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Hey everyone!

What qualifies me to help people?...Well first of all I care, something which I think is very important. And I take the time to carfully think about any answers I give to questions.

I am currently in a relationship after many years of singledom and so I think I can look at answers from both persepectives. And I have done the whole 'I love him but he doesn't notice me' thing.

I am currently a student and I think moving to the other end of the country and into the 'real world' is really changing my view of things. I think I have now reached a level of maturity to be objective and helpful when answering questions; something that I hope will only improve as time goes on!

Feel free to message me if you want to talk privately xxx

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Do girls enjoy giving oral sex?

Q.   Do girls actually like giving oral sex to guys or what? So many girls seem to have a real issue with it, like feeling subservient or degraded or something. But they don’t have any problem getting it!? What is all this double standards? I...

A.   2 August 2007: Personally I love giving my guy oral sex. I just don't like swallowing lol. I would rather a guy asked if he wanted it. Maybe not in the middle of sex but it is ok to talk about sex outside of the bedroom.... (read in full...)

I am 27, engaged, and scared to death!

Q.   I am 27, engaged, and scared to death. Here is my story... I dated my fiancé for about 1 year or 2 years in his eyes. He is a pilot in the Navy and gone all the time. He was married for 5 years before he met me. I have always felt he is not over his ...

A.   1 August 2007: Don't marry him. If you were bullied into the engagement how will you ever be happy? Then think about the other guy. It may be that neither are right for you but you were scared of having no one. Maybe you would be better on your own.... (read in full...)

A male teacher texts flirts with me loads since he found out I fancy him! what can i do?

Q.   a male teacher texts flirts with me loads since he found out i fancy him! what can i do?...

A.   29 July 2007: Back off from him. Don't reply to his texts. You may fancy him but this is inappropriate behaviour from him. You should tell someone although I know this would be very difficult. Message me if you want to chat. xxx... (read in full...)

I'm 15, and have accidently kissed an older married man in the same room as his wife! Should I feel guilty?

Q.   I'm 15, and have accidently kissed an older married man in the same room as his wife. I'm really not the type who does this sort of thing, and I did happen to be extremely drunk. So I'm faced with the problem of whether I should hate myself and feel ...

A.   29 July 2007: You don't accidentely kiss someone. If you had been drinking too much then that can be blamed as a contributing factor but it was not an accident. Does his wife know? You are not a slag. If you were then you would make a habit of these thin... (read in full...)

12 and been having sex with a married man. What should I do?

Q.   hi i am 12 years old ands I live in wisconsin. I've been having sex with this guy (i baby sit for) he does not use condums when we doit he says hes alergic to them. I dont know what to do but i think i am pregnant. for the last 3 months he has not ...

A.   29 July 2007: You need to talk to someone. Try your parents. You might not want to get him into trouble but you could be in trouble yourself. And not just the potential baby. If he has not been using protection you could have caught something from him or his ... (read in full...)

How can I subtly as my boyfriend what he enjoys during sex?

Q.   How can I ask a guy what he really likes during sex without just asking "what do you like during sex". anyone got some subtle questions that might help?...

A.   25 July 2007: Tell him to let you know what he enjoys then try a lot of stuff out on him (there will be no complaints about this from his end, trust me). x... (read in full...)

Should I masturbate before seeing my girlfriend incase we get intimate, so she won't have too much of a mouthful?

Q.   Hello. this is a really odd question but something that im never sure what to do about. i never sure what to do before i see my girlfriend, as all men have probaily noticed if thet dont masturbate for a period of time, the sperm tends to build up...

A.   24 July 2007: I would just talk to her about it. If you masturbate just before then it may take a long time for her to make you cum and that could make her worry about whether you are enjoying it. If you are close enough to have sex, talking to her about it ... (read in full...)

If you don't swallow during oral, can you still get and STI?

Q.   you can get an STI from giving head i know, how ever if you dont swollow, does this mean you cant get one? ...

A.   22 July 2007: Yes you can. xxx... (read in full...)

'I think my son is too young for engagement'.

Q.   My 17-year-old son has told me he got engaged to his girlfriend, who's also 17. He said she proposed to him, and he accepted. I'm worried about this. I feel he's too young to do this but he really wants to do it. He said after he leaves college,...

