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He wants me to be his accountability partner!

Q.   I write articles online and some commenters are allowed to message me on an anonymous mail for private conversations. My type of articles are centred around happenings in everyday life and the struggles faced by youths but I'm in no way an expert...

A.   6 January 2017: He needs someone ( I'm a mental health nurse) who knows him Very well. You can say hey, I thought over your qs from The other day and it would utterly selfish of me not to mention neglectful of your emotional mental needs if I went forward with thi... (read in full...)

He proposed but there is no date set!

Q.   I have been living with my boyfriend for the last 3.5 yrs. 2 yrs ago he proposed. Even thought it wasnt the most romantic proposal, it felt like the world to me. It was my own fairytale. He was my first love, high school sweetheart that guy that u ...

A.   6 January 2017: So elegantly put honeypie I will only add Give them back and put yourself right back on the market if he can't see what he's losing a second time round tell him more fool him and if he does come chapping on your door and he better hutry you shou... (read in full...)

Help, please? I don't want to hurt my friends, but we all like the same guy. What should I do?

Q.   Hi, I'm 13 and I'm in a bit of a love triangle... Well.. Love square. My two best friends like the same boy, and they have for ages now. And guess what? Now I'm in the picture, I like him too. And the thing is, he likes me. I feel bad for my...

A.   5 January 2017: I agree with the fatherly advice .. you do not .. do not stand on anyone toes for a guy no matter how much you think you like home it isn't done and being honest even though they say this won't effect your friendship they are lying .. it will . ... (read in full...)

He is using me as his "get out" clause.

Q.   So basically me ex fiancé who I have a son with told me that he would stop seeing the girl he's talking to if I had an issue with her and her being around my son. He doesn't seem partically happy about them talking they hardly ever see each oth...

A.   5 January 2017: Here the qs you ask yourself first . Has she been good to your child ? Polite when meeting etc if so then just say to him. Look who you date or don't date is non of my business . How they are with our son and she been... whatever here ( say for ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend got distracted while texting me

Q.   Please tell me if I should be pissed here. My bf and I were having a conversation by text and right in the middle of it, he disappears. Stops texting. So I texted him "u went away?" Then about 5-10 minutes later he replied "sorry I got distracted...

A.   4 January 2017: I don't think a10 minute lapse in time is a biggie sweetie . He could have been handing over the jumper for money return or maybe his friend said something and they discussed it . For me I liked how he explained why ...he didn't reply so ... (read in full...)

In just 2 days? How can someone do that - fall out of love and become so cold to someone in such a short period of time?

Q.   Hi guys. Glad to be sharing my first post here with you - hopefully you can offer some perspective on what has been an incredibly difficult week... Apologies for how long this is likely to be - I want to make sure that I get as much detail in ...

A.   3 January 2017: I read this and was so shocked at how a person can be so convincing and deceitful; because certIanly she was hoodwinking you her " you are the love of her life " ..." I love you but can't be with you " makes no sense and when that didn't work .it ... (read in full...)

Can this become my best option? I want to cut my entire family off from my life completely

Q.   I want to cut my entire family off from my life completely. I come from a very large polygamous family but we're so divided that every part of the whole is like on its own niche. I don't talk to my step neither do they talk to me. I only keep co...

A.   2 January 2017: I had to cut my sister out my life for the fact she had went absolutely bonkers to point of her MIL get a restraining order against her and her property . I felt relief as she made my life for nearly a yes absolutely misery when all I done was supp... (read in full...)

Why cant my wife say sorry?

Q.   I have been noticing for a few years now that my wife never can bring herself up to say sorry! I am much more of a perfectionist than her. She has messed up a lot of things in the past - like check writing (once she added $1195 and 25 to en...

A.   2 January 2017: We had a whole tub of celebrations these are like little mini treats and anyway I thought yes great and opened up to find three in the very big box .. three and I hadn't had any .. trouble is .. if your not specific people will eat how many they ... (read in full...)

His reaction made me feel guilty. Should I have gone there when he asked me to come over ?

Q.   My boyfriend called on a Sunday as soon as he woke up, which was the same time I woke up. He asked me "come over, I'll change the oil in your car", and since I just woke up and haven't walked my little dogs for a couple days because of the cold wea...

