I'd been seeing a guy on and off for 3 years, now he says he wants to commit long term
Q. I asked him to try and put it into words how much he liked me: "Just trust me that it is a hell of a lot, we were so close for so long, how could that have not meant the world to me" Seems like there was nothing wrong.. I'd been seeing a guy o...
A. 5 September 2011: You've said it all. Should you risk the heartache? 3 years is a longtime for him to have stringed you along the sad thing is that you waited for so long. You didn't mention if you had dated anyone in that span of time. Do you really want to go thro... (read in full...)
I do care about her but I feel she is being somewhat silly if she thinks our relationship can sustain without intimacy and sex. Am I being selfish?
Q. I am a 33 year old, frustrated male and I am really hoping for some impartial advice. I have been with my girlfriend for just over eighteen months. We currently live apart but I know that she is eager for me to move in with her and her little g...
A. 5 September 2011: Didn't know you guys do get away together. I feel she may be a complicated person (but who isn't)- Since you have spoken to her and don't see the relationship as a complete loss yet, maybe its time to take action. Stay away from her and see if i... (read in full...)
I sincerely love the guy I am dating now but it is more a platonic love and the other one is a true love I guess?
Q. Dear readers, I am such a lost lamb and I don't know whether I have a question or I just need badly to tell my story as I there is none who could hear me out. I would appreciate any advice given as I am absolutely lost. It all started 4 yea...
A. 4 September 2011: You're ex is messing with your head. If he wanted you he won't have waited for 4 years while you're with your current bf because you're going away he wants a 'take' home gift. He broke your heart before and he's about to do it again. You've been... (read in full...)
I do care about her but I feel she is being somewhat silly if she thinks our relationship can sustain without intimacy and sex. Am I being selfish?
Q. I am a 33 year old, frustrated male and I am really hoping for some impartial advice. I have been with my girlfriend for just over eighteen months. We currently live apart but I know that she is eager for me to move in with her and her little g...
A. 4 September 2011: Thank goodness you're not yet married to her or you would be having concerns already. Talk to her and let her know what your needs are. Let her know you enjoyed the first few months because of how close you were. Sure her daughter is a part of her ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if my boyfriend's family dislikes me?
Q. Ok I,m a 19 year old Damsel in Distress who needs a little help! I don't think My boyfriends family likes me. They never actually said it but I don't think they do I may just be paranoid but I think myself i,m a strange girl. Like I,m really shy a...
A. 4 September 2011: Give it up girl. Its the guy you're going out with. If he thought you strange he wouldn't date you. Of course its a good thing for the family to like you but if you feel they don't, just be always nice and polite around them. ... (read in full...)
I love two guys and not sure what to do about it???
Q. Hey Cupids, I am a little confused as I seem to be inlove with two guys at the same time. How is this even possible??! Have you ever been in this situation? And how do you know which one to pick since you care about both of them and have a great ti...
A. 3 September 2011: You are definitely attracted to your awesome friend. Since your bf is cute and attentive, maybe your relationship has to take a more stable stand so you can reach a decision with him. Thing is there's always someone out there who you're going to be ... (read in full...)
My bestfriend is dating my ex-I don't know what to do!
Q. My two best friends are dating. And one of them is my crush. Basicly My best friends started dating. She knows i fancied him and his best friend fancies her. He's just a little crush but i cant help thinking that she should have thought about ho...
A. 2 September 2011: It was really demeaning of your ex to go after your best friend and more demeaning for your friend to accept. Obviously your friendship with them is over as they were never good friends to begin with. ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to meet for coffee. Good or bad idea?
Q. So basically my ex and I broke up 5 months ago. He has a new girlfriend but he still wants us to be "friends". I have feelings for him still and he wants to meet for coffee. Do you think it's a bad idea?...
A. 2 September 2011: You still have feelings for this guy. That's reason enough not to see him because you're gonna want more than meeting up for coffee. He's with someone else and can only hurt you all over again. Summary: Its a bad idea... (read in full...)
How long should I wait to see if he contacts me?
Q. how long do i wait before i move on? Went on a first date, at the end he said 'you should holler at me some time' i said okay, but im not one to 'holler' at guys. so am i supposed to contact him first?? i would just like to wait to see if he ...
A. 30 August 2011: You holler at him?! Whatever. He should have asked 'When next can I call you?' People are different though. Anyway I say he should be the one to look for you. Don't know how long you should wait, but after a week or two, you should go out with other ... (read in full...)
I know he truly wants us both!!!
Q. hello, I'm not sure what to do about a situation I've been involved with for two years and need other peoples advice! i met a man by accident two years ago. from the moment we started talking we couldn't leave each other alone. texts run into at ...
