Why is Hardcore Porn so popular and why do people defend it so fiercely?
Q. Why do men get off on watching women being so obviously humiliated and abused in hardcore porn? For whatever reason the women are made to look as if they are being violated and taken violently for pleasure purposes of those watching.... I just re...
A. 7 April 2011: reading some of this, it seems to paint men who watch porn as some horrid being who will treat any woman like a sex slave and want to humilate her. Well, i don't think that. My hubby sometimes watches porn. Before we were married i found this out ... (read in full...)
Why is Hardcore Porn so popular and why do people defend it so fiercely?
Q. Why do men get off on watching women being so obviously humiliated and abused in hardcore porn? For whatever reason the women are made to look as if they are being violated and taken violently for pleasure purposes of those watching.... I just re...
A. 6 April 2011: i mustn't see what this hardcore stuff is. I've seen some porn sites that listed hardcore and it was just sex. The bondage or whatever was under some other title. When i see someone's written hardcore i actually think they just mean sex not beating ... (read in full...)
First time mom, am I feeling my baby move?
Q. Is it possible for being 4 months pregnant and feeling my baby kick? When I put my hand on my right side I feel this weird flutter like I've never felt. I was wondering if the baby beings growing on one side of the uterus then eventually grows...
A. 4 April 2011: haha i'm the same as you! And yes it is possible, much as they say you can't feel anything til the 18th week, the way i see it is that we know what everything felt like before being pregnant, we now know what stretching feels like and everything ... (read in full...)
I was 23 a few months ago but can still very easily pass for a 14yr old!! Is there any way I can I make myself look older without making myself look cheap?
Q. My problem is that I look so young for my age. I was 23 a few months ago but can still very easily pass for a 14yr old. For example I always just get given a childs ticket for the bus/train without even having to ask, which you can only get if ...
A. 3 April 2011: i know how you feel. I'm 24 but only 5ft and young looking. I have to show id for 15+ movies! I'm married with a baby on the way and cop disapproving looks quite often. I think if i ever get the speech about young single mums i'm not exactly going ... (read in full...)
I confessed to my wife that I went to porn sites and now she doesn't want anything to do with me
Q. I have problems, my life, sucks and im to blame for it. I messed up the relationship with my wife, and my family. Let me get to the beginning, my wife gave birth of our first and possibly last child a little over a month a go. A boy whome we both ...
A. 23 March 2011: my hubby looks at porn sometimes, but never when i'm home. I'm fine with it but if he did something when i was home i wouldn't be. I am however more then happy to please him whenever he'd like. Can your wife maybe please you with hands or even mouth ... (read in full...)
Is it all just porn?
Q. Just wondering, are there "Real" women who like and enjoy getting cummed on her face or in her mouth? or is this all just porn?...
A. 18 March 2011: I like my hubby going where ever he wants on me. Not all the time but every so often after a bj or something. In my mouth makes me feel a bit sick atm because i'm pregnant but usually anything is fine. Not dom or anything just like pleasing him... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, but the only thing holding me back from "taking the plunge" is her weight...
Q. Allow me to first say, I FULLY understand the amount of unhealthy pressure and anxiety that society puts on women to look perfect. That being said, here's the low down: I'm 24, she's 22, and we have been dating for roughly 2 years now. I have alwa...
A. 17 March 2011: Why not make it a fun thing for get to get fitter? Look into exercise classes or bike riding designed for the couple. Don't mention that its to get her fitter or lose weight. But that you think it'd be a fun couple thing to do together. See how that ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about her sharing herself with other guys or wanting too try?
Q. my gf watches kinky porn, pretend rape, and a couple guys on one girl. what could this say about our relationship or the type of person she is? We have amazing sex and are physically attracted to each other and intimate at the same time. ladies, ...
A. 15 March 2011: lol. Its porn. Don't tell me you've never watched two girls with one guy? Its fantasy. Doesn't mean she wants it in real life. But if you're that worried ask her ... (read in full...)
Men: would you be turned on or freaked out or something else by this?