A.   22 July 2007: Talk to him. If it works out this could be the best thing that has ever happened to him. If not he has learnt a valuable lesson. What is his fiance going to do when he goes to uni?, Go too? If so where will they live? Can he afford rent etc? If... (read in full...)

Is it okay to string one girl along if it is the only way for me to be with my true love?

Q.   Is it okay to string one girl along if it is the only way for me to be with my true love? This is the longer version for those willing to read: While attending the birthday party of my best friend's little brother, I met a two girl...

A.   2 July 2007: You are 16, she is nine. If you love her you will leave her alone until she is your age or more, to give her a chance to develop properly. She cannot return your love at the right emotional level. But do not string along the older one. If she loves ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend doesn't trust me because I have girls on my facebook and myspace pages!

Q.   My gf recently got very mad at me for having girls on my msn and my facebook. she even found out that i had a conversation with an ex gf of mine, i ensured her it was nothing and just a catch up (which it was) but now she says she doesnt trust me, ...

A.   25 June 2007: You are allowed friends who are girls. I can understand her feeling insecure about you chatting to your ex, but on facebook you add everyone you know and so she cannot blame you for having girls on them. Message me if you want to chat. xxx... (read in full...)

Blow jobs concerns. Help!

Q.   My bf wants me to give him a blow job, and I'm quite happy to, to say the truth I'm quite excited for the occasion. Just a quick question however, I've promised him that I will not spit and I intend to keep that promise, it is safe to swal...

A.   24 June 2007: I would not promise him anything this first time. The first time I gave my boyfriend a blow jow he was so turned on he came loads (and really fast) and I was surprised by the taste and spat it out (on him. not the most sexual thing I have ever ... (read in full...)

We're both unsure how to act with each other; we're behaving like silly schoolkids!

Q.   After being single for many years, and close to giving up on relationships for good, I finally came across the perfect guy. The problem is that neither of us seem to know what to do next; we have both had bad relationships in the past. Whenever we ...

A.   23 June 2007: Relax a bit. A lot of people tend to get nervous in a relationship. I am at uni and got with my boyfriend two weeks before we went home for a month for Xmas, so I completely understand the nervous on the phone thing. He has even told me since that ... (read in full...)

I ended my long distance relationship for a new one but I miss my ex

Q.   Ok, so i was with my ex boyfriend for about 4 years. We were high school sweethearts. I mean i gave my all to this guy! I was young and yes i'm a flirt but i never cheated on him. During our second year i moved to a different state and i asked ...

A.   23 June 2007: Keep trying with the new guy. It seems as if you are expecting your relationship to instantly morph into the king you and your ex had - one that took four years to build! Give it time and this too may be a special relationship. Otherwise you may end ... (read in full...)

My husband was seeing prostitutes while I was pregnant, has been searching for women to date online and is always bad tempered since the birth of my baby. Should I leave him?

Q.   Hello, I have been married for 4 years, and together with my husband for the past 7, and I gave birth to our baby boy last September. My husband has been unable or unwilling to have sex with me for the past 3 years on and off, and since I was 8 we...

A.   21 June 2007: Single at 40 is a much happier prospect then unhappily married at 40. If the marriage is not working then have the courage to do what is right for you, and your child who will suffer if brought up in an unhappy family. xxx... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is sending emails that sound like she's sleeping with other blokes! She tells me it's nothing to worry about. What can I do?

Q.   Hi, I'm 20 years old and have been seeing my girlfriend of the same age for about 9 months now. We met each other at our 'home' town but we study at different universities so it is effectively a 'long-distance relationship' most of the time. Over ...

A.   16 June 2007: I would call her and talk about it. She will be angry you read her mail so try and remain calm. Say you accept you are in the wrong for doing that too. Say you love her and don't want it to end. I am not defending her...I think maybe she found ... (read in full...)

Obsessed with taking my wife's 17 year old sister to bed!

Q.   I am happily married,,my wife is 26yrs old and I am 46.The problem is that I have this obsession with my wife's sister,,she is 17yrs old I want to take her to bed and she seems to have feelings for me as well.What do I do?...

A.   15 June 2007: You clearly don't care about your wife or her sister as you would be willing to wreck their relationship too. It is truly perverse that you would do it.... (read in full...)

