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Does he love me as a friend or does he mean proper love?
Q. Hi everyone, I need help some badly I'm going Insane! Right, I met this guy *Liam* on a chatroom about a yr ago, we've never met in person but we always video call (webcam and mic) and txt eachother. At first it started with him just say 'I love...
A. 16 October 2007: It could work out but the odds are against it. You need to go very slow. He may not be what he seems and you need to check out the things he tells you. Keep a record of all his personal identification so it can be checked out.... (read in full...)
BF is not interested in intimacy.
Q. I have been with my bf for three years and we've lived together half of that time. Although I love him and he is a wonderful man our time living together has been torment for me as he's avoided sex like it is something bad. I've done more than my ...
A. 16 October 2007: Sorry I missed part of the info you gave. Reflecting again I think he is angry over something and apparently he thinks you should know what it is. Or again, maybe he is trying to protect you from something.... (read in full...)
I'm a teen and have cellulite on my legs.
Q. help im a teen and have cellulite on my legs what should i do? im not fat i just have it on my legs. does anyone have any ideas on what to do?...
A. 15 October 2007: Oils and exercise.... (read in full...)
My friends say my boyfriend has a girlfriend who's expecting a baby.
Q. A group of my friends at college kept telling me that my boyfriend of 2 months has a girlfriend who is habing a baby, but he denies it and i dont really want to leave him without any evidence, because i really like him and he treats me really well. ...
A. 15 October 2007: Get more evidence from your friends and check it out. Maybe hire a PI.... (read in full...)
He refuses to get rid of the girls' phone numbers because he said if we break up he wants to be able to talk to them - and he puts his friends before our daughter and I.
Q. Hey I am eighteen years old and I have a one month old baby with my boyfriend. We had broken up but now are back together and he had got a bunch of girls phone number, he talks to them late and night and is constantly texting them. I told him i am ...
A. 15 October 2007: Ask to get married. He need to mature before he gives up the numbers of the old girlfriends.... (read in full...)
My husband never knew how to show affection so we became just friends. I'm having an affair with the love of my life, do I let him go and do "the right thing" ?
Q. I have been married for 12 years. My husband never knew how to communicate or show affection. We became just friends and not lovers or husband/wife. I have been having an affair for over a year now with "the love of my life" from years ago. I ...
A. 15 October 2007: Either divorce yor husbabd, get his permission or dump the bf.... (read in full...)
I ended the intimate contacts, finding out he's interested in somebody else, now I miss him. Did I do the right thing?
Q. iv been seeing this guy for about a month and recently found out his interested in someone else. Im extremly upset over it but not wanting to just be his 'sex buddy' in between his relationships i told him unless he feels the same way i cant do ...
A. 15 October 2007: You did the right thing. Respect yourself.... (read in full...)
I had an abortion after the rape, my religion says it's wrong. I will never be forgiven...
Q. i had an abortion because i got pregnant by someone i didnt want to have sex with in the first place (date rape) and i didnt want to raise the baby or have my family know that i was raped (they are very religious and would disown me if they knew i ...
A. 15 October 2007: God will forgive you if you ask and thereafter lead a proper life. God gives us freewill to test our judgment, but he also foregives the mistakes we make if we are sincere. This is best kept between you and God.... (read in full...)
I'm confused and don't have anyone to talk to.
Q. I sure how to start. I usually get online to checkout banking and that sort of things. I so confused and dont have anyone to talk to about this. I'v been married for 24 years with its normal ups and downs. We moved a year ago to be around are ...
A. 15 October 2007: He is a new friend. Tell your husband about him. And don't get physically involved with him.... (read in full...)
Does he love me as a friend or does he mean proper love?
Q. Hi everyone, I need help some badly I'm going Insane! Right, I met this guy *Liam* on a chatroom about a yr ago, we've never met in person but we always video call (webcam and mic) and txt eachother. At first it started with him just say 'I love...
A. 15 October 2007: He thinks he could fall in love with you if you would give him a chance.... (read in full...)
She won't call me or talk to me.
Q. I broke up with my old gf back in June. We'd been together about a year and a half. Started dating this other girl(B) who lives 45 mins away from me in August. Now some may think this is classic rebound behavior. Maybe maybe not, but I don't th...