Q. Hello lovely men of DearCupid :D How are we today? So, picture this... You wake up in the morning with a hard on only to find your girlfriend/mrs was already 'attending' to it... Reaction please? Would you be turned on? Freaked out? ...
A. 12 March 2011: My hubby loves when i do this. Its only happened a few times, but if i wake up first and he's got ' morning glory' sometimes i'll start playing. I'd never actually have sex at that point though, bit weird. But he wakes up pretty happily and quickly ... (read in full...)
Does drinking make you mature?
Q. Does drinking make you mature? I don't drink and people think it's because I haven't matured and not responsible. Some people say to me "Oh man up, I started at the age of 13. In my opinion I think that's daft! I've had a glass of alcohol today down ...
A. 27 February 2011: Drinking that young shows a high level of immaturity, not the other way around. Research has shown that teen drinking can lead to many many issues, as their brains are too young to cope with what alcohol can do. There's a reason there's legal ages ... (read in full...)
He wants to go out, but I want him to stay. Am I being selfish?
Q. me and my bf are very close we do everything togther and realy we dnt go out much without eachothr our relantionship is good but latly he told me hes bored and wants to go out to the bar i knw he wants sum alone time but i just dnt see it fair that ...
A. 17 February 2011: why not compromise and have him have some friends over? He can hang with them and you at the same time then ... (read in full...)
So...does size really matter? Let's put it to rest.
Q. A good friend of mine let’s call him S is going through a very tough, emasculating time. A girlfriend of his made comments to her friends, stating that while she really enjoyed being with him, and that he was a great guy both emotionally and ...
A. 17 February 2011: My goodness, why no earth are you men so worried about penis size? There aren't half as many women concerned about their breast size and that's something that everyone can see without getting naked! Frankly, i have never measured or been told the ... (read in full...)
She won't go down on me!
Q. Ok so i have a bit of a sexual problem. My girlfriend does not like giving me oral. We have been sexually active for about 2 years now out of a 3 year relationship but at the begining she liked giving me oral. At the begining she gave me head ...
A. 12 February 2011: I must be one of few women who love giving blowjobs and really dont enjoy having the favour returned... Luckily my hubby doesnt like going down on me and loves me giving him head so it works well! Haha. I do enjoy doing it, but sometimes i feel laz... (read in full...)
Once a regular porn user, always a regular porn user?
Q. I am worried that my boyfriend is lying to me about his use of porn. When we first met we were open about discussing it and I asked to see his collection. It was huge. I was shocked at the amount he had but understood as he had been single for a ...
A. 4 February 2011: Honestly, i wouldn't.. If porn is a dealbreaker for you, then i simply wouldn't take his word and change everything. Only to find out he is still looking and wont stop. Many guys say they will and dont. They simply think its better to lie and hide ... (read in full...)
Health tips for early pregnancy?
Q. Hi all! This is actually a question about pregnancy, i was hoping some mums could give me some advice :) I just found out im pregnant, i think between 1-3 weeks.. Last time i feel pregnant i miscarried. My hubby and i got married not too long after ...
A. 23 January 2011: Also, any tips to help morning sickness?? Nausea really bad :/... (read in full...)
Health tips for early pregnancy?
Q. Hi all! This is actually a question about pregnancy, i was hoping some mums could give me some advice :) I just found out im pregnant, i think between 1-3 weeks.. Last time i feel pregnant i miscarried. My hubby and i got married not too long after ...
A. 22 January 2011: Thanks for the help all... It was over a year ago that I miscarried, and here in Aus, doctors dont worry about miscarriages unless you've had 3 or more in a row. They dont class one as high risk... And from my understanding, in 1st trimester ... (read in full...)
I want a serious relationship, why doesn't anybody else my age want the same?
Q. I'm 23 and quite mature for my age. I want a serious relationship, but all I find is people my age wanting flings. Or they just play you like my ex did and then dump you by text. Why is this? The problem with guys my age is that they only want sex ...