A.   2 January 2017: You could have suggested he pop over and walk the dogs with you and then you both could have went to his as the previous aunt said you could have just said hey the dogs need a walk but I be over straight after that and breakfast and thrown in ... (read in full...)

I find myself attracted to another person. I would never cheat. But what does this feeling say about my current relationship?

Q.   I have been in a relationship for nine years. I love him. But recently I have found myself somewhat attracted to someone else. I would never cheat, ever. But is this something that is normal? It's just a crush but does that mean I don't fee...

A.   2 January 2017: Depend on how you know this other person . Is it a work colleague someone you hang with more .. little detail if you feel up to providing would help . Everyone has this happen even your bf . You weigh up what you have to what you will lose . Y... (read in full...)

Why tell me about this other girl when he knows how I feel? We live in different countries

Q.   My online friend recently changed his bio from in a relationship to single after 3 weeks . I asked him about it and he said that they didn't have social media so that was why. But earlier that week he told me that he wasn't going to tell me their ...

A.   2 January 2017: That isn't a qs we can answer .. by the information you provide I would say he could or could not have a gf however what you do know is he online all night talking and yet has a gf and has now said he's single so if he was in relationship why why ... (read in full...)

Waiting for a proposal for 3 years and then the ring was not to my taste. Am I worrying about things that matter in this situation?

Q.   Iv been waiting over 3 and a half years for a proposal for a wedding After much nagging about marriage I got a proposal with a 219 pound argos ring when he earns over 20 000 per annum which shows no saving as he bought even this on a per monthly ...

A.   2 January 2017: When I got engaged many years ago now haha my future hubby told me I could pick any I wanted he too paid it up. I chose a very modest ring under 200 he went are you sure and I went yes . The significance wasn't the value of the ring but what the ... (read in full...)

Is there still a chance for us ? Maybe it has been way long over and I just didn't want to accept it? What can I say?

Q.   I've only known my boyfriend for eight months and we've been dating for sixth months but it has been an on and off relationship. The first few weeks or month was everything I ever wanted to be in a relationship where my boyfriend would take me ...

A.   2 January 2017: I think the decision was made by his answer to his qs.. if that's what you want . Of course it isn't. But he is willing to emotional play you like a fiddle and let you know his ex is back in town . I won't even address his anger as being honest I... (read in full...)

My husband made 160 phone calls in one month to his female coworker! Advice?

Q.   Geez - where to begin? Suffice it to say that about a year ago I began a downward spiral into depression. (The triggering event was horrific, but unrelated to my marriage). Anyway, I am definitely not myself, anymore, nor do I adequately fulfill the ...

A.   1 January 2017: I'm unsure if you mean both us aunts So have had a very emotional experience I can relate as I lost my mother and then a my nephew , grief hits in waves and it is not like we go through this stage or that stage in a certain amount of time as ... (read in full...)

My husband made 160 phone calls in one month to his female coworker! Advice?

Q.   Geez - where to begin? Suffice it to say that about a year ago I began a downward spiral into depression. (The triggering event was horrific, but unrelated to my marriage). Anyway, I am definitely not myself, anymore, nor do I adequately fulfill the ...

A.   1 January 2017: As a mental health worker I can relate .. depression is real and it sucksall your will out of you. Have you seen anyone about this ? As in to talk to make a goal/plan sheet My advice to anyone is baby steps and focus and to find the root of the ... (read in full...)

My husband is constantly looking at other women and doesn't even try to hide it

Q.   My husband constantly looks at other women not a slight glance a full look , and repeatedly looks at same woman if we are out on a social event . I feel very upset by this as surley the woman in question can see that he is with me yet still looking ...

A.   1 January 2017: Do unto him which is dun unto you So basically give yourself a mental month emotional pass to stare at all the good looking guys and smile friendly .. if he has a reaction to it then you sit and talk if he stops doing what he does then you stop... (read in full...)

