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I've always found myself being the 'shoulder to cry on' in my little group of friends, and the role has grown on me. I like to help.

I like to think I have a healthy amount of common sense. I try to be practical when it comes to advice. I am currently in a long term, committed relationship, so I hope I know at least a little of what goes on when it comes to relationships - I seem to be doing alright so far. =)

I'm young - there are a lot of things I don't know, or have no experience with. But that is why I'm here - to learn, as well as to help.

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The language of fans - A solution to teenage drama?

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17 July 2008: After reading an abnormal amount of questions along the lines of "He looked at me, does that mean he likes me?!", I got to thinking about how much easier life could be if there was some sort of way we could communicate emotions without confusion. ...

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I hurt one of my friends badly, what do I do?

Q.   My friend Hannah (not her real name) lost her Dad (he was 42) in a car accident and she been annoying me ever since it happen. One day Hannah wining about her Dad and I lost it (didnt mean to) and told her shes being obsessed with him and needs to ...

A.   21 July 2008: Just because you 'didn't mean to' doesn't mean it didn't hurt her. You were insensitive, and she has every right to be annoyed at you. Why not just apologize to her? Take her aside and let her know you regret what you said (You do, right?),... (read in full...)

Is it a bad idea to get a tattoo of his name? He wants to get one of mine.

Q.   my boyfriend and i been 2gether for 3 years and we been living 2gether for 1 of those 3 years. Anyways, we want 2 get married but dont have alot of money and have been saving for the perfect wedding but my boyfriend wants to get my name tattoed on ...

A.   21 July 2008: Tattoos of your partners name are not 'bad luck', but they do tend to be bad decisions. Tattoos last a lifetime, which is a lot longer than many relationships. I'm not saying you /will/ break up if you get tattoos of each others name. But you migh... (read in full...)

The Boobie Sisterhood: Cheers for breasts of all sizes!

Q.   I've felt strangely about my breasts ever since I got them. I was 11 when they were noticeable, and I felt feminine. Even though boys didn't make comments to me (I was super shy, so they didn't mess with me), all my friends said I had such a nice ...

A.   21 July 2008: I agree completely. I'm an A cup myself, and I felt inadequate most of the way through highschool - but then, so did my friend who is a DD. We figured out that if you put our entire 'boob mass' together and halved it, we'd both be happy, haha... (read in full...)

Should I be nervous or will high school be fun?

Q.   i am really nervous of going to high school and i want to lose about 20 pounds and then buy some better clothes should i be nervous or will high school be fun? are girls really that mean to each other for no reason like in the movies? i need help to ...

A.   18 July 2008: I wouldn't worry about it too much. Things are rarely the way they are in the movies, highschool included. Most people are actually pretty decent, at least in my experience. There will always be the minority who assholes, but they are a mino... (read in full...)

I am very attracted to a sweet, nerdy guy, thing is, I want to date him, he likes me according to friends, my problem is, if I date him, I don't want him to tell a lot of people, is this mean?

Q.   I really fancy a guy, I haven't seen him in a few weeks so i texted him. He hasn't replied and I think he may be on holiday. But his friends tol me he liked me. The thing is he is a bit of a nerd... and it would destroy my reputation a bit to go ou...

A.   18 July 2008: It is pretty mean, and very silly. Stop for a second and imagine if the tables were turned. How would you feel if the guy you were dating didn't want to tell people about it because he was ashamed of you and worried about something as fleeting as a ... (read in full...)

What does it mean, to blow in the ear, I am clueless, please answer?

Q.   What does it mean to blow in the ear?...

A.   18 July 2008: Can you put it in context for us? Details!... (read in full...)

I like this boy, he wants to have sex, he has genital warts, I am reluctant, can I get them by kissing him?

Q.   Okay so I'm falling for this boy. We've been seeing each other for about 8/9 months, and I feel like this is a serious relationship.. however he's brought up doing sexual activities, because he's says he really loves me (wants to get married some...

