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Girlfriend's sister has me rattled

Q.   I am finding my girlfriend's sister really annoying lately and feel like I'm getting to the point where im gonna say something or snap. I'm trying to be understanding because she has recently got out of a long-term relationship, moved back home ...

A.   13 January 2016: Hello It sounds to me like your gf sister is jealous of the relationship that you have with her sister and extend family .. I think at the minute your doing the right thing in biting your tongue and smiling through it .. doesn't mean you h... (read in full...)

My girlfriend treats me like a child

Q.   I have been dating my girlfriend for 9 months, we met in the health club we work at (I'm a physical therapist, she's a yoga instructor). Things have been great, but their is one HUGE a problem, she's 10 years older than me (I'm 26,she's 36) and she ...

A.   13 January 2016: Here my two cents and you might not like it so apologies in advance here .. :) Your allowing her to mother you .. she buys you your clothes your work gear etc . And if you live with her . I don't see " why" her ringing while your at home to get s... (read in full...)

Now I know should I meet him?

Q.   Hi, I met this guy online. We been talking 5 months. He lives 2000 miles away. He wanted to come visit me however I have roommate so we mutually decided I go visit him. I was under the impression we were dating monogamously. Come to find out, he's...

A.   12 January 2016: Hey sweetie, you posted before didn't you .. I think the best advice has been given .. He has pretty much been playing with your feelings and I think that can happen even long distance . I would as svc said cash your ticket for somewhere else if you ... (read in full...)

Why couldn't he have come back in my life before I got married

Q.   I feel my life is a movie right now and I need help please. Years ago when I was 22 (I'm now 34) I met and fell in love with this guy, my age and we were together almost 2 years. I was convinced he was "the one." He then got an opportunity to s...

A.   11 January 2016: Aunt bimbim is so right .. and I think your holding onto the fantasy of what could have been not the reality .. you have reality sweetie with a guy who is head and heels in love with you and married you .. what would have happened if your path ... (read in full...)

We are worried about how our families will react to our age difference!

Q.   A year ago while watching a Dr Phil episode about a "sugar daddy" website I checked it out mainly out of curiosity but actually ended up meeting someone. It started out as just hanging out when he was in town on business but it later turned i...

A.   9 January 2016: Hey sweetie As a mother of two young daughter ( 8 - 4 respectively) and someone who has witnessed how big age gaps can lead to difficulty in the future . I'm a like sceptical, regarding if this will last the distance .. does that mean you don't g... (read in full...)

Was my hair an issue? Or another woman? Did he have a valid reason for not wanting to sleep with me?

Q.   I had a big argument with my boyfriend just before Christmas and we ended up not seeing each other for two weeks. Whenever I'm seeing him or I'm around him a lot I make sure that I shave my pubic hair off because he doesn't like it. But because ...

A.   7 January 2016: Have to agree totally with the two aunts can't add anymore other than .. he's a waste of space sweetie .. honeypie. . she nails it ..... (read in full...)

I am feeling like a failure at sex with big butt women!

Q.   My ex and I have been on and off for quite sometime. In the beginning of our relationship she was petite, and when we would have sex she would complain that she couldn't handle me because of my size (I'm not saying that I'm the biggest in the ...

A.   6 January 2016: Hey there .. chin up eh .. It's not to do with her added weight gain as the inside of the vagina, medically speaking does not increase in size unless a women is giving birth .. maybe she just became more relaxed and aroused so therefore was able... (read in full...)

Without passion is it worth it?

Q.   My boyfriend told me that he doesn't love me passionately, but he did say loves me and wants to be with me. He said the reason he doesn't love me passionately is that he has doubts because we fight sometimes and he thinks that I'm overly sensi...

A.   3 January 2016: Hey sweetie I'm wondering how he views passion .. as certainly it isn't what I cook or how I clean or how much I nag ( and apparently I nag beautifully haha ) the house .. unless I'm dressed in a little maid outfit oh..lala .. It's for us the... (read in full...)

My fiance and I broke up. How can I get through this?

