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My 15 year old daughter is pregnant, any advice on how I proceed?
Q. well at the mo i should be called sad mommie..my daughter has come home tonite and told me she is pregnant..she is only 15..said she wants to go ahead with the pregnancy..im so confused..i cant think straight..told her we will talk tomorrow as she ...
A. 9 June 2008: It doesn't matter what a woman chooses to do, there will be mental stress. However, when deciding what to do, you must understand the consequences of each.
People just dont talk about those that have kids that dont want kids. What about their st... (read in full...)
My parents will never accept my boyfriend, its a cultural thing, how can I solve this?
Q. i dont know where to begin. i know im tired and exhausted and on the verge of a nervous breakdown. my parents are from india. very traditional. my boyfriend is american which to them is bad and he has a child from a previous marrige which is the ...
A. 9 June 2008: Unless your father has had heart problems already, I doubt the stress will cause a heart attack.... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 8 June 2008: Check your sources-did you read this in the introduction?
This material is offered for comfort and solace to people who've had bad (or merely weird) experiences with narcissists. If you're looking for ammunition to attack someone, please look els... (read in full...)
My parents like him, but I'm worried in case they press charges against him when they find out I'm pregnant!
Q. A month or so ago me and my bf had sex for the first time, we used a condom, but it broke, and now i am pregnant. I am 17 and he is 26 and I have talked to him about it and he is very supportive. We were planning to get pregnant after i turned 18 ...
A. 6 June 2008: At this point, what are your options? You obviously can't hide the pregnancy forver and running away will just make things worse.
You know your parents well. If they like him and accept that he is 26 dating their daughter that is only 17, then... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 6 June 2008: I agree with Ask oldersister. This is exactly what I have been taught in my courses in psychology! This is what brought me off the deep end in the first place-throwing NPD and Hypomania around which are very serious, not to be taken lightly.
I hop... (read in full...)
Is he just using me to experiment with things he's always wanted to do?
Q. I've been seeing this guy and things are beginning to get serious. The other night he told me that his ultimate fantasy is "dp" which I just recently learned means double penetration. Where there's 2 guys on one girl. I would neverrr do that.. like ...
A. 6 June 2008: It is not necessarily "normal" for a guy to want to have a threesome. A fantasy, maybe. But for real, NO. Most people do not want to share their girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/husband with another person, although I'm sure you can find some of those ... (read in full...)
My parents will never accept my boyfriend, its a cultural thing, how can I solve this?
Q. i dont know where to begin. i know im tired and exhausted and on the verge of a nervous breakdown. my parents are from india. very traditional. my boyfriend is american which to them is bad and he has a child from a previous marrige which is the ...
A. 6 June 2008: This must be very, very difficult. I can't imagine how you feel.
Do they have a problem if you two are just dating? Or they just worried that you are getting serious and that marriage could be a possibility? If they are okay with dating, then I w... (read in full...)
My friend has an eating disorder and I don't know how to help her
Q. A friend of mine has been struggeling with an eating dissorder for 3 years. Ive known her since grade school and it hurts me to see her this way. The only thing is she doesen't know that I know. Her Ex boyfriend (current at the time) came to me...
A. 6 June 2008: Do her parents know? Have you thought about talking to them? I know she would absolutely be mad at you but if you are concerned about her health then maybe you should go to someone. This is like a slow, painful death and left untreated, she could ... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 6 June 2008: I see that you are very concerned about her and have thought long and hard what to do.
I apologize if I went off the deep end but I have very strong opinions about people tossing around names of disorders.
Anyways, it seems like there is no... (read in full...)
My 15 year old daughter is pregnant, any advice on how I proceed?
Q. well at the mo i should be called sad mommie..my daughter has come home tonite and told me she is pregnant..she is only 15..said she wants to go ahead with the pregnancy..im so confused..i cant think straight..told her we will talk tomorrow as she ...
A. 6 June 2008: The problem here is, if she wants to keep the baby and you force an abortion as some suggest, she will resent her decision for the rest of her life.
I know she is only 15 and she needs guidance on this matter but maybe you can tell her about he... (read in full...)