A.   18 July 2008: I'm pretty sure you can't get genial warts through kissing. You can only get it through sexual contact. If you've only been kissing him, you probably don't have it.... (read in full...)

Is a female getting wet equivalent to a male getting hard?

Q.   Just slightly curious here as to whether or not a female getting wet is the equivelant to a male getting hard. IE: Are they pretty much the same thing?...

A.   17 July 2008: Yes, they are pretty much equivalent. It's just the different ways the body reacts to being turned on. The body prepares for sex - so in a man's case, this would mean getting an erection, and in the woman's case, this would mean getting wet as a fo... (read in full...)

The language of fans - A solution to teenage drama?

Q.   After reading an abnormal amount of questions along the lines of "He looked at me, does that mean he likes me?!", I got to thinking about how much easier life could be if there was some sort of way we could communicate emotions without confusion. ...

A.   17 July 2008: I vaguely remember the series you mean, I think it aired here a while back, but damned if I can remember anything about it. Here's the website I got it from, if you're interested. There's a few more examples on there, I just picked a few of the more... (read in full...)

I'm uncomfortable and shy dancing at clubs!

Q.   My bf keeps trying to get me to dance at clubs but I am sooo shy and scared of doing it. I don't really know how to dance at clubs either. I've tried watching other people and copying there moves but most people seem to dance 'dirty' and I don't ...

A.   16 July 2008: It does take a bit of time to warm up to the whole dancing scene. I still get a bit self concious about it, but it is fun once you loosen up a bit. Don't worry about dancing dirty - I'm not keen on it either. Come and join the ranks of the 'fla... (read in full...)

Really like a guy and did oral - can we make it into a relationship?

Q.   I'm fifteen and I'm experienced with oral sex and what not. Its usually been with someone I've been in a relationship with - two different people. In 7th grade dated I someone for 6 mos. 8th grade I dated someone for 10 mos. last year, 9th grad...

A.   16 July 2008: Oh dear me. Do you really think that performing a sex act on a guy will make him fall in love with you? Being the first girl to give him a blow job means nothing - it just means that you were the first gullible lass to put her lips on his penis. It ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend always stays mad at me!

Q.   My b/f like says he is in love with me but he stays mad at me even over litle stuff... Is it something I'm doing??? Or am I a bad girlfriend?...

A.   16 July 2008: Can you give us details? What sort of 'little stuff'?... (read in full...)

I'm bi and have a boyfriend - if I do stuff with my best friend, does it count as cheating?

Q.   Ok i need some help again! I'm pretty sure i'm Bi, but i have a boy friend who i've been with for a year and 6 months. I have two questions. 1 is how do i go about messing around in bed with one of my best friends? 2 is If i do stuff with my best ...

A.   16 July 2008: I don't understand your first question. Are you asking how to get her in bed with you, or what to do with her once you're there? As for your second question - of course it's cheating. If your boyfriend went off and had sex with another guy, you... (read in full...)

How did you meet your partner?

Q.   Hi everyone, I've had a lot on my mind today so to lighten the mood I wanted to find out somthing dreamy. You see, every guy I have ever been with I have met after a big night at a party or the pub/club. Im not an alco or anything I just like (well ...

A.   15 July 2008: We both worked in the fruit and veg section at the local supermarket. He could lift a crate of broccoli like no other. ;-) ... (read in full...)

Could someone give me a few exciting ideas, on what to do, for a Hen's Night for my newly engaged girlfriend; she has a baby and she is not into male strippers, also any ideas on engagement and wedding gifts?

Q.   Hi! My best friend just got engaged and she's asked me to be matron of honour! I'm realy excited for her and looking for some exciting ideas for a hens night. She has a baby and not very interested in being surrounded by male strippers or the like. ...

A.   15 July 2008: Congratulations to you and your friend! How about some kind of girly pamper night? Crack open a bottle of champagne and give yourselves facials, manicures, pedicures, massage... Perhaps make a few phone calls and see if there are any professi... (read in full...)

