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Is it over? Was he cheating? I suggested that we finish the relationship and he just accepted it, as if he's given up.

Q.   Hi i recently started distancing myself from my bf of 2 years as we were having a lot of problems(no intimacy for 6 months been the main problem+talking/flirting to girls online i suspected).. Plus told him after a month of hardly seeing him i wa...

A.   9 December 2016: It's extremely hard when we have invested 2years, sometimes even 2 months into something we have felt at one time was worth while . We cling to the hope . To the idea that if we hang in there it will get better thats normal psychology . However; ... (read in full...)

Is it over? Was he cheating? I suggested that we finish the relationship and he just accepted it, as if he's given up.

Q.   Hi i recently started distancing myself from my bf of 2 years as we were having a lot of problems(no intimacy for 6 months been the main problem+talking/flirting to girls online i suspected).. Plus told him after a month of hardly seeing him i wa...

A.   9 December 2016: It's extremely hard when we have invested 2years, sometimes even 2 months into something we have felt at one time was worth while . We cling to the hope . To the idea that if we hang in there it will get better thats normal psychology . However; ... (read in full...)

Wants to see another female but why?

Q.   Hi there. My boyfriend told me that he wants to hang out with a female friend of his. He's mentioned her a bit in the past - they used to work together - but nothing more. He saw my reaction to it - I was immediately against the idea - and then he ...

A.   9 December 2016: Frankly, I think you have ever right would he like you doing the same .. wait a fortnight and give it a whirl start talking about a guy you know and say oo we have some many things in common .. see his reaction .. I think spending one to one time ... (read in full...)

My partner is dismissive of thngs that are important to me

Q.   Hi all, A quick one. My partner and I seem to be bothered by different things (or he's not bothered at all) and it often sees him accidentally dismissing what I deem as important or not meeting my needs. This has lately come to head twice. ...

A.   8 December 2016: You posted before regarding your bf and I think it's hard to give sweetie anymore advice than what was given . Think clearly about what you want .... (read in full...)

We have social media related trust issues

Q.   My situation is a complicated one so I'll try to keep it to the basics. In our relationship, my S.O. and I have had trust issues stemming from social media. I admit there was a line I crossed at one point but I've never faltered from loving h...

A.   8 December 2016: I agree that having confidence is good thing but we are not robots so being indifferent isn't the way to go as basically you would be closing down your feelings . So I wouldn't see that working in the long run . If you have to do that then you are ... (read in full...)

We have social media related trust issues

Q.   My situation is a complicated one so I'll try to keep it to the basics. In our relationship, my S.O. and I have had trust issues stemming from social media. I admit there was a line I crossed at one point but I've never faltered from loving h...

A.   8 December 2016: I agree that having confidence is good thing but we are not robots so being indifferent isn't the way to go as basically you would be closing down your feelings . So I wouldn't see that working in the long run . If you have to do that then you are ... (read in full...)

My mother in law always sides with her son regardless of how badly he treats me

Q.   I have recently had an argument with my mother in law my severely disabled son attacked me , he pulled my hair and my head back and forth several times, I now have terrible pains on my back and neck. I can cope with that but during the attack m...

A.   5 December 2016: Did you post about this before but more how your husband is leaving and divorcing you etc .. If so I would not be looking for assistance from any of his family .. where are your family.. friends .. Do they offer support . Are you able to ask them ? ... (read in full...)

My mother in law always sides with her son regardless of how badly he treats me

Q.   I have recently had an argument with my mother in law my severely disabled son attacked me , he pulled my hair and my head back and forth several times, I now have terrible pains on my back and neck. I can cope with that but during the attack m...

A.   5 December 2016: Did you post about this before but more how your husband is leaving and divorcing you etc .. If so I would not be looking for assistance from any of his family .. where are your family.. friends .. Di they offer support . Are you able to ask thm ? ... (read in full...)