Messy situation with my housemate...we had sex and were almost a couple and now he doesn't want anything to do with me

Q.   I need help! I've gotten myself into a really stupid situation with a guy and I have no idea how to behave with him! I moved into a new place around 7 months ago, sharing with three new housemates. I'd initially thought one of them (a guy) was...

A.   29 December 2016: As said he waits butters you up thinking you are dumb enough to have forgotten what's previously occurred .. wants nookie for as long as he likes ..decides hmm nope she getting to clinging and cuts you off and the cycle starts again . Stop ... (read in full...)

Messy situation with my housemate...we had sex and were almost a couple and now he doesn't want anything to do with me

Q.   I need help! I've gotten myself into a really stupid situation with a guy and I have no idea how to behave with him! I moved into a new place around 7 months ago, sharing with three new housemates. I'd initially thought one of them (a guy) was...

A.   29 December 2016: As said he waits butters you up thinking you are dumb enough to have forgotten what's previously occurred .. wants nookie for as long as he likes ..decides hmm nope she getting to clinging and cuts you off and the cycle starts again . Stop ... (read in full...)

Is AB more important to my Bf than he implies? I believe he loves me. But I only sharing him with AB?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years and some change. When I left for college he became really close with a female friend( I'll call her AB). I do know her but I don't know her that well because we were never friends we just all kno...

A.   29 December 2016: I totally agree with honeypie on this but I also want to add . He can't have his cake and eat it too .if he doesn't understand boundaries as certainly there isn't any here . She calls texts and rings if he doesn't answer and he with you .. nope ... (read in full...)

Is AB more important to my Bf than he implies? I believe he loves me. But I only sharing him with AB?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years and some change. When I left for college he became really close with a female friend( I'll call her AB). I do know her but I don't know her that well because we were never friends we just all kno...

A.   29 December 2016: I totally agree with honeypie on this but I also want to add . He can't have his cake and eat it too .if he doesn't understand boundaries as certainly there isn't any here . She calls texts and rings if he doesn't answer and he with you .. nope ... (read in full...)

Do you guys have any advice on how to stay confident and keep myself afloat when living in a world that doesn't deem you as beautiful or worthwhile?

Q.   So I'm a 22 year old gay guy and I've never had a boyfriend or any sort of relationship in my life. I always used to think that I would only share myself and my body with someone I love and care about (At least when it comes to firsts like first ...

A.   28 December 2016: I agree with all posts given .. even heterosexual people go through this .. Some are lucky .. I can say I was .. However my sister who are straight went through a dating bonanza of guys who sold them pretty stories and gave nothing ( though they ... (read in full...)

Do you guys have any advice on how to stay confident and keep myself afloat when living in a world that doesn't deem you as beautiful or worthwhile?

Q.   So I'm a 22 year old gay guy and I've never had a boyfriend or any sort of relationship in my life. I always used to think that I would only share myself and my body with someone I love and care about (At least when it comes to firsts like first ...

A.   28 December 2016: I agree with all posts given .. even heterosexual people go through this .. Some are lucky .. I can say I was .. However my sister who are straight went through a dating bonanza of guys who sold them pretty stories and gave nothing ( though they ... (read in full...)

Did he ever love me at all? Is he a narcissist?

Q.   I am here to vent/advice/ any input at all.. I am starting to think and believe my ex boyfriend was a narcissist. and wondering if he ever loved me at all. he and I were together for a couple years "in love" and would introduce me to friends and f...

A.   28 December 2016: Get a pic of him and tape it to a cushion and then rant and rave and kick the pure poop out ..You will cry you will laugh ..tell him what a loser he is for messing you about for this time but your going to have the last laugh as you are free .. ... (read in full...)

Did he ever love me at all? Is he a narcissist?

Q.   I am here to vent/advice/ any input at all.. I am starting to think and believe my ex boyfriend was a narcissist. and wondering if he ever loved me at all. he and I were together for a couple years "in love" and would introduce me to friends and f...

A.   28 December 2016: Get a pic of him and tape it to a cushion and then rant and rave and kick the pure poop out ..You will cry you will laugh ..tell him what a loser he is for messing you about for this time but your going to have the last laugh as you are free .. ... (read in full...)