Q.   I was in a relationship for 4 years and we were engaged to get married in the summer of 2016. I really loved him I was so looking forward to marrying my best friend. We talked about children often, and he was just my whole world. Every time ...

A.   2 January 2016: Hey sweetie It may not feel like the best thing that's happened but once you have licked your wounds and get over this immense hurt things will start to look better, as a mental health nurse I can say that whole hearted .. you just have to gri... (read in full...)

Should I get checked by doctor for any STI?

Q.   Please help me. The other day I was "hooking up" with this guy, but we didn't have sex (I'm a virgin). I was curious from never doing it before so I put his penis in my mouth and gave him a brief blowjob, only for a few seconds. I wasn't even ...

A.   1 January 2016: Hey sweetie happy new year I'm a mental health nurse .. since you have Internet .. type in " walk in gum clinic near me" and it will give you a run down of walk in clinics that's you don't need to make an appointment. You don't need to give you... (read in full...)

Girls, who do I choose?

Q.   Question for the girls. You have a choice to go out with one of two guys. One is gorgeous and you find him irresistable but for some reason, which we will leave to the side, he only wants passionate foreplay no penetration. The second guy is ok in ...

A.   31 December 2015: I must be greedy as I'd want both haha .. Foreplay is good and dandy .. but I also like the feeling of being with fully with a man so for me it would need to be someone who could do both. Take care sweetie x... (read in full...)

Girls, who do I choose?

Q.   Question for the girls. You have a choice to go out with one of two guys. One is gorgeous and you find him irresistable but for some reason, which we will leave to the side, he only wants passionate foreplay no penetration. The second guy is ok in ...

A.   31 December 2015: Hey sweetie If you only wanted passionate foreplay you wouldn't be writing this post. You want the first guy but something holding you back. The thought of never being intimate with him? As a medical person if he has some medical condition th... (read in full...)

This girl has left me feeling confused. Can you help me ??

Q.   I met a girl at work and it became apparent after a couple of weeks that we liked eachother. She had literally just split with her ex of four years. After expressing to each other that we liked each other we kissed and things were good. We went o...

A.   30 December 2015: I'm a mental health nurse so this is my two penny's worth . She jumped from a long relationship that constraint her in some way or another and she was feeling probably lots of emotions including wanting to be wanted .. you filled that need .. tha... (read in full...)

I don't want to be alone on New Year's Eve. Any suggestions?

Q.   So...this may sound pathetic...because I'm going to be alone this New Year's Eve. My friends are either going to spend New Year's Eve with their boyfriend or their husband. And the only one single friend prefers to stay at home. I feel so lonely.... ...

A.   30 December 2015: I think I know where your coming from .. its harder for females to go out and get drunk and jump about especially if " alone" as your more vulnerable. . Now I'm not a push over but I'm not very strong upper body anyways .. ( have done kick boxing ) ... (read in full...)

How do I learn to fancy her again? I love her, I do, but I have stopped fancying her

Q.   I adore my girlfriend, we have been together two years and have had an extremely rocky relationship. She's lied numerous times, we have broken up but always ended up back together. We argue, like all couples at some point but my biggest problem ...

A.   29 December 2015: At 54 and 28 the age gap is beginning to show .. has she changed in looks wise ?? I mean your talking about physical attraction here..lust. .desire and more often thats how when we see a pic we get those knot feeling or want to kiss the person . A... (read in full...)

How do I beat the fear of relocating?

Q.   I need advice about re-locating my whole life somewhere new! I am 43, single woman - divorced 5 years ago after a 10 year marriage. I don't have children and I have the kind of job that I can pretty much do anywhere. In some respects this kind of ...

A.   28 December 2015: As a mental health nurse .. its natural to be fearful of the unknown .. For someone who has moved around a lot .. your conscious is saying I need to settle and yet your fearful part the subconscious is saying .. what if I don't like it .. what then ... (read in full...)

I haven't met the guy I've been talking to online yet but I'm worried that we might be together for the wrong reasons

Q.   I've been talking to this guy online for over three months now. We've video chatted as well, have a lot in common it seems. We have a mutual acquaintance, which is good considering how many people fake their identities online. We haven't met yet ...

