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How to avoid being tempted?

Q.   Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...

A.   14 November 2016: May I ask a q's .. how is hi how are you? A come on ?? I mean your wife must be gutted when you show her that message .. The reason I ask this .. is I ask my postman the same thing and maybe my gp .. and yet if they were to make even the slightest ... (read in full...)

How to avoid being tempted?

Q.   Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...

A.   14 November 2016: May I ask a q's .. how is hi how are you? A come on ?? I mean your wife must be gutted when you show her that message .. The reason I ask this .. is I ask my postman the same thing and maybe my gp .. and yet if they were to make even the slightest ... (read in full...)

Our fights have become over the top!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We have had our ups and downs. On occasion, I have had to walk away and take a "break," because the arguments become so personal and heated and so incredibly loud, and I cannot stand the insults any ...

A.   14 November 2016: Hi and you already know don't you that he isn't going to marry you and I think you should be thankful .. now we don't know there could be other things that keep you with him and who am I to judge as your tolerance may not be mine ..so only you can ... (read in full...)

Our fights have become over the top!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We have had our ups and downs. On occasion, I have had to walk away and take a "break," because the arguments become so personal and heated and so incredibly loud, and I cannot stand the insults any ...

A.   14 November 2016: Hi and you already know don't you that he isn't going to marry you and I think you should be thankful .. now we don't know there could be other things that keep you with him and who am I to judge as your tolerance may not be mine ..so only you can ... (read in full...)

I read my sister's old life planning journals and I am shocked at what I found!

Q.   My sister graduated university last june and as a result had a whole box of old stationary/notepads in her room at home which my mum said I could borrow since she left them behind when she moved out (she's currently renting a flat for a year as ...

A.   14 November 2016: I agree with honey .. ( I hope it's okay honey pie to just say honey ?) Journals are our way of venting and usual getting negative thoughts out our head as mental health having a productive release is a really good thing .. you have read the ... (read in full...)

I read my sister's old life planning journals and I am shocked at what I found!

Q.   My sister graduated university last june and as a result had a whole box of old stationary/notepads in her room at home which my mum said I could borrow since she left them behind when she moved out (she's currently renting a flat for a year as ...

A.   14 November 2016: I agree with honey .. ( I hope it's okay honey pie to just say honey ?) Journals are our way of venting and usual getting negative thoughts out our head as mental health having a productive release is a really good thing .. you have read the ... (read in full...)

How to avoid being tempted?

Q.   Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...

A.   14 November 2016: I totally agree with wise owl and brown wolf and I was cheering through every passage they wrote .. here the thing though Mr knowitall. . saying hi is not flirting .. I say hi to lots of people and it means nothing .. I'm not on Facebook so couldn't ... (read in full...)

How to avoid being tempted?

Q.   Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...

A.   14 November 2016: I totally agree with wise owl and brown wolf and I was cheering through every passage they wrote .. here the thing though Mr knowitall. . saying hi is not flirting .. I say hi to lots of people and it means nothing .. I'm not on Facebook so couldn't ... (read in full...)

Six years and no proposal; we've lived together for two. Is he stringing me along?

Q.   I love my partner of 6 years. A few years into the relationship he suggested we bought a house together (at the time he had just finished his service in the military, and I was finishing University - he had saved up a house deposit during his time ...

A.   13 November 2016: Maybe you need to explain to him that an engagement ring isn't a big thing .. It just means that one day you will get hitched .. It gives you your place so to speak and let's others know your intentions without really having toe tell them .. we're ... (read in full...)

Why won't my friend give me a chance?

Q.   Hi I am a 52 year old man who has been in love with a female friend for 20 yrs I have helped her through many rough times. she does know how I feel but says she doesn't know why she won't give me a chance I know I would make her and her Childrens ...

A.   10 November 2016: It depends if she see this purely as friends .. have you agreed to being friends .. I honestly can't be doing with people who use friendship to get a relationship that isn't how a friendship works .. I also think it would be nasty to withdraw ... (read in full...)