A. 29 August 2011: This is an easy one. He is getting married to her, means he has chosen her over you. If you meant THAT much to him with this final decision it should have been you. Don't know how you got into this mess in the first place, but he has made his ... (read in full...)
Sometimes he's sweet and sometimes he's moody
Q. Why is he acting like this? does he even like me? There this guy that I really like. Am chatting to. Some days he's really nice, happy and sweet and other days he's so moody. Like today he rang me and asked me to ring him back, I did...
A. 27 August 2011: Mood swings. If that's what he's having, then it can get horrible for you because at one moment he's really sweet and the next minute he's totally pissed at God-knows-what. Its not an easy trait to change in a person. Its either you learn to deal ... (read in full...)
He's in jail for life, and he's telling me to cut contact. How can I deal with my strong feelings for him?
Q. I'm in love with a man who is incarcerated. I met him through a pen pal service which asks for people on the outside, like myself to write to prisoners. To be on the safe side, I picked a man who was doing life without the possibility of p...
A. 27 August 2011: He's in prison for life - for murder. What if he murdered someone very close to you and he's definitely a very violent person. The side of him you're seeing is clearly stage managed you don't want to know the real him. You wanted a pen pal and to ... (read in full...)
I had a great one stand and I want it again. How do I ask him?
Q. Hi, should I contact this guy or not? We hooked up a few weeks ago(a one-night, no-strings-attached thing), and it was the best sexual experience of my life, and I dont want it to be the only time it happens, but how do i go about suggesting we do ...
A. 25 August 2011: Looks like you want a FWB situation. Hope you can deal with the hassles involved. ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get over my old flame even after a year of no contact!!!
Q. 2 years ago i started talking to a guy on msn, and we had such a great connection that we arranged to meet up. I had such an amazing time and we ended up kissing and it gave me butterflys even talking to him. We continued to meet up every weekend ...
A. 25 August 2011: If your bf is still close by and willing to have you, I'll keep him and forget about your past. He is very cautious of what he's doing and you have to call it quits. Why bother with a guy who can't make up his mind? He's bad news. Don't bother ... (read in full...)
Old flame and I can't keep hands off of each other but he's married!
Q. I dated my first real love in high school for 2 years and we were madly in love. Had names for our future kids and talked to our parents about marriage. We broke up cuz his parents didn't approve of me. He latergot another girl pregnant and ...
A. 24 August 2011: I'll say he's confused and as a grown man should be able to make up he's mind. How long will you play the 2nd fiddle. If you really meant that much to him back in time he should take a decision on you. He's married and having you by the side its a ... (read in full...)
Old flame... or new guy???
Q. This is a very akward situation and I really need help You see up until last week i had been meeting up with an amazing guy. well I thought he was amazing until he stood me up and never got bacl in touch with me. But anyway I was hurting and I st...
A. 23 August 2011: I will forget about the new guy. He stood you up, no explanation; went out of your way to send a text and still nothing. If you hook up with him finally this could be the modus operandi and quite frankly, not worth the time and heartache. As for the ... (read in full...)
He never wants kisses and affection - just sex
Q. I've been dating this guy for about six months. He never wants to kiss (And I am xtra fresh with my breathe, so it's not that), hardly wants to hug but wants sex. He never take me out and the one time he did, I nearly had to beg for it. I keep ...
A. 21 August 2011: That he neither wants to hug, kiss or take you out says a lot. I think you know the answer to this already. Drop this guy like a bad habit. There's a better person for you out there. ... (read in full...)
Get him back or get back at him, this time on my terms.
Q. So there is this guy i met 1 1/2 yr ago. He was a coworker and we slept together. I thought he really liked me. It turned out to be a one night stand and he left me hanging agonizing over him. I spent a yr wishing he would contact me. He got ...
A. 18 August 2011: You say you have moved on keep it at that. He did it once he's going to do it again. Since it was a mutual friend why didn't he ask for your number? Even though he has apologized I wouldn't buy it. Don't give him your own terms to follow. Instead ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a friend who has a rotten boyfriend
Q. I have this friend who's in a relationship with a guy. And the guy she's with ignores her and blames all of the problems on her. I'm trying to tell her it's not her fault. She also tells me she likes me (as more then just a friend) to because I ...
A. 18 August 2011: If she likes you as much as she claims, she should end it with her bf and be with you. ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to tell him the baby isn't his?
Q. I need some help. I have no idea what to do. im five months pregnant, and need wise advice. Please do not judge... My babys father is an emotional wreck most of the time, he yells at me when we argue like a 2 year old having a tantrum, and he is on ...
A. 13 August 2011: No you weren't wrong to tell him that. if the man changes in future which I doubt he will, maybe but for now he isn't worth the trouble. Goodluck... (read in full...)
Does my Chiropractor like me???
