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Naked women...

Q.   I've been in a happy marriage for over twenty years. I've always known my husband has looked at some naked women pictures when years ago someone handed him a book and now with the internet, he receives emails w/jokes w/naked women, some of the ...

A.   11 December 2010: Is your sex life good? Does he ever make inappropriate comments concerning them or you? Guys do look at women, no matter what age. It doesnt mean he loves you any less or views you as not attractive. He chose you over everyone else because of many ... (read in full...)

This was a big mistake wasn't it?

Q.   Hoe stupid of me was this? My boyfriend has been bugging me for forever about having 2 girls give him head. I finally said no its never gonna happen if you want it so bad go do it with 2 other girls. He took this literally! I mean I love him so much ...

A.   9 December 2010: dump his selfish stupid ass and find someone who cares about YOU more then his dick. You shouldn't 'let him do it to be happy' as you will be very unhappy with that. He just wants to cheat on you and always will. Leave now... (read in full...)

Is it possible I'm pregnant even though the test came back negative?

Q.   ok well about six months ago i was with this guy who i just met and he was 20 at the time and i was 16. we had sex using no protection or anything and now i think im prregnant. ive taken preg test but all but 1 said no and i cnt go to my parents. i ...

A.   7 December 2010: was 6months ago the last time you had sex? If so you'd know if you're pregnant and have alot more symptoms. Usually tests will show within a wk of a missed period, so approx 2-6wks into a pregnancy. Doesnt sound like you are. But you'll need a blood ... (read in full...)

Women: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Q.   Warning:(The following contains broad generalizations to illustrate a point, there are no rules nor concrete all encompassing truths in what I write, there are always exceptions. This applies to men too) I've been on this site for a while now and ...

A.   4 December 2010: This is excellent, thanks. ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for a husband to watch porn?

Q.   Just a simple question before i freak out pleaasseee... Is it normal that the husband watch porn??? And trying to hide it from me! What is it all about? Should i react? Should i get mad? Should i confront him? What is it? Should i get jealous?? What ...

A.   1 December 2010: Do you still have a good sex life? Does he still want you in that aspect? If so his watching porn doesnt affect you or your relationship. It seems alot of guys watch and hide, due to it being a very personal and private thing. My hubby does. Yes he ... (read in full...)

13, pregnant and don't know what to do...

Q.   hi I'm 13 and pregnant, I'm scared, dunno what to do and not sure who the dad is! Only my best friend knows, not sure what to do... its been 2 months now I'm scared HELPPPP...

A.   28 November 2010: def tell your parents, or a close family member (adult) that can help you. They may be disappointed in you to start with but you need help dealing with this. You are too young to raise a baby by yourself, but maybe you could give it up for adoption ... (read in full...)

Is the fact that he looks at porn and lies to me about an issue of incompatibility?

Q.   My question concerns pornography. Context: My boyfriend and I are 23 years old and have been together for almost 2 years. I love having sex and virtually never turn him down. Really, I'm the one that gets turned down the most. We currently ...

A.   27 November 2010: This is something i will never accept from my hubby. If i'm home, he doesnt look at porn. Ever. He looks at it once or twice a wk when im at work, but for half hour max. We made an agreement to ensure he'd never choose porn over me (he never had ... (read in full...)

B/f wants a room he can fill with pictures of naked women!

Q.   Girls (or boys can answer too i guess to give your side) How do you feel about the fact your bf/fiance/husband has or wants a room to be his (like a games room) and have it filled with pictures of naked women??? I was just talkin to my bf and...

A.   26 November 2010: Yeah no i wouldn't allow that. Looking at pictures sometimes is ok by me, but a whole room, hell no. Talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel about it. I'm sure he wouldn't like it if you had lots of guy photos everywhere... (read in full...)

Do all men watch porn and hide it?

Q.   me and my boyfriend have a very good sex life and have sex at very least once a day. but he always watches porn and then hides it, this really upsets me, am i being silly, do all men do this? ...

A.   25 November 2010: Guys view masturbation and hence the use of porn as a very private and personal thing. They do tend to hide it for fear that they'll be judged and it'll cause issues where they dont think there should be issues. My hubby and i have a great sex life ... (read in full...)

How do I give a great blow job?

Q.   Hey guys listen up! i wanna know how to give an amazing blow job. i don't know why but i feel like my boyfriend really misses them and i want to give him cause i haven't gone down on him in like 6 months and im afraid i might be a little rusty. so ...

A.   24 November 2010: Well i'd say the guys have covered it. Haha. My hubby loves it when i take him in as far as i can, even if only for a little bit. Also moving your head sideways so his penis is hitting your cheek (not too often, good for a bit of a break tho, stops ... (read in full...)

