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He rows with me every time I wish to go out with my friends but he goes on holidays with his wife and says they're just friends? Am I a fool?
Q. i have been seeing a man for three years who has been seperated from his wife for 5 years, however, he phones her every day, spends one day a week with her, and has now gone away on holiday with her. he says they are just friends and that they are ...
A. 17 October 2007: You didn't mention whether or not he has kids. If not, you are a fool.... (read in full...)
The guy says if she keeps the baby she'll have to sue him for money. Then he pays for the abortion and is ready to marry her, but not yet to have kids. What does it mean?
Q. If a guy has unprotected sex with his gf on knowing she is not on birth control. Then she gets pregnant and he tells her to have an abortion and says that if she does not she will have to sue him for money. Then he takes her to a clinic, pays for ...
A. 17 October 2007: Unless he's lying, he very money orient. A good girl would have just told him I'll give your name to my lawyer and left.... (read in full...)
I am simply not used to being with a man who can touch a woman and not want her. We have sex once a week; he says it'd be more often if I complained less!
Q. For whatever reason of his, we started having sex once a week. I complain and he says that if I complained less we would have sex more often. I am tormented and depressed. I still talk to him about my unmet needs, it's like a therapy for me, but I ...
A. 17 October 2007: Some guys naturally have a low sex drive, so don't expect him to change. He is trying to use sex to control you. Don't let him do that. Run.... (read in full...)
Why do I stay when he beats me?
Q. why does my boyfiend beat me up? i have been with him just over 6 months and we have started having sex but only because he wants it. if we aregue he always hits me. he starts arguements to bilittle me and he says hes scared of me breaking up with ...
A. 17 October 2007: You are acting the fool to let yourself get beat more than once. You are mistaking the jailer who brings the food for love.... (read in full...)
Can't trust after breaking up
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 6 months ago and we still talk on occasion. We broke up because he is scared of commitment but at the sametime he's been supposedly dating someone else but I'm not exactly sure if this is true or not. Well, now I've met ...
A. 17 October 2007: I say explore the new guy for awhile. You were in a rut, don't quick to jump back in it.... (read in full...)
I want to stop being needy
Q. I am totaly lost. About 3 months ago I broke up with my ex bf (he didnt treat me right). It was hard though because i was dependent on him to make me feel good, to make me feel valued and important. Yet i did it and wanted to work on myself. Ive ...
A. 17 October 2007: You need to keep away from boys for awhile, until you realize what you can do on your own. Try out a few hobbies that your think you might enjoy.... (read in full...)
Nerves or pregnancy?
Q. Me and my bf have never had full sex yet but we did have oral and there was hands used but i dont know if he sperm on his hand when he was rubbing me.I know that there is a chance i could get pregnant from this thats why i took a pregnance test on ...
A. 17 October 2007: Sperm doesn't die when it hits the air, so touching the vagina or vulva with ejaculate on the fingers could cause pregnancy. It takes awhile before a pregnancy test will give an accurate reading. Read the box and do another test.
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Health concerns for sensitive area
Q. I hope you can help me. I have been having problems with my clitoris - it has inflamed and increased in size for a few days to the size of a peanut and then it collapses released some discharge and is sore for a few days going back to its normal ...
A. 17 October 2007: Don't be affraid to tell your doctor. He has learned about these kinds of problems or will send you to a specialist. Ask your parents if you could get a woman doctor.... (read in full...)
Rape victim wants to be thought as virgin
Q. Hey. When I Was 13 I Was Raped By A Guy And His Friends 3 Times And I Didnt Tell AnyyOne About It Although I Wish I Had Of Doe But Its Too Late Now. Well Any Wayy When Me And My Friends Are Talking About Boyfriends And Stuff At School They Alwa...
A. 17 October 2007: You don't need to explain your virginity status to anyone. The girls telling tales on you are not your friends. Tell you parents about the rapes. It's not too late.... (read in full...)
He's "miserably" with his wife, I just separated from my spouse. He wanted to date me in high sch. We met recently and there was an undenyable chemistry. How do I approach this?
Q. I try not to read into dreams to much as I know sometimes they are meaningless and/or fantasy, blahblahblah...... But I had a dream lastnight that I can't get out of my head. About 1 year ago I ran into an old highschool friend of mine. We are ...
