isn't his penis erect enough?

Q.   I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time, but I couldn't make his penis hard enough for penetration. Then he tried to erect it himself, but even thought his penis was erected he couldn't insert it into my vagina in spite of doing a ...

A.   22 December 2010: The key phase in your question is “…for the first time…” For lots of people (most?) the first time involves a lot of clumsily fumbling, and the specific issue you two had. But don’t worry a little practice, especially if you neither of you has ... (read in full...)

He doesn't realize I'm being serious when I tell him I love him!

Q.   Hey just thought I might ask people on here for some advise because I've tried everything else and it never worked so there's this boy in my school and I`ve known him since we started back in year 7 ( just under 4 years ago) I went out with hi...

A.   22 December 2010: Tell him if he asks you out your would say yes. You may need to be more specific. Is there a movie he wants to see? Tell him you want to see it too and ask if he wants to go with you. If he says yes say you wonder is anyone seeing you two will... (read in full...)

He loved me but now he loves someone else!

Q.   Hi everyone i have posted a question in this site before and i have seen that the advices in here are very helpful so i've decided to post another question and ask you if this is normal what im feeling.So 2 years ago a guy liked me we can say he was ...

A.   14 August 2010: Yes what you are feeling is normal. Most teeagers feel it at least once, many more than once. Grown-ups feel it to; it is called love-at-first-sight, and songs & stories are written about it. And being into a guy that is into someone else? That ... (read in full...)

Does he love me and is this girl more than just a good listener?

Q.   Hi,Im 17 this year and my bf is 19 this year. we had been together for 3 years plus going to 4 years. For the past 3 years,I think I've treated him badly, Im always nagging and angry him over a small thing. We breakup many times but ended up tog...

A.   2 May 2010: In you post you said “idk” twice and you BF said “dunno” twice. I’m guessing this means you should let it go. This is scary and will break you heart (maybe his too) but most people your age go through several times. They make it through and s... (read in full...)

Friendship or love? its all going very bad as hes very shy

Q.   Hi im really confused about my friend. We;ve known each other 2 and a half years. But recently we;ve started going out more as we have now left college so its not like i see him everyday or anything. Theres usually me him and afew others that go ...

A.   2 May 2010: Everything you described about this guy’s behavior is how a shy person acts around the person they like. It is possible he will overcome his shyness with you, or maybe it will not be until later, with another girl. Perhaps he will never overcome ... (read in full...)

I don't have closure and wonder what would have happened if we had tried harder?

Q.   I need some advice please. From 2004, I met this guy during university and we met up casually. He messed me around i.e. sometimes he’d call and text, he’d forget our meet ups or he’d text out of the blue. He was the first guy I dated and kissed. ...

A.   2 May 2010: “I sometimes wonder what our life would have been like if we both had tried again from January 2007.” “He kept playing hot and cold with me.” I’m guessing if you had “tried harder” he would have still messed you around, played hot and cold wit... (read in full...)

Does he love me and is this girl more than just a good listener?

Q.   Hi,Im 17 this year and my bf is 19 this year. we had been together for 3 years plus going to 4 years. For the past 3 years,I think I've treated him badly, Im always nagging and angry him over a small thing. We breakup many times but ended up tog...

A.   30 April 2010:  Does he love you? Sorry but no one on the internet can answer this for you. Is this girl on the internet more than just a good listener? Your boyfriend may think she is. If you read this site you will see a lot of people think they know ... (read in full...)

I need help to bring feelings into the open with colleague please!!

Q.   Mod note: OP's own title Please can you advise me on my problem. I have been very intensely attracted to someone I work with for months and need to sort it out so that I can move on or do something about it. The feeling between us is so inten...

A.   30 April 2010: OK your question has been here a day without an answer so I’ll try. How do you bring your feeling out in the open with him? First figure out for yourself what your feelings are. You say you are married and you think you are falling in love wit... (read in full...)

First Date Nerves.