If you are a parent or a carer of special needs child can you help advise me on any of my questions ? I am not asking for experts, just parents in a similar situation

Q.   My severly disabled son has to go into residential care soon . We don't want this but he is very aggressive and they need to take him in to stabilise him because he is on too many medications and they think he will be better going to school and ...

A.   27 December 2016: Do you have a named social worker ? This should be your first port of call.. you should also have a residential plan or care plan that covers all these q's . If not ask for one .. Are you still the legal guardians of your son .. as only if socta... (read in full...)

Did I make the correct decision ending the "fwb"?

Q.   We only made out once. No sex. Nothing more than just kissing and touching to be honest. He was very affectionate (kissing forehead, hands, etc) We've been talking everyday for the past 4 months (but I knew him from like 7 yrs ago but only reconnec...

A.   27 December 2016: When I dated I kissed and held hands and more petting later .. you know under clothes stuff . But I don't think I ever asked what we were .. maybe you could say is it just friendship or is there something more here . As I like you and I'd want to be ... (read in full...)

Go out on New Year's Eve alone? Is it safe?

Q.   The last 5 years I've been single and primarily friendless so I've stayed in watching tv trying to convince myself I wasn't bored. This year I'm still single, but my friends are coupled or will be out of town and I just can't stand the thought of ...

A.   26 December 2016: I think what your suggesting is fine, more than fine ..get a pew at the bar and smile cheekily at girls and freindly at guys or both haha .. I think single males are more not even given a second glance .. single girls not so much which isn't right . ... (read in full...)

I’m struggling with my sexuality and depression and wonder what I should do?

Q.   I'd always considered myself a straight man but I guess what I'm about to say kind of disputes that a bit. So for the last 5-6 years I've basically been in love with my best friend who is also a man. I knew the entire time that he wasn't gay and ...

A.   23 December 2016: Hmm ita hard to love someone and not have that returned the same way . Its difficult to know whether you are gay or whether your emotionally attached to your friend .. have you wanted to kiss him ..have sex with him .. feel him touching you .. These ... (read in full...)

I’m struggling with my sexuality and depression and wonder what I should do?

Q.   I'd always considered myself a straight man but I guess what I'm about to say kind of disputes that a bit. So for the last 5-6 years I've basically been in love with my best friend who is also a man. I knew the entire time that he wasn't gay and ...

A.   23 December 2016: Hmm ita hard to love someone and not have that returned the same way . Its difficult to know whether you are gay or whether your emotionally attached to your friend .. have you wanted to kiss him ..have sex with him .. feel him touching you .. These ... (read in full...)

What shall I put on my ex- husband's headstone?

Q.   My ex- husband passed away two years ago, he was a doctor and I am going to order his headstone. I am not sure what to put on because we were divorced. I am re-married again. We remained good friends. He did not really have any family just two cous...

A.   19 December 2016: I like andies thoughts Id just put Loved and remembered by family and friends ... (read in full...)

Was it wrong to raise a glass at the graveside?

Q.   I am involved in a bit if an argument. A mutual family friend passed away aged 49 from breast cancer. On her 50th birthday some of the family (not her family) and friends took some champagne and celebrated her birthday around her grave. The took ...

A.   19 December 2016: Everyone mourns different. . As a rmn and someone who has faith the celebration meant no harm . However after my mother died I would have killed anyone trying to do that because I missed her so much .. I was grieving I wasn't ready .it wold have ... (read in full...)

Was it wrong to raise a glass at the graveside?

Q.   I am involved in a bit if an argument. A mutual family friend passed away aged 49 from breast cancer. On her 50th birthday some of the family (not her family) and friends took some champagne and celebrated her birthday around her grave. The took ...

A.   19 December 2016: Everyone mourns different. . As a rmn and someone who has faith the celebration meant no harm . However after my mother died I would have killed anyone trying to do that because I missed her so much .. I was grieving I wasn't ready .it was I was ... (read in full...)

I found out he's communicating with his ex. What now?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months and I couldn't be happier. We are so compatible and i feel like i've known him for years. He treats me very well and is the gentleman of my dreams. However, i would like opinion on a dilemma i have...

