Did I make a mistake having sex with him?
Q. This sound stupid but you all have to help me out. My lecturer has being asking me out for one week. But later i decided to go,but only for him to tell me that he loves me and that i'll benefit lot of things if i accept. That particular day he had ...
A. 21 June 2011: As your lecturer, you should never have dated him talk less of sleeping with him and then being married makes it worse. I hope he doesn't continue this or decide to punish you with your grades. I'm sorry if I was blunt. ... (read in full...)
How can he feel he is my soulmate, but be living with someone else?
Q. I met this man back in October by chance-- I saw him sitting on a bench , reading a book and taking notes in the margin. I was immediately drawn to him because my husband was a writer and often scrawled in the margins of his books (my husband died ...
A. 3 June 2011: I think you should stop running on this route or do so at a different time. This man has a GF and I guess he made up his mind to be with her. Yes you could meet someone special write after you're living or even engaged to someone. Since they aren't ... (read in full...)
Wife headed towards an affair. Can I confide in her sister?
Q. Over the last few months evidence has been mounting that my wife has a thing for a colleague of hers. She thinks she is keeping it very discreet and in control (I don't think she has even told him), but a man knows his wife and knows when somethin...
A. 2 June 2011: I think you should call your wife and level with her tell her what you've been thinking and tell her its hurting you if she admits talk about it because it seems to me that she's not having an affair but possibly drifting there. If she denies it ... (read in full...)
Kissed another....Should I tell my hubby???
Q. I've been married 2 years, together for 9. Last year I kissed another man on 3 separate occassions. I felt disgusted about what I did and put an immediate stop to it. I never told my husband. I was able to live with it up til now. We just bought a ...
A. 1 June 2011: I wouldn't tell if I were you. If you want a house full of tension and suspicion then you could say something. But if you want to spend your life with him you'll get over it. It was a kiss, a mistake and shouldn't happen again.... (read in full...)
My ex is playing mind games!
Q. My ex has been plating mind games a bit. For the last few months we have stayed in contact after the break up. I now have got to the point where I have had enough and have previously said for there to be no more contact. Now I have been ignoring ...
A. 29 May 2011: That depends on if you want him back or not. If you don't ignoring him is good as this will send the message very fast. ... (read in full...)
Will I ever stop thinking and dreaming of him?
Q. i bumped into my ex of four years abt 3days ago..we broke up fr a year it was a bumpy relationship but i loved him through thick and thin.he ended up breaken my heart into thousands of little pieces and i felt exactly the same way at dat moment.it ...
A. 26 May 2011: You probably will never forget him but you've got to stop thinking about him. I'm guessing you were more into the relationship than he was and that's why you miss him so much. Take out sometime on your own and look back at that relationship if you ... (read in full...)
Should my sister marry this man?
Q. Hi The problem I'm writing about it is not my problem it is my sister's... so we are Americans but we live in Saudi Arabia in Aramco (which is a very open place, not like the rest of the country).. about 2 years ago my sister met this Saudi dude and...
A. 26 May 2011: Your anxiety is on point. But its her decision. Express your concerns to her and tell or give her some examples you know. Personally I would never get involved with anyone from the middle east. Are you Christians? Also let your parents know about ... (read in full...)
B/f wants me to give up job to be with him
Q. Dear Aunts, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 18 months now. We met online on facebook and started it out by being friends. I know it kinda makes no sense coz we live a world apart and never seen each other in person before. B...
A. 22 May 2011: Don't even think of giving up your job. This guy is clearly a not committed to you and very self centered not to mention selfish. As a guy he should make the first move coming to visit you. You must be very careful with people you meet ? line. ... (read in full...)
B/f wants me to give up job to be with him
Q. Dear Aunts, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 18 months now. We met online on facebook and started it out by being friends. I know it kinda makes no sense coz we live a world apart and never seen each other in person before. B...
A. 22 May 2011: Don't even think of giving up your job. This guy is clearly a not committed to you and very self centered not to mention selfish. As a guy he should make the first move coming to visit you. You must be very careful with people you meet on line. What ... (read in full...)
13 guys in 7 years...too much?
Q. Is having had sex with 13 guys in seven years making me look like a slut?...
A. 15 May 2011: Can't believe some of the things I'm reading. Girl take a six month break and ask yourself what you want! What kind of guy do you want to be with. I think you also give in too early to them. Don't have sex with him in the first 3-4 months ( ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but find myself thinking about this other guy
Q. I've been happily married for 6 years. Suddenly I meet this single guy acquittances from the past and we start chatting everyday. We both realize and keep saying we're really drawn to each other. He also tells me stuff like he wishes I was single ...
A. 14 May 2011: This other guy has done you a great favor by stepping back. You should do the same and try to re energize your marriage since you do love your husband. I have noticed that its never really a good idea trying to hook up with old flames (or new ones) ... (read in full...)
Is anyone else annoyed at Facebook?
Q. I hate Facebook. There, I said it. I hate the way most people use text messaging, too. I do not participate on Facebook, but most of my friends and family do. That's fine. It's a nice way to connect with a lot of people at once and share thos...
