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17 July 2008: After reading an abnormal amount of questions along the lines of "He looked at me, does that mean he likes me?!", I got to thinking about how much easier life could be if there was some sort of way we could communicate emotions without confusion. ...
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I want to use tampons for the first time and need some advice
Q. I'm 13 and I really want to try using tampons. I've had my period for 1 year and a half and I'm ready to switch to tampons now. I find pads annoying. I'm going on a camping trip soon and by then it'll be my time of the month! I don't want to use ...
A. 27 June 2008: They aren't that scary, and I personally worship them as a lifesaver.
There is not that much variation when it comes to type. You have your light, regular and heavy varieties - you simply choose depending on your flow. So far as brands go, they... (read in full...)
How can I be sure I lost my virginity?
Q. well i had sex with my boyfriend. who is 19 and i am 15. yes i love him and i know he loves me and i dont regret doing it with him. but i didnt feel much pain so how am i sure i lost my virginity without telling my doctor?...
A. 26 June 2008: It's not a question of whether you felt pain or not.
If you had sex with him, then congratulations, you are no longer a virgin. There's no question about it.
I do wonder though - if you don't know these things, then perhaps you aren't as ready fo... (read in full...)
I really like him but I'm unsure whether he's just in it for the sex.
Q. okay, so i met this guy at my school, who im gonna call "travis" (not his real name). we have been talking for a few months now about dating, but when we discussed sexual circumstances, it was a little awkward. he is three years older than i am, ...
A. 26 June 2008: If you really like him and he says he's willing to respect your decision, then give him the benefit of the doubt for the time being. Just be wary.
The /minute/ he tries anything without your permission, lose him. Don't ever let him persuade... (read in full...)
My husband has been visiting dating websites!
Q. i am new to this site, i ran into it on accident but i'm glad i did. the first question i ran into sounded just like mine. my husband has been going into websites without me knowing and there date, or meet someone websites. i found out by accident ...
A. 26 June 2008: You could always try talking to your husband about it, as opposed to sneaking about changing all his passwords.... (read in full...)
I'm leaving my school and all my friends, what can I do?
Q. i am an emotional wrack bcuz i am leaving the school and friends i love.wat shud i do to get over it?...
A. 26 June 2008: Keep in contact!
Get all your friends emails addresses, phone numbers and postal addresses. Changing schools doesn't mean you have to lose all your friends.
Perhaps have a little going-away get together or something as well.... (read in full...)
He won't remove his ex from his friends list!
Q. my boyfriend have a second myspace account and he refuses to remove his ex from his friends list,he removed her from his top friends list but he wont remove her from the friends list ...
A. 26 June 2008: Perhaps he is still friends with her?
Have you asked your boyfriend about it? And I mean asked, not told. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable that her has here there and would feel better if he removed her from the list.
And if he doesn't, big ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know how old she was when she lost her virginity?
Q. I am having trouble coping with the fact that my girlfriend won't tell me how old she was when she first had sex. I know who it was with, just not how old she was. I also want to know how many different guys she's been with and who they are. To a ...
A. 26 June 2008: It's not wrong to be curious, but you need to realize that a persons sex life is their own business.
If she wants to tell you how many guys she has slept with and who they were, fine, but you can't /make/ her tell you, and if she doesn't want to t... (read in full...)
I met a boy online, and he likes me way more than I like him - What do I do?
Q. There's this lad on msn and he's apparently 'into me' yet we've never met in person nor even spoke on the phone. Anyway, he wants to meet me (we've only spoken on msn about 2/3 times - long convo's though!) but i aren't sure whether to, he seems a ...
A. 26 June 2008: I can't say that last bit made me laugh. It's stupid and cruel to tell him you 'love' him if you don't. Don't lead the lad on - if you aren't interested, make it clear to him. Don't mess him about like that.
If you are unsure about meeting ... (read in full...)
Would girls date a guy that looks way younger than his age?
Q. I'm almost 24, and I've never been in a relationship, nor have I ever been approached by women. Part of this is because I've never tried flirting with girls due to my inability to keep conversations going, but I believe the big reason is because I ...
A. 25 June 2008: My boyfriend is 21 and can still pass for 16. I find it quite endearing. =)
I'd say your key problem here is confidence. Acting shy around women is a characteristic often associated with teenage boys, and teaming that with a young appearan... (read in full...)
I'm suddenly shy around the boyfriend!
Q. hey, i've been with my boyfriend since june 11, 2008, and we've been friends for 10 years. i'm 13 now. the thing is i was fine talking to him before we started dating, but now i'm all shy around him! i don't know what to do. people say that we were ...
A. 25 June 2008: I'd say you're feeling shy because you don't know how to apporach him now that you're more than just friends - you feel like you have to act like a 'girlfriend', and you don't know how to go about that. (I could be completely wrong here, though).