A.   26 December 2015: Happy boxing day sweetie I think your looking so far down the line things are getting over whelming and blurry .. you are not your " aunt" .. you are you .. and her mistakes are not yours .. no one has a crystal ball and can tell you .. how this... (read in full...)

Could you cure an STD without knowing it?

Q.   Is it possible that you have cured you chlamidya (std) without knowing? so if you had caught Chlamidya and you didnt know you had it and took antibiotics for another reason such as a sore throat, would your STD also go away?...

A.   23 December 2015: As a mental health nurse .. I urge you like all the other aunts to go to your gp ASAP.. and please do not have intercourse with someone who says they have cured themselves .. your young and naive but sweetie .. He just wants.. what he wants ... (read in full...)

Should I show my girlfriend what her ex texted to me?

Q.   My gf of three months had a nasty break up with her ex. He was verbally abusive and in the end became physically abusive. We started dating shortly after they broke but he recently just found out through Facebook that we are dating. Last night I ...

A.   2 November 2015: I'm not sure ignoring this is the way to go .. He seems pretty angry and I think she should tread careful .. and not put herself anywhere near him or even her son " alone" in his company .. Though you want to shield her .. I get that and ignoranc... (read in full...)

I feel like my Bf is pulling away. He rarely instigates sex now. Am I being needy?

Q.   I feel like my boyfriend is pulling away. We've been together just over three years. Had our ups and downs. Just the past few weeks he doesn't really respond to texts and home calls. I mean we live together but he works until after 9 pm then ...

A.   28 October 2015: Sometimes the reality of settling for good; can be hard one for some .. The saving for a house is reality .. The not preventing having a baby is reality .. These two things are massive steps and maybe he finds the reality overwhelming .. so he has ... (read in full...)

He wants our son to meet his new girlfriend. But he's imposing restrictions on our son's contact with my boyfriend. How can I move on?

Q.   Hi aunts and uncles, ive got a question what would you do in this situation. I was with my ex for five years, we had a child together. We got back together but in this time I didn't realise he had met someone else. He had moved away and would...

A.   28 October 2015: What lies had your ex told.. Though the situation is messy and I feel your hurt but also your determination to move on and build a life for you and your son .. I think you can give him a time limit as in .. say 10 am on a Saturday until half 7 o... (read in full...)

Will I ever love a man again as much as I loved my first Bf?

Q.   I just broke up w/my 1st "real" boyfriend for whom I wanted to give the world to, I eventually found out he didn't care for me that much (he told me how much he loved, but I could feel in my gut he wasn't that in love), so knowing this would tear me ...

A.   28 October 2015: I agree with you wish .. ours hearts are able to live many people throughout our life time .. Each time differently than the last .. At the minute; your heart is closed and shattered and your scared that the next person may hurt you as you have... (read in full...)

How on earth do I bring this crush under control?

Q.   I am obsessed with my uni lecturer! Infatuated, and cannot stop thinking about him! This is very embarrassing for me to admit because I am almost 30 and have been in a relationship for 9 years. I am sure my lecturer must realise how I feel...

A.   28 October 2015: What you have is a big " crush " and it's not at all uncommon to begin to have fantasys or even dreaming about certain people. It's also not uncommon to start confusing these fantasies with reality, especially when you in close proximity with you... (read in full...)

I'm going away on a "dirty weekend", and don't know what to do !

Q.   hi, Im going on a "dirty" weekend away with my bf and we haven't been away in a long time. I want to make it really special and sexy in the bedroom but havent really ever done something like that before... I have bought some sexy suspenders...

A.   28 October 2015: Why not get a little maids outfit from Ann summers.. and when back get changed for bed in the bathroom .. and come out with your duster saying " you called for maid service, you dirrty boy " .. It doesn't matter if you laughing or blushing or both ... (read in full...)

My mom is toxic! What do I do?

Q.   This is a difficult problem and any help would be greatly appreciated. My mum has always been an attention seeking, malevolent narcissist. She likes to play the victim and does so at the expense of everyone around her. She has ruined her own and my ...