A. 17 October 2007: Tell him if he ever breaks up with his wife make sure you are the first girl he calls.... (read in full...)
I don't understand his language
Q. If a man simply cannot say "I love you" is it possible that he replaces these words with another phrase, such as "It's suppose to rain today so drive carefully."? My guy says this or something similar whenever I tell him I miss him, or I love him or ...
A. 17 October 2007: You are right that some men feel corny saying "I love you" so they express it in other ways.... (read in full...)
Am I losing the baby?
Q. i found out i was pregnant about a week ago. i started spotting very lightly yesterday. could this mean im having a miscarriage? i have not had any alcoholic beverages since i have found out but i have had a couple cigarettes (i know, im horrible! ...
A. 17 October 2007: There are many different reasons that a woman may have vaginal bleeding during pregnancy. Some women can continue to have light periods or spotting during pregnancy, especially during the first few months. A visit to your doctor may also be in ... (read in full...)
Everythings great, except he's lazy!
Q. hi My fiance and i have been together a little over a year .We were quite happy together about 7 months ago we moved in together and now it seems im always getting upset with him about things like picking up after himself or just helping me with ...
A. 17 October 2007: Do you both work full time jobs?... (read in full...)
He showed me his erect penis on MSN and I am freaked out!
Q. A person on msn has been flirting with me...It was fun while it lasted but have been put right off by him! He actually showed me his penis on webcam...it was erected aswel - As i were kinda doing sexy moves for him [regretably] And well i was comp...
A. 17 October 2007: Wise decision little bird.... (read in full...)
I don't want to choose between the important men in my life.
Q. I am in a relationship, which is going really well, I've never felt so valued or loved. He is everything I have ever wanted in a man. We have been seeing each other for 18 months, the thing is that he wants to make it more permanent, and move in ...
A. 17 October 2007: Unless your son is in school he should be learning to get by on his own. Your son should not be interfering with your relationship with your bf.... (read in full...)
Have I lost my virginity?
Q. hey, i am a uni student and a virgin and have been seeing this guy for about a little while but he's not yet my proper boyfriend. However, the other day we were just like fooling around in his room and then he put his penis inside of me but i told ...
A. 17 October 2007: You are no longer a virgin. Use a pregnancy test to see if you are pregnant.... (read in full...)
Why does my daughter accept his behaviour?
Q. I have a 17 year old daughter who has an very controlling, jealous boyfriend. He left for college and is still controlling her. He tells her where she can work, go, who she can hang out with and even what she can/can't wear sometimes. No one in ...
A. 17 October 2007: It's not up to you to get rid of him. You might point out to her that controlling guys like him tend to get worse as time goes on. Eventually she will figure it out. Now she sees it as a sign of love.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with b/f BO?
Q. my boyfriend has a bit of a B.O problem. i mean ont get me wrong he baths daily, uses aftershave and keeps clean but he doesnt use anti-persprint under his arms and tey get sweaty and you can smell it. he comes over to me and he leans over gives me ...
A. 17 October 2007: The most basic way to hold body odor at bay is to use soap and water, scrub particularly in those areas of the body that tends to smell. Deodorant soap hinder the return of bacteria which is why this makes an excellent choice when looking for ways ... (read in full...)
What do you get a man you fancy for christmas, something that might be a small hint? And do you think he likes me back?
Q. Just a quick question: what do you get a man you fancy for christmas, something that might be a small hint? He seems to know me very well and vice versa (he messaged me some songs that he thought I'd enjoy and I LOVED them, which is amazing as ...
A. 17 October 2007: How about your picture in a frame. ... (read in full...)
Should I just accept that he is back with his girlfriend? or should I take a risk and tell him how I feel?
Q. I recently met a wonderful boy whilst i was overseas. Although we only spent a short time together, the connection between us was beautiful, we were constantly laughing and i felt like a changed person. During our first meeting we discovered were ...
A. 17 October 2007: I don't think you need to tell him anything, he already knows. Besides if he liked you better than his gf he would have acted differently. Give up on him and find a new bf.... (read in full...)
I went to Japan to vist my gf for our anniversary and her parents say I'm stalking her and will call the police!! I can't even speak w/ her now b/c of them!