Should I lose my virginity to him? I don't know if I want to.

Q.   my boyfriend loves me (and i know he does) and i love him too, i'ts just, he is not a virgin, but i am. He wants to have sex, but i dont know if i want to tho. I dont know if he wants me for my body or for me. I just dont know if i should give my ...

A.   15 July 2008: If you are unsure AT ALL, then don't. Just because he wants sex does not mean you have to give it to him. Do NOT let him pressure you. It's not a case of 'if you love him you'll have sex with him' - that is NOT how it works. If HE really loves YOU, ... (read in full...)

Is there a quick way to stop periods?

Q.   Hey :) Is there any quick way of stopping periods? I've heard that lots of fluids and exercise do it. Is there any other way? Thanks :))...

A.   15 July 2008: Why would you want to stop your period? I've heard excessive stress can stop them, but otherwise, I think you're pretty much stuck with it. Just let it run its course, it's not healthy to stop it.... (read in full...)

Does he like it when I moan? Or is it a complete turn off?

Q.   When me and my boyfriend have oral sex..Does he like it when I moan? Or is it a complete turn off?...

A.   15 July 2008: You bet he likes it - it lets him know he's doing the right thing. A nice ego boost for the lad.... (read in full...)

Are all these things signs that he likes me?

Q.   Hey! There’s a little problem that I have that I probably have put off for too long. Here goes…. So there’s this guy at school who is (or at least in my opinion) a great guy. He’s cute, super smart (and I should know- he’s one of the smartest person ...

A.   14 July 2008: I think you're making too much of this. Looks to me like he's just being friendly.... (read in full...)

Will this help my sister get pregnant?

Q.   hello cupid and friends here, first thank you for giving time reading this letter of mine., just wanna ask some information. its about having baby or getting pregnant. my sister was married for already 3 years.both husband and wife are doing ...

A.   14 July 2008: I really don't know where on Earth you got that idea from. Birth control doesn't 'clean' your insides - insides are generally self-cleaning, and whether they are 'clean' or not doesn't really affect your chances of pregnancy. Going on birth control ... (read in full...)

I don't understand, does he love me or does he just want sex?

Q.   Will men say I want to f**k you to the women they love when they were so turned on? My b/f and I are living far away. But we have phone sex or even video sex. While I showed my body on the camera to him, he was so turned on but could not touch me as ...

A.   14 July 2008: It doesn't mean he loves you any less. All it means is that he was SO turned on by you that he wanted to jump on you and go for it! It's just dirty talk, it's a good thing. Don't worry about it.... (read in full...)

Are there ANY relationships that work out?

Q.   I stumbled across this site looking for some advice...and came out quite discouraged =[ Does anyone know of a functional relationship? Of a healthy marriage in which mistakes are made but forgiveness is extended and the love is still strong? D...

A.   14 July 2008: Don't get discouraged - remember that this is a site for relationship and love advice, so the majority of the posts are going to be from people who have problems in these areas. It only seems like a lot because it's all concentrated into one area. I... (read in full...)

Should I stick to my plans to save myself for marriage?

Q.   For the past few days, I have had a pretty high/medium sex drive. Currently, I am 17, and I've only had one boyfriend - When I was 14. I'm still a virgin, but I find myself wanting sex. My plans are to save myself for marriage, but lately, I've...

A.   11 July 2008: Don't feel ashamed that you want to have sex. It's one of the most basic of human instincts, and it's totally natural to want to have it. Whether you save yourself for marriage or not is not a decision we aunts can make for you - ultimately, it's... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant the first time you have sex?

Q.   can females get pregnant when they have sex for the first time? ...

A.   11 July 2008: Yes. ... (read in full...)

I won't have an opportunity to lose my virginity until I'm 18, what do I do?

Q.   Hi, im 15 turning 16 this year and my mom got a job in Bamfield and there is nobody under the age 25. I come back to my home town for 1 week of the month. Ill be 18 when i come back permenantly. Im dont want to be 19 and a virgin. I dont want to ...