A.   13 December 2016: I agree with all the rest he should have been upfront but also there may be underlying feeling who knows .. However they are connected by the rent on the apartment etc . They are just talking and maybe it would be better if he let you know and could ... (read in full...)

I found out he's communicating with his ex. What now?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months and I couldn't be happier. We are so compatible and i feel like i've known him for years. He treats me very well and is the gentleman of my dreams. However, i would like opinion on a dilemma i have...

A.   13 December 2016: I agree with all the rest he should have been upfront but also there may be underlying feeling who knows .. However they are connected by the rent on the apartment etc . They are just talking and maybe it would be better if he let you know and could ... (read in full...)

My ex is trying to date my friend and I don't know how I feel about it

Q.   Very long story... This guy and I were together for a year and a half and had been friends before that. We ended things last April but are still in the same friendship group so we see eachother most weekends. Since last April we've been up an...

A.   11 December 2016: Yep as a mental heath worker You need to change your behaviour by changing your social network ..which means gaining new friends who appreciate and value you and don't make snide comments . You don't need or warrant this . Step back and allow them ... (read in full...)

I accidentally (kind of) catfished a guy I was interested in?

Q.   I was interested in guy who worked the same company as mine..We worked in completely unrelated departments( very minimal work related contact).However, we would to run into each other ,walking in and out in the conference rooms,hall ways,staff rooms ...

A.   11 December 2016: Hi sweetie .. you have really flung yourself overboard with no life jacket here . You have also become so addicted to him you can't see the woods for the trees. Message him and say that you can't meet with him that in hindsight this is too far ... (read in full...)

I accidentally (kind of) catfished a guy I was interested in?

Q.   I was interested in guy who worked the same company as mine..We worked in completely unrelated departments( very minimal work related contact).However, we would to run into each other ,walking in and out in the conference rooms,hall ways,staff rooms ...

A.   11 December 2016: Hi sweetie .. you have really flung yourself overboard with no life jacket here . You have also become so addicted to him you can't see the woods for the trees.... (read in full...)

How do I reassure her that even though I cheated to be with her that I won't cheat on her?

Q.   I had an affair with a girl "Kelsey" , she was girl I worked with and was going through a hard time with her family . It started out as friends , me being there for her when she needed someone to lean on. I was in a 5 year relationship with my ex. ...

A.   9 December 2016: I think ivy blue though all comments are fab . Kinda nails it .. its the shoulder to cry on .. you gave more attention to your new gf without even trying to fix your relationship . New grass syndrome. The passion was lacking instead of working on ... (read in full...)

How do I reassure her that even though I cheated to be with her that I won't cheat on her?

Q.   I had an affair with a girl "Kelsey" , she was girl I worked with and was going through a hard time with her family . It started out as friends , me being there for her when she needed someone to lean on. I was in a 5 year relationship with my ex. ...

A.   9 December 2016: I think ivy blue though all comments are fab . Kinda nails it .. its the shoulder to cry on .. you gave more attention to your new gf without even trying to fix your relationship . New grass syndrome. The passion was lacking instead of working on ... (read in full...)

Is it over? Was he cheating? I suggested that we finish the relationship and he just accepted it, as if he's given up.

Q.   Hi i recently started distancing myself from my bf of 2 years as we were having a lot of problems(no intimacy for 6 months been the main problem+talking/flirting to girls online i suspected).. Plus told him after a month of hardly seeing him i wa...

A.   9 December 2016: It's extremely hard when we have invested 2years, sometimes even 2 months into something we have felt at one time was worth while . We cling to the hope . To the idea that if we hang in there it will get better thats normal psychology . However; ... (read in full...)

Is it over? Was he cheating? I suggested that we finish the relationship and he just accepted it, as if he's given up.

Q.   Hi i recently started distancing myself from my bf of 2 years as we were having a lot of problems(no intimacy for 6 months been the main problem+talking/flirting to girls online i suspected).. Plus told him after a month of hardly seeing him i wa...

A.   9 December 2016: It's extremely hard when we have invested 2years, sometimes even 2 months into something we have felt at one time was worth while . We cling to the hope . To the idea that if we hang in there it will get better thats normal psychology . However; ... (read in full...)

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