Why won't my friend give me a chance?

Q.   Hi I am a 52 year old man who has been in love with a female friend for 20 yrs I have helped her through many rough times. she does know how I feel but says she doesn't know why she won't give me a chance I know I would make her and her Childrens ...

A.   10 November 2016: It depends if she see this purely as friends .. have you agreed to being friends .. I honestly can't be doing with people who use friendship to get a relationship that isn't how a friendship works .. I also think it would be nasty to withdraw ... (read in full...)

When is the right time to introduce my boyfriend to my parents and how do I do so?

Q.   Hi. When is the right time to introduce my boyfriend to my parents? I have never brought a guy to meet my parents but with the one I am dating now, I feel the need to do so. We have been together for six months but knew eachother more than three ...

A.   8 November 2016: Do you speak about him to your mum and dad .. my parents were older and old fashioned so I know where your coming from .. start talking about him more .. If your seeing him and where and how the night went .. tell them any funny that may happen . ... (read in full...)

When is the right time to introduce my boyfriend to my parents and how do I do so?

Q.   Hi. When is the right time to introduce my boyfriend to my parents? I have never brought a guy to meet my parents but with the one I am dating now, I feel the need to do so. We have been together for six months but knew eachother more than three ...

A.   8 November 2016: Do you speak about him to your mum and dad .. my parents were older and old fashioned so I know where your coming from .. start talking about him more .. If your seeing him and where and how the night went .. tell them any funny that may happen . ... (read in full...)

Should I be worried he speak to his ex'?

Q.   I'm 30 and my be is 48 we have been together 18 months. Everything is magical. However he still speaks to ibis ex wife. They were together over 20 years have no kids but they talk on the phone text etc. He says he doesn't have feelings and she is ...

A.   7 November 2016: If I were his ex wife I would be asking about you both on text and saying hey let her know I said hello something like that .. 20 years is along time to have been with someone and it's more than possible to walk away but still be friends with no ... (read in full...)

Should I be worried he speak to his ex'?

Q.   I'm 30 and my be is 48 we have been together 18 months. Everything is magical. However he still speaks to ibis ex wife. They were together over 20 years have no kids but they talk on the phone text etc. He says he doesn't have feelings and she is ...

A.   7 November 2016: If I were his ex wife I would be asking about you both on text and saying hey let her know I said hello something like that .. 20 years is along time to have been with someone and it's more than possible to walk away but still be friends with no ... (read in full...)

Why is she treating me this way? Is she just using me?

Q.   Hey, me and my partner been together 13 years we have 4 kids and are now goin to get married in october 2017, just a few things id like to ask, 1) my partner has admitted to me that she cant talk to me the same way she can other guys whats this ...

A.   7 November 2016: I think you should ..I'm a mho by remit ..get some professional therapy .. you two need to talk things through .. maybe even set up a date night.. do you spend quality time together . It can be difficult when you have young children I know but you ... (read in full...)

If a man's intentions are sex, will holding off make him like you more?

Q.   I had read an article on the Evan Marc Katz website and it mentioned that holding off on sex weeds out the guys who are only interested in getting into your pants and not really wanting to get to know you/don't like you. I also heard from a dif...

A.   6 November 2016: My principle and it's only mine .. would be dating a guy for nearly a year and know where we stood before I put out .. no matter how much I wanted to I wouldn't .. Guys do have this oo well she slept with me quickly enough who else will see .. when... (read in full...)

If a man's intentions are sex, will holding off make him like you more?

Q.   I had read an article on the Evan Marc Katz website and it mentioned that holding off on sex weeds out the guys who are only interested in getting into your pants and not really wanting to get to know you/don't like you. I also heard from a dif...

A.   6 November 2016: My principle and it's only mine .. would be dating a guy for nearly a year and know where we stood before I put out .. no matter how much I wanted to I wouldn't .. Guys do have this oo well she slept with me quickly enough who else will see .. when... (read in full...)

Should I accept that my ex is going off for 3 days with her ex and their daughter or say something about it?