Q.   I need your help! I'm finally going on my first date this week. And i'm really scared. Scared of being really shy and have nothing to say. And what if he thinks i'm boring? :O We've already talked once in real life(for like 1 min, that's how we ...

A.   29 April 2010: Relax. The date is either going to go well or it is not, and everyone has a few dates that don’t go well when they first start. And everyone has a few great dates. “…what if he thinks i'm boring?” So what? That is about the worst that can... (read in full...)

Does he like me or not?

Q.   Hi, I’m sorry that this is going to be a really long story, but I wasn’t sure what was important or not (‘’,). Well there's this guy at uni (A) which I met a few months ago, but recently I'd say we have become really close friends. Then on...

A.   29 April 2010: The standard advice to “Does he like me or not?” questions is Get Used to It. All the not-knowing-if-the-other-person-likes-you, the paying-attention-to-you-one-day-ignoring-you-the-next, dating-other-people-but-hanging-around-you business? It is ... (read in full...)

Do I just see her and wait to see if the counseling and meds have helped her?

Q.   Hi I met a girl through work last year and did allot of work together. We both went on seperate holidays and missed each other like mad. We got back and i left my partner for her and moved in with her. After a few months due presure she had a...

A.   28 April 2010: There is a line from an old blues song: “Never lie down with a woman with more troubles than you.” People are creatures of habits. They change sometimes but in general you should look to how she has behaved in the past and expect similar ... (read in full...)

Is he wanting to date me or not?

Q.   I have known this guy for almost a year now but we've never really been close friends. A couple of months ago we were dancing at a party, it was getting pretty steamy and we ended up making out in front of everyone. I was afraid that it was just the ...

A.   28 April 2010: “I don't understand what he wants from me.” I’m guessing neither does he. Young men need some time and experience to figure out what they want, even more time to figure out how to get it. A lot of 22 year old men have not got it all worked ou... (read in full...)

Emotionally Intimate then he vanishes - huh?

Q.   I bought a house with my BF. Two months later turns out he's a sex addict. A year goes by and a lot of emotions trying to come to terms with it (I stay). Finally, I reconnect with a guy from 20 years ago. A nice guy. We spend 3 hours a ...

A.   28 April 2010: “Anyone have an answer to the nagging question why?” I don’t. But since your question has been here unanswered for over 2 days, I’ll give you some guesses: Guess 1: He is crazy. Guess 2: You are crazy. If so perhaps you are leaving ... (read in full...)

He's still staring at me but doesn't appear to be as eager as he was in the past

Q.   i need help.. there is a guy in my locality. long years ago we were in same school together.. in school days i was came to know this guy is always staring at me. my all friends sawed him looking and staring at me. because of his such behaviou...

A.   27 April 2010: No one on the internet can answer your question. The only way for you to know is to find out for yourself, by talking to him and spending time with him. If you want to find out you need to do the things young people in your town/culture do to get ... (read in full...)

I don’t want to get over her, I just want her back

Q.   Right, OK. This is probably going to be very long so I apologise for that... I’ve recently split with my girlfriend. We were in a relationship for four years. I can’t stop loving her and thinking about her all the time and it’s got me really do...

A.   27 April 2010: Well your question has been here 2 days without an answer so I will try, even though I did not read all your post. You should but a helmet on before reading any further. Got your helmet on? Good. “…I just want her back” It does not mat... (read in full...)

What approach should we use in talking to our daughter about dating/sex?

Q.   We need advice about our 15 yo daughter, sex, and questions she's asking us. Our daughter is 15 1/2 and we told her she could start dating this summer as long as her grades her good. She is a really good kid, and always has almost all 'A's and maybe ...

A.   11 June 2009: “Which approach should we take?” Let your daughter figure it out for herself. That’s what is going to happen anyway, regardless of the direction you and you wife think you can steer her. You and your wife had you chance at teenage dating; ... (read in full...)

It's all kinds of messed up! He likes my close friend, I don't want to lose both of them!

Q.   So I'm 16 and I've had this weird relationship with this guy for about 9 months. We tried being together but he never actually wanted a relationship with me. I lost my virginity to him recently and we have always been close. He has never really ...