Q. So I've been going to my chiro for a few years and have always been attracted to him. I don't know if he can tell I like him (I usually flirt) but I'm trying to figure out if what he's doing is flirting back or if he might have a thing for me too. ...
A. 13 August 2011: As you are his patient, its dicey for him because it should be against his professional ethics. Since you have something like a 'date' planned out, try asking for his number and say its just to confirm from him about your date. If he gives you, then ... (read in full...)
My ex suggests having a sort of FWB relationship and I don't know how I feel about it
Q. Is it possible to remain friends and have sex with a man you love deeply and have spent many years with while moving on? He never cheated,or physical abuse but was very unhappy with himself and no matter what I did could not prove the the tr...
A. 12 August 2011: This guy is bad news. Drop him like a bad habit. ... (read in full...)
I finally feel happy....so why is my ex contacting me again?
Q. Hi there:) I was just wondering if you guys could clarify something for me. I dumped my ex in April after an extremely difficult 3 year relationship. To cut a long story short: he drank too much, treated me like dirt, took me for granted with his...
A. 11 August 2011: You are right on track sweetheart! Keep the flag flying high. No contact, no contact, no contact. ... (read in full...)
Why guys can never admit to there feelings?
Q. I want to really know why guys can never admit to there feelings? This one guy I like really seems into me. His actions scream out. Like he holds my hand when we go longboarding and we kiss every now an then. But then some of his friends tell me ...
A. 11 August 2011: You shouldn't let this guy kiss or sleep with you without you knowing what your stand is with him. Forget what his actions are screaming about; he should be man enough to voice out his feelings to you. If he's shy you guys have passed that stage and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me but still wants to be friends. I can't because I'm still in love with him
Q. Why wont my ex boyfriend let us part ways? he wont let me go:(? My ex bf dumped me saying he doesn't want a relationship. He broke my heart. I loved him so much. Is been 4months now and he won't leave me alone. No matter how long we go ...
A. 10 August 2011: What you need here, is the no contact rule. You're hurting and he can't appreciate that. He's also selfish and wants to keep you close. Don't allow that - Ignore his calls, texts and if he bothers you on fb, block him. After 4 months, you should be ... (read in full...)
We seem so good together, why hasn't he asked me to be his g/f?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a while now. We act like a total couple. We've hugged, kissed, made out, everything except sex. When he's away he tells me how much he misses me and how he wished he was with me instead of away. He calls me his baby ...
A. 8 August 2011: He wants to eat his cake and have it. Don't let him do that to you. Its really hard to ask a guy if you guys are an item. Keep away from him for a little bit don't sound too enthusiastic on the phone, stop making out with him. If he notices your ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep hurting me?
Q. What does he keep hurting me like this? what is wrong with me:(? I loved my ex boyfriend so much, I thought we had a relationship, I thought I was special to him the way he was special to me. But he broke up with me saying he doesn't want a r...
A. 7 August 2011: You obviously like him more than he likes you, he knows this and is using it against you. The solution is the no contact rule. Yes it hurts but that's the answer. ... (read in full...)
Am afraid of telling the elderly people I work with that I am leaving my job...how do I handle this?
Q. Hi just a quick question. Hope you can help. This is not relationship question. It is regarding my work. I work in the community, have done so for 6 years and over the years, i have built up some good friendships. But due to the attitudes of th...
A. 7 August 2011: I'm stuck in something close though mine is a group of friends whom I feel I have or we've drifted apart. So this is how I'm handling it. Will go to a lady I'm quite close to among them and tell her my hubby says I should quit this group have done ... (read in full...)
Threesome has affected friendship boundaries
Q. A couple of years ago, my good friend and his girlfriend came over to my place one night with the intent of having a 3-some; he thought it would be exciting watching me have sex with his girlfriend, and she was all for it too. Anyway, everything ...
A. 2 August 2011: If your friendship means anything to you stop sleeping with his wife. Put your foot down, looks like you not married. Find someone, anyone just leave her alone. Be rude to her if that'll do it. Threesomes have always, always been a bad idea. ... (read in full...)
I'm hopelessly confused. I truly love my B/f. But now I like his friend even more. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend who I've been dating for about a year and a half, and I lost my virginity to him, and I love him. I truly do. But he has a friend... and I find myself really excited to see him, and I'm really friendly towards him,...
A. 2 August 2011: You've done this before? Your bf has got to be a v nice person for taking you back after going with his friend and guess what? You're about to do it again! You need to mature a lot more. Seems to me youe emotions are all over the place and you're ... (read in full...)
I am so lost it's unreal. IDK what my current bf will think. Should I just tell him?
Q. OK guys i have a problem. So I am currently in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful soldier man. I love him dearly and feel safe with him. He caught me and held me after my ex dumped me and was with me through all the crap my ex pulled after ...
