Marriage - why should any man bother?
Q. Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...
A. 13 November 2010: Hmmm, the comments about government interference and how its unfair on the guy if a marriage breaks up got me thinkin. Perhaps that is exactly why marriage is still seen as the highest level of commitment. Its saying 'i know if this does im going to ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?
Q. Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...
A. 3 September 2010: Sweets, what you need to understand is that you cant 'make him stop' If he doesnt want to, he wont. He most likely doesnt see it as a problem. Guys generally view porn as very harmless. And you cant change anyone. From his point of view, he thinks ... (read in full...)
I've been rejected by a girl for the first time in my life. how should I feel?
Q. ok before i tell me story, if your one of those sentimental femminist types, please dnt even bother responding cuz i dont wana hear it. So for the first time in my life one got away. So I had 3 girlfriends, and I was having a bit of trouble keeping ...
A. 2 September 2010: ummm yeah, she obviously wasn't stupid... You seem to think girls will stick around for a guy like you.. You wanna be a player? Well, players dont have feelings. You miss out, get rejected, you simply move on to the next one. Guys like you cant or ... (read in full...)
Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history
Q. I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...
A. 1 September 2010: unfortunately sweets, if you wish him to not look and try to stop him, he will more then likely see it as a form of control... You see, he wont think it should be an issue. He will think its your insecurity or something, trying to control him. Not ... (read in full...)
Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history
Q. I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...
A. 31 August 2010: Just because the site your bf goes on has those kinda titles and things on it, doesnt mean he'd watch it. Most sites have that kinda thing, they cater to all and any fantasies ppl may have. Sick or not. The site my fiance looks at has gross stuff on ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has pictures of naked girls on his phone
Q. Long Story: Please Help! so on thursday that just passed me and my boyfriend were hanging out and me being a girl went through my boyfriends phone and i went to his images and i saw something very surprising i found 2 pictures of a naked ...
A. 31 August 2010: Dont worry, lots of guys would have pictures of naked women on their phone or where ever. My fiance has some. He looks that kinda thing up if he's doing something himself (not a reason to worry if he chooses you over that) my fiance also has photos ... (read in full...)
Why don't girls have sex as much as guys?
Q. I would like to ask a question at a general/stereotypical level - Why don't girls have sex as much as guys? Eg. a single guy goes to a party/club/bar and hopes something will happen. A single girl goes to the same place and doesn't let anyt...
A. 31 August 2010: its the mentality that if girls sleep around they're sluts and if a guy does he's a hero. In a relationship, girls like sex. Well personally i want it at least just as much as my fiance... One night stands dont tend to lead to great relationships... (read in full...)
Why do all the men in my life turn to porn?
Q. LONG story short: My boyfriend is great and I love him dearly. But (there's always a but, right?) I found porn on my computer and now I'm having trust issues. I confronted him and he has stopped (for 8 months now). I just can't quit thinking ab...
A. 29 August 2010: OP, I was raped when i was 13 by a police officer. I also was attacked a few years later by 3 males. Now i could have decided that all police were corrupt and chosen to go against them, or i could have blamed violent child porn for it.. I could of ... (read in full...)
Why do all the men in my life turn to porn?
Q. LONG story short: My boyfriend is great and I love him dearly. But (there's always a but, right?) I found porn on my computer and now I'm having trust issues. I confronted him and he has stopped (for 8 months now). I just can't quit thinking ab...
A. 28 August 2010: not every guy who watches porn is addicted. Some guys watch it like once a wk or every so often as an extra with their already good sex life. If your current partner has stopped, or hardly uses it, why are you so worried? It doesnt mean he's ... (read in full...)
I'm fine with him watching porn but he lies about it!
Q. Ok, so its my first time writing on anything like this, but I've talked (complained...whatever) to what seems like a hundred people and I feel like I need some sort of advice as to what on earth to do! Here goes. I have been with my boyfriend f...
A. 26 August 2010: trust is a huge part of any relationship, he is breaking yours over and over and since you aren't together all the time that makes it even harder to believe he's not doing anything else behind your back. Sooo many guys lie about porn use, if you ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming desperate for sex!