I... (read in full...)
He has informed me that his birthday is also National Sex Day!
Q. I am a 15 year old girl, and my boyfriend is turning 16 in August. By August we will have been dating 5 months. I am a virgin, he has told me that he isn't. His parents are going away the week of his birthday, and he has also informed me that his ...
A. 25 June 2008: Now that is one hell of a day to be born on.
It could just be that he is proud of his quirky birthday, as others would be if they were born on, say, International Talk Like A Pirate Day (September 19) or Towel Day (May 25).
But I can see why you'... (read in full...)
What can I do? ! really hate my body!
Q. Hi i'm sure you get this all of the time but i'm going to ask my question anyway. i really hate my body. i have small breasts (about a b-cup) they used to be bigger (a c cup) and then they shrunk (i lost 30 pounds because i was overweight). they are...
A. 24 June 2008: I really doubt that having a B cup is something worth worrying about, let alone considering suicide over. I do know where you are coming from - I'm only an A cup myself, and it can be a little disheartening at times, but you need to realize that ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that his sperm may have leaked down from "there" into my vagina because I don't want to get pregnant!
Q. Everyone I need help. Don't get me wrong when I ask this question but how possible is it to get pregnant from anal sex? My boyfriend didn't use protection and I'm worried that his sperm may have leaked down into my vagina. I really don't know what ...
A. 24 June 2008: It is possible, but not likely. The anus is not a hospitable environment for sperm, so if anything leaked, it could well have already been dead.
Your chances of becoming pregnant are not very high, but if you are really worried about it, wait anot... (read in full...)
We broke up but he is now asking if I will lose my virginity with him?
Q. I am only 17 years old, I've dated a guy for only a month then we broke up. We kept talking for a while and he's always been honest to me, even when we broke up. Know were going to see each other and he ask me if i want to lose my virginity with ...
A. 24 June 2008: You've already broken up with him once, and when you see him again it will only be for a month. This really doesn't sound like something that is going to last - Do you really want to lose your virginity to a guy you'll only see a few times?
The f... (read in full...)
Is it possible for withdrawal to work as birth control?
Q. Is it possible for withdrawal to work as birth control? I know it's not supposed to work. I'd like to have a baby. The problem is my bf isn't sure, so when we have sex he shoots his sperm on my stomach. I am secretly hoping to get pregnant but ...
A. 24 June 2008: If your boyfriend isn't sure about having a baby, then it's a bit rotten of you to go about trying to have one anyway. If he isn't ready, how do you know how he'll react if you /do/ get pregnant? Sneaking about isn't a good way to strengthen a ... (read in full...)
I miss the romance! Is he losing interest?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We started out as friends and slowly (VERY slowly) progessed into a comitted relationship. In the beginning he would do such cute, sweet things for me. For example, he brou...
A. 24 June 2008: I do know what you mean, I've been there myself. Once you have been togehter a coupld of years, the initial rush of passion and romance will wear off, but it doesn't mean he loves you any less. All it means is that he is comfortable enough in this ... (read in full...)
Help me understand what he means by all this!
Q. hi, I like this guy but I am not shore how he feels about me. Wean we talk he poets he's hands an his waist and he leans little for word. Wean I see him at church he always says "Hi" or even sometimes he says "Hi sunshine" or "hi sweet hart". We ...
A. 23 June 2008: Sounds to me like he's flirting with you. =)
If you like him, why not ask him out for coffee or something? Have a conversation and get to know one another better, see if there's any chemistry between you two.
You'll never know unless you try!... (read in full...)
Why won't he let me have my own cell phone? I don't see the big deal.
Q. He doesnt let me use my own phone but he has his own cell. Also he keeps the secret passcode as a secret and secured one for me too.As being a teacher there comes times when i really get troubled when i dont have a cell.For example: in need to give ...
A. 23 June 2008: It sounds like whoever 'he' is, he is trying to control you. What are his reasons for not giving you your cell phone? And why does he get to have one?
More detail might be handy, but from what I can tell, this man isn't very good for you.
Perha... (read in full...)
Do guys really prefer virgins?
Q. hi everyone. ok i went on holiday a few weeks ago and went on a date with this boy who was a year older than me. within 1 hour it was clear all he wanted was sex.(i didnt give him it!) i told him i was a virgin but he was still eager saying stuff ...
A. 23 June 2008: Well first up, good on you for standing your ground and not letting yourself be pressured into anything. =)
As far as I know, there /are/ girls who will sleep with a guy they have just met. But it's the choice of the individual. I personal... (read in full...)
Advice on looking after children under 5!!
Q. This isn't a relationship, sex or dating question but I've got a new sunday job working with little children, just to get me some money. The only thing, they are exhausting and I can't seem to connect with them. It's not like I'm a naturally scar...