A. 1 August 2011: I'm no male, but if you can write yourself that your ex put you through a lot of crap then watcH out because he'll probably do it again. Telling your soldier friend, will make him feel bad especially if he detects you still want to be with your ex ... (read in full...)
I'm hopelessly confused. I truly love my B/f. But now I like his friend even more. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend who I've been dating for about a year and a half, and I lost my virginity to him, and I love him. I truly do. But he has a friend... and I find myself really excited to see him, and I'm really friendly towards him,...
A. 1 August 2011: You haven't said what it is that attracts you to this guy. Is he cute, funny, outgoing, what? The thing is you're there's always going to be someone out there apart from your partner you're attracted to; but how do you handle it? Something attracted ... (read in full...)
I feel that there something going on between my husband and a woman from his work...What do I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I can't get over the feeling that there something going on between my husband and a woman from his work. They have been friends now for a couple of years but she recently got married and is already having marriage problems. My hus...
A. 30 July 2011: If you're suspecting something talk to your husband. There's no use bottling it inside when you can sort it out with him. If you notice anything in his phone you don't like tell him since he deletes them, forward them to your phone - Its lame but ... (read in full...)
Is he to young?
Q. I'm a 22 year old female and I like a guy who's 19 he likes me too. Is 19 too young?...
A. 30 July 2011: Not if he does it for you. ... (read in full...)
How do you find a person to love?
Q. How do you find a person to love? That is my question. I'm unhappily, very unhappily married. Never been happy in fact. I just want to love. Is it too much to ask? I love somebody now who's deeply committed to his fiance'. So,there is no c...
A. 30 July 2011: Your husband loves you a lot but you don't love him. I don't know why. There are a lot of marriages out there that are working because the parties involved make it work. Have you thought of loving someone who may not love you in return, since you're ... (read in full...)
I have a great sex drive and my husband has almost none. How can this work?
Q. I was wondering if anyone can relate to being sexually frustrated. I have a great sex drive always have and my husband has next to no sex drive. He says he's very attracted to me and thinks I'm sexy but we hardly have sex. When we do its great but ...
A. 26 July 2011: Lots of couples have sex thrice a week but describe it as ok. What's your definition of great sex? If its mind blowing and taking you to another realm, hunny I'll take the forthnitely mind blowing sex over the daily one- Thank you very much. But ... (read in full...)
My best guy friend is leading me on... Help!!
Q. My best guy friend is leading me on. He's always looking at me when we're hanging out together, even if our other friends are there. I'll ask him "what?" and he'll say "nothing" but keep looking. We talk all the time and he teases me all the time...
A. 24 July 2011: I think he still likes his gf but has feelings for you. He acted dumb to brush it off. I know he may be like your bestfriend but I know the gf has got to be uncomfortable with ur closeness with him. Give him some space to make up his mind ... (read in full...)
Why does my FWB ignore me when he sees me?
Q. hi everyone me and this guy are sex buddys have been since march now we get on really well when we see each other which is about once every 2 or 3 weeks just lately i have saw him twice and both times he has pretended he hasnt seen me even though he ...
A. 16 July 2011: Why would you agree to a FWB situation. Its a very complicated issue as you have started having feelings which I think he may not. I would leave him and look for a 'full time bf'. Leave him. He's definitely heartache for you. ... (read in full...)
I don't wan't to leave my wife, but I have very strong feelings for this other woman. Is it possible to love two women and not hurt anyone?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm new to this site, but appreciate everyone's candor and returns on their experience. I am and have been happily married for 20 years now with my french wife in Paris. I love my wife, we are close and loving and I am proud ...
A. 10 July 2011: Is it possible to have a mistress without diminishing the love for your wife? Yes and no. Yes because a lot of men can separate love and sex (I think). No because she maybe ok with it at first, but gradually she is going to want more. You and your ... (read in full...)
Should I stay friends with my ex?
Q. My boyfriend of about a yr and 1/2 just broke up with me. I am 20. He made me grow. He was my first love. I felt so comfortable with him and I trust him. He said that he fell out of love with me but still loves me and wants the best for me. He ...
A. 1 July 2011: Since he's the one that broke up with you it's easy for him to ask for friendship. He let you go while or possibly when you weren't expecting it. It's never really a good idea to be friends with exes because then the pain just lingers on. Do ... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake having sex with him?
Q. This sound stupid but you all have to help me out. My lecturer has being asking me out for one week. But later i decided to go,but only for him to tell me that he loves me and that i'll benefit lot of things if i accept. That particular day he had ...
A. 21 June 2011: As your lecturer, you should never have dated him talk less of sleeping with him and then being married makes it worse. I hope he doesn't continue this or decide to punish you with your grades. I'm sorry if I was blunt. ... (read in full...)
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