A. 16 January 2011: i'm 23, and live in aus, and im married.. My hubby is also 23 (well in a few months we'll be 24 but still) I must ask, where are you meeting these guys? If its uptown or involves drinking, then yeah alot of guys are just after sex. Not all though. ... (read in full...)
My marriage proposal sucked! Should I let him do it again?
Q. SO I’m engaged but my proposal Sucked!!! he didn’t even decorate there was no romantic music and he knows that I love flowers and he didn’t even give me one!!! He used a beat up candle that was already used and I didn’t even get to dress up nor ...
A. 15 January 2011: Why the hell does the proposal matter? You should be happy that you are going to get married to the (hopefully) man of your dreams! Proposals shouldn't matter to anyone at the end of the day.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me I was the best kisser she's ever kissed, when she asked me I told her she wasn't the worst!
Q. The other day my girlfriend and I were together, and we were happy and flirty as usual. Then she brought up that I was the best kisser out of any of the boyfriends she has had. Then she asked how she was, and when I thought about it in my head, I ...
A. 12 January 2011: one of those times when really if she wanted to truth she simply shouldn't of asked the question. But yeah i guess she was chasing reassurance. Oops. She'll get over it eventually... (read in full...)
Is it ok to hold a grudge for that long?
Q. Alright, this girl i knew a 3 years ago is trying to get in contact with me. She use to be my bestfriend till one day i found out she had sex with my boyfriend at the time when the 3 of us were hanging out at another friends house. Even though i ...
A. 9 January 2011: For me it'd have nothing to do with a grudge. Simply that in my eyes that girl has lost all respect and i wouldn't be able to trust her. Hence there'd be no reason to be friends. Personally i'd just not bother with her. At least then she cant hurt ... (read in full...)
For the girls: Is an uncircumcised penis a deal breaker?
Q. Is an uncircumcised penis a deal breaker? Only for women...
A. 7 January 2011: nothing wrong with it. My hubby's not. He's clean and i find sex with him better then anyone else i've been with (who were circumsized) It changes nothing so long as you wash it when you shower. Plus he's more sensitive there which makes everything ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be accepting of his porn usage?
Q. First of all, I don’t want answers to my post or comments on it from people who are totally against porn. I am not against it, I am just asking for advice and I don’t want advice that I absolutely will not take. I mean no offense, but I see it on ...
A. 6 January 2011: I've been in a similar situation and have my (now) hubby and i worked on compromises and he gave me many assurances so i could accept it. For starters, he never watches it when im home. Usually only once or twice a wk and never for longer then half ... (read in full...)
Son's medical condition goes untreated by his father and father's family
Q. I am a single mum no bf with a young son who is ADHD and autistic, and I have full custody and am not involved at all with his dad. My son's dad and his family are really p***ing me off :(. This New Yr I want to change things and think I need to ...
A. 3 January 2011: My two sisters have the same problems as your son. My parents broke up after almost 30yrs of marriage due to the stress.. One sis in government care (not by choice) and one lives with mum and stepdad. Courts, legal systems etc have NO IDEA when it ... (read in full...)
What would you guys do in a no win situation like mine?
Q. Hey. Just after some advice. Do you think hiding things is ever ok? My boyfriend is a very jealous, posessive and sometimes paranoid person. From past experiences with him I now go put of my way to avoid confrontation and accusations from him. ...
A. 1 January 2011: I've been in this situation. Its a form of abuse. After 2yrs i finally got the guts to leave the guy. Best decision i ever made. I met my soulmate and married him... Noone has the right to make you feel like you've done something wrong and control ... (read in full...)
Men: If your woman is satisfying you, why do you need porn?
Q. Ok first off, I’m not married, but I keep having this fear of my future husband watching porn. I understand that most men watch porn but why? If your woman is satisfying you why do you need it? Many men say they need variety, but is that fair? Women ...
A. 31 December 2010: I wouldn't say that men love porn.. I once asked my hubby if he had to pick me or porn which it'd be. He said me. However i am not one to control, i wont ever tell him he has to stop watchin or i'll walk. I found a happy medium where i accepted ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend saved my life and is now handicapped. Should I stay with him?
