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Hi, I have been through loads in my life. Marriage break up, boyfriend break ups, and been a single parent. I have been treated really bad sometimes, but i think this is all to do with life. I dont hold grudges, and have a good sence of humour. I just love all my friends and family, and have loads of support from them. So i thought i could share that with a few of you. I have asked for advice a few times. You dont always want to hear it, but there are some smart people out there.

I have now found, after a lot of searching, my soul mate. But lifes not all a bed of roses for us. But he keeps me smiling, well most of the time anyway.

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My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?

Q.   i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...

A.   3 June 2008: Hi, I feel so desperatly sorry for you. I understand how much it hurts when your husband walks out. The thing is, I truly believe that if he felt the same way that you do, he would never have looked somewhere else. If it hadnt been this girl it woul... (read in full...)

Does a relationship with a married man ever work?

Q.   I was in an unhappy marriage,ready to leave.Met this married man and fell in love.Subsequently i drifted out of my marriage.Now am together with the married man,he really loves me and helps me out alot both financially and emotionally.Will it really ...

A.   30 April 2008: My partner was married when we got together (they were unhappy though). The only advice I would give to you, is let him leave her first then you can be with him without having any mud thrown at you. Its very hard to live with the fact you broke up a ... (read in full...)

Am I the only one who thinks it is wrong for married guys to flirt too much?

Q.   Hey guys, I have a bit of a common problem, I guess. This guy at my work clearly has a 'thing' for me. He also happens to be married. In my eyes this is inappropriate in itself, but someone told me once there is a line. Supposedly some actions ...

A.   30 April 2008: It really depends on how bad his flirting is. If it offends you, its inapropriate and should be stopped. Some girls can take this behavour with a pinch of salt and other's cant. You have to make up your own mind, if this is really a matter that ... (read in full...)

He seems to be no longer interested in sex and I am getting a strong impression that he feels that we are a bit past all that !

Q.   Iam a 53 yr old woman and having relationship problems with my husband of 30 years and it is now to the point where i am having moments of serious anguish.He seems to be no longer interested in sex and I am getting a strong impression that he feels ...

A.   30 April 2008: Its such a shame, but very common. My partner has had a pretty wild past, and now he is with me he says that sex isnt important to him anymore. I was really upset about this, because I felt un-loved and it really hurt. When I finally got him to talk ... (read in full...)

Would you feel a bit rejected, even though it was first night sex?

Q.   Ok guys, if you had amazing sex after a first date after loads of talking. You sent her lots of messages saying how fantastic it was and you wanted to continue with it. But, the girl suddenly backed down a bit and said she was unsure and confu...

A.   30 April 2008: I would think you are being a bit to keen. Its lovely that you want to see her again and have not just used her for sex. You sound like a really nice guy, so just hold back a little.........well that my advice anyway.... (read in full...)

I'm the perfect guy for her, but she thinks she doesn't deserve me!

Q.   hey to all.. Im a bit down. Yesterday i asked a question on how to ak a girl out to be my girlfriend.. Well thanks for all the advice i got from my family.. Thats now you guys!!!! Uhm i did ask her out, although i didnt the answer thati wanted but ...

A.   29 April 2008: You are the kind of guy that us girls dont apreciate until we have worked our way through some stinker's. This girl has been honest with you, so take it as a compliment. Your girl will come along one day, it may even be this one. But for now just... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is now starting to feel unloved and blame himself as my Church back ground teaches sex is bad!

Q.   This portion has already been posted, but I would like to add to it.....I am 24 years old and I am a virgin. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I love him with all of my heart and want to marry him but I am so scared to have sex. I was ...

A.   29 April 2008: I really feel sorry for your predicament, but you should not have to have sex just to make your boyfriend feel loved. You have chosen to stay a virgin until you get married, there is nothing wrong with that. But also there is nothing wrong with ... (read in full...)