A. 15 October 2007: Send her your picture in a get well card. Ask her out and include an RSVP stamped card.... (read in full...)
What's his problem?
Q. I am married and seeing/talking to a married man for a month. No sex. We talk everyday and have met 4 times. All of a sudden he tells me that he can't see me as a fb because he doesn't want to ruin the great friendship that we have and that he is ...
A. 15 October 2007: Take his reaction as real. He wants to be a friend not a FB.
ps How many FBs did you have on your phone.... (read in full...)
Am I ready to date again?
Q. My ex split up with me just over 3 months ago. I really am missing her dearly. She has made it very clear that we won't get back together, and while I think it is she that is making a big mistake, I feel lousy. These past few months have been...
A. 15 October 2007: You should be thinking about finding a new gf. After you find a new gf you should be thing about the new gf.... (read in full...)
Is he jerking me around?
Q. my ex and i have been off and on for 3 years.. and ive known him since i was 7.. i just recently went to his place and he admitted he was messing round with this girl but shes nothing to him- just a hit and quit type of thing.. and hes told my ...
A. 15 October 2007: He is not totally commmited to you. Stay away from him.... (read in full...)
Dad disconnected but acts like victim
Q. In order for me to be clear of guilt and move on with my life, I needed to ask for forgiveness from my daughter's dad. I've said and done some things I shouldn't have said or done. The things he's done to us don't quite as done it as well. But ...
A. 15 October 2007: Just tell her the truth and don't stand in the way of him seeing his daughter.... (read in full...)
I have reservcations about the guy I'm seeing.
Q. Hi There, I recently, about 6 weeks ago met a guy. When I met him, because I had 3 weddings coming up, I thought he was cute, a great dancer and would be a great partner for my weddings. TO make a long story short, we have been seeing each othe...
A. 15 October 2007: Dump him now. You can't uncnditionally love a guy with so many faults in your eyes. You are wasting his time and yours. What genetics do you want for your children.... (read in full...)
Thanks DearCupid
Q. Dear Andrew. hello my name is david but you may now me better as dapone 1, i was searching the net and came across your site by accident, i looked at a few of the letters and found i may be able to help with that, so i replied as they say the rest...
A. 15 October 2007: Welcome david aka dapone 1... (read in full...)
I don't want to have another year full of lies and secrts.
Q. I'm a 30 year old pretty , well educated professional and am dating a 23 year old guy from Eastern Europe who doesn't have any 3rd level education but has plenty of other qualities that I love and enjoy - my problem is my Mum ; I told her about him ...
A. 15 October 2007: You don't want to tell her because logically what you are doing makes no sense for your long term future. If you intend to jump into this tarpit, tell your Mum first and what you expect for your future. Your future need not be like the one she ... (read in full...)
Help me-i love my female teacher!
Q. hi i'm 15. a new teacher came to my school. i fell absoloutley madly in love with her, i can never stop thinking about her. it's killing me. i love her more than i've loved anybody. i don't know whether to keep it to myself, or tell her. if i tel...
A. 15 October 2007: At your age she cannot legally respond. You need to keep her as your friend and consider telling he more when you reach the age of 18.... (read in full...)
I'm a hypochondriac and my man can't deal with me.
Q. I'm a hypochondriac, for people who don't know what hypochondria is it's a mental illnes that you constantly need a doctors opinion on your health, also you go in to panic/anxiety attacks because your so frightend of a serious illness you think you ...
A. 15 October 2007: Knowing your problem is a great start. Next you need to keep a diary of your symptoms and what happened in treatment, so you won't make the same mistake twice. ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my boss's boss.
Q. help me ive got myself in to a tricky situation im having an affair with my bosses boss! its been going on for 4 months now and i am really falling for him. he has told me he is leaving his girlfriend so we can be together as we are both sick of ...
A. 15 October 2007: Does his family own the company? If not, you are playing with a fire that could get you both. One of you (you) may have to quit if word gets arround. Are you ready for that.... (read in full...)
Any advice on relationships with a narcissist?