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It almost sounds unreal, but he saved my life about one month ago. He pushed me out of the way from getting hit by an oncoming car, but he was badly injured. Right now, ...
A. 27 December 2010: it may just be the way you wrote this, but you sound horribly selfish. Your boyfriend saved your life. Risked his for yours. Decided that he loved you that much he'd rather you live over him.. And your family said you should leave because he cant ... (read in full...)
Feeling so guilty. I was drunk and did stuff with a friend
Q. Okay so, two nights ago, I got drunk. But not over my head drunk, I still had a bit of consciousness intact. I was at a party and one of my guy friends, who I'm fairly close with, offered to take me home. I let him since it wasn't the first time. Bu...
A. 23 December 2010: May i ask where your parents were with all this? Firstly drinking underage, then performing sexual acts.. Honey, that guy used you. And if he was one year older, it would be classed as sexual assualt as he'd have been over the legal age. There are ... (read in full...)
Men: If your woman is satisfying you, why do you need porn?
Q. Ok first off, I’m not married, but I keep having this fear of my future husband watching porn. I understand that most men watch porn but why? If your woman is satisfying you why do you need it? Many men say they need variety, but is that fair? Women ...
A. 23 December 2010: I was the same as you once. I wondered why the hell my partner would need to masturbate to porn when we would do something sexual every day (if not more) and i was more then happy to get him off without wanting anything in return. One day we talked ... (read in full...)
Do men like lingerie or women naked?
Q. So I got some realllly cute Lingerie at Victoria Secret to wear for my boyfriend the other day and I guess the thought never ran through my head but do guy's really enjoy lingerie or are most men just all for the full blown nakedness?...
A. 21 December 2010: For some reason guys do like lingerie. Maybe because it hides us just enough to be a tease.. Obviously they like us naked too but im sure your bf will love you modelling your sexy new items for him :)... (read in full...)
Don't all guys like anal?
Q. Don't all guys like anal? My boyfriend of 2 years begged me to try but now won't even come close to that region...i feel embarrassed cause i thought all guys liked anal. help? :( ...
A. 19 December 2010: Not all guys like it. In fact in my experience, most prefer normal sex. Its designed that way. If your bf actually tried it with you, then he simply didnt like it. Nothing to do with you. If you liked it and want to continue, you may need to find ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't sex last??
Q. So me and this guy always have sex well kinda we did like 3 times and when we do it's only for like 30 or 40 min .. And idk if he cummed or not or if he had an orgasim or not .. But shouldn't sex last for like an hour or 2 ??? ...
A. 19 December 2010: Ummm sex itself could go from 30secs to a couple hours. Depending if the guy is drunk also.. But normally sex wouldn't even last 40mins. I think you should learn a bit more about sexual activity before engaging in it, please tell me you're using ... (read in full...)
I really had no intentions of cheating on her...
Q. So my girlfriend and I just broke up. She had found out i sent some pictures to some girls a few months back. I tried to tell her that it really meant nothing which it did. but was just called a liar. I mean yeah i've thought about other girls in ...
A. 19 December 2010: Sending sexual photos and receiving others is cheating in my book. And obviously your ex's too. So treat it the same way, as if you had actually done something. You may not get her back, her trust in you is gone. Why did you think sending pictures ... (read in full...)
Am I just grieving over the baby I lost?
Q. hey, i need a little advice on miscarriages... altho my story is slightly different to the normal. in august this year i found out i was pregnant. it wasnt planned. i live with my boyfriend and his parents and was told if we got pregnant we woul...
A. 18 December 2010: hey hon, losing a baby at any stage of the pregnancy can be heartbreaking. I too have been through a miscarriage. We weren't going to terminate, so my hubby and i were both quite upset when it happened. I found it hard to be around babies, pregnant ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her she needs to be more patient re sex?
Q. Ok, my girlfriend gets mad when i cant get off when she is on top or giving me head? It gets to the point where when she feels like she is done, she just quits and goes to bed leaving me hanging. i dont know if she thinks that she dosent turn me ...