Q. i think im starting to become desperate for sex....is that possible after having sex alot with your ex...after not having sex can you begin to need to have sex.....i haven't had sex for only 3 months nearly and basically everything i read about a ...
A. 25 August 2010: hands? Touch yourself til it feels good. Or perhaps buy something, im sure there'd be some that are waterproof. Good luck... (read in full...)
I trusted him and he cheated on me
Q. well my boyfriend and i have now been going out for two months and the other night i trusted him to go to a party while i was at a dance class, he tells me two days later that he cheated on me and now i don't know what to do, so i guess my question ...
A. 25 August 2010: Dump his cheating arse. You deserve better... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 25 August 2010: and would you leave it all behind and not have any of it if she was living with you? After you're married etc? If she had found this after the wedding, its possible she still would leave. Not every woman is totally against porn. Some will accept or ... (read in full...)
What is her motive behind the question she asked?
Q. After knowing each other plutonically for more than a year, my girlfriend and I have become intimately involved and have lived together now for a month and a half. Things are wonderful, but I was a bit taken aback when she suddenly asked me how many ...
A. 24 August 2010: wow that conversation has only just come up? My fiance and i both discussed past partners within the first few wks of our relationship. Its better to be honest. That way nothing can ever come back and bite you. If your number is seriously high and ... (read in full...)
I didnt fight back when he had sex with me because my daughter was watching, and I had sent nude pics to him before. Was this still rape?
Q. I was raped by my boyfriend's best friend in front of my three year old daughter. And another friend in the car. Ive been to the police. Im having a hard time dealing with it he claims i wanted. And it wasnt forced, i went to the store to buy them a ...
A. 24 August 2010: That is rape... It doesnt matter what anyone else says or what has happened previously. The second you said 'no' or 'stop' is the second it becomes rape. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise! Push charges!! And please seek some professional help to ... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 23 August 2010: Caring guy has got it in one. I get more upset getting lied to over porn then i do that my fiance looks at it. Some women simply cannot and will not accept any use of porn in their relationships. That doesnt mean anyone is right or wrong. Some are ... (read in full...)
Is porn just mental cheating?
Q. I understand that porn isn't technically cheating. But I feel like my boyfriend may have a slight obsession with it. He looks at it every day of the week, maybe only 5 or 6 days some weeks, but for the most part, he does it every day. We are in a ...
A. 23 August 2010: How you view porn is a personal choice. However it sounds like your bf has more of an issue then just looking at porn. A decent guy will care more about his gf and may use porn sometimes, but would pick his gf over it every time. The fact that he ... (read in full...)
Lying about watching porn...
Q. I've been lying to my girlfriend for years about my porn use. She caught me lying to her a few times in the beginning of our relationship (about other things as well as porn use) and has never really trusted me again properly since then. However I ...
A. 22 August 2010: Yeah im with person and mia. My partner lied about his porn use too, but us gals are very good at picking lies. Difference being, he realised if he didnt stop lying we'd break up. He hasn't lied in months. In your situation, if you tell your gf ... (read in full...)
Marriage - why should any man bother?
Q. Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...
A. 19 August 2010: Interesting article. Speaking as someone getting married early next year, my reasons for wanting to are fairly simple. We love each other, have been through alot together, and want to be together for the rest of our lives. While we can do that ... (read in full...)
Help! I can't physically have sex!
Q. I really need some help/tips with this recent problem that I just discovered. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins and ready to have sex and we tried a couple of times already but he just can't enter me. It has nothing to do with me not being wet ...
A. 19 August 2010: i hope he's wearing a condom... Get him to put lube on his penis that will help. And take it slow. Chances are you're a bit nervous about having sex and our bodies tend to close up more when we're worried. Try and relax. And if its not working, dont ... (read in full...)
Pregnant preteen
Q. Okay I'm 13 turning 14 in 6 mos anyway I have been dating since I'm 11. I only had sex 9 times. 7 times were with boys my age and the other times were with girls. Anyway I just found out I'm pregnant and further along then I thought how should I ...
A. 19 August 2010: haven't you heard about safe sex? Man, at 13 you're a kid. No way can you raise one. Tell your parents. They'll have to help you through it, and your bf may not stick around you know. You're both very young. Adult males even leave their pregnant ... (read in full...)
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