My husband is making me have too many children!
Q. I need some advice. I am 8 months pregnant with my 5th child. my other children are 7, 5, 4 and 18 months old. My husband works extremely long hours and spends every second week working in another state. I was done having children after our t...
A. 6 June 2008: I have to agree. If you lie to him, is it possible that it could make things worse? Could you possibly uphold this lie? Or do you think he would be devastated but its something he could get over eventually?
I feel for you, you have every right to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not get a divorce!
Q. Hi, I'm 43 and my boyfriend is making me crazy!!! We have a two year old daughter and we've been living together for 3 years. My problem is my boyfriend has yet to get a divorce from his wife and he pays her half of his paycheck every week(not...
A. 6 June 2008: I can see why you are unhappy with this. Does he have any kids with her? Why half the paycheck? He doesn't owe her anything at this point.
He can sue for a divorce, she doesn't have to grant him one. Of course it makes it easier when both parties ... (read in full...)
Been together for 4 months..is it too soon for a baby?
Q. Me and my partner have been together for about 4 months and want a baby. Is it to soon? Am I too young? I've known my partner for 4 years because he used to work at the stables I used to go to. I love babies so much i've always have ever since i can ...
A. 6 June 2008: I think this is too soon, considering you have only been with your boyfriend for only 4 months. It is very rare that people can get married or have children this soon and have a lasting, healthy relationship. You are still getting to know your ... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 6 June 2008: Well, if someone came to you with this, wouldn't you be upset? I can understand her reaction as most people would react this way. I think you were wrong in your approach. Instead of handing her a checklist of things, you could have said the ... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 6 June 2008: Here is a short exercise to show everyone (who has time) how scary diagnosing people can be:
Here are symptoms for ADHD. And just try to think hard enough (and I mean really think about it) how many of the people you know, including yourself... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 6 June 2008: I have a suggestion. Are you in college? Why dont you contact the psychology department and talk to them. I am sure they have licensed psychologists who would be willing to explain this to you. ... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 6 June 2008: No, Rey. You can not look up "symptoms" in the DSM and diagnose someone as if it were a rash!
Thats just crazy. I am not saying that you are wrong to think something is wrong with her or she is abusing alcohol/drugs. What I am saying is that you... (read in full...)
My friends keep pressuring me and she's not worth the wait!
Q. I've been talking to this girl that I met online for more then 4 years now, and practically our relationship is maxed out. But she lives in a different state, and I've never met her. Yet we really really want to meet, we don't talk anymore because ...
A. 5 June 2008: Yes, you should be dating girls in real life. You might think you love this girl you have been talking to but the truth is, you don't know her. What if you actually did meet her and she was NOTHING like you expected and all this time you have been ... (read in full...)
FWB, but now I'm falling for him!
Q. Hey Um I have a question about emotions and sex etc. I have been friends with a guy for about a year, we started sleeping together a few months ago and both agreed there were no emotions involved and it was JUST sex. I have been happy with tha...
A. 5 June 2008: It is very difficult and sometimes impossible to seperate emotions and sex. Guys tend to find this easier but when they mature, it may become more difficult.
If you have been only seeing this one particular guy and are hanging around him a lot, i... (read in full...)
How can I convince her to stay with me?
Q. Where I live circumcision is uncommon and most girls think it's disgusting. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months now and we had talked about having sex soon. I know that she will find my circumcision disgusting, and I'm worried ...
A. 5 June 2008: Well, ask her how she feels about it. She might be okay with this or maybe not, but at least find out how she feels.
Another thing is to tell her the benefits of being circumcised. This might ease any negative attitudes about the whole idea.... (read in full...)
Bi-BF! What do you think I should do?
Q. ok so... i meet this amazing guy and hes relly nice and everything, but then he tells hes bisexual and that he wants to have a three some- whilst hes been 'done' by another guy and hes 'doing' me!! i no it sounds strange but the thought turns me ...
A. 5 June 2008: Do what you want but this doesn't sound like a good idea to me. It is not that its diry, but I don't see a relationship coming out of this.
If you are fine with it and are looking to explore, then go for it. As long as you feel comforta... (read in full...)