Sex chatting on the internet to chat to men, is this cheating my husband?

Q.   help me..i have a good husband, my problem is i have a high sex drive and i have turned to sex chatting on the internet to chat to men. Is this cheating, what is wrong with me,i feel guilty afterwards, i just so frustrated. Anytime i want sex with...

A.   29 April 2008: Sorry!! but yes its wrong. And I'm sure that your husband would see it as cheating.... (read in full...)

I want to trust my husband but I don't think he cares if he loses me or not!

Q.   I have been married for slightly over a year and into our 4th month of marriage I found a text where my husband is saying he is thinking about some other girl. I asked that he stop talking to her and he didn't. Then once again I asked and he did ...

A.   29 April 2008: Are you sure that they are not just mates? If your sure then he sounds like a complete rotter. I would call his bluff and throw him out, if he refuses to give up with this girl and you have doubts about him being faithfull. Its horrible that he is t... (read in full...)

How to ask a girl out - please help

Q.   well.. How are all my favourite people doing ha? I need help! Theres this girl! She is single... Im single.. We see each other a lot i guess! We kissed once before. We both said that we would love to do it again.. So ja heres the help i need. uh...

A.   28 April 2008: I'm OK thanks, although it would be a lot better if I could win the lottery. Oh well never mind!! Anyway!!to your problem sweetheart. Right well! there is definatly an attraction between you both, so that's the hard part over with. So that lea... (read in full...)

Is it ok to put a golf ball in your girlfriend's vagina? Just throwing that out there....

Q.   is it ok to put a golf ball in you girlfriends vagina and the have sex with it still in there and when your done swollow it?...

A.   28 April 2008: Eh! What swollow the golf ball? Are you bleeding mad, it will choke you. Eyeswide!!!!! what about a space hopper? XX... (read in full...)

Said he loves me, but he can't commit. This was obviously a fling???

Q.   I have been seeing this guy.. he says he hasnt been with any other girl in 3 yrs.. and well I'm from a traditional Catholic family.. so u know I'm still virginal'and all.. and the other night he and I got too far (heavy petting, but no sex- i ...

A.   28 April 2008: Maybe! or it could be that he respected your wishes and didnt lie to you just to get you to sleep with him.... (read in full...)

So many women would pay to see me naked, so how can I change her "errors" about premarital sex?

Q.   I am hoping that some of the aunts on this site can help me with my problem. I am an extremely handsome, smart and funny 28 year old male. I have an excellent job and earn a very substantial sum of money indeed. I have two Ferraris and live in a ...

A.   28 April 2008: Sounds like he should have the bat up his ar** loosened. Stop fighting them off Phil, you know you want it!!! he!he!... (read in full...)

So many women would pay to see me naked, so how can I change her "errors" about premarital sex?

Q.   I am hoping that some of the aunts on this site can help me with my problem. I am an extremely handsome, smart and funny 28 year old male. I have an excellent job and earn a very substantial sum of money indeed. I have two Ferraris and live in a ...

A.   28 April 2008: I dunno!!! you sound a bit wingy (british for complete twat) to me. If your so fantastic why do you have so many ex's then? Maybe this lady can see you for what you really are, just a user for sex. ... (read in full...)

Clueless about how to dress alternatively?

Q.   hey im thinking of changing my style. i want to become an indie but i have no idea about the fashions, hairstyles and music - i know that sounds a bit wierd bieng as i just said i want to be one but i want to be away from the mainstream fash...

A.   25 April 2008: Oh! I'm so sorry I didnt look properly at your post, and thought you were a girl. LJ001 gave you some good points, its about being diiferent. You could wear what you want really.... (read in full...)

Do girls make passes at guys with glasses?

Q.   Do girls think guys with glasses are nerdy? Im tall, 6'2, im not horribly thin but i am not that muscular and i have glasses so basically i am the normal tall,skinny,nerd. I was wondering if getting contacts would make me more attractive, w...