Q. Dear Aunts! Does anyone out there have any experiance with being involved with a narssisist? Particularly if you think a person could be, but they don't know. How, if at all, can you have a sucessful relationship with such a person?...
A. 15 October 2007: Like any guy you tell them how great everything they do is. You can't be too heavy in giving out praise. Tell him how smart he was in picking you because you are smart enough to see all his greatness.... (read in full...)
Do all men lie?
Q. I've been Internet dating for approximately a year now and have dated four men five to 20 times during that time period. All four lied a great deal, often about silly, everyday things. My ex also lied a great deal. Why do men feel the need to lie so ...
A. 15 October 2007: They lie to make a better impression on you. They think that lying is the only way to get to date you. Would you have dated them if they had been upfront? Lying is not restricted to males.... (read in full...)
Shy or not interested?
Q. So i'm sixteen and am severly confused about this guy. He's also sixteen, just for the record. So we've been talking for awhile now (mostly through text becasue we go to different schools and don't see each other often) and he's been telling me that ...
A. 15 October 2007: You need to teach him more about the boy girl thing. Some nice kissing would be a good start.... (read in full...)
I feel depressed, please help.
Q. hi, i dont know what to do or where to go but my situation is severely in despair, nor do i wish to be selfish but im very very depressed. what makes matters worse im only 19 and in higher education, and no such person should be in such a situation, ...
A. 15 October 2007: One of them must be more special to you than the other. Meet him alone and ask what is going on. Do you have an attitude? Fail to pay your share of the costs? Contridict the consesus of the group? Make adverse comments or joke about any of the ... (read in full...)
BF is not interested in intimacy.
Q. I have been with my bf for three years and we've lived together half of that time. Although I love him and he is a wonderful man our time living together has been torment for me as he's avoided sex like it is something bad. I've done more than my ...
A. 15 October 2007: Good sex is one of many reasons to stay together. Without it most people would feel incomplete. Does he take an medications that could be causing him to have ED? Could he be gay? What does he say when press him for sex? I think he is hiding a big ... (read in full...)
Does he like me too and should I make a move or should I just get over him?
Q. I really like one of my friends but i'm not sure if he likes me to. We talk for hours on msn nearly every night, he teases me and jokily calls me names, waits for me when we have classes together and whenever we make eye contact he smiles or pulls ...
A. 14 October 2007: Make a move.... (read in full...)
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. What do I do?
Q. so here we go! Im 17 years old and will be 18 in november. Im a freshman in college and am persueing a law degree. I have been dating this guy for about 1yr and a half off and on. We dated for a good year and then he went away in nat. guard. H...
A. 14 October 2007: You are one fickle girl. I suggest you make clear to the guys you date that you are not ready for an exclusive relationship.... (read in full...)
How can I put this situation right?
Q. How do you right a wrong? Lots of us friends went out last night, few too many drinks. People fell out and i ended up shouting at my ex boyfriend out of the blue, he hadnt done anything wrong apart from tell the guy i am seeing that he will get hurt...
A. 14 October 2007: Don't go to the bar he hangs out in.... (read in full...)
Can you know someone you've never seen?
Q. Can you know the person just by talking over the phone?...
A. 14 October 2007: You can learn alot over the phone, but not enough to bet your life on.... (read in full...)
My bf spends every other weekend at his ex's house to see his daughter and ignores my calls and texts for this time, and it's destroying me.
Q. My boyfriend spends every other weekend miles away from me. He goes up there to see his daughter, but he stays at his ex wifes house and he ignores my phone calls and text messages and he does'nt phone or text me. His excuse is he doesn't want his ...
A. 14 October 2007: Why did he get divorced in the first place. How long have you known him? You obviously don't trust him yet. How does he act when he gets back?... (read in full...)
My friend told everyone about my video to myself.
Q. Help! My friend saw my phone last week and it had a video of me fingering myself on it. She saw it and now everone in my year nows. But worse than that i was going to send it to a boy that i didnt even now. Everyone is now against me. How can i go ...
A. 14 October 2007: Lesson learned. Delete it. Don't do it again.... (read in full...)
Should I find another attorney to do my internship with?