A.   11 July 2008: You wait for the right person to come along - whether that be when you are 16, 19 or 49. You said yourself that you don't want to lose it to just anyone - so don't. There are worse things than being a virgin. Don't worry about it.... (read in full...)

How do I have a 'serious relationship' with someone?

Q.   Me and this boy really like each other, we have for a while and I really want to be with him. The only thing stopping me is the fact that i've never really been in a serious relationship as I tend to get worried and never accept if someone asks ...

A.   11 July 2008: There is no hard and fast set of rules in regards to 'how to have a proper relationship'. It's really something that varies from couple to couple. However, in my experience, there are a few things that a successful relationship tends to need - thin... (read in full...)

I need some pointers on giving love bites!

Q.   hey everyone just needed some help... as i shy to ask anyone else... ive been with my partner for abt 10 months now and we really enjoy being with each other... recently we became physical and took the next step... he left me love bites all over m...

A.   11 July 2008: Love bites are a fun thing, aren't they? I personally am a big fan. It's not really a hard thing to do. You start to kiss around the area you want to give a love bite. Then you kiss harder, then you start to suck on the skin. Make sure you don'... (read in full...)

Geek gets love, popular girl gets lovesick!!!

Q.   Ok this is how it is, i met this awesome guy named R.E. at school, and him and my bestfriend were going out when i met him, but then he broke up with her and me and him started going out, but i had a boyfriend that was on the football team and he ...

A.   11 July 2008: Just because you are shallow doesn't mean he is. Even if /you/ think she's a 'chubby geek', that doesn't mean he does. Some people can see beyond labels and appearance. He's still with her, so he's obviously not into you. Leave it alone and move... (read in full...)

How do I properly dispose of the evidence so that my family isn't suspicious of my masturbating?

Q.   I masturbate regularly, about 2-3 sometimes 4 times a day. My parents don't know, neither does my sister. I think that they are starting to get suspicious tho, I don't know how to properly dispose of the evidence...What should I do???...

A.   10 July 2008: Use tissues.... (read in full...)

I don't even want to go out in public anymore thanks to this jerk at the grocery store!

Q.   Today I went to the grocery store to shop for food. My mom and sister came along. While I was standing behind my mom while she was paying the cashier. There was this stranger that took a look at me and told his friend quietly that he was standing ...

A.   10 July 2008: What complete and utter bloody... I can't even think of a word for it. I'm so sorry you had to deal with such morons, and I can understand why you reacted the way you did. Talk to your mum and your sister about it - it'll do you good to have some... (read in full...)

How can I make a move on my girlfriend at this party?

Q.   hi i am 14 and i need help with planing fist kiss for gf. we been going out 4 a year. she is 13. i am having a party in there days do i make mov e there. plz help...

A.   10 July 2008: You're stressing too much. You do not need to plan, you just do it. Get her alone and pucker up!... (read in full...)

I worry that I'm not good at kissing! Any tips?

Q.   ive kissed plenty of boys, but sometimes i worry that im not really up to par! i dont know what to do with my tongue, should i move it in clockwise spirals or counterclockwise? should i flick? should i thrust it deep into his mouth? where do i put ...

A.   9 July 2008: It really depends on the guy. Different people like different things. You seem to be focussing on your tongue a lot - kissing doesn't HAVE to involve tongue. Spare it, and it'll be better when you /do/ use it. Where you put your hands depends ... (read in full...)

I'm not sure how to act around my parent's friends, any advice?

Q.   i am nervous about seeing a show with my parent's friends because I don't know them and never seen them before. I'm nervous because i'm afraid that they might talk bad about me, criticize me, laugh at me. What should I do? Since my parents told me ...

A.   9 July 2008: You seem to think that your parents friends are going to act like teenagers. These people are adults - it's highly unlikely that they'll criticize, bad-mouth or laugh at you. Odds are, they'll ask you a couple of questions about yourself and then... (read in full...)