A.   24 April 2008: My partner is quite skinny and wears glasses. I think he is sex on legs. I love it that he's a bit nerdy looking, and I have never been atracted to the typical good looking man. So no!! dont change, there are loads of girls out there that will like ... (read in full...)

Clueless about how to dress alternatively?

Q.   hey im thinking of changing my style. i want to become an indie but i have no idea about the fashions, hairstyles and music - i know that sounds a bit wierd bieng as i just said i want to be one but i want to be away from the mainstream fash...

A.   24 April 2008: Hi darling, Well a person with true style never follows anybody else. You should only wear what suits you, and that may not be what everyone else is wearing. Be individual, thats what Indie is all about. Buy some trendy magazines, Elle do a junior... (read in full...)

My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?

Q.   i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...

A.   24 April 2008: Then!! I wish you every happiness I really do. If my partner had wanted to go back to his wife, I would have let him go. Of course I would be upset and devastated (thats only natural if you fall in love) but I would understand. Its like I said ... (read in full...)

I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?

Q.   i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...

A.   24 April 2008: Hi, Although I agree that a married man should be off limits, it depends on the situation. There must be trouble at home, because if he was happy he wouldnt have gone with you would he?. Its true that sometimes the grass can look greener, and you ... (read in full...)

My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?

Q.   i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...

A.   24 April 2008: Looweez, I think that you miss the point. Are you saying that just because a man or woman no longer love thier partner, that they should stay in an unhappy relationship, just to please the other person. Also, why! wouldnt you care about a pers... (read in full...)

I have broken my boyfriends heart by kissing another girl, how can we get over this?

Q.   I am a Fetish model and i had a shoot with another girl.I had to kiss her during the shoot,my boyfriend was there and he was okay with that.For a long time he has wanted me to have a sexual encounter with a girl while he was there.I have considered ...

A.   23 April 2008: You only kissed her for heaven's sake!! I think the only reason that your B/F is so upset is because he didnt see you do it, otherwise it would have been OK. If he lets something as daft as that get to him I would think twice about being with him,... (read in full...)

My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?

Q.   i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...

A.   23 April 2008: Hi, It may not be that you would want to hear from me, as I am in the same position as your husbands present partner. Although I am not younger, than my boyfriends (still) wife, the situation is the same. My boyfriend keeps close contact with his... (read in full...)

How do I break the ice about talking to my ex without appearing obsessive?

Q.   My gf broke things off two months ago. I still love her and I want her back. I want to talk to her, but the problem is it seems like there is this force field between us. Im not sure if she's desperately trying to avoid me or if im just being a ...

A.   23 April 2008: Mmm! You cant really can you? If you get in touch, that means your not leaving her to get on with whatever was wrong in the first place. You could send a text just saying that you respect her wishes and will let her get on with her life. But you ... (read in full...)

We divorced our spouses in order to be together, then my past became a problem! How to explain him my past so that he understands?

Q.   ok everybody i need advice...i was married and met the man that i am with now. he was also married when we met. i was living an open marriage with my ex husband at the time and he had been cheating on his exwife from time to time. we met and my ...

A.   23 April 2008: Honey!! What you did in your past had nothing to do with him, therefore you shouldnt have to explain anything. He is far from whiter than himself, as he left his wife to be with you. Once you go down this road it becomes awkward, because one of you ... (read in full...)

He wants to date other girls and to continue to date me as well. Is he really interested in me?

Q.   i dated a guy twice two weeks ago. when he called me for our third date, i reminded him that i was not comfortable dating a man who was dating other women at the same time, he didn't say anything at all at that time but later on the same day of our ...

A.   23 April 2008: Give up honey!! he is a loser. You dont have to settle for a man that is still playing the field.... (read in full...)

Threesome gone wrong!!! He's always told me he could never be with another women, yet when given the chance he chooses her over me!