Old man perverts and clueless teenage girls...

Q.   Hey I'm a 17 year old boy from Australia and I have a problem. It's pretty strange I guess I see teenage girls walking down the street in mini skirts and their bodies hanging out which is their choice I guess but thats not the problem. I see...

A.   24 November 2010: I agree. It creeps me out when old men stare at me (im in my 20's) and i dont dress with anything 'hanging out'. I'm usually a jeans and tshirt kinda girl. At work (retail), i've had old guys that are at least 60 ask how much i'd cost and that kinda ... (read in full...)

Do women really prefer more 'masculine' men for sex but less 'masculine' men for relationships?

Q.   I've read quite a few articles about evolutionary psychology and the theory that women tend to prefer more masculine men for short term sexual relationships, but prefer less masculine men for long term relationships. As I understand it, the theory ...

A.   22 November 2010: I dont think looks have anything to do with what i view as masculine. My hubby is skinny, he has muscles as he lifts heavy items for a living, and i feel more then well protected with him. He is more of a man then my ex's or friends that may be ... (read in full...)

Should we get married?

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 11 years we have 2 children together aged 9 and 8. She really wants a commitment from me in the form of marriage but I haven't given it yet. I have never had an interest in marriage but it's really important ...

A.   21 November 2010: why not? You are already in a de facto relationship, marriage is just telling the world what you just told us. You love her and want her for the rest of your life. Ideally after you make that next step, nothing changes. Although i know i felt even ... (read in full...)

I want to be a porn star does anyone have any advice regarding this matter?

Q.   Hello, I am a 17 year old make and I would like to be a male porn star. Does anyone have any advice regarding this matter? ...

A.   20 November 2010: Yeah. My advice would be dont do it. But whatever floats your boat. Gross.... (read in full...)

Marriage - why should any man bother?

Q.   Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...

A.   13 November 2010: Hmmm, the comments about government interference and how its unfair on the guy if a marriage breaks up got me thinkin. Perhaps that is exactly why marriage is still seen as the highest level of commitment. Its saying 'i know if this does im going to ... (read in full...)

Any girls over 18 have a crush on Justin Bieber?

Q.   Are there any girls older than 18 who think the teen singer Justin Bieber is very good looking?...

A.   4 November 2010: im 23 and no. Quite frankly ewww... (read in full...)

Why do men think of women as slaves?

Q.   why do men think of women as slaves?...

A.   29 October 2010: are you in a relationship where your bf tells you that you must do everything and look after him? Is this about sex somehow? Either way, most men dont view women as slaves. My fiance and i share the housework equally. He helps cook, cleans etc, ... (read in full...)

Can one brand of the pill be okay for years then suddenly not work for you?

Q.   Can one brand of the pill be okay for years then suddenly not work for you? ...

A.   28 October 2010: yes. I had that problem. 3yrs with no issues then suddenly sick all the time. Go see your doc and get it changed... (read in full...)

She wants me to cum in her face but I respect her too much to do that...

Q.   Ok guys dont give me hell or call me a pansy. My gf asked me to cum in her face while she was giving me a blow job last week, and I totally froze up and couldnt do anything. I have watched it in porn and I dont see it as a turn on at all. Honestly...

A.   27 October 2010: I dont mind when my fiance does that, but only sometimes (and with pre warning lol) i dont find it degrading, rather its kinda a turn on knowing that i pleasured him that much.. So saying, if you really dont want to, dont. Noone should do anything ... (read in full...)

How to handle trust issueswith pornography, boyfriend & lying

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. My previous boyfriend was addicted to porn and lied about it. I'm one of those girls who hate it--it's demoralizing in my eyes, sick, and perverted. So when I asked him about watching it or ...

A.   27 October 2010: I was just about to post here with my story as it is very similar, but dirtball has already posted the link that i wrote. Lol. My best advice would be to try and keep the issues seperate. Keep him lying as a seperate issue to porn. Im very similar ... (read in full...)

The obsession with gender bending porn material and sexual orientation.

Q.   Some people especially men like to watch porn, for the spouse it could be a difficult experience especially if the intimacy in their relationship is affected. Usually men would search for porn when they have some level of stagnation in their lives, ...

A.   25 October 2010: I'm going to disagree with something you've said here.. Men dont always start looking at porn when they aren't getting enough sexual attention in a relationship. My almost hubby and i have sex or i give him oral or something every day, and he still ... (read in full...)

Is it really right to strike someone in this situation?

Q.   I was surprised and a bit shocked by some of the responses to A recent post about a guy wanting to know if women found it attractive when a guys junk happens to show. Several of the women say that they would slap the guy in the face if his junk ...