A. 13 May 2011: Facebook isn't a big deal to me and shouldn't be ? a matured mind. I get several requests daily I just turn down but ignoring people who come to visit you simply because you're chatting is unbelievable! I'm on Facebook because I also have some news ... (read in full...)
We haven't spoken to each other for 2 weeks! I'm not good at talking!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years. We normally get along great and hardly argue at all, however when we do things always get blown way out of proportion. Recently I have been feeling that he has negleted me and am starting to feel...
A. 11 May 2011: Two weeks is a long time to not to be talking to each other. It's great to hear that you both love each other because that means you can actually communicate. Look out for a time when a time when he is relaxed and tell him you would like to talk... (read in full...)
We haven't spoken to each other for 2 weeks! I'm not good at talking!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years. We normally get along great and hardly argue at all, however when we do things always get blown way out of proportion. Recently I have been feeling that he has negleted me and am starting to feel...
A. 11 May 2011: It's great to hear you both love each other, because that means you two CAN actually communicate. Two weeks is a really longtime and one of you really needs to say something. Look for a time he is relaxed and start by telling him you want to talk to ... (read in full...)
How do I end things with a FWB who is delusional about where she stands?
Q. I met this girl a few months ago at a party and we began to have a sexual relationship. We agreed to be no strings attached BUT she began to catch feelings. After that I reminded her that I'm not into her that way. She cried and made a big scene but ...
A. 11 May 2011: I guess you can see why having FWB isn't really an option to take. Imagine this new girl you are into meets someone else she's crazy about. How would that make you feel? Sorry if I'm being direct but you are doing trying to do to someone what could ... (read in full...)
B/f keeps cheating and lying and I've had it!
Q. This is not a good day. Okay, where do i start? I guess i'll have to tell you everything so you can get it. This might be long.Sorry. I've been dating this guy for 4years now. We've been down some pretty tough roads. The first year he seem in...
A. 11 May 2011: I have 5 words for you. " Leave the lying, cheating boyfriend"... (read in full...)
Cheated on husband, now want him back?
Q. Hullo there, I am a married woman with a 2 year old son who doesn't know what to do next. The thing is I cheated on my husband two times and I was caught out by my husband. I truly love him and badly need him in my life. He was angry at first, but ...
A. 30 April 2011: You sound remorseful. But does he see that in you? Let me suggest this. Everyday when he wakes up give him a sincere apology and ask him to forgive you. He needs to know, see and feel that you are truly sorry and will never repeat it. Try this for ... (read in full...)
Cheated on husband, now want him back?
Q. Hullo there, I am a married woman with a 2 year old son who doesn't know what to do next. The thing is I cheated on my husband two times and I was caught out by my husband. I truly love him and badly need him in my life. He was angry at first, but ...
A. 29 April 2011: You cheated and he's hurting. I guess he's trying his best to make it work but still has issues to deal with. He may never trust you again and what you need to do now is to be watchful. Apologize to him sincerely and you should promise him this will ... (read in full...)
Would it be appropriate to confess you like someone in a text message to them?
Q. So I've been great friends with this guy. Were not too close though. Were quite comfortable with each other, which scares me at times. We're always playing around like we're kids. Either he starts at me, or I do. He prys into my conversations, then ...
A. 28 April 2011: I wouldn't encourage any lady to come 'clean' with a guy in that way. I'm sure he can see the signs- a lot of guys can tell when something's up. You can drop some hints or go out of your way to do stuff for him like helping him shop or even cooking ... (read in full...)
Do you think he had me in mind at all when he started writing such things on his page?
Q. After a year I finally had to walk away from my boyfriend who I was in love with. He was addicted to weed, verbally abusive and had severe mood swings and manipulated me. He is very spiteful and hurt me so much through the relationship, but I did ...
A. 27 April 2011: Look for other things you can do with your time and stop browsing for like a week! Visit friends, wash, clean, play games anything to keep you occupied. Your ex is crap. Make him a permanent part of your past and move on with your life.... (read in full...)
What is the meaning of what he said to me?
Q. I met a man on facebook and suddenly started to like each other. He lives very far from here and we are realistic about the few possibilities of meeting. The only thing I want to ask is this: one day he told me something that I couldn´t understand ...
A. 27 April 2011: I think to clear your doubts make a deliberate effort to meet. In any relationship after some form of communication there comes a time for the partners to meet. If he is as into you as he claims to be, then he should be willing to make that trip. If ... (read in full...)
Confused after threesome!
Q. I had my first threesome two nights ago and now I'm very confused and slightly embarrassed and annoyed. My best male friend who is bi-sexual,J.B. and I have been flirting innocently for a very long time. We went on holidays along with some other ...
A. 20 April 2011: You are in a terrible situation here. Lose those your friends and I mean FAST!... (read in full...)
I'm getting impatient. Is this insecurity or being non-committal?
Q. ive been dating someone for 2 years. we see each other all summer and when he is home for holidays, etc. (im in high school, he is in college) we work together in the summers and get along great. we have the same morals and values and we love ...