Suspicious my boyfriend might be talking to other women

Q.   I live with my boyfriend. I noticed his battery lost 10 % battery power overnight. Is this possible when you do not use the phone? I ask because it has happened twice this week. He said it just fell off the charger. It has never happened before....

A.   5 December 2016: As tisha has pointed out .. I'm unsure whether you are with him or on text .. Might give a better idea on how to answer .... (read in full...)

Exactly what is it he is asking, when he asks, "what do you want?"

Q.   I really really really like this guy. We've been seeing each other and talking and everything is wonderful. He asked me what I want a few times. In fact he said he wants me to think of what is it I want in the next few weeks..And I have no idea what ...

A.   5 December 2016: I think it's fair even a month in to simple lay your cards on the table .. you could say .. I thought over the q's you asked .. and at this time I'm happy getting to know you .. I don't multi date I like to get to know one person at a time so to ... (read in full...)

Exactly what is it he is asking, when he asks, "what do you want?"

Q.   I really really really like this guy. We've been seeing each other and talking and everything is wonderful. He asked me what I want a few times. In fact he said he wants me to think of what is it I want in the next few weeks..And I have no idea what ...

A.   5 December 2016: I think it's fair even a month in to simple lay your cards on the table .. you could say .. I thought over the q's you asked .. and at this time I'm happy getting to know you .. I don't multi date I like to get to know one person at a time so to ... (read in full...)

Is she just using me, because I talk so nice to her?

Q.   Hi, am wondering, i should keep, talking to this woman, I've been talking to for four years? We met on an online dating sire. We text each other, I've been really romantic with her, we have only met four times not on a date, she is very rich, a...

A.   3 December 2016: Sorry that posted so many times wasn't me ... (read in full...)

Is she just using me, because I talk so nice to her?

Q.   Hi, am wondering, i should keep, talking to this woman, I've been talking to for four years? We met on an online dating sire. We text each other, I've been really romantic with her, we have only met four times not on a date, she is very rich, a...

A.   3 December 2016: Are you friends or dating ? There the q's .. I honestly can't see this women saying your dating ..With how thing have worked out so did you agree on friends .. see if you have then be one .. I personally can't abide people who masquerade as a ... (read in full...)

Is she just using me, because I talk so nice to her?

Q.   Hi, am wondering, i should keep, talking to this woman, I've been talking to for four years? We met on an online dating sire. We text each other, I've been really romantic with her, we have only met four times not on a date, she is very rich, a...

A.   3 December 2016: Are you friends or dating ? There the q's .. I honestly can't see this women saying your dating ..With how thing have worked out so did you agree on friends .. see if you have then be one .. I personally can't abide people who masquerade as a ... (read in full...)

Is she just using me, because I talk so nice to her?

Q.   Hi, am wondering, i should keep, talking to this woman, I've been talking to for four years? We met on an online dating sire. We text each other, I've been really romantic with her, we have only met four times not on a date, she is very rich, a...

A.   3 December 2016: Are you friends or dating ? There the q's .. I honestly can't see this women saying your dating ..With how thing have worked out so did you agree on friends .. see if you have then be one .. I personally can't abide people who masquerade as a ... (read in full...)

Do I keep trying or just accept my husband doesn't give a damn?

Q.   It has been a tiring and very eventful year. A lot of major events have happened. Though none of these events were a result of our marriage. However, I fear that these trials that have been tearing at us as individuals is starting to affect our ...

A.   2 December 2016: Me being me .. If my husband had told me he didn't want to see the Christmas present until Xmas morning then ..I'd accept it if however he was inclined to view a neighbours in our house and be all cheerful sorry no way .. I would have said to said ... (read in full...)

Do I keep trying or just accept my husband doesn't give a damn?

Q.   It has been a tiring and very eventful year. A lot of major events have happened. Though none of these events were a result of our marriage. However, I fear that these trials that have been tearing at us as individuals is starting to affect our ...

A.   2 December 2016: Me being me .. If my husband had told me he didn't want to see the Christmas present until Xmas morning then ..I'd accept it if however he was inclined to view a neighbours in our house and be all cheerful sorry no way .. I would have said to said ... (read in full...)