Q. im a 17 yr old guy,me and this girl have been together for a year and a half,she went to japan with a couple people from her shcool and 2 teachers,before she went to japan she grabbed me by the hands and said that she wanted to celebrate our 2 years ...
A. 17 October 2007: How old is this girl? Is there more to the story that you're not telling? What was your contact with her parents for the year and a half you went with her?... (read in full...)
Pregnant to a married man
Q. I was in a relationship with a married man as we found out I was pregnant I was taking precautions I have seen him for a ywar and now that this has happened he wants to end it all and have nothing at all to do with baby....
A. 17 October 2007: He just used you. Now you must make your baby your number one priority. He needs to help support the baby. Maybe his fatherhood will convince him that he has an obligation. Hopefully you learn a lessson about sex and love.... (read in full...)
I am reposting this, please help, I'm concerned.
Q. i had posted this yesterday....................................................................i i am an american citizen. i met an australian man over the internet last year and things progressed with our relationship rapidly. like we were soul ...
A. 17 October 2007: Tell him you may not be able to live with him if he can't tell the difference between a cheat and a faithful girl. Mention everything you offered to do. Say that was way more than reasonable. If he has any evidence whatsoever he should produce it ... (read in full...)
Where do we go from here?
Q. hi this maybe a long story so please if you can help take the time to read it fully. Me and my husband have been married 7 years, been going out since we were 16 and have been close friends all throughout school. Well we sort of dirfted apart an...
A. 17 October 2007: "nothing will happen because we can't actually bare to be around each other"
I say you to ought to part ways. New mate would be good for the both of you.... (read in full...)
Girls just wanna have friends
Q. Hey i just moved to a new country and i had met new friends and we all hang out alot but both of them started liking me, i like them to but i dont want to be more than friends, i dont even know them that long.. i dont know what to do i tried talking ...
A. 17 October 2007: Is it just them or do you want no bf? If you get a bf that would make them understand. You need to be careful arround them if they don't respect your telling them you don't think of the as bfs.... (read in full...)
My ex-fiancee is real confusing.
Q. My ex is freaking confusing. But I love her... We broke up yesterday because she thinks she's not IN love with me and fell for me for the wrong reasons. That she does love me and cares about me though. So when i asked if she'd want to try and ...
A. 17 October 2007: Hopefully your friend is right. Then again she may feel better about dumping you. I think she is already planning on leaving you.... (read in full...)
We're awkward alone together
Q. Hi! Ive been dating this guy for a while now. and every things fine when where hanging with some friends.. but when where alone there is just this awkward silence. My mind goes black and i cant figure out something to say. And sometimes just sca...
A. 17 October 2007: Tell him some of the things you did in the last couple of days. Talk about a school assignment. Ask him about what he has done recently.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to masterbate in front of him.
Q. Just a quick question. Before having sex once, my boyfriend was fingering me and he slowly guided my hand down and basically told me to sort of rub myself. I've never done that in front of anyone before so I was kinda uncomfortable and didn't. He ...
A. 17 October 2007: Yes, I think it would turn him on seeing you getting excited. Harmless fun if you really get into it.... (read in full...)
How do I handle my situation?
Q. My Guy Asked me to get married in the most romantic way and yet here I am 2 months later asking for help.. He was married before, although that ended badly they talk (which in my opinon is a good thing At least for the kids and the new wife (me) ...
A. 17 October 2007: Ask him to set the date. Then make a decision on what to do next.... (read in full...)
How can I find if he went with a prostitute?
Q. I think my bf of 4 years has cheated on me with a prostitute.I asked him, he denied know but I im having a problem believing him so. How can I go about finding out?...
A. 17 October 2007: What evidence do you have now? ... (read in full...)
I told my bf we should go out on dates rather than just go out! Did it sound stupid? I'm afraid of the routine...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 16 and I am now 20, and he is my first serious boyfriend. I love him loads but sometimes I just feel like we do the same things, and I was joking and saying I have never been on a date because we starting ...
A. 17 October 2007: Nothing wrong with asking for something new. Why don't you ask him out and plan the date?... (read in full...)
We started to treat each other just as friends for 4 yrs. I think my wife's staying for the sake of our daughter. Can it better? Should I leave?