A.   28 October 2015: From your post I think you must be living at home as she keeps waking you up, am I right ? .. I have no objection to adults living at home .. In today's society it's very difficult with low pay and high rents but to stay at home longer before going ... (read in full...)

Why did this happen in the classroom?

Q.   I was just sitting in class minding my own business and then this boy behind me was calling someone and he's friends with my friend that was sitting next to me and I thought he was calling her so I tapped her and told her he was calling her but then ...

A.   27 October 2015: You need to be on your toes here .. They wanted to humiliate you .. so you need to prep .. at high school I didn't think I was pretty lol I had a brace and was lanky .. anyway boys would do similar with me .. so I had to prep myself .. Sit in fr... (read in full...)

Should I say something to this guy's girlfriend about what transpired between us?

Q.   So, a few years ago I was at a friend's birthday party. I was several weeks post-break up and very narrowly missed possible rape that evening. I was very shaken up. There was a friend who started comforting me - we talked through the night before ...

A.   27 October 2015: I don't understand why your even contemplating telling his now gf about an incident that didn't really merit that much attention .. you sat one night kissing and cuddling and told him you didn't want to continue with the possibility of anything ... (read in full...)

I want to be a family but I am scarred from what my boyfriend did

Q.   A few weeks after I had given birth to my baby I found a load of sexting texts on my boyfriend's phone. I knew the person to be a girl he works with and when I asked him about it he said it was just flirting and that I did it all the time. Before my ...

A.   27 October 2015: What he did was stupid .. and there are no excuses in my book .. being pregnant and not having nookie doesn't give the right for the other partner to stray .. He didn't have to physical do it with her .. wanting too .. is enough . As a mental h... (read in full...)

Would my ex treat me as he did when we were younger?

Q.   I met up with my first love after he came to me in a dream. I sent him a message via Facebook and said it was nice to see him even if it was just in my dream. He demanded to link with me after over 15 years of not seeing and took me out for ...

A.   25 October 2015: Your not old .. what's age nowadays and certainly you know your not a fool .. even I got that from your post .. you let him slip under your radar .. why because memories of you two as youngster is there .. that's normal to me.. you know what's right ... (read in full...)

Would my ex treat me as he did when we were younger?

Q.   I met up with my first love after he came to me in a dream. I sent him a message via Facebook and said it was nice to see him even if it was just in my dream. He demanded to link with me after over 15 years of not seeing and took me out for ...

A.   24 October 2015:  In my opinion; he hasn't changed that much .. He saw a gateway to your panties .. when you spoke about dreaming about him ..guys see dreams as some sexual code of wanting and desire .. You put he "demanded" to see you; of course he did .. He wan... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's ex is sending me screenshots about him cheating! Help!

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for nearly three years now. He has a kid with another girl. I love him so much and thought he was the one until tonight whenI got a bunch of screenshots of texts from his kid's mom about them hooking up. Apparently they ...

A.   19 October 2015: I read the aunts and uncles replies and only reiterate what they have said .. It would be very difficult to pull of load of screen shot messages .. If this is rubbish why isn't he of to the police.. I mean she is harassing making up stories .. I ... (read in full...)

Is there hope of reconciliation, or is she just trying to soften the blow?

Q.   Hello. I have a question in regards to relationship reconciliation. I was recently put on break with someone I really do love and cherish. This girl, who will be referred to as Jane, told me that it hurt her to know I was hurt. Now, a mutual fr...

A.   8 October 2015: Caring for someone's feelings and being in love with them are two diffident things . Here my opinion .. ask to take her for lunch: express that you just wish to clear the air so two of you are on the same page. Say whatever her decision at this ... (read in full...)

Ex flashing new life in my face

Q.   My ex and I were together for 7 years and broke up but remained friends, that was two years ago since the break up and we remained friends since. We lived together, no children, but two cats. The relationship broke up because I wanted to be fre...

A.   8 October 2015: I looked at your age and was taken aback that you weren't a couple of teenagers .. you played a silly game of I don't want you .. so I will leave .. but I don't want anyone else to have you as I may still love you .. you can't have a relationship ... (read in full...)