A. 23 June 2008: Ah, the joy that is young children. I was a nanny for a while when I was 17 so I know what you mean - those critters are hard work!
You don't know what to say to 'motivate' them - to do what? Eat their lunch? Play a game? More info might be help... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he be having a bit of variety (watching porn) as to not become bored with me? Should I encourage him to fantasize about other girls...?
Q. Is this too "good" to be true? I feel like something's wrong with it! Either my bf is a liar or seriously commited. The other day we were talking about sex and stuff. I asked him if he ever wanted to go to a strip club. He said he didn't, that it ...
A. 21 June 2008: You're worried about your guy because he thinks you're dead sexy and doesn't look at porn? I don't think you have much to worry about! I see so many women complaining about their boyfriends looking at porn too much or ogling other women - looks like ... (read in full...)
The condom broke and I got my period the very next day, any chances of pregnancy?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were having sex when the condom broke, Now I got my period the very next day and had a normal period except for the odd fact that I had severly bad cramps for two days. Is it possible I could be pregnant? I don't feel like it,...
A. 21 June 2008: If you got it the very next day, odds are your uterus would have been in no state to host an embryo at the time the condom broke. If you have had your period, there is very very very little chance you are pregnant.
Five weeks should be more tha... (read in full...)
How can I get my parents to trust us?
Q. Me and my boyfriend, we were planning to stay at the chalet for a few nights. we're going to share a bed but my parents were afraid that we would have sex. how can i persuade them?...
A. 20 June 2008: Well that all depends. ARE you planning to have sex with him? If so, your parents are right to be worried - you're too young to be bothering with all that stuff. Keep it PG for the time being.
And keep in mind that even if you're not planning to h... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a girl to get wet without really feeling horny at all?
Q. Is it possible for a girl to get wet without really feeling horny at all?...
A. 20 June 2008: Yes, it's possible. It's quite common to experience vaginal discharge without being turned on at all.
I don't know the exact medical or scientific explanation for it - I assume it's just your body doing all the things it's gotta do. It's pretty n... (read in full...)
How do I regain her friendship and become un-creepy?
Q. Alright so right now I'm having a chat via e-mail with a girl that I really, really, really like (like she is all I think about night and day.) So over the past few months I've tried asking her out, then sending her poetry, then talking to her. She ...
A. 20 June 2008: You asked her out, THEN sent poetry, THEN talked to her? You've got it in the wrong order, love.
Talk first. Establish a connection or a friendship. THEN ask her out. If she says no, bummer. If she says yes, good on you.
But lay off the poetry. ... (read in full...)
I drunkenly told her I liked her - How can I let her down easy?
Q. K, so I'm wondering what to do about a girl who totally won't get the hint. She ALWAYS wants me to call her, she wants to hang out everyday, the whole bit. We hooked up at a party a week ago, I was completely smashed, and while we were hooki...
A. 20 June 2008: Don't be such a jerk. Only jerks try and scare a girl off by not calling and acting like a tool.
Man up and just tell her straight out. Be nice about it, but be direct - you were drunk, it was a hookup, sorry.... (read in full...)
7 minutes in heaven - how does it work?!
Q. i would like to know more about this game- 7 minutes in heaven..could someone tell me the rules please thanks.....
A. 20 June 2008: This should clear things up for you:
http://www.virtualkiss.com/kissinggames/7minutesinheaven.asp
Ten seconds on Google. Hope it helps. =)... (read in full...)
Sex with a new boyfriend - how soon is too soon?
Q. How soon is too soon, to have sex with a new boyfriend? Im just curious to know....
A. 20 June 2008: It's entirely up to the two of you - no-one else can say when is or isn't too soon. If you feel comfortable with it after a month, fine, and if you want to wait two years, then that's just dandy too.... (read in full...)
Why did she change her mind? Does she like me or not?
Q. i recently went on a school trip and everyone was in the living room. Slowly one by one everyone went to bed and me and this girl were left. We were lying next to each other on the sofa just talkin in the dark. She put her head on my chest and ...
A. 20 June 2008: She probably didn't feel the mood anymore. I've had the same thing happen - me and the boy will be getting intimate, then BAM! Toilet break.
There's nothing very sexy about running off to the loo. Perhaps next time, try and make sure you've gone... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date your sister's boyfriend's sister?
Q. Is it okay to date your sisters boyfriends sister...
A. 19 June 2008: If you like her, then go ahead. There's nothing wrong with it.... (read in full...)
Why don't I ever get asked out?
Q. Im very attractive and i have only been asked out once (im 19) I get whistled at by guys a lot and lots of them say im hot and try to use me for sex but never want a relationship with me. I dont get it, Im tall, athletic, smart, funny and ive even ...
A. 19 June 2008: It's quite possible that lads are intimidated - for all the macho talk, a lot of them sure are wimpy when it comes to asking a pretty lass out for a drink.
