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Had sex five days ago could I be pregnant

Q.   i had sex with my boy friend 5 days ago and came of the progestrion only pill on monday can i still get pregnant through this. I am having a period started on tuesday morning and i still on today if we have sex tonight could i get pregnant and how ...

A.   30 December 2006: Yes. You could be pregnant if you weren't still taking the Pill when you had sex, if that was your only form of contraception. You can get pregnant during your period if you have unprotected sex. You can look out for these signs that you might be... (read in full...)

Is there something I can do or say to get him to put a bit more effort into our relationship?

Q.   ive been with my boyfriend for about 9 months now, when we first got together i knew he would never leave me and if we were to split up it would be me splittingup with him now it feels like im the one who wont leave and it will be him! his parents ...

A.   30 December 2006: Sorry, but he doesn't sound as attached to you as he once was. I think you should try to forget what he used to be like, what he used to say - because he's not saying that anymore. If his parents don't approve of you, can you really see a future w... (read in full...)

Am I overreacting to my girlfriend's lesbian bombshell?

Q.   I have been involved with a girl I really like for the past few months..She seems like a great person and we seem like a great fit..I am 30 and she is 25..We have the same morals, beliefs, sense of humor, ect..Last week we were talking and she told ...

A.   30 December 2006: I don't think that you should worry. She has clearly been honest with you about her past, and that's a reason to believe her when she said she didn't enjoy it. Plus, evern if she was a closet bi, she wants to be with you. If she had no past lik... (read in full...)

Is our age gap inappropriate? Advice please?

Q.   I've recently started a relationship with a girl who's 15 - and I'm 19. We're pretty well exactly four years apart, and she is definitely that best thing that has happened to me as far as relationships go. I met her through where we work. ...

A.   30 December 2006: It sounds like you really like her, and aren't going to just use her, so I don't think you should have any concerns. My cousin is 20, and he's going out with a 16 year old, but he's willing to wait for her to be ready. Their relationship started ... (read in full...)

How can I get my lying, cheating slapper of a girlfriend out of my head?

Q.   Ever since getting together with my girlfriend, there have been problems. All she basically has ever done is lied, flirted, broke promises, totally disrespected me and slept around. Me being me, I took her back over 60 times, yet she still continue...

A.   24 September 2006: Sorry, I might not be much help. Think about it. This girl has completely taken advantage of you, used you, and only thought about herself. You didn't derserve that and you don't deserve it again. Try to think less about her, and get rid of a... (read in full...)

Torn between two guys and I am so confused, what should I do?

Q.   This is a long story so bear with me. Basically, I was dating a guy for almost three years and we broke up because he wasn't sure he saw a future with me, we were different, stuff like that. So I picked up and moved out to San Diego and was having ...

A.   24 September 2006: Hi, You sound like you had a good reason to break up with your ex, because he didn't see a future with you. Who do you see a better future with, him or Californian dude? Another way to work out who you prefer is to make a list of all the great th... (read in full...)

Is my online boyfriend creating fake identities to talk to me?

Q.   i have bf here on net.we talk here 3to 4 hours evryday.then he disappeared.after few weeks he is back then we talk again.he say he loves me.and i love him.then he disapear again.im talking to a man who say he is my bf,s friend,lover.then we talk ...

A.   24 September 2006: Hi, I don't think anyone can ever be 100% sure of who they are talking to on the internet, and you're right to be suspicious. Maybe he's inventing new people so he can work out if you'd ever cheat on him? Also - Have you ever met him face-to-face... (read in full...)

I am really starting to fall for my boyfriend, but why are his parents being so nasty towards me?

Q.   hi im 16 years old and in desperate need of help. Ive finaly found a great boyfriend. Hes funny, lovely and really loves me back weve only been going out for a few weeks but im really starting to fall for him. But we had a littel misunderstanding in ...

A.   24 September 2006: If you're sure she was completely drunk, then perhaps it's less her fault, as she wasn't totally in control at the time. But still, it was unfair of her to treat you like that. Is your boyfriend ashamed of his parents at all? Have you given her any ... (read in full...)

My friends tell me I am sexy and have something they don't, so why can't I find someone who really loves me?

Q.   i think im not that look ugly at all, friends tell me im sexy, talented, nice to go with, understanding, loving all this sweet line that i thought might be true.some of my friends get jealous because i have already 2 kids not living with me at the ...

A.   23 September 2006: Hey there, I think you need to realise your self worth. You need to know that you are clearly a good person, but you seem to have let some people take advantage of you (such as the married man). When you get into a relationship with someone ... (read in full...)

I love my hardworking guy but how do I get my rich parents to accept him?

Q.   my problem is strange.a guy loves me madly and he's ready to do anything to be with me.he is middle class but very hardworking and had worked too hard till now to make a good career but couldnt succeed till today.i know that no one will work for a ...

A.   23 September 2006: I think you need to need to let him know about the problem by bringing it up casually. Also, you should tell your parents about how great he is, and hopefully they'll realise how much you like him before they ask if he's rich. When they do, say, ... (read in full...)

I like this guy, friends say he likes me. So why won't he tell me?

Q.   well i really like this guy, and im almost positive he likes me back, and all of his friends says he likes me too! also soo many ppl ask us if were going out! i really want him to just confront me and tell me that he likes me, but no matter wut i ...

A.   23 September 2006: He's probably shy, or scared that you'll reject him! If you feel brave enough, ask him to go out with you somewhere (the cinema, or something) just don't say, will you be my boyfriend (Hello? How sad.) Eventually he'll realise that you like hi... (read in full...)

Want to stop talking to him and get him out of my life! But I love him...help!

Q.   Okay well ... I've been talking to this guy for over a year and a half, he always wanted to meet up bu i hesitated .. anyway a few months ago we bumped into eachother at a club and since then we've met up practically every Friday/Saturday since.. ...