Am i wrong to just let them be??

Q.   I am a single middle divorced female with 3 grown children ages 35,30,3l,1 boy the eldest and 2 girls. I believe my problem initially stems from a messy, spiteful divorce approx 20 years ago which left many scars and unresolved issues. My problem ...

A.   15 June 2007: Could you write to your grandaughters? Say you love them and maybe invite them to stay. They are ld enough to make some decisions and not just be manipulated by their parents. Then if they reject you it is not your fault and you can walk away. If ... (read in full...)

Am i wrong to just let them be??

Q.   I am a single middle divorced female with 3 grown children ages 35,30,3l,1 boy the eldest and 2 girls. I believe my problem initially stems from a messy, spiteful divorce approx 20 years ago which left many scars and unresolved issues. My problem ...

A.   15 June 2007: Could you write to your grandaughters? Say you love them and maybe invite them to stay. They are ld enough to make some decisions and not just be manipulated by their parents. Then if they reject you it is not your fault and you can walk away. If ... (read in full...)

I have an atypical male problem... I want the perfect mate

Q.   I have a typical male problem in that i want to commit to my girl but only if a list of criterias are met... like "she doesn't control me, she is not too clingy, possessive, is tolerant of my mistakes when i am careless about her, gives me my own ...

A.   15 June 2007: What do you want us to say? You seem to know that this is not right. And you forgot to mention one thing: LOVE! You want a Stepford wife (and even they turned out to be robots!). Hopefully this 'problem' will go away when you meet someone amazing.... (read in full...)

I have my best friend and I really like hanging with her but she's friends with some lads who hate me.

Q.   I have my best friend and I really like hanging with her but she's friends with some lads who hate me. When I go out with my best mate , She always invites these lads and they always spit on me or call me horrible names or push me over and sometimes ...

A.   15 June 2007: If she joined in she is not your friend. Even if she just let it happen she is not. She is a bitch. As hard as it may be, just back off from her. Or say you will only spend time with her without the lads if you really want to continue to see her. If ... (read in full...)

Trouble between flatmates

Q.   I live in a houseshare with a another girl. We have lived together for about a year. We used to get along really well but then she got a boyfriend. They fight nearly every weekend but she's adamant that she's happy and she loves him. Even when I ...

A.   14 June 2007: Ignore her. Don't ask her about the fights and just get on with your life. Chat about neutral things if you are hanging out together. She is being a bitch for no reason and you can distance yourself from it. Message me if you want to chat. xx... (read in full...)

She's told me her bf will be at our place a lot, when we get to this new flat. I don't like this. Any advice?

Q.   so my friend and i are moving up north for college together. we are going to be living together in an apartment or house. my problem is her boyfriend is going to the same college we are and she has already told me that he will probably be over a ...

A.   14 June 2007: Hey hun. I know how you and her feel. I am in my first year at uni and next year am moving out of halls with six other mates. It is likely my boyfriend will be around a fair bit. But I have discussed this with my friends and they think it will be ... (read in full...)

He doesn't reply to my text messages fast enough and I think I should dump him! What do you think?

Q.   i have been dating a bloke for around a month now, he is ok with me a part from the fact that he has done all the initiating, ie texting me and asking me out, which obviously i dont mind at all but the problem i have is that when he texts me to ...

A.   14 June 2007: Get a grip. Some people reply quickly to texts, others take more time. It is not a big deal. If it was important then you would be communicating with him in a medium more personal then a text. Call him if you want a flipping instant response. ... (read in full...)

Do you think this is boarder line stalking?? Should I try to adjust my driving time to sync up with her again and see if I can chat at the gas stations?

Q.   Hello, my name is Rob. I’m a guy, who needs a woman's opinion and advice. I know this might sound crazy but I met this woman while driving to work. We both travel a major roadway for about a 40-mile drive. We have been waving and saying good morning ...

A.   13 June 2007: Leave her alone. She has your number and the offer of a date if she wants it. She has waved to you and chatted a bit. So what? She will have done far more with her boyfriend and will have feelings for him. Why would she leave him for someone else. ... (read in full...)

I'm 16, he's 23 - he wants to sleep w/ me, but he lives with a girl! I feel guilty! Can I really go through with this?