We had a fight and now he has gone-what now?
Q. hi everyone so this sucks me and my boyfriend have been dating for alomsot a year and this has been the worst fight weve ever had bc he wanted a blow job and i wanted sex so i threw a fit abt how it wouldnt b fair tht he got off and i didnt so he ...
A. 5 June 2008: well, you two should probably communicate about sex when you are not in the heat of the moment-that just causes frustration. Neither one of you should be throwing tantrums about this either.
Yes, you need to give him SPACE. If you are wanting ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 5 June 2008: Why he lied, please read:
NikitaDisraeli, Emivia, StudentOfLife, WizardOfWaz,
troubledtoomuch..... and many others.
Ask him why he lied but I think many people hit the nail on the head. ... (read in full...)
How can some guys be so cruel?
Q. How can some guys be so cruel. I know this girl who was telling me about an incident that happen three years ago. She said she went to look for a friend who was working in a mall. she said both of them were walking looking at pictures and she said ...
A. 5 June 2008: Sounds like he doesn't respect women and that he likes the power he feels over them.
Your friend should report him to the police. If no one ever goes to the police then he will continue to hurt other women. ... (read in full...)
I can't trust him. Do leopards ever change their spots?
Q. hi, i need some advice on what to do. i have this boyfriend, we've been going out for about 18 months, and its not exactly been easy :( he cheated on me right at the start of our relationship, i forgave him. then he told me he was still in love wi...
A. 5 June 2008: I do apologize for missing the gender of this poster. However, my advice still stands true.... (read in full...)
I can't trust him. Do leopards ever change their spots?
Q. hi, i need some advice on what to do. i have this boyfriend, we've been going out for about 18 months, and its not exactly been easy :( he cheated on me right at the start of our relationship, i forgave him. then he told me he was still in love wi...
A. 5 June 2008: No, no one goes out and sleeps around to spice up a relationship!
Think about yourself and your feelings, you have to selfish when it comes to cheaters. You should not sacrifice your well-being b/c another is not ready to commit.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with his baby and it's illegal. How to tell my parents without them turning him in?
Q. Okay, this is an extremely complicated issue. I've been dating my bf for 2 monthes now, and we've been having sex. We ended up having unprotected sex and I've found out that im pregnant. The thing is I'm 17 and he's 25 and in North Dakota it is ...
A. 5 June 2008: Also, each state has an "age of consent." Although you are still a minor, if you are over the age of consent then it is harder to prosecute someone. In my state, I believe it is 15 y/o but I could be wrong. Parents can still prosecute even if their ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with his baby and it's illegal. How to tell my parents without them turning him in?
Q. Okay, this is an extremely complicated issue. I've been dating my bf for 2 monthes now, and we've been having sex. We ended up having unprotected sex and I've found out that im pregnant. The thing is I'm 17 and he's 25 and in North Dakota it is ...
A. 5 June 2008: Tell your parents, now!
At this point, you should not be worried about if your parents will be angry. You are far beyong breaking a promise of being a virgin so tell them now. You need their help and support with this issue. I wouldnt worry ab... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. ive been on cerezettte pill now for 9 months and have been wit my boyfriend for almost a year we r brilliant 2gether and hav talked ahead off rselves. althogh i 4got to take my pill 2 days ago n had unprotected sex twice that nite and am now ...
A. 5 June 2008: With most pills, you should expect your period when you are on the placebo pills or shortly after. Thats about 3 weeks after your first pill. The soonest you should try a pregancy test is 2 weeks after you had unprotected sex. ... (read in full...)
Not sure if I amd with my B/F for the wrong reason's!! Please help.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we live together. I constantly have doubts whether he is the one for me. I do not feel as though we have a deep connection and am envious of other people's relationships. We often argue over silly things ...
A. 5 June 2008: Communication is key. Like youwillhateme said, talk to him about how you are feeling.
I think you are having the "7 year itch." Although it hasnt been 7 years, your describing what a lot of people go through around this time. You are question... (read in full...)
Why did we break up? Does he really feel this way?