A.   11 June 2009: Yes it hurts. All teenagers go through what you are now; most go through it several times. It is only by going through this can you gain the experience you need to have a successful relationship. I know it is hard on you but I did not come up ... (read in full...)

We like each other but my friend likes him first. What can we do?

Q.   dear aunt, there is this guy in the hostel i use to stay who is realy nice. first i took him just as a friend and every girl the hostel were crazy about him,even my close friend said she loved him more than any thing.but i did'nt look at him that...

A.   8 June 2009: I see your flag. Tapai Nepali manche hunnuhunchha? (I know the spelling is wrong.) Anyway, all this not knowing who likes whom when? Get used to it. It is the normal way teenagers figure out romance. In the old days teenagers did not have to ... (read in full...)

Should I move to be with my fiancee while I look for work?

Q.   While I was in a long-distance relationship during graduate school, my boyfriend proposed to me. About a month or so later he confessed to buying another house and lying about it to me. This affected what I thought our relationship was (I thought he ...

A.   7 June 2009: You have got a lot of changes coming up. Psychologists who study stress list the life changes that cause the most. I think 3, 4 and 5 are starting a new job, moving to a new city, and moving in with you partner. So you should expect a lot of ... (read in full...)

Does he just want sex?

Q.   me and this boy have been communicating for like almost two months, but our first hookup was like 3 weeks a go. we usually like text for 2 hours eveyr night, except this week we barely have. whenever we do though, he says real cute things, and ...

A.   5 June 2009: If a boy likes you he will want to spend time with you in person, doing all the different the things friends do together. He should be a good friend first, before you decide he should be your boy friend. If he is just texting you and talking about ... (read in full...)

Would texting a woman be classified as cheating?

Q.   My fiance has treated me like crap for 4 months RUDE!!! I caught him texting a girl from work now that he's caught, he's being really nice and things are back to normal, I don't know what to think. In my book Texting another female and hiding it is ...

A.   4 June 2009: Anyway, what were in the texts? Was he flirting or just being friendly? If he said the same things to another woman in person, would that be cheating in your book? Has he done anything else to treat you “LIKE CRAP 4 MONTHS RUDE!!!“? As stated... (read in full...)

Good bdsm tips?

Q.   Anyone have some good bdsm tips for me? Thanks in advance for your help...

A.   4 June 2009: This is like asking “Anyone have some good food tips for me?” Think of all the different kinds of food there is around the world. Think of all the different ways to prepare food. Think of the foods that you really like and someone you know really ... (read in full...)

Is he still interested? How do I communicate how I feel?

Q.   This man was interested in me (he's quiet shy, reserved, doesnt talk a lot, he is also a loner, doesnt have a big social life and likes to spend a lot of time on his own).. finally he asked me out and we had a lovely few weeks dating, then I feel I ...

A.   4 June 2009: “Is it wrong to send a man an email expressing what you want and how you feel?” No. “I want to take things easy and slowly, and to be honest, I just want the company…” You should tell him this. “…then I feel I may have come on too st... (read in full...)

14 and female and I think I like one of my girl mates, just now sure how she is about me.

Q.   I really liked this boy whos really recently let me down i wont go into the life story of it as i dont think its to necessary, but theres also this girl who came to our school i think around after or just before christmas and weve got good friends, ...

A.   4 June 2009: Your question has been here for 2 days with no answers so I will try to answer parts of it. But I’m old enough to be you grandfather and I don’t think you would want to discuss all the things in your question with him, so I will leave those things ... (read in full...)

Partner questioning our relationship now that he seen his ex

Q.   I'm gay and have been dating a guy for almost a year. We were making plans to move in together and start a life together. The problem is an ex boyfriend came to town for a weekend, and I was out of town at the time. This ex stayed at his house. M...

A.   4 June 2009: Take him at his word. If you two are going “start a life together” you are going to have to trust each other. A lot of the romance business cannot be figured out, you just have to close your eyes and jump. If he is the right one for you he will ... (read in full...)

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