Q. I started an internship in paralegal studies..I figured it would allow me to network and allow me to get a feel for what a day is like in that field..So far it is has been kind of wierd. I originally met with they attorney that I was going to be ...
A. 14 October 2007: I think you should get yourself switched to a different attorney or firm to intern with. He's obviously too busy to teach you. It's res ipsa loquiter.... (read in full...)
Any ideas where my boyfriend and I can have sex?
Q. well ive been with my boyfriend now 18 months, were both 15 and we are planning on having sex. i am not a virgin although he is, he knows that and is fine with it i have only done it once before although we have been together 18 months we have ...
A. 14 October 2007: You don't have an easy place to do it because you are too young to be doing it.... (read in full...)
I took her off my top friends list, now she won't ask me out,
Q. hi i wrote a post on hear last week because my gf(ex) had dumped me and was needin some help\advice getting over her but today she came online and said that she was goin 2 ask me 2 go out with her againbut had decided not to because i had took her ...
A. 14 October 2007: She is playinf you for a fool. The reason she gave for not asking you was bogus. Stay away from her, she's mean.... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? Am I depressed?
Q. I have never had a serious relationship before and this, is my ist. I am 26 and my life has been one complicated mess but i am picking up and trudging through one obstacle after another. Recently i met a younger guy who is sincere in commitin...
A. 14 October 2007: Basically it come down to the fact that you need to learn that you are worthy of good things and a good life. Obviously your bf thinks so. Get with the plan. He could end up much worse off without you.... (read in full...)
My friend is depressed. What can I do?
Q. i have a friend. He is in love with this girl, they've been best of friends and one day, they decided to give it a shot. It went alright for awhile till she pulls out. It breaks his heart and he is sincerely sad. After a couple of weeks, they resume ...
A. 14 October 2007: A good friend would go with him to places where he can have some fun and talk about pleasant things. Give him a few happy hours.... (read in full...)
Any suffestions for a very special proposal of marriage?
Q. Hi Do you have any suggestions for a very special proposal of marriage? I know my girlfriend for 3 1/2 years and we are in a very happy relationship for nearly 3 years. It was her asking me if I would like to be her boyfriend the day after the an...
A. 14 October 2007: Take her out to dinner at a big fancy resturant. Buy extra flowers. Order wine and ask her before they bring the salad.... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but he thinks he's too old. What now?
Q. Just read the things other people have said about being in an age gap relationship and it sounds like there are a few people on this site with some experience who could maybe help me with my dilemma. I'm 27 and my OH is 59. We've been together 6 ...
A. 14 October 2007: Can you support a baby on your own? If not, you need to make a decision. It makes no sense to stay and become more broody, then break up mad.... (read in full...)
Do you think my teacher likes me?
Q. I'm a senior in high school and my psych teacher is proably about 25. He's so cute! The first day of school I had to sign a aper and the bell had already rang. When I was leavig he went out of his way to ask "hey, you all set" . The next day wehn I ...
A. 14 October 2007: Enjoy the attention, but be smart and don't meet up with him outside of school.... (read in full...)
I think we're both afraid of going all the way.
Q. My fiancee and i only do sexual stuff when we are alone and thats all and dont get me wrong i like it but thats all we ever do and now we dont get any alone time together so that cant happen and im kinda happy it wont but also sad we wont be able ...
A. 14 October 2007: You are not ready for sex, Back off the foreplay for awhile.... (read in full...)
Does he love me, or is he neglecting me?
Q. Well, I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months now, and it hasnt always been the best, as we are both the eldest child, therefor always think we are right, leading to quite a few arguments, these are usually resolvedn shortly after, and i don't ...
A. 14 October 2007: Find a new bf, your's is addicted to video games. Don't play second fiddle to video image. Or, you could try to negotiate a time split with him. Part you, part video game.... (read in full...)
How do I know when to ask him out.
Q. well.. i really like this lad and have done for quite a long time and me and him have become quite close as mates.. and we have been talking more at school and on msn and we have been texting quite alot and he has been proper flirting with me at ...
A. 14 October 2007: Yes you should ask him out. Or you could say to him: "When are you going to ask me out?"... (read in full...)
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