Q. Let me give you some background first. We met and spent everyday together and because of our jobs we moved to different states. We talked everyday and rarely fought. My boyfriend of 5 months and I broke up yesterday. He told me it was because he ...
A. 5 June 2008: I think that the distance between you two is putting a strain on an early relationship. Since you haven't been together for very long, a strong foundation hasn't been established and the distance is causing him to question whether or not you two ... (read in full...)
I want what me and him have to last but I can't go on like this!
Q. Ok.. So I'm talking to this new guy who will go by Josh, and I mean he's really nice and sweet and everything.. But he seems over-mushy (babe you're so cute,I miss you,etc.) And at first I loved the attention, but now it just seems fake and the ...
A. 5 June 2008: How long have you been dating this guy?
In a new relationship, a lot times there is this kind of talk "I miss you. No, I miss you more. No, I miss you even more!" And at first its cute and you are all in love but then the real stuff comes along an... (read in full...)
She sees another guy as well as me. Should I put up with it?
Q. Well, I'll just start off by saying that me and this girl have had a very long history (went to highschool together/played in a few bands together) and have known eachother for about eight years. Well the other night she came over to my house so ...
A. 5 June 2008: You have every right to tell her what you want in a relationship. If you want an exclusive relationship, this is fine. I would talk to her about it and tell her that either you are exclusive or you go back to being friends. Tell her you care about ... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife sleep with other men because I sleep with other women?
Q. Actually i like sex and i am having sex with many girls. one day my wife has seen me during sex with another girl. that time she did not say anything but right now she has also staret to have sex with her male guys. she do the sex in front of me and ...
A. 5 June 2008: Sex is a part of a relationship. If you are sharing yourself with so many other women, my question to you is "WHY are you married??"
Thats whats great about being single. You can have sex with as many people as you want and for the most part are... (read in full...)
Sexual position and pains.
Q. HI..When my boyfriend and I have sex in most positions its great..however when he enters me from behind i always get a really sharp pain and have to switch positions..any ideas as to why this happens? Thanks! ...
A. 5 June 2008: That position is the most direct so the pain you are feeling is probably when he hits your cervix. If you enjoy this position then tell him that he has to be gentle and not go in as far. Other wise, just enjoy the many other positions!
... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. ive been on cerezettte pill now for 9 months and have been wit my boyfriend for almost a year we r brilliant 2gether and hav talked ahead off rselves. althogh i 4got to take my pill 2 days ago n had unprotected sex twice that nite and am now ...
A. 5 June 2008: There is always a chance that you could be pregant, even when you take the pill everyday. It just depends on your body b/c everyone is different.
When I was on the pill, even when I forgot, I never had a problem. Then there are some that get preg... (read in full...)
I can't trust him. Do leopards ever change their spots?
Q. hi, i need some advice on what to do. i have this boyfriend, we've been going out for about 18 months, and its not exactly been easy :( he cheated on me right at the start of our relationship, i forgave him. then he told me he was still in love wi...
A. 5 June 2008: He didnt just cheat on you one time, two times, or three times....
It sounds like he is using you as his back up. If someone better isnt around then he sticks with you. He didn't just cheat with ex but also another girl, so you cant say its beca... (read in full...)
We are now at the stage where we just don't have sex, my wife says she cannot explain her lack of libido; I do not know how to save my marriage!
Q. Hi I am a 29 year old man and i have been with my wife for 5 years married for 3 of them. We have a little girl who is nearly two and we both dote on her. Just after we were married our sex life appeared to change dramatically, I understa...
A. 5 June 2008: The fact that you have a young one at home could be a big part of it. Some women, not all, lose their sex drive after having kids.
How about intimacy without sex. You should be able to hold her hand, kiss her, and hug her without it meaning ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 5 June 2008: I think you have had many answers on whether or not he loves you. Yes, he said he would stop but he didn't. He should know how much this bothers you but he is still looking. Love is not black and white, there are many many shades of grey. It ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 5 June 2008: Okay I have DD breasts, brown hair, blue eyes. You know what my boyfriend is into right now???
Asians! Japanese, Chinese, Tai chics!