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 15 years and married for 5 of those,she says she made a mistake marrying me and only loves me as a friend,we haven't slept together since our daugther was concieved 4 half years ago,s...
A. 17 October 2007: You have a hard decision to make. Most guys would throw in the towel.... (read in full...)
Why can't he be intimate with me?
Q. what does it mean when your boyfriend says he can't be intimate with you because he is unsure about 'us' but still continues to say he loves you?...
A. 17 October 2007: He's coping out for a reason you don't yet know. After awhile you should demand to know. Say, after you've known him for 6 months.... (read in full...)
What can I do about my friend flirting with my girlfriend?
Q. hi, my best friend and my girlfriend have started talking a lot (they didn't know eachother at first. the only thing is that its making me go crazy, knowing that my friend is flirting with my girlfriend and i know exactly what hes like. im so worri...
A. 17 October 2007: Tell him to knock it off. Moving on a guy's girl is not the actions of a friend. Likewise, a girlfriend doesn't flirt with other guys.... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to be upset about my boyfriend saying that I get attention from men because they think I am a hooker??? He said it was a joke...
Q. Hi, I took my boyfriend to Las Vegas for his birthday.On our second night we were all dressed up and waiting for a bus to go to a show when some guys in a car started screaming to get my attention. I just looked back and asked them if they wer...
A. 17 October 2007: How long ago did this happen? Have there been other incidents? He probably felt comfortable with you and felt let down when you got mad over his inocent comment. Are you now just getting cold feet?... (read in full...)
How do I cope with this break-up?
Q. I was with him for over a year and a half, and we were deeply committed and in love, and living together. he got very ill about 8 months into our relationship, and i stuck by him for all of the treatment. when the treatments were over, we fell ...
A. 17 October 2007: Tell him you are moving on. Then do not have any contact. If he doesn't change his tune in two months, move on.... (read in full...)
My fiance travels abroad a lot and I don't feel much prioritised as I should be!
Q. Someone help me to understand how I can cope with my situation. Im 24, and my fiance is same age as me. He travels a lot abroad with work, and this bugs me a hell of a lot. He isnt really present much in the relationship as what he used to be. ...
A. 17 October 2007: Is he in a career where this will be the norm? If so, maybe he's not the guy for you. When I travelled it usually involved late nights of dinners and meetings. I used my spare time resting or preparing for the next meeting. I had no time for woman ... (read in full...)
I don't regret having sex with him, but I'm confused
Q. A month ago i broke up with my long term boyfriend. There wasn't a real reason but i believe it was down to his jealously, as i had just started a job where all the people i work with except 1, are male. The break up wasn't ugly, even though i...
A. 17 October 2007: Love always involves risks. Take a chance and see how it developes. You can always leave later. Maybe he just realized his mistake.... (read in full...)
Is she about to start an affair with her tattooist?
Q. my wife and i have been married for over a year now, we have a 1 year old, and are a pretty happy couple. today she left to work and left her myspace page up, and i saw she had a new message. it was from a frind shes been talking to about ...
A. 17 October 2007: Don't try to get even. Show her what you found and tell her to knock it off or you will divorce her. Maybe that is what she wants. Take the high road.... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin. Shall I pretend that I'm not?
Q. Hi...im a sophomore in high school and well most of my friends along with myself have went into high school as a virgin but most of my friends have lost it this year i dont feel pressured into losing it but when they talk about how everything ...
A. 16 October 2007: Peer pressure is heavy. Maturity is being able to do the right thing in spite of it. It would be stupid to sully your own reputation.... (read in full...)
I really like him. Should I carry this relationship on?
Q. i really like this boy and he likes me but he says he takes certain lessons just to be with the girls should i carry this relationship on?...
A. 16 October 2007: Sure. Obviously he's looking for a gf. Maybe you can teach him how a girl your age should be treated.... (read in full...)
He showed me his erect penis on MSN and I am freaked out!
Q. A person on msn has been flirting with me...It was fun while it lasted but have been put right off by him! He actually showed me his penis on webcam...it was erected aswel - As i were kinda doing sexy moves for him [regretably] And well i was comp...
A. 14 October 2007: A girl your age should not be hanging with 10 year older guy who are showing of their penis (or maybe someone else's).... (read in full...)
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