Shouldn't he ask I be included?

Q.   My boyfriend and I live together. He has been invited to a wedding of a friend that I don't know. He has not been given a plus one but still wants to go. I feel that as we are a proper couple an invite should have been extended to me. If it is a ...

A.   1 December 2016: Ate others taking their significant others do you know ? It's not like a works Xmas party where it's just all colleagues this is a wedding nd you live together .. I would think if he wasn't being able to take you he would decline but send a love... (read in full...)

Am I reading too much into what my boyfriend said?

Q.   I would appreciate some insight from the following...I am questioning whether or not I am reading too much into it or if it is indeed something I should be concerned about. A few evenings ago, my boyfriend of a year and I were having some cock...

A.   28 November 2016: I would to be honest be totally not happy with that comment .. everyone on here is different. .only thing is I would have laughed and said oo I dream of waking up beside Tim cruise and I open my eyes and it's just you .. never mind ..eh haha ... (read in full...)

Is it a bad idea to hook up with a single mother?

Q.   Recently I broke up with my girlfriend and now I'm single. I know it's too early to hang out with other women but there is this girl she's 09/10 rating hot brunette, younger, she used to be my coworker but she got pregnant, got married and now she's ...

A.   27 November 2016: Anon 123 hits it And btw you are an idiot ..grow up ... (read in full...)

Do I wait for him to come round? Or do I let go?

Q.   Could do with some insight here into my situation. I call it a situation because it is not nor never has been a relationship. and my female friends and male friends are offering conflicting advice. so I really am lost. I have a long-term friend...

A.   27 November 2016: Let go .. did you both become physical during these meets ? Sorry don't mean to pry .. If he felt he couldn't offer more he should have not taken that step . He then says he feels something after it to test the water.. If you had said well no I'm ... (read in full...)

Do I wait for him to come round? Or do I let go?

Q.   Could do with some insight here into my situation. I call it a situation because it is not nor never has been a relationship. and my female friends and male friends are offering conflicting advice. so I really am lost. I have a long-term friend...

A.   27 November 2016: Let go .. did you both become physical during these meets ? Sorry don't mean to pry .. If he felt he couldn't offer more he should have not taken that step . He then says he feels something after it to test the water.. If you had said well no I'm ... (read in full...)

How much should I be involved with friends' love life?

Q.   As I grow older I recognise things that make me hurt and angry. One of those things that trigger me is when good friends stay friends with people I dont think are nice people and are mean, Another is friends dating people i dont like, also when ...

A.   24 November 2016: If this is how your friend operates then either learn to live with it and back of when he does or cut him loose simple as that .... (read in full...)

I need to feel confident again!

Q.   I have just come out of a lesson long term relationship(8 years). My ex is older than me by 15 years and we barely ever had sex, or even kissed for that matter! We certainly never kissed with tongues! My problem is that I have lost all confide...

A.   23 November 2016: How do you know the guy you have the hots for . Little info would help there to maybe help you gain bit of confidence ... (read in full...)

How much should I be involved with friends' love life?

Q.   As I grow older I recognise things that make me hurt and angry. One of those things that trigger me is when good friends stay friends with people I dont think are nice people and are mean, Another is friends dating people i dont like, also when ...

A.   23 November 2016: I go with you can't picl or chose who friends or family will date or marry you can only as a friend .. listen and support and not judge .. The latter is hard yes it is ..But your not them .. also friends could fall in love with your ex but be a ... (read in full...)

How much should I be involved with friends' love life?

Q.   As I grow older I recognise things that make me hurt and angry. One of those things that trigger me is when good friends stay friends with people I dont think are nice people and are mean, Another is friends dating people i dont like, also when ...

A.   23 November 2016: I go with you can't picl or chose who friends or family will date or marry you can only as a friend .. listen and support and not judge .. The latter is hard yes it is ..But your not them .. also friends could fall in love with your ex but be a ... (read in full...)