What sort of things can go wrong with sex?

Q.   im scared. im not saying im having sex yet but i may be in the near future. im only 14 and im just five foot. i would really like to know some things that can go wrong during or after sex. sideaffects or anything. im very nieve : ]. ...

A.   9 July 2008: Side effects of sex? Let's see... one of the better known ones is a thing they call /pregnancy/. There's also a whole host of fun and exciting STDs you can catch. If you are that naive about sex, then you should not even be considering ... (read in full...)

Can my friend be pregnant from being fingered?

Q.   my friend was fingered at a party but it wasn't like a typical party no alcohol or anything it was a barbeque and the guy that was there had been there for over 2 hours, shes freaking out because she hasn't had her period yet and she was supposed to ...

A.   9 July 2008: No. You cannot get pregnant from being fingered. If she is not old enough to know what can and cannot cause pregnancy, she is not old enough to be engaging in sexual activity. ... (read in full...)

By having unprotected oral sex, I may have contacted a disease of some sort, what do I do?

Q.   I'm acared migh have caught something. I gave a ex friend a bj and he has been with alot of girls. We didn't use any form of protection. Im lost in thinking maybe i got something from him. I'm with a new boyfriend its been 8 months and he want to do ...

A.   9 July 2008: Have you got any reason to believe you may have caught something? Do you have any symptoms, or are you just being a bit paranoid? You /can/ catch some STDS though oral sex. Things like herpes, HIV, syphilis, chlamydia and gonorrhea can be tras... (read in full...)

I am a teenage male, who is seriously interested in losing my virgin status, how do I go about this??

Q.   hi. im a 14 year old boy and i REALLY want to have sex. i can't stand it... im tired of people saying "just wait till your older. i want to now... i have friends at school who have already had sex. and if i get to i WILL wear condom...i just wa...

A.   9 July 2008: India has it spot on - You're going to find it hard to find a girl who'll have sex with you just so you can 'see what it feels like'. I have to say it - if all your friends jumped off a cliff, would you do it too? So what if you have friends ... (read in full...)

I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and we haven't kissed, how do I make a move?

Q.   i am 14 and i need help. my gf is 13 and we have been going out for 1 year. and i want her to kiss me but i dont know how to. plz help....

A.   9 July 2008: I'm pretty sure I've seen this question twice before. It's not that hard, love - just pucker up and go for it. =)... (read in full...)

I get a burning feeling when I pee. Can anyone suggest what's causing it?

Q.   ok, I have a big problem. Im suppose to start my period today, and well i kinda did. But the thing is i have to pee or feel as though i have to pee every few mins. But when i pee it burns, and its very litely bloody. I dont know what to make of ...

A.   8 July 2008: If you weren't on your period, the blood would be a concern, but I'm betting the blood is just because of menstruation. A burning sensation could be any number of things. Try drinking a lot of water - flooding your bladder can soemtimes clear wh... (read in full...)

Am I still a virgin, after these things occurred?

Q.   My boyfriend fingered me, It started to hurt, but I ignored it, but then I started to bleed. Did he break my Hymen? or is it something else.. Am I still a virgin even though I've never had sex.. ...

A.   8 July 2008: If it hurt and you bled, he may well have broken your hymen, but a broken hymen does not necessarily mean you aren't a virgin - you can break your hymen through exercize or using tampons. Everyone has different definitions of what constitu... (read in full...)

Dating for a year, how do I get her to realize I want to kiss her?

Q.   me and my gf have been dating for a year now. i am 14 she is 13 . we have have been huging and holding hands my question is how do i make her want to kiss me but she does not know i want to help please....

A.   8 July 2008: Try building up to it. Next time you hug her goodbye or something, give her a peck on the cheek. See how she reacts to it - she might even reutrn it. Alternatively, you could just ask her. Get her alone and get all cozy together, then just ask... (read in full...)

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