Q.   have been dating and being in a serious relationship with a woman since 2010 and she has just told me that during the Christmas she will be going on holiday to a cabine for 3 daysa with her ex husband and their 15 years daughter who lives with her ...

A.   5 November 2016: Have to agree with ciar on this .. you've been dating long enough to be invited along .. its just a short break and esp near Xmas would be lovely for all to get to know one another .. I would definitely sit down and have a chat .. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend thinks he is funny. I don't. I'm tired of it

Q.   My boyfriend finds his jokes funny but I don't. I have a virus and am feeling low and mentioned that I was in a pantomine next month. His reply was "Well Im sure they can find another ugly sister somewhere." Im not even playing that part and just ...

A.   5 November 2016: I like honey reply and maybe add if to him oo I see they got you part in the princess and the toad .. him being the toad .. If he says that's not nice just say I'm messing like you .. get his big boy pants on haha good luck sweetie ... (read in full...)

I don't match his ideal. Should I worry?

Q.   Hiya I've been with my boyfriend now for 4 years when we first met he told me he likes women that have long blonde hair and pale blue eyes it never bothered me when we met as I thought nothing of it but lately these last few months any blonde haired ...

A.   5 November 2016: I think you have a right to confront him on his leering in front of you .. that jut so disrespectful. . but he did pick you ..so I would be confident in that ..If he doesn't stop the leering either do the smell to him or walk away and say nothing ... (read in full...)

Was I right to kick it into touch?

Q.   I am feeling so crushed and confused right now. I was in a relationship and I thought he was perfect for me, good to me, great to my little girl. I was great friends with his Mum. Then on Saturday I was having coffee with his Mum and his brother ...

A.   5 November 2016: I do think you over reacted some but as a mho and a female I can well understand .. hearing some random make a comment about your other half is one thing .. hearing his brother say he had a girl staying over is another .. whether their friend passed ... (read in full...)

Was I right to kick it into touch?

Q.   I am feeling so crushed and confused right now. I was in a relationship and I thought he was perfect for me, good to me, great to my little girl. I was great friends with his Mum. Then on Saturday I was having coffee with his Mum and his brother ...

A.   5 November 2016: I do think you over reacted some but as a mho and a female I can well understand .. hearing some random make a comment about your other half is one thing .. hearing his brother say he had a girl staying over is another .. whether their friend passed ... (read in full...)

Why does he want this all of a sudden!

Q.   Hi aunts. Just a quick question. I'm in a very loving sexual relationship with my fella who I'm planning on living with later in the year. Everything is great and when we aren't together we message loads which I love. Our messages are loving ...

A.   27 April 2016: Sorry but I can't stop laughing at brown owl absolutely brilliant the ending .. and I would stick to your guns .. as don't ruin yourself and your intimate parts over a guy however much you love him ( as a rmn I advise against it) ... (read in full...)

How do I approach him about becoming friends with benefits?

Q.   Me and my friend enjoy each others company as mates , as of now we are both single were both not looking for commitment and just enjoy life . I'm thinking should i ask him he wants to be friends with benefits , and if i do how do i word this to ...

A.   27 April 2016: My feeling is you like him more than just a friend and I could be wrong but this won't work . Let's say you go in with this is just a sex thing and it's wonderful the closeness the emotional bonding the lines will become blurry and you may find you... (read in full...)

I now feel like a spare part in this marriage

Q.   Hi everyone, I hope you will be able to offer me some advice to stop my marriage sliding towards problems. I am a 51 year old man. Re-married after a divorce and have been happily married for the last 4 years. We have a lovely son together (2...

A.   18 April 2016: I can see where your coming from and maybe where she is .. so let's begin .. teenagers are lazy .. that's not an excuse for your step son and you do have to lay some boundaries and rules that do need to be followed . However if she sees you just ... (read in full...)

Was I wrong for coming onto her?