A.   23 September 2006: Ouch, that must've hurt. I think you really need to think about how you feel for him. It does sound as though all he wanted was sex, and he lost interest when you told him you were a virgin. When he said the whole 'don't-w... (read in full...)

I found sexy text messages on my husbands phone....from another man!!! What do I do?

Q.   I have been married for 10 years now. We have been together for 14 total. Just last week I found text messages on his phone, being the nosey person that I am I read them. Now I wish that I had not, the messages were sex related. I do not know ...

A.   23 September 2006: This is a really tough one, hun. First up, try to stop panicking and try to think things through. You say he has never given you a reason not to trust him, which is very good. Has he ever shown an interest in other men or shown a disinterest ... (read in full...)

How can I get the bad feelings regarding my girlfriends past to go away?

Q.   I recently broke up with a girl I was with from 22 to 26, we're both the same age, and she was the my first serious girlfriend really. I got an urge to break up as I kept getting a feeling that I missed out in my teen years as I didn't get a ...

A.   23 September 2006: I think it's important to remember that it's good to see someone different to you, as it can be a good experience. Obviously her past was drastically different to yours, and there are some things she regrets that you have never had to deal with. Try ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to date others to see if I am what he really wants. How am I supposed to react to that?

Q.   I am in a realationship with someone that i love with all my heart. He loves me but wants to date others to make sure I am truely what he wants. How do I react to that? any suggestions?...

A.   23 September 2006: The way you react should be based on how you honestly feel. Assuming that he's telling the truth, and actually wants to find that out, do you have a problem with it (I know I would!)? Do you feel betrayed, or do you think that it's a good idea? Figu... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has been using my computer to look at porn. I confronted him and made things worse, what should I do?

Q.   My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year and a half. im 18 and he is 21. for a while we seemed to be drifting apart, but lately its been normal. Yeasterday i found out that he has been looking at porn sites on my computer that i use for ...

A.   23 September 2006: If you don't like it, have told him so, but he keeps doing it, then I'm sorry hun, but it sounds like he just doesn't respect you. If it's your computer you could try blocking the sites. Remember, you're worth more than this, your opinion (pa... (read in full...)

After making love with my boyfriend, I usually cry and start thinking about my ex of 7 years. Why is this happening to me?

Q.   My boyfriend of seven years broke up with me about a year ago. I have a new boyfriend but there is a problem. After we make love I start thinking about the loss of my other relationship and get quite upset...I usually cry. I just do not understand ...

A.   23 September 2006: Listen, firstly you need to try your best to get over your ex. This can involve getting rid of (or putting away, although in my experience this isn't as theraputic as physically binning) any things you can that remind you of him, including photos. ... (read in full...)

How can I make my boyfriend aware that I need to feel more secure when we are apart without sounding demanding!!

Q.   How do I talk to my boyfriend about how i need to feel more secure and wanted in the relationship? That i need more than a couple of texts a week to feel like he actually wants me. When he was pursuing me he was contacting me daily and callin...

A.   23 September 2006: First of all, DON'T use the word 'insecure'. Most men see that as needy and run like frightened llamas from anyone that uses it. However, if you want the communication to improve, you're going to have to innitiate some of it yourself. Perhaps ... (read in full...)

I caught my 12 year old son masturbating. How should I handle this?

Q.   i am a father of a twelve year old boy, and i saw him masturbating,and i blew up, what should i do?...

A.   23 September 2006: My only advise is DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL BAD ABOUT IT, and especially, don't be a hypocrit. If you make him feel bad, he'll get the wrong image that sex is bad, and either want to do it more, or feel guilty and ashamed.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend finds it easy to lie to me about things like smoking, could he be cheating?

Q.   Hi, I think my boyfriend is cheating on me. He leaves an hour and a half away from me and he doesn't live in his college but goes there to see his friends everynight. He lied to me before about smoking. I'm straight edge and he swore to me for nine ...

A.   23 September 2006: First off, you're right to be suspicious if he lied to you for so long, because he clearly doesn't think it's a very big deal to lie to you. This is clearly bringing you down, and I think you should start making ultimatums. Tell him that you some... (read in full...)

I think a married woman at work might be falling for me. How can I let her know that I am into her?

Q.   There is this woman at work that is married, however I believe she is very much into me. She sometimes flirts very heavy with me and then the next day or so she tones it down and acts like were nothing more than friends. She and her husband are live ...

A.   23 September 2006: I agree personally, I don't think it's right for you to break up a happy marriage like that. It can be seen by many people as very selfish. Also, ask yourself if you think you deserve to be treated like this? I don't mean the good things she does... (read in full...)

My boyfriend punches walls, doors and throws things. Is this normal?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend sometimes argue when we've been out or whatever, but his behaviour is worrying me. My family are very passive and non-confrontational, so my boyfriend seems mad to me! He shouts and I laugh because I'm nervous, then he punches ...

A.   23 September 2006: Maybe he thinks it's normal, but trust me, to the rest of the world it isn't. You say you're nervous... do you possibly mean scared? If you are, you need to tell him that his behaviour bothers you and you don't like it. Try to be firm but not offe... (read in full...)

I am 40 and a decent kinda guy, so why do I always end up desolate? What can I do to improve things?

Q.   I am 40 and think I'm a pretty decent kinda guy, but, I have hardly any friends! I feel a real saddo even though I know I'm not - but, I only ever seem to be able to make relationships with women and when they end, I'm always left completely ...

A.   23 September 2006: First of all, stop making excuses to yourself. If you don't get out much, because you don't have time, make some time! I'm sure somewhere in the next ten years you have a free evening, KEEP it free, and then call up someone (even if you don't know ... (read in full...)

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