A.   22 October 2010: 907queen, we're not talking about our other halves, we're talking about a random stranger doing it in public. I love the sight of my fiances at any time, but wouldn't if it was in public towards others. Nor would i like it if it was a stranger.... (read in full...)

Is it normal for shorter girls to feel this way?

Q.   I'm just under 5 foot, 18 years old and a bit curvier... I've never had a boyfriend despite being quite outgoing and flirty. I'm not desperate just concerned that because of my height guys just look at me as a cute little sister or a friend. Don't ...

A.   21 October 2010: in 5ft nothing and while i get teased a bit by friends and told i look alot younger then what i am by strangers (annoying) i haven't had too much trouble with guys. Im getting married soon... In my teen yrs i think it was harder, i dont have big ... (read in full...)

Is it really right to strike someone in this situation?

Q.   I was surprised and a bit shocked by some of the responses to A recent post about a guy wanting to know if women found it attractive when a guys junk happens to show. Several of the women say that they would slap the guy in the face if his junk ...

A.   21 October 2010: ummm yeah i was one who said i'd 'be more likely to slap you then like it' As in... Seeing that intentionally, i wouldn't enjoy it. If someone flashed me in that way my first concern would be that they would attempt rape. Hence i'd fight or flight. ... (read in full...)

Do you think that getting a hand job during a massage is really cheating?

Q.   I am a little bored and was intrigued by all the ads for Asian massage places and something called "table shower". My question to you all is do you think that getting a hand job during a massage is really cheating? It seems to me that it is not ...

A.   21 October 2010: its cheating. Anything sexual at all with someone other then your wife is cheating. Would you be fine if she had another man touching her down there? Unless you're both into swinging (which i doubt being christians..) then its not something you ... (read in full...)

Do women like to catch a glimpse of a man's penis or balls?

Q.   Do women like it when men wear shortish kind of shorts and maybe you catch a glimpse of what he is packing here or there (san undies, of course). I love it when I happen to catch a glimpse up a woman's skirt, or into her shorts, or down her top to ...

A.   21 October 2010: ewww hell no. I feel embarrassed as hell if i realise that my clothing isn't sitting right and someone could glimpse something. If i saw someone looking (as it sounds you do) i'd more likely slap you then feel good because of it. And i'd rather see ... (read in full...)

Guys Only Please* nude pics of gf

Q.   GUYS ONLY PLEASE I mean this, because girls view the world in a totally different way, and they all THINK they know what guys are thinking and the reasons behindd their actions, but are usually wrong. A girl asking for insight into a guy's min...

A.   20 October 2010: OP thats fair. I trust my fiance on this, he's too protective and jealous to a point (doesnt like other guys viewing me in that light) so i doubt he'd show photos of me knowing the reaction he'd get. Plus he's not the exhibitionist type. Sorry to ... (read in full...)

What makes a girl 'girlfriend material'?

Q.   Have you ever noticed how "girlfriends" tend to be pretty average looking? I mean, think of your guy friends' girlfriends, the ones they've been with for 3-6 years... they're usually not drop dead gorgeous... Meanwhile, a lot of beautiful women, ...

A.   20 October 2010: hmmm... Well my very soon to be hubby often tells me that im the most beautiful girl in the world. Lol. He'll refer to others as hot.. Max. He reckons beautiful, gorgeous etc are only ever directed at me as he doesnt see any other woman in that way. ... (read in full...)

Guys Only Please* nude pics of gf

Q.   GUYS ONLY PLEASE I mean this, because girls view the world in a totally different way, and they all THINK they know what guys are thinking and the reasons behindd their actions, but are usually wrong. A girl asking for insight into a guy's min...

A.   19 October 2010: i may be a girl responding also, but i asked my fiance your question. His answer is 'both a and b, and also because i dont want anyone else seeing you. I wouldn't show anyone nude photos of you'... (read in full...)

Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?

Q.   Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...

A.   15 October 2010: doesnt sound much like love to me if you care more about your friends opinions over your gf. She deserves better then that mate. If you truely loved her, you'd defend her from what your friends say instead of considering getting with someone that ... (read in full...)

Getting married in 6 weeks but can't get over my insecurity and self-esteem issues!

Q.   Hi all. Im 23, getting married in 6wks (wow!) and i cant get over my self esteem/insecurity problems! My fiance is wonderful, always telling me he thinks im beautiful and the most gorgeous woman in the world etc etc, but most times i laugh or tell ...