A. 16 December 2010: There's nothing wrong with you. Its a different simulation when the girls on top or giving a bj. Used to take me ages with my hubby too but we kept doing new things (when i was on top) and now i can get him as quick as any other position. Everyone's ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time thinking that she's been with someone else...
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating 2 years, and are in love. I was the first guy she had sex with and she was the first one i had sex with, and this was always really special to me. Recently she told me she was raped when she was 15 and was ...
A. 15 December 2010: Ok, in my opinion, rape does not mean you've lost your virginity. It may not be the dictionary's definition of it, but its mine. Rape means you dont get to choose. Someone forces you into something you dont want. You cant tell them to stop because ... (read in full...)
Men, would you date a girl with a tattoo?
Q. Not a relationship question and i'm quite sure its probably been asked before but was just wondering what guys think of girls with tattoos, not the big sleeves and manish tattoos just dainty ones and ones that have meaning to the individual? Would ...
A. 15 December 2010: I have quite a large tattoo on my upper thigh. Cannot be seen unless i take shorts up, or down, so its still discreet. My hubby loves it. He knows the story behind it and the reasons for my getting it. My workmate who's in his 40's, hates tattoos on ... (read in full...)
13 and never been kissed...
Q. Hi I need help! I am a 13 year old boy and i've never kissed a girl, i have crushes sure but i don't want to ask them out because if they decide to kiss me or something i dunno what to do or how to kiss.. i know it's sad right plz don't laugh at me. ...
A. 15 December 2010: I was 14 when a guy kissed me, and it was horrid. Tongue everywhere.. I avoided guys until i was 16 then, and it was much nicer. I wish i hadn't been kissed when i was so young. Its not something thats 'meant' to happen at that age. You are so ... (read in full...)
Do girls look at porn?
Q. Do girls look at porn? And why are girls so shy to say they "flick the bean"? ...
A. 15 December 2010: Some girls look at porn. But we dont tend to 'need it' to be able to masturbate. We have good imaginations. Plus alot of porn is aimed towards guys, girls dont tend to like watching other women get humiliated. Well, from what i've seen anyway. As ... (read in full...)
Help! I don't know how to tell him that the pain is kicking the pleasure's butt during sex.
Q. Lost my virginity five months ago to this difficult man and five months later, it's a little like love. Anyway, it used to be that I'd get extremely wet when he just touched me or looked at me. I still get turned on but my body's reaction isn't ...
A. 13 December 2010: Are you using lube to help with wetness? Our bodies do produce some, although at different times in our cycles it may be more or less.. Also the fear of the pain will stop you getting as wet.. Either he spends alot more time on foreplay, you use ... (read in full...)
Will she still be 'tight' for me?
Q. My girlfriend had sex one time before she met me for literally only 2 minutes and told the man to stop. She knew what she was doing was wrong theres a long back story to this. But I'm wondering will she still be tight when we do it? Tight as a ...
A. 13 December 2010: *sigh* indeed... I've had a few sexual partners, and my hubby still says im the tightest he's been with after a few years now.. Vagina's are designed to stretch, having sex, even kids dont make you 'loose' Every woman is different... (read in full...)
I don't understand why men need to look at porn when they have the real thing right in front of them.
Q. My boyfriend looks at porn all the time when he is not with me. I know because he has google chrome and it shows the most visited web pages when you go to open a new tab. It's sickening. I don't understand why men need to look at porn when they ...
A. 12 December 2010: Guys use porn as a quick masturbation aid. Its nothing against you, and its not because he's not attracted to you. My hubby has told me before that he sometimes masturbates as a stress release. We have sex or do something sexual just about every ... (read in full...)
Naked women...
Q. I've been in a happy marriage for over twenty years. I've always known my husband has looked at some naked women pictures when years ago someone handed him a book and now with the internet, he receives emails w/jokes w/naked women, some of the ...
A. 11 December 2010: Is your sex life good? Does he ever make inappropriate comments concerning them or you? Guys do look at women, no matter what age. It doesnt mean he loves you any less or views you as not attractive. He chose you over everyone else because of many ... (read in full...)
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