Q.   I apologize for the length of this in advance! So i had a rough day today. Got cursed out by some old guy on the road who nearly killed me and i almost went bat shit on him. I didn't know old people could be so foul. Later i went to the mall to b...

A.   8 April 2016: It's very difficult when your in a shop and the sales girl is there to get a sale .. she didn't give much personal info I felt just kinda skimmed information and gave you information on where singles hang out . She didn't say here where I hang out . ... (read in full...)

Husband is complacent, and I am fliriting with a co worker.

Q.   I have been married for 3 years now and I love my husband very much. There is a problem and I do not know how to overcome it. I have been gaining feelings for a coworker and I know that my coworker feels the same, we are always flirting and I cannot ...

A.   29 March 2016: As a mental health nurse .. I totally agree with honey pie statement .. put some spice back in your marriage .. get a little maids outfit and when he comes home be wearing it and making him dinner .. show him what he's missing .. then afterwards ... (read in full...)

Dumped by a cowardly text!

Q.   Hi I am hoping for some guidance with something that has happened to me this week. My boyfriend of a year dumped me by text. It was literally a line saying lets call it a day, following a couple of harsh texts between us. Ironically, I act...

A.   26 March 2016: I agree totally with ciar that you will need to bite your lip here and let him get back in touch that may never happen . But better knowing the now that investing even more than a year . Yes I know I'm not you sweetie or have the feelings you do .. ... (read in full...)

I want to ask him to hangout platonically without pressure of being a date. How do I go about it?

Q.   There's this guy at my work who just got hired 3 months ago. Initially, We hardly talked to each other and I was indifferent towards him. This all changed few weeks later when I ran into him in stairway-the first thing he asked was if I go to the ...

A.   22 March 2016: Oh gee you are totally annoyed at me .. why ask anyone opinion if you know what you want to do .. go ask him and come back and tell us how it went . We can all sing we are liberated etc and yet guys still want to be guys .. maybe I should have said ... (read in full...)

I don't know why he's become less friendly since our dates went so well! Advice appreciated!

Q.   I am feeling very lost and confused. I've been on 4 dates with this guy and it was going so well, we messaged a few times a day for about a month and for the last week he's been taking ages to reply (as in 24 hours for a message when it normally ...

A.   21 March 2016: If he doesn't see what wonderful girl you are .. cut him loose .. let hin go .. Thursday to Sunday speaks volumes .. since our phones are always within reach of us and it takes a minute or two to text then I would say he wasn't as keen as you were ... (read in full...)

I want to ask him to hangout platonically without pressure of being a date. How do I go about it?

Q.   There's this guy at my work who just got hired 3 months ago. Initially, We hardly talked to each other and I was indifferent towards him. This all changed few weeks later when I ran into him in stairway-the first thing he asked was if I go to the ...

A.   18 March 2016: Sorry to be on the negative side . But I always go with if he wanted to he would have already asked you policy .. Do you know if he's single .. or has a gf already .. or married .. making polite work related conversation isn't a basis on friendship ... (read in full...)

My husband says that I take advantage of him because I'm a stay at home mom!

Q.   husband says i take advantage of him. i hurts my feelings. everyday he gets mad and tells me that.. im a stay at home mom of 3 ages 5 to 10.. i try to make everyone happy. but husband is not happy. he tells me he loves me then uts me down. i dont ...

A.   2 March 2016: Give him the kids for a fortnight and you work and let's see what he says after that .. I bet it will be more appreciation for how you run a household and the effort and management that takes . Three kids are hard work . Say to him that .. ... (read in full...)

Friend's wedding plans will break the bank

Q.   My best friend is getting married in May this year and has asked my 5 year old daughter to be a bridesmaid. Of course my daughter is excited as this is her 1st time. We went looking for bridesmaid dresses and my friend is having to them m...

A.   8 February 2016: I have to back honey pie 100% plus if I were you I would raise how rude she was and in the fact that yes maybe you should have asked before it got to the fitting but that wasn't the case when she was your bridesmaid and for life sake this is a child ... (read in full...)