A.   1 October 2010: male annon thats exactly what i want to do. Figure out what he sees in me that makes me better (in his eyes) then any other woman. I have never accused him of cheating nor do i think he will. My insecurity is more around that he finds other women to ... (read in full...)

Getting married in 6 weeks but can't get over my insecurity and self-esteem issues!

Q.   Hi all. Im 23, getting married in 6wks (wow!) and i cant get over my self esteem/insecurity problems! My fiance is wonderful, always telling me he thinks im beautiful and the most gorgeous woman in the world etc etc, but most times i laugh or tell ...

A.   29 September 2010: Cupid boy, we had some arguements over porn a long time ago much earlier in our relationship. Because he lied about it lol. Now he doesnt lie so there isn't really an issue. The pictures he has are mostly from before us, although he's been deleting ... (read in full...)

Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?

Q.   So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...

A.   29 September 2010: wee_neko makes a good point. There is no need for a discussion about what kind of porn each person watches, but there is no need to lie about it. Faking orgasms is a good comparison. Guys feelings get hurt if we lie about whether they got us off or ... (read in full...)

Getting married in 6 weeks but can't get over my insecurity and self-esteem issues!

Q.   Hi all. Im 23, getting married in 6wks (wow!) and i cant get over my self esteem/insecurity problems! My fiance is wonderful, always telling me he thinks im beautiful and the most gorgeous woman in the world etc etc, but most times i laugh or tell ...

A.   28 September 2010: No offence aunt honesty, but im not going to call off my wedding just because i have selfesteem problems. I know my fiance loves me exactly how i am and our wedding day will be a happy and special day. I just want to stop comparing myself to other ... (read in full...)

Hes pretty much got a whole porno store should I just move on?

Q.   My situation is this....I am 46 and my boyfriend of almost 2 years (whom lives with me in my house) he is almost 41. Little age difference there but not a LOT. Well, the first week after he moved in, I caught him in the office at his computer with a ...

A.   21 September 2010: Ask yourself these questions. Are you happy? Can you be happy with him and the relationship exactly as it is? Is his happiness more important then yours? If the answer is no to all, leave him. However, if there is a compromise you can reach with his ... (read in full...)

Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?

Q.   So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...

A.   21 September 2010: Yes women can hold out for a guy who wont use porn if they wont accept it. But what of those who will accept porn, in moderation obviously, but wont accept being lied to? There's a difference. Why cant guys if asked directly about porn and porn use ... (read in full...)

Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?

Q.   So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...

A.   21 September 2010: Well for me personally, i simply hate lying. About anything. Sure ive told a few, as has everyone, but i dont lie to my fiance. Why should i need to? If im not honest with him, then what is the point of a relationship? Relationships should be built ... (read in full...)

I have small breasts--should I get surgery?

Q.   I have small breasts, and I feel very insecure. Should I get surgery? Men have teased me about it, even an ex said big breasts were better. Even hear on DC I've read guys post that guys do tend to prefer big breasts (even though they don't hate ...

A.   20 September 2010: I fully understand where you're coming from. I too have small breasts. While my fiance says he loves mine, his claim is that he just simply loves boobs, no matter what size. What gets to me is the zoo mag he buys every wk and the many pictures he ... (read in full...)

We have sex 5X a week and he still needs porn?

Q.   Hello. My bf and I have sex about 5 times a week, but he still watches porn alone and masturbates. I have never had a problem with him watching porn, but does this reflect on me? Am I not enough?...

A.   13 September 2010: not a reflection on your at all. My fiance and i do sexual stuff every day, if not more, and he sometimes still goes solo. So long as he's not picking it over or instead of you (doesnt sound like it) there's no need to worry. :)... (read in full...)

Birth control pills make me moody and sick to my stomach

Q.   hey ive been on birth control for almost a week and this is my first time. i havent gotten my period for 2 months and not preg. (negative preg. test and ultrasound shows nothing) the BC pills make me sick to my stomach. Is this normal? i have ...

A.   12 September 2010: hey there. Bc pills can make you feel sick, esp if you've just started on them. I had to change one id been on for 3 years because it suddenly started making me sick. New ones they say give it 3 months. If the side effects haven't gone away after ... (read in full...)

Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?

Q.   Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...

A.   3 September 2010: Sweets, what you need to understand is that you cant 'make him stop' If he doesnt want to, he wont. He most likely doesnt see it as a problem. Guys generally view porn as very harmless. And you cant change anyone. From his point of view, he thinks ... (read in full...)

Marriage - why should any man bother?

Q.   Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...

A.   19 August 2010: Interesting article. Speaking as someone getting married early next year, my reasons for wanting to are fairly simple. We love each other, have been through alot together, and want to be together for the rest of our lives. While we can do that ... (read in full...)

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