Q.   Im 16 years old and i've been in numerous relationships in the past year buti've never had sex. now this guy's come into my life, i've known him about nine months and thought he was a jerk up until about three months ago when we got to know each ...

A.   7 June 2007: Is this other girl his girlfriend? You can't sleep with him if it would make you the other woman. He is not respecting you and you could end up with a seriously bad reputation. He is a lot older than you (not that an age gap matters) but it seems ... (read in full...)

My fiancee flirts with other guys and looks at her ring all the time...

Q.   I always thought of myself as level headed and well able to understand things around me, but over the last year my relationship has seemed strange to me. I'm engaged and my partner constantly looks at the ring I bought her....her choice of ...

A.   7 June 2007: No you are not. She is being stupid and material and only caring about what other people think of the ring. It is not the ring that is important, it is the fact you are getting married. That is what engaged means and if she is flirting with ot... (read in full...)

My best friend recently started seeing my brother :-(

Q.   hey my best friend has recently started seeing my brother, i really don't like it, she knows i don't, he knows i don't, but he thinks that she is fit and she likes the chase and the fact that yet another person likes her. since she has started ...

A.   7 June 2007: Leave them to it. The more you make a fuss the more they will want to be together. If you are spending time together say that you don't want to know what is going on between them. Act like you don't care. The thing is you can't controll who your... (read in full...)

Have I Done Something Wrong?

Q.   Is it something i'm doing wrong? I started dating a man in the army when i was 17. We spent practically every minute together and got on brilliantly. I stood by him and supported him when he went away on operational tours and we were compleatly ...

A.   7 June 2007: He has to pay you child support legally. So do not worry about him living 'like he hasn't got a care in the world.' Fight for sole custody of your child - especially since he has taken his anger out by hitting your dog - he is a terrible man that ... (read in full...)

If we had a baby would the baby have the cockney accent also?

Q.   Just an equiry really as i'm confused. My other half is a cockney. If we had a baby would the baby have the cockney accent also? Any advice would be great and very soon. Thanks...

A.   3 June 2007: It depends. I have a completely different accent from both my parents. Where are you living now? This will have an effect on the child's accent. An accent is "a characteristic pronunciation, especially one determined by the regional or social ... (read in full...)

She never 'opens up to me' and tells me her feelings...how do I get her to do this?

Q.   hello me and my girlfriend have been dating for nearly 5 months and i love her to pieces but she never opens up to me and when i bring it up she laughs and i feel like giving up on this relationship but i would feel bad cause it seems to be over ...

A.   3 June 2007: Give her time. I was like this with my boyfriend - not because I didn't love and trust him but because other people had betrayed me when I opened up to them before. She will tell you when something major is going on and she needs someone there for ... (read in full...)

Due to celebrate our 10 year marriage anniversary in 1 week... and I find out my husband has been having an affair with a girl 22 years my younger!

Q.   i have just founf out that my husband had an affair for 6 months last years we should be celebrateing our 10th wedding anniversary in a weeks time.he told me it ment nothing and he is so so sorry for what he has done he worked with the person and ...

A.   3 June 2007: I'm sorry honey this is a terrible situation to find yourself in. If I were you I would spend some time alone to figure this out (could be a few hours or even days). Write down everything you want to ask him and get him to be completely honest. ... (read in full...)

I'm scared in case I lose the happiness that I have just found.

Q.   Last year I was in a relationship with a girl who I loved a great deal and i thought that she felt the same, she found out that she was pregnant and in september last year she had a baby girl, i dont know if she is my child, I was used and hurt by ...

A.   3 June 2007: On one hand I am so happy for you - your girlfriend really loves you! On the other hand - I am worried about your ex's baby. If you feel up to it please take a dna test and determine whether it is yours. You can't let the child go through life wit... (read in full...)

I told my mom my boyfriend is 12 years older than me, now she's going to tell my stepdad!

Q.   im 19 years old and have a bf whos older then me he is 31, ive told my mom as i thought i could tell her, but she keeps saying she is going to tell my step dad but i know he will leave if she does what should i do as i really like this guy and i ...

A.   3 June 2007: I'm not sure I understand - what would telling your stepdad do? Legally you are an adult and are able to make your own decisions. I think she is shocked - to her you a still her little girl and it is a big age difference. But if you love him that ... (read in full...)

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