Q.   Hello, I have a major problem with sleeping all of a sudden due to something that my husband and I did in the past, about a year ago. My husband has always wanted a threesome with another girl, and being sexually open, I thought , what the heck...

A.   23 April 2008: I do feel sorry for you, but I'm afraid that when you play with fire, you get your finger's burnt. You say you wanted to do something nice for him, to most women that would have meant making a nice dinner. I also found it quite shocking that you did ... (read in full...)

We have dissention amongst our friends due to a newcomer's strange comment - should we ignore the incident or ban the newcomer?

Q.   I have a question for all you guys/girls out there. I have a close male friend who owns a vacation property (cabin) on a lake with his wife. A few times a year he has an all guy weekend, There's a lake, a boat, a shooting range, etc. Lots of ...

A.   22 April 2008: Is it all a posibility that in his eagerness to be accepted by the group, he got a bit drunk, said somthing a bit stupid, and f**ked up. If he really is straight he must have felt awfully embarased. Maybe he was nervous, and just put his foot in it. ... (read in full...)

Should he stay a virgin?

Q.   Hi all, I find it really disturbing that one of our Aunts (WE ALL KNOW WHO) is ranting and raving over religion. He is clearly very disturbed, and should anyone that has such extreme views be giving advice? We are all entitled to believe in w...

A.   22 April 2008: Thank you Daniel, I have looked at the link, and I can now see that this is just a 17 year old boy, with no understanding of life yet. Its a shame that he feels the way he does, because far from getting girls to think that he is special, he will... (read in full...)

I have been dating a man for over 3 years and have lower self esteem than ever!

Q.   I have been dating a man for over 3 years and have lower self esteem then ever! When I met him, he was "separated" and I was very overweight. Needless to say, yes low self esteem and but he constantly told me how perfect his wifes body was and how ...

A.   22 April 2008: The trouble with us girls honey, is that when you get to what seems the lowest point in your life, there will be some man with no morals that will push you even further. To get your life back on track, and start feeling good about yourself you need ... (read in full...)

Should he stay a virgin?

Q.   Hi all, I find it really disturbing that one of our Aunts (WE ALL KNOW WHO) is ranting and raving over religion. He is clearly very disturbed, and should anyone that has such extreme views be giving advice? We are all entitled to believe in w...

A.   22 April 2008: If you notice, I never mentioned any name. And I have no problem with him staying a virgin either, your right! it is a very hard thing to do. I just think that calling ladies Whore's because they have been divorced through no fault of there own is r... (read in full...)

Two people that love each other with all there heart - but can't be together...why???

Q.   Hi, Two people that love each other with all of their heart and never cheated on each other, and still haven't to this day...here is a bit of my situation. I've been with my girlfriend for the past 5 years and in the last 3 years we broke up 5 t...

A.   21 April 2008: Hi Ron, I think that if your G/F is going to let a 16 year old tell her what she can and cant do in her life, she will live to regret it. Having said that, she must find this out on her own (which she will). Children can be really awkward in new r... (read in full...)

Caught wearing my clothes and now due in court, what will happen to him?

Q.   my partner dressed up in my clothes one night and went outside for a cigarette. he has since been done with public indecency with intent of fear and alarm. this was simply not true. and is due in court in a couple of months. he went out a bit ...

A.   21 April 2008: I really cant believe he got into trouble for wearing your clothes. Couldnt you have said it was just a joke and you were both mucking about? Do they really put men away for dressing up in womens clothes in America? seems a bit strange and you woul... (read in full...)

Any ideas on how to duplicate a key?

Q.   I want to give my boyfriend the keys of my partment but the problem is, the door to get inside of the building, that key is a magnet one. So when I went to the office and ask for another one they said no, I can only have. Is anyone has any idea what ...

A.   21 April 2008: What are you in, a prison? Seems a bit mad to me. Did you ask why?... (read in full...)

Should he stay a virgin?