Or perhaps you just haven't met a guy who feels that sort of connection with you. Despite ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive her or stay mad at her for kissing my boyfriend while we were drunk?
Q. my friend and i were at this party, with my boyfriend( but he wasnt my boyfriend at the time) and we all ended up getting really drunk with this other guy. and we all ended up making out with eachother. my friend had a boyfriend at the time, and i ...
A. 19 June 2008: You said it yourself - he wasn't your boyfriend at the time. Had you been dating seriously when she made out with him, it might be a different matter, but since you were not, I'd put it down to a drunken snog and leave it at that.
... (read in full...)
How do I aproach girls?
Q. ok so im not the most confident of guys which ultimatly is why i cant find a partner, the other day i was standing outside a bookshop before it was about to open and there was a girl there that seemed quite cool. i couldnt help but notice we were ...
A. 19 June 2008: Talk to her! Even if you just say 'hi', at least you've broken the initial barrier.
Asking questions is a good move - generally, people love to talk about themselves. So perhaps asking her if she worked there or if she was looking for a part... (read in full...)
Is he too young for me do you think?
Q. I wonder if anyone can advise me on a startling new problem that's come up. Im 35 and single, never been married or had kids, and a few years ago got to know a lovely guy through some friends, who was 19. i found him really attractive and ...
A. 19 June 2008: Go ahead! You're both legal, responsible adults - if you like one another then why not go for it? Be proud that you've still got the goods to attract a much younger man. =)... (read in full...)
I'm sixteen and I think I'm a sexual deviant!!
Q. I'm sixteen and I think I'm a sexual deviant. A masochist to be exact. When I masturbate, I like to pretend that reino nordin, a Finnish actor is a sexual deviant and he does all the things i imagine. I shouldn't be this way. I mean, when I look at ...
A. 18 June 2008: There is /nothing/ wrong with you. Masochism is a well established sexual practise.
Just because it's something not everyone is into doesn't make it abonormal in any way. Everyone has their preferences.
Who says you're /supposed/ to be normal? ... (read in full...)
Please help, I have a pimple the size of Texas!!
Q. Dear cupid, I have a pimple the size of texas, and the boy i like keeps telling me to buy pro active. It's really embarrasing and i dont have the money to afford pro active and to be honest i dont mind having a lot of pimples because that makes m...
A. 18 June 2008: If he's the kind of lad who will only like you if you wear makeup or have perfect skin, then he's probably not the sort of lad you want to be with anyway. He should like you for who you are, Texas-sized pimples and all.
Even so, I've been there, a... (read in full...)
Does any other girl have the same symptom?
Q. Does any girl have the same symptom when you get your period?Every time I wake up in the morning,my vulva is burning on the outside.It's not that uncomfortable, but it does hurt and it usually only last for about 10 minutes.The pain's not sever...
A. 18 June 2008: I can't say that's ever happened to me.
I'm no doctor, but it doesn't sound usual. However, I could be wrong.
If you're really worried about it, go and see your GP.... (read in full...)
I don't understand the difference?
Q. He LOVES me but is NOT IN LOVE with me. what does that mean? i'm confused....
A. 18 June 2008: To understand this you have to realize that there's different kinds of love. There's the love you feel for family, or there's platonic love, like you have for friends, and then there's romantic love, which is the 'in love' kind.
When he says he love... (read in full...)
My sisters husband forced me to have sex
Q. i lost my virginity at age 12 with my sisters husband. i dident want to but he forced me. know i dont know if to tell my sister wat happend. wat should i do?...
A. 17 June 2008: Tell you sister. Tell you Mum. Tell your family. And tell the police. What you describe is rape, and it is a crime. He will go unpunished unless you come forward and tell people what he did. Don't feel dirty or ashamed of it - you are a victim, and ... (read in full...)
I want to have an affair but I don't know where to look for someone else?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having problems and he never gives me attention. I want to have an affair but I dont know where to look for someone else. Any advice? I cant go to a bar becasue I am 18....
A. 17 June 2008: What a stupid and selfish act.
If you are having enough problems with your boyfriend that you would ACTIVELY LOOK to cheat on him, then just break it off now. What will you achieve by cheating except more problems?
Silly girl.
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My period's been on for 3 weeks and the doctor finds nothing wrong!What's happening to me?
Q. Is what I have the opposite of amenorrhea(absence of menstruation)?My period started last year in June and has never been irregular until May 23rd.That was 18 days after my last period.My mom saw nothing wrong. I told my mom on the 5th that my p...
A. 17 June 2008: Two weeks? Aw, that's got to suck.
Because you are only young, it is very likely that your periods will be irregular. Some girls, like you, will have unusually long periods, and others will only get them once every three or four months, like I d... (read in full...)
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