A. 20 April 2011: I don't think he's interested in a committal relationship with you. Its hard but open yourself and time to other people around you - he seems to be hinting you to do that already. You'll find someone genuinely interested in you.... (read in full...)
It has been seven years and I still think about him
Q. I keep dreaming of a certain guy I used to see at church 7 years ago. We never dated but we used to act when we saw one another. I left church because always I was dreaming of him but he never came to me by then. Its been 7 years and I'm now married ...
A. 18 April 2011: What makes you think this guy hasn't moved on? Until he says so personally, get a grip on yourself. Mind you he may not be the guy you knew 7 years ago... (read in full...)
Am I too old fashioned about sex?
Q. It seems everyone is having sex these days. I'm only fifteen but I believe in 'no sex before marriage', I don't know why I believe in this because none of my family do. Everyone at school says I should try having sex with someone, I'm not at all ...
A. 18 April 2011: Stick to your principle sweetheart. Its a courageous path to take. All the best... (read in full...)
Deep feelings for a married man and no longer love my own husband.
Q. This is my first time on this forum so here goes. I have deep feelings for a married man. I am married. We both have young children. I see him often as our children socialize together. I have had these feelings for him for over a year now and I k...
A. 17 April 2011: I can completely relate with you because I'm also in love with a married man. I'm married with kids and my husband and I don't get along. Only difference is I have a job that can support my family. Yes I've thought of hooking up with tHis other guy ... (read in full...)
Must a guy make the first move?
Q. I have known a girl for sometime now. she likes me but pretends she don't. I want to be sure she likes me before making a move. Must a guy make the first move?...
A. 17 April 2011: Yes, yes, YES!!! Its easier for a guy to get let down than a girl. She'll probably won't get over it.... (read in full...)
Co-worker Crush
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm very attracted to one of my male co-workers...a sort of instant attraction if you will. When I started 6 months ago, he knew my name before I even had time to process my new work enviornment and tried to make small talk here and th...
A. 17 April 2011: I'I'd say this guy is interested in you but can't ask you out because you're involved with someone and so is he! Ask him to join you for coffee and see where it takes you. If something starts cooking please end it with your bf and ask him to do ... (read in full...)
Deep down I'm heartbroken. How do I make it better? She took another guy to Prom!
Q. I had prom last night and i dont whether it was one of my best nights or one of my worst. The girl who i have been into deeply for 8 months went with another guy she new outside of school...she claims that they are just good friends... I wa...
A. 15 April 2011: Its obvious she doesn't have feelings for you. You HAVE to turn your focus away from her. If you play any kind of sports, get to know their practice time and get involved - gradually I. Mean. Don't throw yourself into anything. You're going through ... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't do it for me anymore
Q. We have been married for 3 years and dating for six and recently had a baby (8mts). I am finding that he starts to irrate me more every day. He is very controlling and likes to shout and make you feel worthless and like you are wrong. I don't tell ...
A. 15 April 2011: He's trying to put you down unnecessarily. If he's the kind of man I think he is, talking won't make a difference. 2 options here. 1. Leave him. 2. Stand up to him. Tell him he can't treat you this way. Its difficult, but if he yells, yell back. I'm ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? We had a fun night, now all he does is stare.
Q. I have lived next to this guy for about eighteen years. I am now eighteen. We were best friends from pretty much birth until fourteen when we both went away to boarding school. Random right? Finally we are now back finishing up our senior year ...
A. 15 April 2011: He's probably staring at you because he doesn't know how to express himself to you. Trust me staring at you is a positive sign. Hang around him for like 2 weeks and try to be alone with him. If he's got something to say he will but don't push it. ... (read in full...)
My neighbour and I are both married, but we admitted to having feelings to each other, what is wrong with me?
Q. I am a happily married man of 15 years and I have been with my wife for twenty years, However, I have moved to another country and have been in my new country for 3 years. I do have a soft spot for a neighbour, but I just ignored it, but tonight my ...
A. 10 April 2011: You are having this probably because your wife is away from you, you are attracted to her. Tell your wife to visit or go home. Since you still love your wife that will really help. ... (read in full...)
Does this guy I love only like me as a friend or as something more?
Q. how will i interpret someone's action or how does he really feels for me...?? there are times that i can feel he cares for me more than other girls...(we are best buds...) i know that he already know i feel special towards him.. but he never show...
A. 9 April 2011: You say he knows how you feel? If he hasn't said something about it, then maybe he finds it awkward. I think as a guy he should make the move. If not what if you come out and he doesn't feel that way. I was in a similar situation awhile back and I ... (read in full...)
He wants sex but won't tell me where we stand. How do I make him understand that this is important to me?
Q. There is this friend of mine that i study with at my uni. we have know each other for roughly 2 and a half years and a lot of nights we study until really late (between 2am and 3am). The problem is we are attracted to each other and sometimes after ...
A. 8 April 2011: Leave him now and study on your own please. Any guy who doesn't want to be straight with you is just trying to use you. 2 1/2 years you say? That's a really long time.... (read in full...)
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