Am I his re-bound girl?

Q.   He was in a long term relationship which broke down maybe 4-5 months ago. we have started talking online these past few weeks, but have been on each others social media pages since before the break-up ( just as friends or support) He knows i am her...

A.   23 November 2016: Friends are friends they don't pounce the first chance they get .. If it happens it happens .. support be there .. be a listening ear but go out and life your life also .. I myself deteSt peeps who say they are friends when in fact they want more ... (read in full...)

Am I his re-bound girl?

Q.   He was in a long term relationship which broke down maybe 4-5 months ago. we have started talking online these past few weeks, but have been on each others social media pages since before the break-up ( just as friends or support) He knows i am her...

A.   23 November 2016: Friends are friends they don't pounce the first chance they get .. If it happens it happens .. support be there .. be a listening ear but go out and life your life also .. I myself deteSt peeps who say they are friends when in fact they want more ... (read in full...)

Why do men sexualize women this way?

Q.   Why are men so disgusting? I'm not trolling. From what I have seen of men, they are foul. They admit to looking at every woman as a sexual partner, imagining her naked... They think disgusting things. They use disgusting words when referrin...

A.   20 November 2016: Not every man does that but I do agree .. I joined a friendship site with a friend to speak with people around the world I made it plain I wasn't looking for anything otherthan friendship but as soon as guys clocked my pictures they were asking for ... (read in full...)

What happened to our relationship?

Q.   I'm in a long distance relationship. Everything was going great until about half a year ago. Our daily routine for the first two years of our relationship is to Facetime for about an hour and a half to two hours, while having dinner and watching...

A.   19 November 2016: I've got another theory here .. I think deep down you have known that something fishy been going on I may be wrong please correct me if you wish.. but I think he's went distant and stop doing the dinner the movie .. basically took this down because ... (read in full...)

What happened to our relationship?

Q.   I'm in a long distance relationship. Everything was going great until about half a year ago. Our daily routine for the first two years of our relationship is to Facetime for about an hour and a half to two hours, while having dinner and watching...

A.   19 November 2016: I've got another theory here .. I think deep down you have known that something fishy been going on I may be wrong please correct me if you wish.. but I think he's went distant and stop doing the dinner the movie .. basically took this down because ... (read in full...)

Is this normal? Should she keep some distance between her and the ex's family?

Q.   Started a new relationship with an old flame from my past. we are into our 6 month and very into each other. She now had a small child for a ex boyfriend and the ex is very unstable. lately the ex,s brother has started to show up visiting, at ...

A.   18 November 2016: Do you live together or are you two just dating ..? As this to me sounds a little not right .. I wouldn't have any ex brother showing up or any male after 9pm when I'm on my own ( children normal sleeping) without it being an emergency but that's ... (read in full...)

Does this guy have a girlfriend? I'm so confused!

Q.   There is this guy who I used to date and have sex with, and all of a sudden, I saw a bunch of things that raise the question: Does this guy have an official girlfriend? -Firstly, he posted a picture on IG with a girl on Halloween and she commente...

A.   18 November 2016: You need to friend check him .. and box him.in this box .. don't be used and please please don't let him cheat .. you hold your head up you didn't have a clue until now .. now you do .. If he's a nice guy cool .. say hi I see you have a gf that ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's excuse made me feel belittled

Q.   The other night my boyfriend and I had plans for dinner. We talked about it in the morning and he seemed super excited about it. Well later on in the morning his friends asked if he could do a boys night in which he responded with “I don’t feel like ...

A.   17 November 2016: How often does he have guys nights out . I need a little more info before giving any advice sweetie ..If that's okay to ask ... (read in full...)

I am infactuated with this single dad!

Q.   So there is this man at my church and he is a single dad. We've started to casually talk here and there. Two weeks ago he was saying to me how he would love to have more kids. Then last week he asks he personally if I ever wanted kids. This might ...