Guys, would you rather date Girl A or Girl B?

Q.   Girl A: -quite "generic" -long hair, decent sized boobs but slim, wears dresses and hardly ever trousers and a lot of heels -doesn't wear makeup -bit of a goody two shoes, always annoyingly nice to everyone, comes off as fake, ridiculousl...

A.   18 September 2015: I take it your girl b . And that you are somehow in competition with girl a. I think it's hard to classify people hence why I think your girl B. As reading your list I'm some of a and b . I don't smoke or curse though ... So you are gauging ... (read in full...)

How can I create a family feeling environment with friends?

Q.   Due to divorce and a very dysfunctional and toxic family of my own I find myself quite isolated. I am currently having counselling and have decided to go very low contact with my parents and no contact with my sister who have continually bullied me ...

A.   17 September 2015: I think sometimes we need to remove ourselves from people, no matter if they are family or friends . We do not need toxic people in our life's .. I can relate to you not that my mother was toxic . But I was very close to my sister who changed over ... (read in full...)

He said I am not on his list?!

Q.   Hey Aunts, Ok, so there was this guy who I was close to and really liked. He said he liked me too or at least thats what I thought. However, lately when I've tried to talk to him or be all lovey dovey, he said that I am not on his list and I j...

A.   10 September 2015: Not on his list .. means your not a priority or an interest for him, sweetie. Best thing to say is .. I don't wait inline anyway .. If he ever sends it again .. and I'd move on .. clearly he has .. put it down to experience and then kiss the grou... (read in full...)

I feel like he is trying to get me to dump him, either that or he is seeing what he can get away with!

Q.   Me and my ex got back together, we had only broken up for three weeks and had done so due to miscommunication. Things had gotten too much, particularly for my boyfriend who was overly stressed and it led to a harsh and rash break up from him. We g...

A.   10 September 2015: This is going " no where " sweetie .. let him stew in his own juices for a while .. send him a message saying " listen, I know things are tough being in a ldr isn't great but it's what we have at the moment . If you want to throw it away with being ... (read in full...)

How do I encourage him to not just give up on us after the hell we've been through, and talk to me about it?

Q.   My boyfriend of 5 years recently ended our relationship really suddenly. I suspect he is extremely depressed with his job that he hates and consequently it affects other aspects of his life. He said that he ended it on the basis of some problems...

A.   10 September 2015: Sometimes the harder we hold onto something sweetie, the harder it tries to pull away .. why not instead of begging as a couple that's never a good step to take and listen to what he has to say .. tell him maybe you two need a break but instead of ... (read in full...)

Who should I go to for mental health treatment, counselors or psychologists?

Q.   Hello , First thanks for reading my post. I am interested to know about mental issue treatment. I cant go over my past. One of my family member hurt me badly in past I cant get over this. I cant move on. Which doctor I have to go to help me t...

A.   10 September 2015: As a mental health nurse my penny's worth would be to sit down with your local doctor .. someone you know and discuss your situation with them .. There is no one shoe fits all and you may benefit from a holistic over view of a few professionals ... (read in full...)

How can I get my friend to get the hint she needs a boyfriend?

Q.   so i have this one friend i will call hannah. not her real name. she does not flirt w boys so me and our other friend nevaen (not her real name) have to make her. we will say we are going to the ice rink to watch a hockey game and ...

A.   9 September 2015: I hope my daughter who 8 is like your friend when say she between 13 to 15. What is the rush .. sweetie ? Yes a little practice flirting can be good for later in life but it's not really needed .. being good friends and enjoying each other company ... (read in full...)

Can anyone give me feedback on taking Xanax?

Q.   This is a health question, but I'm hoping to get some opinion. At the last few month , I'm having a very bad time, with numerous health complains, but when I go for tests, everything looks ok. The doctor is running of ideas, what could be wr...

A.   9 September 2015: Hi I'm a mental health nurse so here my penny's worth .. have you been checked for a b12 deficiency. . As b12 isn't always about anemia. . It lowers moods causes anxiety and sleeplessness and depression and even the way we feel and think .. ask if ... (read in full...)

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