Do I keep snooping around? I think my husband is up to something but he's denying it all

Q.   Hi, Please can I get some advice, I think my husband is up to something... Several weeks ago my husband had an issue with his car so it had to be in the dealership workshop for 9 days and they were unable to give him a loan car. I gave him ...

A.   7 February 2016: I remember I went shopping with my brother who had this very very green Renault car . We had went shopping and he asked me to take the bags we had back to the car as he was looking after his son so off I went to the car park spotted the car and used ... (read in full...)

He says he'll be understanding in dealing with me but he loses his patience and becomes abusive!

Q.   I have been in a relationship for a year now with my partner who i have known for 6 years as we worked together. We have a 5 week old baby boy. I have had lots anxiety and mental health issues most of my life but I have done a lot of work on myself ...

A.   5 February 2016: As a mental health nurse and a mother I can relate whole heartily .. sometimes you just want validation that he hears you at least .. Being a new mother and him a father after only one year is going to strain the relationship .. babies are hard ... (read in full...)

Is she not very sexually experienced and I'm just manipulative?

Q.   So I've been seeing this girl for a month now- I am very sexual with her but just over the weekend we had unprotected sex and I came inside her.. She was pretty nervous afterwards but we kept doing it for the next 4 days. We have basically fallen in ...

A.   3 February 2016: If your looking to start a family your going the right way about it .. do I think your manipulative and good in bed .. she may just want to have a partner and any guy silly enough not to use protection is silly enough to take the consequences . One ... (read in full...)

We had one date, thought it went great, but does it seem like she's blowing me off now?

Q.   So I met this girl at a friends party two weeks ago. We talked for about an hour and I got her number. I asked her out via text, and she said she'd like to but couldn't that week because of a trip, but said she'd be up for it the following week. ...

A.   3 February 2016: You waited two days to text her it was a great date .. and your little worried she took a day to answer . Listen if you like don't play silly games .. be friendly .. she may be very busy but texting and calling is a good way to kinda up the roma... (read in full...)

Our marriage is falling apart. I ask myself, 'why am I with him?' What should I do?

Q.   My marriage is falling apart and has been for some months. We aren't close and don't have a marriage in the true sense. We are more like friends now. Trust issues years ago regarding my husband haven't helped either. We've been married nearly 24 y...

A.   24 January 2016: I agree totally with wise owl .. as a mental health nurse I can only add.. that take your time to think fully through " what you want " .. do you still love him ? Would be the first important q's .. can you work through this. Can he change .. do you ... (read in full...)

Am I a shopaholic?

Q.   Anytime I feel bad or stressed, I go out and get new clothes. And I have felt bad a lot of times last year and just had my first bad feeling today. So out I am to get new clothes. I can't help it. Does this make me a shopaholic. I am currently...

A.   13 January 2016: Hey as a mental health nurse your not a shopaholic but on the way to having an " addiction" Lots of people use shopping as an emotional crutch to a certain situation — for instance, to boost your mood because they're feeling low or a stressful d... (read in full...)

Married 11 years. How do I deal with this doubtful feeling I am sensing from his actions?

Q.   My husband and I took a pic of our internet password because we are always being asked what it is from our guest and we don't feel like going up stairs to the box each time. Anyway, I was on his phone looking for that pic and I found a pic of his p...

A.   13 January 2016: I'm kinda on the same wave length as brown wolf but will tell you my story it may make you look at this differently it may not My husband one day sent me a pic of his todger all alert and happy as brownwolf puts it .. I was totally flabberg... (read in full...)

Girlfriend's sister has me rattled

Q.   I am finding my girlfriend's sister really annoying lately and feel like I'm getting to the point where im gonna say something or snap. I'm trying to be understanding because she has recently got out of a long-term relationship, moved back home ...

A.   13 January 2016: Hello It sounds to me like your gf sister is jealous of the relationship that you have with her sister and extend family .. I think at the minute your doing the right thing in biting your tongue and smiling through it .. doesn't mean you h... (read in full...)

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