Q.   Hi all, I find it really disturbing that one of our Aunts (WE ALL KNOW WHO) is ranting and raving over religion. He is clearly very disturbed, and should anyone that has such extreme views be giving advice? We are all entitled to believe in w...

A.   19 April 2008: Hi all, Thanks for your reply's it was very interesting reading them all. Of course he should be able (as everyone should) have free speech. And it might surprise everyone that I have read the bible a few times myself. I just think that in this day ... (read in full...)

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Q.   I've added a new feature that lets you add questions to your "watched questions" page. It's just an easy way to make a list of questions that interest you and that you want to keep track of. It's easy to remove items from the list or clear it. ...

A.   18 April 2008: Hello Andrew, Well done! great site! can we have a spell check put in, only sometimes I cant smell very well. he!he! Tellulah X... (read in full...)

SITE NEWS: New feature, "watched questions" list

Q.   I've added a new feature that lets you add questions to your "watched questions" page. It's just an easy way to make a list of questions that interest you and that you want to keep track of. It's easy to remove items from the list or clear it. ...

A.   18 April 2008: Hello Andrew, Well done! great site! can we have a spell check put in, only sometimes I cant smell very well. he!he! Tellulah X... (read in full...)

His ex saying bad things about me while I was away broke us up, now she is back with him again, what do I do?

Q.   I was dating this guy for 9 months, i went on holiday over the christmas period and his exgirlfrind kept calling him and telling him i was seing someone else, i found out she was calling him so i kept asking him questions i became paranoid, we broke ...

A.   18 April 2008: Emily is totally right. He is not worth your tears Honey. Get on with your life, love will come along one day. XXX... (read in full...)

Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?

Q.   As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...

A.   18 April 2008: Jesus Christ and the Prostitue... Did you not know that in the Days of Moses that the Adulter and the Adulteress were to get stoned? " Oh my God" no wonder they are all fornicating. I didnt even know they had drugs in those day's. Well you live and ... (read in full...)

Where can I get Lapdancing/Stripping lessons?

Q.   i want to give my boyfriend a striptease or a lapdance, does anyone know any sites that have tutorials..? (preferably videos) any tips would be much apreciated. thanks!...

A.   17 April 2008: Hi, A lot of health clubs now run pole dancing lessons. Its a great way to get fit, and will teach you a few basic moves. XX... (read in full...)

Should I contact my boyfriend's friend and ex's to find out what happend in past? And is he telling the truth about an upcoming event?

Q.   I am really having a problem in believing my boyfriend still. He is going to a concert on friday with one of his friends. So he says he name is Brian. He has spoken to him a few times while I was around, but won't finish the conversation until I ...

A.   17 April 2008: Oh dear!! you dont trust him at all do you? I can only say that if my fella found out that I had checked up on him like that, there would be one almighty row. The trouble with feeling like you do at the moment is that you will end up driving your... (read in full...)

I’m starting to feel like I was born to be treated inappropriately.

Q.   I am battling to come to terms with the fact that a man who left me is now engaged to be married late this year. I still want him and I thought and prayed that he comes back to me. He hasn’t and now I feel that even though I prayed God decided to ...

A.   17 April 2008: Hi, I am not at all religous and dont really understand how people can put their faith in someone that lets so much bad happen in the world. )That doesnt mean I'm not wrong by the way, its just my opinion, and I hope there is someone out there that... (read in full...)

Is there any way I can get over his past lies and trust him 110%?

Q.   Hey, Well im not exactly the best lookin girl ever but my boyfriend says im beautiful and i know he loves me. We have been together for 14 months now and it is love. We have the best times when we are together and i know he would never cheat on...

A.   17 April 2008: Hi, I know that not everyone will agree with me, but I dont think that you should ever trust someone a 100%. That doesnt mean that your boyfriend will go off with someone else, it just means that you shouldnt base your whole life around that pers... (read in full...)

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