I am american, I dont have exotic features like these women but am not offended!
Its more fantasy, TRU... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 5 June 2008: From what I can understand, and I am not a guy so I could be wrong....
Having sex with you would require effort where looking at some porn, you just sit there and stare. Not all guys jack off to it. Some just like to browse around.... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 5 June 2008: Well, hey, I have to say...at least you tried!
But I dont think you are going to get off on looking at naked men. Think of it this way. If he looks at your naked body, he probably gets an instant erection. Or least many men do. But you need a l... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 5 June 2008: Whether or not you are going to accept this is up to you.
However, I do think that you have every right to not want it in your face. If it were me, I would have deleted it too. It's not worth my time to make sure the sexy file is download... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 5 June 2008: Absolutely not. Hypomania and NPD are completely different! For one Hypomania is an episode of the MOOD disorder, bipolar. NPD is just that-a personality disorder. When there is a diagnosis of either Biplolar or NPD, there has to be years of ... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 5 June 2008: I agree PeterPan. Sometimes its better to cut people off completely when you are involved with someone that has problems in which you can not help them. ... (read in full...)
My ex has a narcissistic personality disorder and no one in her life will help her but me!
Q. I'm positive my ex-girlfriend has a Narcissistic Personality disorder. I once told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania on the phone after we broke up and she flipped out. So, then I sent her a letter with ...
A. 5 June 2008: First of all, you are NOT a psychologist! So please, do not get the DSM-IV-TR and start diagnosing people yourself. Sorry, but that is meant as a guideline for psychologists who have extensive training. Last thing, when I say guideline, it is purely ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 5 June 2008: I agree, once again with DiovanLestat. Heidi has mentioned a lot more about her relationship and her insecurities and her constant questioning if he will leave her. She even mentioned where this all comes from which some people here thought it was ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 5 June 2008: I agree, look over DiovanLestat's post. And I believe that love is a feeling and a "choice we make." It's just some of us "choose" to overlook very small things to see the greater picture. We all do it naturally while we are infatuated, why not make ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Troubledtoomuch: Thank you for answering that!
I personally have told my boyfriend that I have a few rules if he looks at porn: no kids and no torture/rape. That can cause serious damage to the viewer. Well, enough to scare me! So, yes even if ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Please do not compare yourself to the ones he is looking at. It has nothing to do with you!
You could be the most gorgeous, big boobed princess and he would probably look at porn! ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Oh, and what do you mean by teens? Under the age of 18? ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Oh, and what do you mean by teens? Under the age of 18? ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Rhythmandblues2-the issue of abandonment has nothing to do with her issue of porn but it has EVERYTHING to do with their arguments-so she says.
Yes, this is up to you. If you feel deeply that this is not right and is against your core beliefs,... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Like I said before, trust is a risk you have to take if you want this relationship to work. Yes, sometimes we all need a little encouragement but you know you also have to work on this. I would ask him to try to be patient with you as you are ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Like I told you in my message. It has nothing to do with how hot you are! ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Haha. StudentofLife has a similar explanation my boyfriend gave me. He said he isnt thinking-its like duh?... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Have you asked yourself, "why do I fear him leaving me?"
Has someone that meant a great deal to you, abandoned you?
Trust is a risk. You have to take a risk in trusting someone. Even if your heart is broken, you have to be willing to take ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Not necessarily!
I am guessing that your boyfriend is around the same age, correct? And maybe this is the first time he has been confronted with this issue. My boyfriend did not lie to me about the porn but I think it's b/c he has been through ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: I wish I wasn't so emotional as well!
The thing I have been working on over the past year or two is controlling my emotions. If I dont cry then I sob. My boyfriend can tell if something is wrong because it is written all over my face!
But I b... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Yes, I think being lied to hurts more than the actual deed. If you were to bring it up again, dont sob or cry. Just tell him that you were hurt that he lied to you about it. And that you would appreciate him being honest from now on!
For your sak... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: I completely understand!
I have a great realtionship with my boyfriend as well and if anyone in our relationship is going to turn down sex, it would be him! I am the one always wanting it although I have learned to be patient and when he is willi... (read in full...)
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