A.   17 November 2016: I love wise owl post and father advice .. so guys do mention children to see if you are happy with the thought as some girls just don't want any .. so he maybe hinting to see if you would .. For me depending on his age I would say your young and ... (read in full...)

I am infactuated with this single dad!

Q.   So there is this man at my church and he is a single dad. We've started to casually talk here and there. Two weeks ago he was saying to me how he would love to have more kids. Then last week he asks he personally if I ever wanted kids. This might ...

A.   17 November 2016: I love wise owl post and father advice .. so guys do mention children to see if you are happy with the thought as some girls just don't want any .. so he maybe hinting to see if you would .. For me depending on his age I would say your young and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend admitted he hadn't thought about us living together

Q.   I'm 53 and my boyfriend is 55, we're both divorced and have been dating for just over one year. We see each other about 4 times a week, talk and laugh a lot and the relationship has been great. However, I say great, but there are obviously issues ...

A.   15 November 2016: I'm not with the other two aunts on this .. sorry I would be mega hurt if after dating and seeing someone the amount of time yous have .. They used the term " if things progressed " hmm .. I think he's enjoying his freedom of not being in a full ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend admitted he hadn't thought about us living together

Q.   I'm 53 and my boyfriend is 55, we're both divorced and have been dating for just over one year. We see each other about 4 times a week, talk and laugh a lot and the relationship has been great. However, I say great, but there are obviously issues ...

A.   15 November 2016: I'm not with the other two aunts on this .. sorry I would be mega hurt if after dating and seeing someone the amount of time yous have .. They used the term " if things progressed " hmm .. I think he's enjoying his freedom of not being in a full ... (read in full...)

He is habitually late, and I am VERY punctual!

Q.   The guy I've been dating for awhile is often late. . I'm not talking 10 minutes , I mean anywhere from 45 mins to over an hour. I'm a very punctual person so habitual latesness is my pet peeve. I've tried to tell him about this but it never goes ...

A.   15 November 2016: I would order my own dinner and be on the phone with a friend when he next calls that late .. I also wouldn't be taking whatever you may think you have with his seriously ..let him wait for you .. see how he likes the shoe on the other foot .. its ... (read in full...)

He is habitually late, and I am VERY punctual!

Q.   The guy I've been dating for awhile is often late. . I'm not talking 10 minutes , I mean anywhere from 45 mins to over an hour. I'm a very punctual person so habitual latesness is my pet peeve. I've tried to tell him about this but it never goes ...

A.   15 November 2016: I would order my own dinner and be on the phone with a friend when he next calls that late .. I also wouldn't be taking whatever you may think you have with his seriously ..let him wait for you .. see how he likes the shoe on the other foot .. its ... (read in full...)

How to avoid being tempted?

Q.   Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...

A.   14 November 2016: May I ask a q's .. how is hi how are you? A come on ?? I mean your wife must be gutted when you show her that message .. The reason I ask this .. is I ask my postman the same thing and maybe my gp .. and yet if they were to make even the slightest ... (read in full...)

How to avoid being tempted?

Q.   Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...

A.   14 November 2016: May I ask a q's .. how is hi how are you? A come on ?? I mean your wife must be gutted when you show her that message .. The reason I ask this .. is I ask my postman the same thing and maybe my gp .. and yet if they were to make even the slightest ... (read in full...)

How to avoid being tempted?

Q.   Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...

A.   14 November 2016: I totally agree with wise owl and brown wolf and I was cheering through every passage they wrote .. here the thing though Mr knowitall. . saying hi is not flirting .. I say hi to lots of people and it means nothing .. I'm not on Facebook so couldn't ... (read in full...)

How to avoid being tempted?

Q.   Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...

A.   14 November 2016: I totally agree with wise owl and brown wolf and I was cheering through every passage they wrote .. here the thing though Mr knowitall. . saying hi is not flirting .. I say hi to lots of people and it means nothing .. I'm not on Facebook so couldn't ... (read in full...)

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